How To Get a Woman’s Attention
Summary
TLDRIn this engaging script, the speaker offers advice on attracting the interest of women, emphasizing the importance of personal hygiene, a neat appearance, and good posture. He discusses the pitfalls of narcissistic behavior and the genuine qualities women seek, such as confidence, productivity, and generosity. The speaker humorously touches on the challenges faced by young men and engineers, suggesting that social skills and the ability to present oneself effectively are crucial for success in dating.
Takeaways
- 🧼 Hygiene and cleanliness are essential for making a good first impression.
- 💇♂️ A decent haircut and maintaining a neat appearance are important for personal presentation.
- 🕴️ Standing up straight with shoulders back is a simple yet effective way to project confidence.
- 🤷♀️ Women's preferences vary, and attraction is not one-size-fits-all.
- 🚫 Narcissistic behavior can be deceptive and may appeal to naive individuals, but it's not a sustainable basis for a relationship.
- 🦚 'Peacocking' or wearing something eye-catching can signal confidence, but it can also be seen as a form of deceptive narcissism.
- 🤝 Women tend to seek confident, productive, and generous partners, reflecting values that are also appreciated in friendships and professional relationships.
- 👶 Women often look for men who are capable of taking care of themselves and potentially a family, which includes being competent and generous.
- 📊 Age preferences in relationships can be influenced by the need for stability and support, with women often preferring men slightly older.
- 💡 Developing social skills and the ability to present oneself authentically is crucial for attracting a partner.
- 🔧 The speaker humorously points out that being competent in one's field does not automatically translate to social or dating success, using the example of engineers.
- 🌟 The importance of self-improvement and personal growth is emphasized, suggesting that becoming a better, more confident, and productive individual will naturally attract potential partners.
Q & A
What is the first piece of advice given for attracting the interest of the female species?
-The first advice given is to maintain good personal hygiene, which includes having a decent haircut and being clean.
What is the significance of standing up straight with your shoulders back according to the speaker?
-Standing up straight with your shoulders back is suggested as a good posture that can help in making a positive impression.
Why do some women fall for narcissistic psychopaths according to the script?
-Some women fall for narcissistic psychopaths because they often imitate competence, which can be mistaken for actual ability, especially by young and naive women.
What is the term 'peacocking' as mentioned in the script and what does it suggest about confidence?
-Peacocking refers to wearing something out of the ordinary or more colorful to stand out and show confidence, which can be deceptive in some cases.
What is the speaker's opinion on the advice given by manosphere dating sites?
-The speaker criticizes the advice given by manosphere dating sites, suggesting that it often promotes deceptive narcissism rather than genuine self-improvement.
What qualities does the speaker suggest are generally attractive to women?
-The speaker suggests that women are generally attracted to confidence, productivity, generosity, physical attractiveness, and a sense of humor.
What is the speaker's view on the age preference of women in relationships?
-The speaker believes that cross-culturally, women tend to prefer men who are about four years older than them due to the need for a partner who is competent and capable of providing for a family.
Why do women seek men who are competent and generous according to the script?
-Women seek men who are competent and generous because they are looking for a partner who can take care of themselves and potentially a family, especially during the vulnerable times of having children.
What is the speaker's advice for young men who are not attracting the interest of women?
-The speaker advises young men to grow up, become competent, productive, generous, and develop social skills to present themselves in a manner that is attractive to others.
What is the story about the engineers in a bar and what does it illustrate?
-The story about the engineers in a bar illustrates how even highly competent individuals can struggle with social skills, leading to missed opportunities in dating and relationships.
What is the final piece of advice the speaker gives to young men about self-improvement and social skills?
-The final advice is for young men to not only become competent and productive but also to develop social skills to genuinely advertise their qualities and make themselves worth being around.
Outlines
👔 The Art of Attracting Women: Hygiene, Confidence, and Genuine Qualities
The speaker begins by humorously addressing the question of attracting women, suggesting that basic hygiene, a decent haircut, and cleanliness are good starting points. He emphasizes the importance of standing up straight with shoulders back as a sign of confidence. The speaker then delves into the complexities of what women look for in a partner, noting that it varies with individual wisdom and experience. He touches on the deceptive confidence of narcissistic psychopaths and how young, naive women may be drawn to them due to their imitation of competence. The speaker warns against adopting such deceptive behaviors and instead advocates for genuine confidence, productivity, generosity, and social skills. He humorously points out that if all women don't like you, it's likely due to your own shortcomings, especially if you're young, and suggests that maturity and self-improvement are key to attracting a partner.
🤔 Social Skills and the Challenge of Engineers in Dating
In the second paragraph, the speaker discusses the importance of social skills in advertising one's positive qualities. He uses the example of engineers, who he humorously suggests are often socially unskilled despite their competence and productivity. The speaker shares a personal anecdote involving his brother-in-law and another engineer in a social setting, where their inability to engage with a woman trying to join their conversation led to humorous and awkward interactions. The engineers' lack of social finesse caused the woman to feel unwelcome and ultimately left the speaker reflecting on the challenges engineers face in dating due to their tendency to focus on technical correctness over social harmony. He concludes by advising young men to improve their social skills and presentation to increase their chances of finding a partner.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Hygiene
💡Confidence
💡Narcissistic Psychopath
💡Peacocking
💡Competence
💡Generosity
💡Physical Attractiveness
💡Sense of Humor
💡Social Skills
💡Engineers
💡Reciprocal Relationship
Highlights
Importance of personal hygiene and a decent haircut as a starting point for attracting interest.
The rule of standing up straight with shoulders back as a sign of confidence.
The complexity of what women look for, varying with individual wisdom and experience.
Narcissists' ability to imitate competence and deceive through false confidence.
The tendency of young women to fall for narcissistic psychopaths due to their inability to distinguish them from competent men.
The concept of 'peacocking' as a way to display confidence and stand out.
Critique of deceptive narcissism taught by some dating sites and its potential dangers.
Fundamental qualities women seek: confidence, productivity, generosity.
The value of physical attractiveness and a sense of humor in addition to core qualities.
The speaker's suspicion that the questioner is young and the general lack of interest in young men.
Cross-cultural preference for men who are older, indicating a search for competence and security.
The vulnerability of women and their need for a partner capable of providing for a family.
The reciprocal nature of relationships and the importance of mutual care.
The speaker's advice for young men to grow up and develop social skills.
The importance of being competent, productive, generous, and socially skilled.
The anecdote about engineers struggling to translate social status into dating opportunities.
The humorous story of the speaker's brother-in-law and an encounter with a woman in a bar.
The need for young men to present themselves confidently and usefully to attract interest.
The humorous conclusion that the speaker's partner actually caught him, contrary to his previous statement.
Transcripts
how do you acquire the interest of the
female species
you mean personally
sharp suits man
[Applause]
well you know little hygiene is not such
a bad thing
as a start decent haircut you know
certain amount of cleanliness
that's a good thing
what's rule one in the first book stand
up straight with your shoulders back
that's good thing to do
you know what do women look for
depends on the wisdom of the woman
obviously but well it does because you
know you can narcissists can fool naive
women that's why narcissists propagate
by the way and we know this because
narcissistic Psychopaths
young women are more likely to fall for
narcissistic Psychopaths and the reason
for that is they can't tell them from
competent men because narcissistic
Psychopaths imitate competence and
that's their Niche and so they have a
confidence
that isn't justified by their ability
but the women check out the confidence
as a marker of ability and the falsely
confident can fool them especially if
they're young and naive and so
well so let's say you're not going to be
a narcissistic psychopath which is often
what those like manosphere dating sites
teach you is like you know wear an
expensive watch and peacock a bit into
peacock is to wear something some item
of clothing that's you know a little bit
out of the ordinary something a little
bit more colorful than might be
generally the case so that you look like
you're confident enough to pull that off
with Panache but mostly it's just it's
just training in a kind of deceptive
narcissism now you know a Wallflower
guy might benefit from some training in
in narcissistic psychopathy you know
just to sort of balance them out a bit
so you can make some progress forward
that's why people like Andrew Tate are
so popular and and I I'm not saying that
in an entirely dismissive manner but
there's a huge danger there but
generally what women want is something
like confident productive generosity
fundamentally and so you know if that's
allied with physical attractiveness and
a sense of humor and you know the the
sorts of features that a man would also
look for in a woman so much the better
but your basic bet and not my suspicions
are the guy who answered this question
is probably young first of all no one
likes young men so if they don't women
don't like you it's like well that's par
for the course who likes young men no
one why well they're basically
Troublesome and useless and so that's
why
[Laughter]
foreign
so cross-culturally women like men who
are about four years older than them and
the reason for that is you know women
are more vulnerable on the sexual front
and they have to make themselves even
more vulnerable if they have children
especially when the children are infants
and so they're looking for guys who are
competent enough to be able to take care
of themselves at least and then have
enough left over for a wife and a
dependent child and not because exactly
because the wife wants to be taken care
of because it isn't exactly like women
want to be taken care of it's more
reciprocal relationship but if a woman
has a dependent child then both of them
have to be taken care of especially when
the child's an infant and so women tilt
the scales toward assessment of men on
the grounds of their competent
generosity and the reason and you know
men might be annoyed about that but I
would say well if you were a woman you
do the same thing and
you know how I know that it's because
women are female humans and so if you
were a woman you'd be just like a woman
so because that's what that's what a
woman is right so
you can't blame women it's like
clue in there buddy if all women don't
like you it's you
and that's you know that's so annoying
it's especially if you're young because
most women aren't going to like you and
so and it is you so you have to grow up
and but then you know you got to
understand that if you make yourself
competent and productive and generous
and a little bit socially skilled and
reasonably clean eventually you know
you'll fool someone and then
foreign
and then you know might take a few years
but but generally it happens so so
that's the thing is don't you know don't
don't be a fool turn yourself into
someone who's worth being around and
and then develop enough social skills so
you advertise yourself
genuinely because you know it's not also
useful if you're a man to be competent
productive and generous and then so
timid and socially unskilled that no one
can tell that's also not helpful
Engineers do that all the time so my
friend Jim he's my brother-in-law he's a
great engineer he said Engineers are the
only men who never figured out how to
turn social status in demating
opportunities
that's such a funny line it's also true
you know what I'm going to tell you a
story about him too I was with him and a
friend of mine who's also an engineer in
a bar in Palo Alto in California it was
so damn funny it was a wine bar a pretty
sophisticated place you know and uh I
was sitting there talking to them and
they're both high-end engineers and like
super bright people and but they're
engineers and so and there was this
quite attractive woman there about our
age this was like 15 years ago and she
was a teacher I she she tried to get
herself integrated into the conversation
and
um
and she was a teacher and and she lived
in in Palo Alto and she was clearly
there alone and wanted some company and
um
so funny because this poor girl she's
trying to get into the conversation and
she she was listening then she'd offer
an opinion she was trying to play along
and those bloody Engineers they just
told her like five ways she was wrong
and then kept on talking to each other
and it's like
it's so funny then she'd look kind of a
bashed you know and and and and out of
place and then she'd muster up some
courage a little farther down the
conversation and uh she'd offer an
opinion and then they'd tell her just
like Engineers no this you're wrong and
here's five reasons why and it's like
then she could I thought I she
eventually you know
laughed surprise surprise and I pointed
out to them what they had done and like
these are pretty sophisticated guys but
it was just so goddamn comical to watch
I could hardly stand it's like you
bloody Engineers you wonder why you know
it's hard for you to mate
[Laughter]
this is really funny so yeah so look if
you're young if you're a young guy it's
like straighten yourself up you know
don't be eating you know Cheetos in the
basement covering yourself with orange
dust and being bitter about women it's
like go out there and make yourself
useful in some Dimension or rather and
you know fortify yourself a bit and have
some confidence and then figure out how
to present yourself in a manner
commensurate with that and you know get
out there in the world so people can see
you now and then and you know some poor
woman will be desperate enough to give
you a shot at some point
[Applause]
hmm
all right that's how I caught her you
know
actually that's a lie too because she
actually caught me so
all right
yeah I chased her for a long time and
then she caught me yeah
okay
before I say something else
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