Everything you need to know about crew members dating on cruise ships
Summary
TLDRIn this video, Lucy discusses the unique dynamics of romantic relationships aboard cruise ships. She highlights the challenges and joys of dating in a confined environment with a diverse crew, the inevitable end dates due to contract lengths, and the intense, honeymoon-like phase of these relationships. Lucy advises viewers to enjoy these relationships without fixating on outcomes, to maintain social lives beyond their partners, and to be aware that people may behave differently on a ship than in their everyday lives.
Takeaways
- 💔 Romantic relationships on cruise ships are often short-term due to the nature of contracts and the diverse nationalities of the crew.
- 🗓 Knowing when a relationship will end can lead to a greater appreciation of the time spent together, as it creates an 'expiry date' for the relationship.
- 🔥 Relationships on cruise ships are intense because crew members see each other daily and share experiences in a confined space.
- 🌴 Being constantly in the 'honeymoon phase' on a cruise ship means couples are always exploring new places together, which keeps the romance alive.
- 🚢 Relationships on cruise ships often start as casual encounters but can develop into something more serious over time.
- 🌐 The close proximity and frequency of interactions on a ship can make a four-month relationship feel equivalent to a much longer one on land.
- 🏠 Being away from family and friends on a cruise ship can make crew members more likely to form strong attachments to those they are romantically involved with.
- 🤔 It's important to maintain a social life outside of a romantic relationship on a cruise ship to avoid becoming overly dependent on one person.
- 💡 People may act differently on a cruise ship compared to their regular lives, so it's crucial to be aware that there's more to learn about a person beyond their on-ship persona.
- 💭 The video emphasizes the difficulty of getting over a relationship that ended due to circumstances rather than any wrongdoing by either party.
- 🌈 The advice given is to enjoy the experience of a relationship on a cruise ship without fixating on the outcome, and to be prepared for change.
Q & A
What are the unique aspects of romantic relationships on cruise ships compared to those on land?
-Romantic relationships on cruise ships are unique due to their predetermined end dates, the high likelihood of involving people from different countries or cities, the intensity of the relationships due to the confined space and frequent interactions, and the constant honeymoon phase due to the lack of mundane daily chores and responsibilities.
Why do relationships on cruise ships tend to be more intense?
-Relationships on cruise ships are more intense because crew members live in close quarters and see each other every day, often in social settings or while exploring new places together, which creates a strong bond and emotional attachment.
What is the typical starting point for relationships on cruise ships?
-Relationships on cruise ships often start as hookups because people are not usually looking for long-term partners in such an environment. However, some of these casual relationships can develop into something more serious.
How does the environment of a cruise ship affect the honeymoon phase of a relationship?
-The environment of a cruise ship perpetuates the honeymoon phase because crew members are constantly exploring new places and enjoying leisure activities together, which keeps the relationship exciting and free from the mundane tasks of everyday life.
Why is it important for individuals in a relationship on a cruise ship to maintain a social life outside of their partner?
-Maintaining a social life outside of the relationship is crucial because it prevents over-dependence on one person, which can be emotionally devastating if the relationship ends or if one person has to leave the ship early.
What challenges do cruise ship relationships face when transitioning back to life on land?
-Cruise ship relationships can face challenges when transitioning back to land because the individuals may discover new aspects of their partner's personality or habits that were not evident on the ship, such as different levels of discipline or differing lifestyles.
What advice does Lucy give for managing relationships on cruise ships?
-Lucy advises not to fixate on the outcome of the relationship, to enjoy the time together without putting pressure on it, to maintain a social life outside of the relationship, and to be aware that things can change quickly on a cruise ship.
How does the constant change on a cruise ship affect relationships?
-The constant change on a cruise ship can make relationships more intense as individuals may cling to the stability and familiarity of their partner. However, it also means that breakups or changes in the relationship can be particularly difficult to navigate.
What are some of the misconceptions people might have about their partners when they are in a relationship on a cruise ship?
-People might assume they know everything about their partners based on their behavior on the ship, but they may not be aware of aspects of their partner's life or habits outside of the cruise ship environment.
What is the significance of knowing when a relationship on a cruise ship is going to end?
-Knowing when a relationship is going to end can make individuals appreciate the time they have together more, as they are aware of the limited duration and can focus on enjoying the experience without long-term expectations.
How does the experience of working on a cruise ship influence personal growth and self-reliance?
-Working on a cruise ship can foster personal growth and self-reliance as individuals learn to adapt to new environments and experiences. However, being in a relationship can sometimes hinder this growth if one becomes too dependent on their partner.
Outlines
💞 Romantic Relationships on Cruise Ships
The paragraph discusses the unique nature of romantic relationships aboard cruise ships. It highlights three main differences from land-based relationships: the predetermined end date due to contracts, the high likelihood of dating someone from a different country, and the intense nature of these relationships due to constant proximity and shared experiences. The author suggests that knowing when the relationship will end can lead to greater appreciation of the time spent together. Additionally, the confined space of the ship and the lack of mundane responsibilities contribute to a perpetual honeymoon phase, where the focus is on enjoying each other's company and exploring new places.
🚢 Intensity and Challenges of Cruise Ship Relationships
This paragraph delves into the intensity of relationships on cruise ships, emphasizing the constant presence and interaction between partners due to the limited space and shared living environment. It contrasts this with the reality of relationships on land, which may face mundane challenges that can dim the romance. The author also touches on the potential downsides of becoming too attached to a partner, as the transient nature of cruise ship life can make breakups particularly difficult, especially when one lacks a support network from family and friends. The importance of maintaining a social life outside of the relationship is stressed to avoid emotional devastation in case of a breakup.
🌍 The Transience and Adaptation of Cruise Ship Romances
The speaker reflects on the transience of relationships formed on cruise ships, noting that while some may lead to long-term commitments, others are fleeting due to the ever-changing environment and the unique circumstances under which they are formed. They caution against becoming too attached to a partner, as the end of a contract or a change in circumstances can abruptly end the relationship. The paragraph also addresses the potential for personal growth when working on a cruise ship, advising against relying solely on a romantic partner for emotional support, as this can hinder personal development and make breakups even more challenging.
💔 Navigating Breakups and Emotional Attachments at Sea
This paragraph explores the emotional complexities of breakups on cruise ships, where the lack of familiarity and constant change can exacerbate the pain of ending a relationship. The author shares personal anecdotes about the difficulty of letting go of someone they cared for deeply, especially when there was no malice involved but circumstances dictated the separation. They discuss the struggle of moving on from a relationship that was based on shared experiences and adventures, and the importance of not fixating on a specific outcome to avoid disappointment.
🔮 Embracing the Fleeting Nature of Cruise Ship Love
The final paragraph offers advice on how to approach relationships on cruise ships, encouraging viewers to enjoy the experience without becoming fixated on a potential future with a partner. The author suggests maintaining a social life outside of the relationship and not trying to control outcomes that are beyond one's control. They emphasize the importance of going with the flow and appreciating the time spent together, as this can lead to less pressure and potentially a more enjoyable relationship. The paragraph concludes with a teaser for the next video, which will discuss the stages of a cruise ship contract.
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Keywords
💡Cruise Ship
💡Romantic Relationships
💡Expiry Date
💡Appreciation
💡Intensity
💡Honeymoon Phase
💡Hookups
💡Attachment
💡Social Life
💡Circumstances
💡Expectations
Highlights
Romance on cruise ships is often short-lived due to the temporary nature of contracts and the diverse nationalities of crew members.
People on cruise ships tend to appreciate relationships more due to their predetermined end dates, similar to how an 'expiry date' makes one value something more.
Relationships on cruise ships are intense because crew members live in close quarters and see each other daily, unlike traditional dating scenarios.
Cruise ship relationships often remain in a honeymoon phase due to the lack of mundane responsibilities and the constant exploration of new places.
Relationships on cruise ships usually begin as casual hookups, evolving into something more serious for some couples.
The frequency of seeing each other on a cruise ship can lead to a deeper understanding in a shorter time compared to relationships on land.
Being away from family and friends on a cruise ship can lead to stronger attachments to romantic partners who provide a sense of constancy.
It's crucial to maintain a social life outside of a romantic relationship on a cruise ship to avoid emotional devastation if the relationship ends.
Breaking up on a cruise ship can be particularly challenging due to the constant change and lack of a support system from family and friends.
People may behave differently on a cruise ship compared to their off-ship lives, which can lead to surprises and disappointments post-contract.
It's important not to fixate on the outcome of a relationship on a cruise ship to avoid disappointment and to enjoy the present.
The advice given is to not anchor oneself to one person and to enjoy the broader experience of meeting people from around the world.
The video emphasizes the importance of going with the flow and not putting too much pressure on a relationship's future.
The narrator shares personal experiences of breakups on cruise ships, highlighting the difficulty of ending things due to circumstances rather than animosity.
The video concludes with a reminder to enjoy relationships on cruise ships without fixating on outcomes, embracing the experience for what it is.
Transcripts
so I just have to get over you now even
though I love you hey sailors and
welcome back to cruising as crew my name
is Lucy and today we're going to be
talking about romantic relationships on
board cruise ships but before we start I
just want to remind you to click like
and subscribe there's more cruise ship
content
but that's for now let's get into the
video ah okay so romantic relationships
or just sauce this subject right
romantic relationships they're very
different on board cruise ships to a
romantic relationship on land for three
reasons the first one is you already
know when your relationships gonna end
on a cruise ship there is normally about
50 nationalities so most likely you're
gonna end up going out with someone from
a different country or at least a
different City you know obviously
everyone knows when their contract is
gonna end so when you get talking to
that person you obviously figure out
that they've maybe got two or four
months left so you know when it's gonna
end because either you're gonna continue
dating and do it long-distance or you're
going to end it and obviously when you
first start seeing someone you're not
necessarily thinking about I'm gonna
marry you
well I mean if you are like chill out
just take it for what it is but anyway
so yes you already know when it's gonna
end and the problem with that is well
actually is not problem because I think
it makes you appreciate your time with
them more I think when anything has an
expiry date or an end date it makes you
appreciate it more you know when you get
any relationship at home you don't
necessarily appreciate all the time you
spend together because you're like we're
just gonna do this through the long as
we want whereas when you're seeing
someone on the ship it's like we're
gonna do this for four more months and
then that's it so you definitely
appreciate each other more and
appreciate your time together more
because you have an end date the second
thing is that relationships on a cruise
ship are so much more intense now that
is every kind of relationship that's a
friendship but especially a romantic
relationship and the reason is because
you're living on a ship and the ship is
only so big if you were seeing someone
on land and you were just dating them
then maybe you would see them maybe two
or three times a week if you
really liked each other whereas on a
cruise ship you're probably gonna see
each other everyday like even if you
don't mean to see each other everyday
you're you're gonna see each other
everyday like there's only probably one
crew bar there's only so many places you
can go on the ship why wouldn't you see
each other every day like your cabins
are probably two minutes away from each
other you know it's different when
you're dating someone on land and you
really want to see them but they live
two hours away and you just have a long
day at work you know where's your on a
cruise ship you know well yeah I had a
long day at work but I literally have to
pass their cabin to get to my cabin
so you end up seeing them every day and
number three you are always in the
honeymoon phase on land there are
realities that pop up that may be dimmed
down the romance you have to do things
that you don't necessarily want to do
together like you have to do laundry and
clean and go food shopping and like
there's all these different little
things that we all have to do when we
live on land but they're not they're not
exciting they're just kind of mundane
things that we all have to do whereas on
a cruise ship when you're off you're off
exploring a new place probably with your
you know your boyfriend or girlfriend on
board and that's what everyone wants
right every everyone wants to explore
the world with the person that they love
or really like and you get to do that
you know so okay when you're at work
you're at work but when you're off
together like you're a holiday together
every day you go out for lunch you know
maybe you go to the beach and have a
nice day out the beach there's just
nothing to think about other than being
present and enjoying the moment so it's
just so easy to be with each other
there's no real effort in voting but
it's just so easy to like just be in the
moment and enjoy each other
relationships on ships normally start as
hookups because no one's really looking
for a relationship on a cruise like you
don't go to work on a cruise ship
looking for
your long-term partner because it's just
not the right environment to create a
long-term relationship I mean it is in
the fact that you know you're within the
honeymoon phase and you have a lovely
time together but they're probably gonna
be from the other side of the world and
you have a time limit so it isn't the
right environment to look for your like
future spouse but nevertheless obviously
some hookups just stay as hookups and
some people hook up and realize that
they really like each other love each
other and they stay together and if you
do start seeing someone on a ship and as
I said you'll probably see them everyday
soaps a couple that have been together
on land for six months will be the same
as a couple that have been together on a
ship for four weeks because you see it
to that every day you get to know about
each other
so if you've been with someone for four
months on a ship you've basically been
in a two-year relationship as well as
like how often you get to see each other
and the fact that you do fun things
together there are also other factors
that make relationships more intense on
a ship though you are away from your
family and friends okay
as I've said before in previous videos
working on a cruise ship you just
experience constant change so if you've
got something or someone that is kind of
like a constant you cling on to it you
know because there is nothing to cling
on to on a ship look emotionally so your
feelings can grow so much faster for
someone on board a cruise ship because
you're away from your friends and your
family and familiarity especially if
you're new onboard and you've met
someone you know it's maybe it's a bit
different if you've maybe been working
on that ship for like nine months or six
months or something but if you have
someone that is like a constant that you
can rely on you do get very attached
it's very hard to not get attached to
that because obviously change is scary
and you can be really good at adapting
but nevertheless it's still nice to have
something that is comfortable now the
problem with getting like attached to
someone and this is the same kind of on
land as well as ships is obviously
if you're too attached to someone in the
fact that they're always there and you
know if for some reason they're they're
not there or you have a fight or maybe
one of you gets transferred or has to
you know leave the ship early your whole
world like falls apart so it's really
important I think to know as much as you
want to spend all your time with that
person and it's so tempting because
obviously they're there and their cabin
is two minutes away and it's just so
easy to get so wrapped up in each other
and spend all your time together it's so
important that you maintain a social
life this is the same with relationships
and land but it's easier on a ship to
just eliminate everyone else from your
life you know and so you really have to
try and just give yourself like
boundaries and just know I am I'm just
gonna go out with my friends tonight oh
no I am gonna go to bed early and I'm
gonna have a good night's sleep because
I've had a long day at work and I need
whatever it is no I'm just gonna get off
import tomorrow on my own it's really
important to separate yourself from this
person because it is just so easy to not
bother and just spend all your time
together but as I said I send in a video
like why I think everyone should work on
cruise ships and in that video I was
talking about the fact that crew working
on cruise ships it's amazing because you
grow so much as a person and you learn
to depend on yourself
but that's only if you're not depending
on someone else like if you go on a
cruise ship and you meet someone that's
amazing but you don't learn to depend on
yourself and that can be devastating if
for some reason you can't depend on them
anymore and even more devastating than
if you break up or fight with someone on
land because let's say you break up with
someone on land
you have your family you have your
friends you have like everything is
stable everything is fine so the only
like big thing in your life that's
changing is this relationship is ending
which is rubbish but it's like one thing
to deal with whereas on a ship if you
fight with someone or breakup with
someone it's so difficult to get over
because you're away from your family
you're in an unfamiliar environment
you're in a new place every single day
you're like no maybe you're like friends
that you've made are leaving because
they're finishing their contract maybe
you're finishing your contract like
there's always so many things changing
on a cruise ship there's always so much
that you have to adapt to and that is
why it's so important not to kind of
anchor yourself to this one person
because nothing's guaranteed so why
would you you know why would you anchor
yourself to something that isn't
guaranteed to work out like the best
thing I can say is just enjoy your time
together cruise ships are such an
amazing opportunity to meet people from
all over the world and make so many
friends and if you're just spending all
your free time with this one person then
they're gonna be your only memory of
this amazing experience and if they turn
out to be an for lack of better
words and then you're gonna be like oh I
wish I'd have I wish I'd have hung out
with Sally more Sally seem like fun but
I didn't I just got caught up in this
relationship and now it's over and I
look like everything's a lesson
everything happens for a reason but I'm
just saying be smart about it if you get
in a relationship yes enjoy it but just
know that things are gonna change these
can change like that so please don't get
too attached to this person you know
harriel seeing your friends carry on
enjoying the experience is that working
on a cruise ship gives you don't spend
every waking minute that you're not at
work with this person
because in the long run it's just gonna
make it harder to get over them and look
I know I sound like a complete stick out
but I'm not I promise there are so many
relationships that do work you know
people get together on cruise ships and
they're like no I absolutely you are
everything and they get married and one
of you know they move to another country
together or maybe they are in the same
country and they make it work you know
it happens and it can happen and I'm
sure it can happen to you some religion
some relationships work some
relationships don't and it's the same on
a cruise ship so all I'm saying is I
don't want your whole cruise ship
experience to be revolving around this
one person because there's so many
people that make working on a cruise
ship great so you should try and enjoy
all of them now the other thing with
working on a cruise ship is people can
be completely different people on a
cruise ship I could go on a cruise ship
and tell people that I Drive a Ferrari
I wish and and no one would know but if
you get and I'm not saying that people
me some people do like not saying all
people lie what I'm saying is you only
get to know the cruise ship version of
that person when you're with someone you
see what they're like work and you see
what they're like in social situations
and you don't get to know you don't know
if they're good as money you don't know
if they like to gamble you don't know if
they drink loads because obviously on a
cruise ship you have a drinking limit so
maybe they don't drink loads on the
cruise ship because obviously they run
the risk of getting fired but when
there's no limits do they have their own
limits you know are they disciplined or
just bear in mind that when you're with
someone on a cruise ship you only know
that the person that they are choosing
to show you and it's probably a
completely subconscious thing they're
not like I'm gonna hide this from them
but they're just be aware that there is
still a lot more to learn and there's a
lot of people you know who finished
their contract but they have been
completely besotted with this person and
they've decided to try and make it work
you know myself included I've done that
as well and sometimes it hasn't worked
because actually
we're not compatible when we're not on a
ship maybe I don't look because it's
just various thing because oh I didn't
know that you know you get absolutely
wasted every night or I didn't know that
you do drugs when you're not on the ship
or I didn't know that you were an avid
gambler I didn't know that you're not
clean I mean it does it doesn't matter
but the point is like just bear in mind
that there's still a lot more to learn
about a person after you've worked on
the cruise ship with them because you
might think you know everything about
them but you don't you only know who
they are on a cruise ship and everyone
you know
I am completely myself wherever I am but
I am slightly different when I'm at home
a different environment you know we all
adapt to our different environments for
example I had a friend that on a cruise
ship and her cabin was always absolutely
immaculate immaculate and I never like
asked her about it I just thought wow
she is so clean and then I went to visit
her when I was home and she wasn't
immaculate and all that and I did I
can't remember what I said but it turned
out basically it was her roommate that
was the really clean one and just like
oh okay
not that it matters I don't care but the
point is you can think you know
something and actually it's completely
different when there are none I really
hope this is making sense because on a
cruise ship you don't necessarily get to
see the bad side after more like the
different aspects of them and it makes
it very hard to get over them I mean
like it's like when if you break up with
someone but you don't actually want to
break up but you're just breaking up
because distance you know and I've done
that before I've broken up with someone
because we're not gonna see each other
for six months now so what we really
gonna do this or and that's really
difficult to get over because it's one
thing when you break up with someone
because they did something that you hate
or they disrespected you and you can be
like yes I'm going to get over them
because they're not the right person for
me because they treated me in this way
but when you're just with someone and
you're having a great time and you
really love them and that's you know
it's like oh do I just have to get over
you now even though I love you or I
really like you and that's really I mean
at this point I just want to break up
with someone because I hate them
like like circumcised breaking up with
someone because of circumstance is so
hard and on the one hand it's great
because breakups that I've had have
never been malicious or there's no like
real hurt there because it's like well
we had a good time you know and that's
that's it
um and so some people might say you're
so lucky because you've never had to go
through someone being nasty or hating
someone or having to go over that but I
mean comment down below if you've gone
through this but having to get over
someone when nothing was wrong that's
hard that's really hard you know nothing
was wrong you just broke up because of
circumstances you know maybe you try and
get another ship together but your
company can't put you on the same ship
together maybe you're from opposite
sides of the world maybe you are
different religions so it was okay
you know while you're on a ship but
actually you couldn't be together
because maybe your religions or family
wouldn't like it or whatever the reason
but it's so hard to get over someone
that you've only had really good
experiences with like you've been
traveling around the world with them
you've been seeing new places having a
great time going to parties together
socially you know you've been having
this amazing time with someone and then
it's like okay bye okay well it's a very
difficult situation to be in and you're
probably wondering what is the point of
this video you've literally just been
rambling well the point of this video is
you know
gaali cruise ship and if you meet
someone brilliant but enjoy it and just
don't fixate on the outcome because as
soon as you fixate on the outcome like
oh maybe we'll be together forever maybe
we'll get married maybe I'll go and
visit him in his
country maybe he'll cut whatever as soon
as you fix it on an outcome that's when
you you open yourself up to getting
disappointed in her you know and because
things change so quickly on cruise ships
I think the safest thing to do but also
the most enjoyable thing is to just
enjoy it and not get caught up in what
it could be you know and it makes it I
mean my first relationship on a cruise
ship I was like we're gonna be together
forever I love him and he loved me
fantastic and I fixated on like what I
wanted to happen and when it didn't
happen I was really really disappointed
um where is like more recent
relationships I've just kind of been
like okay I'm just gonna go with the
flow I'm just gonna enjoy it for what it
is and when it ends you're of course
you're sad and you're like okay I'm
disappointed but you're not disappointed
because they didn't fulfill an
expectation you had you're just
disappointed because you're like well we
have a lot of fun together and I kind of
want to continue having fun but okay and
also by not fixating on an outcome
you're putting less pressure on the
relationship which means that you'll
have more fun together which means
they'd probably be more inclined to want
to make it work because you know where
is this
you're constantly discussing about how
you're gonna make it work and trying to
control things that you just can't
control like okay when we get off the
ship we're gonna do this and we're gonna
do this and it's gonna work and lower
firstly you're not enjoying just being
with them you're not enjoying the time
that you have to get there and you're
trying to control something you can't
control so just enjoy it just chill just
know that you know whatever happens with
this person it's gonna be for the best
maybe they're just here for a season
maybe they're here for a reason whatever
my advice is yeah don't anchor yourself
to one person
very very easy to do try and although
it's very easy to want to spend all your
free time with that one person try and
maintain a social life outside of that
one person so that if they get
transferred if you get transferred if
they end their conduct whatever it's not
going to be as big of a blow and also
try not to control what you can't
control
if you're enjoying your time together
just concentrate on enjoying your time
together don't concentrate on like a
possible outcome that's gonna come
because it might do but it might not and
you have to be ok with both if you have
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