6 Habits Men Should QUIETLY Eliminate
Summary
TLDRIn this motivational video, the speaker encourages men to embrace summer as a time for growth and transformation. He outlines six habits to eliminate, like ending the day in the 'red' and harboring resentment, and stresses the importance of positive thinking and preparation. The speaker advocates for taking risks, being proactive, and not just dipping toes but diving into life's challenges. He likens life to baking a pizza, suggesting that mistakes lead to unique personal growth and wisdom.
Takeaways
- 🌞 Embrace summer as a time to gain momentum and end the year strong by improving habits.
- 🔄 Eliminate bad habits to make room for those that can help a man excel and move at a quicker pace.
- 💰 Avoid 'ending the day in the red'; strive to end each day with a net positive outcome, no matter how small.
- 🚫 Stop feeling sorry for yourself to break the cycle of negative thoughts and self-defeating speech.
- 🗣️ Be mindful of your speech, as it can either empower or undermine you, similar to casting spells on oneself.
- 💔 Let go of resentment and unforgiveness, which are harmful to your emotional and mental well-being.
- 🚀 Be prepared to take risks and make sacrifices for true transformation and personal growth.
- 🛡️ Prepare yourself spiritually and mentally while trusting in divine guidance for your life's journey.
- 🏊 Don't just dip your toes; fully immerse yourself in new experiences to avoid stagnation.
- 🍕 Life is like baking a pizza: it may not be perfect at first, but with practice, you develop your own unique approach.
- 📖 Seek direct divine guidance for your current season in life, beyond historical biblical examples.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video script?
-The main theme of the video script is about six habits that men should eliminate from their lives to make room for habits that will help them excel and gain momentum.
What does the speaker suggest as the first habit to eliminate?
-The first habit to eliminate, according to the speaker, is ending the day in the 'red,' or in a negative state, and instead striving to end each day with a net positive outcome, no matter how small.
What is the significance of the phrase 'ending the day in the red'?
-The phrase 'ending the day in the red' is a metaphor for finishing the day with more negative experiences or outcomes than positive ones, similar to being in debt in financial terms.
What is the speaker's view on the importance of positive thinking?
-The speaker emphasizes the importance of positive thinking as a way to break the cycle of negative thoughts and to set a course for a better life, even suggesting that it can change one's life with just a small shift in perspective.
What does the speaker mean by 'casting spells on ourselves'?
-The speaker uses the metaphor of 'casting spells on ourselves' to describe the act of speaking negative things about ourselves, which he believes gives the 'enemy' more ammunition to attack us with.
What is the third habit that the speaker suggests men should eliminate?
-The third habit to eliminate is resentment, bitterness, and unforgiveness, which the speaker compares to drinking poison and expecting the other person to die, highlighting the self-destructive nature of holding grudges.
What is the biblical reference the speaker uses to discuss the concept of sacrifice?
-The speaker references Matthew 16:25, which says, 'For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it,' to discuss the importance of taking risks and making sacrifices for transformation.
What does the speaker mean by 'stop saving your life'?
-The speaker encourages men to stop being overly cautious and protective of their lives, suggesting that real transformation comes from stepping out, taking risks, and making sacrifices.
What is the concept of 'being unprepared' that the speaker discusses?
-The speaker discusses the concept of 'being unprepared' as a habit where people expect others, like God, to do everything for them without taking any initiative or making efforts on their own.
What is the analogy the speaker uses to explain the importance of not just 'dipping your toes'?
-The speaker uses the analogy of dipping toes in the ocean at the beach to illustrate the habit of not fully committing to actions or experiences, and instead encourages taking the plunge and fully immersing oneself.
What is the final message the speaker leaves the audience with?
-The final message is to not be afraid of beginning and making mistakes, as these are opportunities to learn and create unique personal 'recipes' for success that are different from everyone else's.
Outlines
🌊 Embracing Momentum and Eliminating Bad Habits
The speaker emphasizes the importance of maintaining momentum and eliminating six habits that hinder personal growth. He encourages viewers to end each day with a net positive outcome, even if it's just a small improvement, to get into a motivational loop. The speaker also warns against the pitfalls of feeling sorry for oneself, which can lead to a cycle of negative thoughts and self-fulfilling prophecies. He stresses the need to control one's narrative and to speak positively to avoid giving the 'enemy' ammunition for attack.
🚫 Overcoming Negative Emotions and Self-Limitation
The speaker discusses the detrimental effects of resentment and unforgiveness, likening them to drinking poison and expecting someone else to suffer. He suggests that forgiveness may need to be a repeated action, sometimes as many as 100 times, to truly let go of bitterness. Additionally, he touches on the concept of not saving one's life for the sake of growth, referencing a biblical verse to illustrate the idea that transformation comes from risk and sacrifice. The speaker uses the example of the 'War Club' to highlight the importance of investment in personal development.
🔥 Taking Action and Preparing for Opportunities
The speaker urges the audience to be prepared for opportunities, using the metaphor of connecting to Wi-Fi to illustrate the importance of being ready when the time comes. He emphasizes the need for daily spiritual preparation and staying connected to one's faith. The speaker also warns against the habit of only testing the waters, advocating instead for bold action and embracing challenges head-on. He concludes by likening life's experiences to baking a pizza, suggesting that mistakes and unique approaches can lead to personal growth and success.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Momentum
💡Habits
💡Excel
💡Motivation Loop
💡Net Positive
💡Resentment
💡Unforgiveness
💡Transformation
💡Sacrifice
💡Preparation
💡Dipping Toes
💡Imagination
💡Pizza Baking
Highlights
Embracing summer as a time to accelerate and build momentum for the year-end.
The importance of eliminating six habits to make room for those that will propel personal growth and success.
Avoid ending the day 'in the red', ensuring a net positive outcome regardless of daily struggles.
The concept of getting 1% better every day as a personal motto for continuous self-improvement.
The detrimental effects of feeling sorry for oneself and the importance of breaking the cycle of negative thoughts.
The power of speech in shaping one's reality and the biblical reference to the overflow of the heart.
The necessity to move beyond self-pity to positive thinking and the transformative effect of changing one's internal dialogue.
The discussion on resentment and unforgiveness, likening it to drinking poison and expecting the other to die.
The process of forgiveness as a potentially repetitive action, requiring multiple attempts to truly let go.
The biblical verse from Matthew 16:25 on the paradox of losing one's life to find it, and its application to personal growth.
The analogy of men being too focused on self-preservation, missing opportunities for transformation through risk-taking.
The idea that sacrifice and risk are essential for true transformation and the example of the 'War Club' membership fee.
The comparison of modern men's comfort and lack of risk to the vigor and spirit of men in the past who faced life-or-death situations.
The advice against being unprepared, emphasizing the importance of daily spiritual and personal preparation.
The metaphor of 'dipping toes' in life's challenges versus the bold action of jumping in, as inspired by Steven fdick.
The encouragement to take initiative and embrace the learning that comes from making mistakes.
The life lesson that the fear of failure is often greater than the reality of failure itself, using the pizza baking analogy.
The personal growth that comes from developing one's unique approach to life, akin to creating a personal recipe.
The call to listen to direct divine guidance for one's current season, beyond historical biblical examples.
Transcripts
Brothers
summer is
coming okay and that only means one
thing that we can't slow down we got to
catch some momentum ride it like a wave
and
um hey man this is this is such I love
the summer bro it's such a good time to
really
just you know rev up your year end it
strong right and so what I want to talk
about today is is six habits that men
should
quietly eliminate from their life to
make room for the things for the habits
that are going to make a man Excel and
move at a quicker Pace to gain that
momentum right to get into that
motivation Loop and sometimes you know
um um we want to do all these things we
have all these goals we have all these
um targets that we're aiming at but we
got too many bad habits we got we we got
too many um um bad routines that we got
got to get rid of first we got to make
way right so let's jump right into this
number
one here's a concept we got to stop
ending the day in the red like a stock
in the red or if you could picture like
uh uh uh when you're looking at your
financial statements you're in debt
you're in the red right and so as
men life is going to constantly chin
check you bro it's constantly you know
the enem is constantly looking at for
ways to take you out to bringing you
down to bring you in that red on a daily
basis right I'm sure today on its own
you you you probably you've had more
struggles and more you faced more
opposition than you can count on your
fingers and so when days like this
happen when life kicks you straight in
the ball
sack I mean you could have the worst day
bro but one thing you can never allow to
happen and this is something I've been
training myself to do you can never end
the day in the red you got to be net
positive bro you got to be in the green
even if you have the worst
day hey sometimes check that out we we
you know sometimes we don't even have
control over our days and how they go
but what we do have control over is how
the day ends right so you got to think
to yourself before I lay my head down
for tonight even if it was the worst day
ever how can I end net positive how can
I do at least one thing to put me in the
grain
maybe that's read a book for 15 minutes
maybe that's do a quick little 10-minute
hit
anything to put myself in the net
positive and that's what truly you know
when we talk about as kind of my motto
on the Dre Drexler main Channel getting
1% better every single day right people
kind of bash this all the time they're
like oh that's cheesy 1% you know I've
heard that many times but no I think
it's badass even if it was 0 1% that you
got better that day hey that's all that
matters bro you have control over that
right people are like no you need to do
hustle mode you need to be getting uh
you need to be getting big gains every
day but hey sometimes life doesn't run
that smoothly sometimes you have just
the absolute worst seasons there's
months that go by where it just sucks
right you don't have control over those
Seasons all the time but what you do
have control over is at the end of each
day you you you can still put in just
that little bit of work to get even 1%
better you have control over that number
two feeling sorry for
yourself o been there the problem with
feeling sorry for yourself is you get
stuck in this endless loop this this
cycle of just negative thoughts and then
you feel bad for yourself and then what
do you do out the Overflow of the heart
does a man speak what does that means it
means whatever he's thinking whatever he
keeps inputting it comes
out says God says that the world will
know you by your fruit by fruit he means
what you say what you speak so whatever
you're putting in it's going to come out
it's going to overflow bro and sometimes
we talked about this in the war club the
other day we're talking about
like witches and warlocks and how they
speak curses over people right yet we
become like our own little personal
witch we start casting spells on
ourselves bro and we give the I talked
about this in the last video we start
giving the
enemy ammo ammunition we give him all
the weapons to build up a huge Arsenal
right every time we speak those curses
over ourselves every time we uh um speak
those negative things about ourselves
we're just giving the enemy more ammo
more
artillery more weapons to come at us and
to attack us with so we got to be very
careful mindful of what we're speaking
bro there's a difference between I can't
versus how can
I there's a difference between I can't
do it for versus how can I do
it I can't get that girl versus hm how
can I get that girl right it's just a
little shift and your whole life can
change that's why positive thinking I
mean that's why it's you know people
think it's kind of cheesy it's cringey
but we're not talking about wishful
thinking here we're talking about
actually setting the course for the rest
of your life right the Bible says as a
man thinketh so is is he number three
resentment ooh resentment bitterness
unforgiveness we've talked about this
many times unforgiveness is like
drinking poison expecting the opposite
the other man to
die but slowly surely over time it's you
who's dying within it's you who your
heart's withering away and
sometimes you know people ask me H how
how can I forgive though man it's like
some
days you know I I'll pray and I'll you
know I'll say I forgive that person but
then the next day I think about all the
things that person did to me and then I
feel bitterness again in my heart and
hey sometimes bro you know what
sometimes it takes sometimes it'll take
you 100 times to forgive that person
sometimes you have to forgive them over
and over and over sometimes forgiveness
is a it's part of your daily routine
you can forgive someone and the next day
feel like you're just mad at them all
over again so you got to forgive them
again so that's what it's really about
sometimes you have to forgive a person
100 times number
four stop saving your life now I was
reading this in scripture the other day
Jesus said in the Book of Matthew he
said for whoever would save his life or
lose it whoever loses his life for my
sake we'll find it I think I butchered
that hold up let me look at the real
verse Matthew 16:25 for whoever wants to
save their life will lose it but whoever
loses their life for me will find it and
man you could apply that verse to so
many different things and different you
can have so many different perspectives
with that it's a beautiful verse right
and too many men these days are too
worried about saving themselves saving
their life saving their money and it's
like hey bro you want real
transformation you got to step out you
got to take that risk you got to take
that risk right and ultimately sacrifice
risking at all that's what that's what
leads to True transformation right there
it's like what people ask me why is the
war club so much money why is it so
expensive because bro if you don't pay a
high price do you really think you're
going to make transformation on your own
do you really think you're going to give
it all if you're not paying any sort of
price if you have nothing to lose of
course you're not when you pay that
monthly fee hey you're going to make
sure that you get in the war club and
you're going to squeeze out you're going
to you're going to ring it out for all
it's worth you're going to make sure you
get that transformation it's like my
brothers in the war club they're paying
the money they're they're risking a part
of their finances they're putting
themselves out there they're jumping in
the deep
end and so their mindset is is
drastically different they're saying
okay I'm putting this money out there
I'm putting money on the table I better
get some transformation I better make
moves I better connect with these
brothers in here I better do all the
challenges I better hit the ground
running there's a whole different
mindset bro and that's why charge the
the amount that I charge for the war
club it's as simple as that it's for
your benefit it's not I mean yeah it's
good money for me but really man on your
end that sacrifice is going to it's
going to force you to transform you have
no other option it's like the death
ground strategy and another point of
view here is you know this is why men of
old were so much better because they
were always so much closer to death
right they're always out in war always
fighting in a battle and they're just
trying to make it home to see their Wife
and Kids One Last Time simp simple as
that bro they had so much to lose versus
the men today they don't have nothing to
lose they have nothing to R they're not
risking nothing they're not sacrificing
nothing they're good they're comfy
they're comfortable therefore there's no
transformation therefore there's no
extra push there's no oomph there's no
Vigor Spirit number five being
unprepared about to do a little words
play on you right here this was inspired
by Steven fdick
now many Christians
today they're like lollipop Christian
they're Couch Potato Christians they
just expect God to do everything for
them because that's what they think you
know they have this whole mindset of
just Jesus will take the wheel right
just trusting go just trus in God he'll
do it all and yeah don't get me wrong
I'm not saying that God's not going to
make moves on your behalf and
orchestrate your life but while God is
preparing behind the scenes while he is
preparing your future while he is
setting you up while he is preparing you
must be
preparing see what I did there p r e Das
p a i r iing g pairing right it's like
when I walk into Starbucks or when I go
to my parents house and I walk in there
and I have my iPhone in my hand I look
down instantly I'm hooked to their Wi-Fi
because I've been there I've been going
there I'm
prepared and that's how we got to be
with our walk with God while he's
preparing while he's orchestrating we
got to make sure that on a daily basis
we're spending that time with him we're
in his word we are staying connected
with him so when he's ready when he has
everything prepared when he has your
life and he when he says go you're
you're ready you've been connected with
him you've been prepared number six quit
dipping your toes and my guy bro every
time I go to the beach it's kind of
funny cuz I don't live by the beach
anymore I used to but now every time I
go I go maybe once every year or two
when I go to the beach what do I do I
dip my toes in first I see that how how
cold it is I don't like going in the
deep end cuz it's kind of a little scary
you know it's sharks out there and stuff
and so I kind of just dip my feet in
first dip my toes in get into my feet
kind of Splash around and then I'll get
like to my knees maybe start like
putting my hands in the water a little
bit bending down doing that and then
I'll get to my waist and so I I kind of
acclimate as time goes on and so many of
us bro this is how we we apply the same
mindset to our lives bro we got to be
dipping our toes in what no man we need
to be jumping off the freaking peer
that's what we got to be doing at the
end of the day hey hey Things Are Never
As Good As we hoped but they're also
never as bad as we anticipated and so
with that in mind you know it's like hey
the sweet victory of winning the
championship game it only lasts but a
second and then on the opposite end of
the spectrum you know the embarrassment
you face after getting rejected by a
girl only hurts for a moment and so you
know that's it big deal right and so the
cold hard truth is that we suffer more
in imagination than we do in actual
reality and so Li you know life is a lot
like baking a pizza many people many men
aren't great at it they're not good at
cooking and and they constantly tell
themselves oh you know I'm just not
going to cook then you know because I'll
mess up the recipe it's just a waste of
money but that's far from the truth bro
if you just apply yourself if you just
follow a basic recipe off
Pinterest you'll quickly realize that
it's it's not too hard at all right I
mean yeah your Chef skills not might not
be great at first but along the way
you'll create your own cooking style
along with your own unique recipe and
soon enough you won't even have to use
certain tools like measuring spoons or
thermometers you'll just be able to kind
of eye it you know add your own little
Spice in there and that's why right
there bro life is as easy as cooking
it's as easy as baking a pizza so many
of us are afraid to begin we're so
afraid of messing up the ingredients but
hey that's the beautiful thing about
messing up is that not only do you learn
from your mistakes but you also learn to
create your own little recipes that are
Uniquely Yours why do you think people
watch my YouTube channels my YouTube
videos cuz I have my own little unique
recipes I've put myself out there so
many times throughout my life I've
failed so many times that now I got my
own little secret recipe that is
different from everybody else my own
little secret hack my own little secret
little piece of wisdom that's uniquely
mine that's not found in the books
that's not found on YouTube channels and
from all these other little YouTube guru
inspirational motivational speakers a
lot of the times we go in the Bible and
this is good but a lot of times we go in
there and we say okay what did what did
God tell Abraham here what did he tell
Moses here how can I apply this to my
life that's great don't get me wrong God
can speak to you that way but at the
same time it's like okay but what is God
speaking to you directly right now in
this season of your life what is he
speaking to you not to not to Moses not
to Abraham what is he speaking to you
hey so that's it for today's message
pretty pretty raw pretty rugged hope you
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see you in the Warriors realm peace
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