10 Things Men Must Never Do When in Love | Relationship Advice - Video 7553
Summary
TLDRIn this video, the speaker candidly shares personal experiences and mistakes to outline 10 things one should avoid in relationships with women. He emphasizes not making permanent decisions when emotional, such as marriage without a prenuptial agreement, and warns against tattooing a partner's name. He also advises against lending money in relationships, making false promises, and breaking trust. The speaker suggests not going out of one's way to please a partner's friends and family, and cautions about oversharing personal information and secrets. He stresses the importance of using protection during sex to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies, and concludes with a warning about being overly trusting, as it can lead to exploitation and regret.
Takeaways
- 💔 Avoid making permanent decisions when emotionally involved, especially regarding marriage and commitments, as emotions can cloud judgment and lead to regret.
- 🤔 Never tattoo the name or image of a partner on your body, as relationships can change and you may later regret such a permanent reminder.
- 🚫 Be wary of relationships where money is involved, as it can lead to exploitation and loss, and remember that material support is not a measure of love.
- 🤐 Do not make promises, especially about marriage, lightly as they can lead to emotional harm and legal complications.
- 🔒 Trust is crucial in a relationship, but avoid playing with it as broken trust can cause irreparable damage.
- 🚶♂️ Don't overextend yourself in actions that you cannot maintain in the long term, such as excessive niceties, as they set unrealistic expectations.
- 👥 Maintain a respectful distance from your partner's friends and family to avoid unnecessary complications and potential gossip.
- 😷 Be cautious about sharing too much of your personal information, vulnerabilities, and secrets, as they can be used against you if the relationship ends poorly.
- 🛡 Practice safe sex to protect yourself from potential health risks and unintended pregnancies.
- 🔐 Do not blindly trust anyone with your financial information or passwords, as one mistake can lead to significant loss.
- 👀 Be aware of your boundaries and do not open up your life so much that you lose control or become vulnerable to manipulation.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video?
-The main theme of the video is to share 10 things that one should not do with women, based on the speaker's personal experiences and mistakes.
What is the first mistake mentioned in the video that one should avoid when dealing with relationships?
-The first mistake mentioned is making permanent decisions while being emotionally involved, such as decisions involving marriage or financial commitments without proper agreements.
Why should one avoid making permanent decisions when emotional in a relationship?
-Making permanent decisions while emotional can lead to regret, as the initial romantic phase of a relationship can be deceiving, and things may become uncomfortable or even ugly after the honeymoon phase ends.
What is the advice given about getting a tattoo of a significant other's name?
-The advice is to never get a tattoo of your girlfriend or boyfriend's name or any identifying mark on your body, as relationships can change and it can become a burden to explain to future partners.
What is the speaker's experience with a girl who had multiple tattoos of ex-partner names?
-The speaker met a girl who had six names tattooed on her body, including one on her vagina, which she had to blacken out after breaking up with those partners.
What is the second major red flag mentioned in the video?
-The second major red flag is when a relationship involves asking for money, as it can lead to a loss that is not recoverable and can be emotionally damaging.
Why should one be cautious about promising marriage in a relationship?
-Promising marriage should be approached with caution because it can be emotionally breaking for the party that believes in the promise, and in some jurisdictions, it can lead to legal consequences.
What is the advice regarding trust in a relationship?
-The advice is not to play with trust, as it is hurtful and wrong. The speaker admits to having done this in the past for survival but emphasizes the importance of integrity in relationships.
Why should one avoid doing things that are not part of their normal behavior in a relationship?
-One should avoid doing things that are not part of their normal behavior because it sets a standard that they may not be able to maintain, leading to disappointment and potential conflict when the behavior stops.
What is the speaker's opinion on meeting and trying to please a partner's friends and family?
-The speaker advises to keep a distance from a partner's friends and family to avoid gossip and potential conflict, as they will likely always support the partner and may view the other person as the 'bad guy'.
What is the advice given about sharing personal secrets and vulnerabilities in a relationship?
-The advice is to avoid exposing too much of one's personal secrets and vulnerabilities, as they can be used against the individual if the relationship turns sour.
Why should one be cautious about unprotected sex in the beginning of a relationship?
-One should be cautious about unprotected sex because they may not know their partner's sexual history, and it can lead to unwanted pregnancies or the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
What is the final piece of advice given in the video regarding trust and openness in a relationship?
-The final advice is not to trust and open up so much that one loses track of where to draw the line, as this can lead to being taken advantage of or having personal information misused.
Outlines
🚫 Avoid Emotional Decisions in Relationships
The speaker shares personal experiences and emphasizes the importance of not making permanent decisions, especially those involving marriage, when emotionally charged. He warns against the pitfalls of hyper-sexualized relationships and the potential for heartbreak and regret when such decisions are made in the heat of passion. The summary of this paragraph highlights the need for rationality in significant life choices.
🔺 Never Tattoo a Partner's Name
In this paragraph, the speaker discusses the folly of getting a tattoo of one's partner's name or image, citing personal anecdotes and the stories of others who have regretted this decision. He mentions a woman with multiple names tattooed on her body and his own experience with a name tattoo that he turned into a horror theme. The advice is clear: avoid permanent body art dedicated to a partner, as relationships can change and end.
💸 Beware of Financial Red Flags in Relationships
The speaker warns against relationships where money becomes a central issue, describing it as a massive red flag. He recounts stories of people using tragic stories to ask for money, which he advises against, as it often leads to loss and heartbreak. The summary underscores the importance of financial independence and caution when it comes to financial matters in relationships.
🤝 Avoid False Promises of Commitment
Here, the speaker addresses the issue of making false promises, particularly regarding marriage, which can lead to emotional devastation and legal consequences, especially in India. He shares his own experience of making such a promise and the pain it caused, urging others to be cautious with their words and to ensure any promises are in writing and witnessed to avoid misunderstandings and legal trouble.
🔒 Don't Play with Trust
The speaker confesses to having played with people's trust in the past for his own survival, expressing deep regret for his actions. He stresses the importance of integrity and the damage caused by breaking trust, both to others and to one's own conscience. The summary encourages maintaining trust in relationships and the importance of being trustworthy.
🙅♂️ Don't Pretend to Be Someone You're Not
In this paragraph, the speaker advises against going out of one's way to please a partner by acting in ways that are not genuine or sustainable. He uses his own experiences to illustrate how setting unrealistic expectations can lead to discomfort and resentment when the behavior stops. The summary highlights the importance of authenticity in relationships and the potential consequences of pretending to be someone you're not.
👥 Keep a Distance from Her Social Circle
The speaker suggests maintaining a certain distance from a partner's friends and family to avoid the complications that can arise from gossip and taking sides. He warns that being too familiar can backfire and that one should avoid trying to please everyone in their partner's social circle. The summary advises on the potential pitfalls of becoming too entwined with a partner's social network.
🤐 Be Careful with What You Share
Here, the speaker cautions against oversharing personal secrets and vulnerabilities that could be used against one in the future. He discusses the potential for information to be weaponized and the importance of protecting oneself, especially in the context of romantic relationships. The summary emphasizes the need for discretion and the potential risks of sharing too much too soon.
🛑 Practice Safe Sex and Be Responsible
The speaker warns against the dangers of unprotected sex, citing the risks of sexually transmitted diseases and unintended pregnancies. He shares a story of a friend who fell into a trap of being blackmailed after an unplanned pregnancy. The summary stresses the importance of safe sex practices and being responsible for one's actions.
🔓 Don't Give Unrestricted Access to Your Life
In the final paragraph, the speaker recounts a personal story where he gave his wife unrestricted access to his bank account, leading to a significant financial mistake. He advises against sharing everything, including passwords and vulnerabilities, as it can lead to loss and regret. The summary highlights the importance of setting boundaries and maintaining control over one's personal and financial life.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Emotional decisions
💡Tattoos
💡Money in relationships
💡Promises
💡Trust
💡Authenticity
💡Social circles
💡Vulnerability
💡Unprotected sex
💡Blind trust
Highlights
Don't make permanent decisions when emotional, especially regarding marriage or financial agreements.
Avoid getting tattoos of your partner's name or image, as relationships can change and it can lead to regret.
Be cautious about giving money in a relationship, as it can lead to loss and emotional complications.
Don't make promises of marriage or commitment lightly, as they can have legal and emotional consequences.
Trust should not be played with, as it can lead to hurt and damage relationships.
Don't pretend to be someone you're not or go above and beyond in ways that set unrealistic expectations.
Maintain a respectful distance from your partner's friends and family to avoid unnecessary complications.
Protect your personal secrets and vulnerabilities to prevent them from being used against you.
Practice safe sex to prevent STDs and unplanned pregnancies.
Don't blindly trust your partner with everything, especially when it comes to finances and passwords.
Sharing personal information can be risky, as it might be used against you in the future.
One mistake in a relationship can have lasting consequences, even if it's unintentional.
The importance of setting boundaries in a relationship to avoid misunderstandings and discomfort.
The potential for relationships to become 'hyper-sexualized' and the negative outcomes that can follow.
The warning against promising marriage without a proper understanding of the commitment involved.
The advice on not overextending oneself in the relationship to avoid setting unmaintainable precedents.
The cautionary tale of sharing passwords and financial information with a partner and the potential risks.
Transcripts
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all right in this video I'll share with
you 10 things that you should not do
with women and I'm taking this from my
own personal life from my own personal
experiences and uh the mistakes that
I've made so yeah feel free to make fun
of me as much as you like but um you
know I've not been perfect I was a
Playboy in my younger days I know I
don't look like many people say you're
Ugly who the [ __ ] would fall for you
well guess what when there are billions
of people out there someone might find
me the flavor of the month so anyway
I'll give you the top 10 points good bad
ugly feel free comment down below and if
you have something that you wish to add
it'll be great if you disagree with me
and say know I believe this is a better
Point feel free to share but offer
something of value that people reading
can understand learn don't just say hey
what a d and what are this and what are
that it doesn't help either YouTube's
algorithm will delete or I will so let's
move on top 10 things you should not do
with women and the biggest and most
important point is make a permanent
decision when your emotional nature that
involves marriage that involves um you
know promising the sun moon and stars
that involves even people I know have
actually signed off I don't know their
money or stuff to somebody else not
making a prenuptual agreement whatever
it is don't make a permanent decision
when you are emotional because you will
for ever regret it remember when you are
in love and in the beginning of the uh
relationship everything is Rosy romantic
happy happy but after the honeymoon
phase is over things start becoming
slightly uncomfortable then it becomes
Rocky and then when people break up
especially the divorce or at the breakup
it becomes very ugly and especially if
there is lot of sex it backfires big
time because both of you are very
passionate very uh intense and it always
backfire so one of the biggest red flags
is if your relationship is hyp
sexualized and hyp sexy and Hyper full
of lovey lovey lovey lovey stuff it will
break up very badly so never make a
permanent decision or a important
decision when you're emotional nature
number two is you can see all this
tattoo you can see girls photograph you
can see girls photograph yes make fun of
me never ever put the tattoo of your
girlfriend or boyfriend on your body
that includes J of birth that includes
name I've actually met a girl who was I
think 18 years old she had six names and
then she had crossed it actually black
here at the side I don't know what the
[ __ ] she was doing uh she was not a very
hot looking female but she was actually
putting the names I even know even
though she has not shown me um a female
uh and I got this verified from the
tattoo artist because she was there she
put the name of her boyfriend on her
vagina seriously not a joke she put her
boyfriend and the boyfriend insisted why
because he was rich I mean tomorrow if
you break up how are you going to
explain it to somebody else I know
people have asked me doesn't your wife
mind this well I made it into a horror
theme so she doesn't give a damn about
it but never ever tattoo on your body
like my tattoo artist used to always say
I tell people tattoos are permanent
girlfriends are not or relationship is
not so be careful but then again he
doesn't mind it because he gets paid
money so don't tattoo someone's name uh
or like in my case image maybe you can
make it horror but avoid tattooing
something on your body okay and if you
both are doing it then it's a big
problem the girl who took the money my
money and run away full thing she
tattooed Loy Mido here and uh she took
my money and went back to her ex-husband
she gave my money to him and then she
had to you know make this black and to
this day it is still there looks ugly I
should have made it ly m.com it was only
loyo loo.com I would to get a lot of
publicity anyway that's stupid all right
number three is money uh most of the
relationships where either male or
female uh is asking you for money that's
a massive red flag no self-respecting
human being no matter how tragic the
story is oh my mother's dying of cancer
my father is dying my baby's dying my
sister's dying I'm dying when money
comes in the equation it is a red flag
that you should not do in a relationship
because if you give the money it'll
never come back so if you don't mind
losing everything and you don't mind
tomorrow if the person dumps you and
goes to someone else and you will not
feel anything then give money otherwise
don't give have you you must have read
no guy donates his kidney or the female
gives her kidney and the guy dumps her
and goes for another girl well you can't
get your kidney back back so just
remember when people have to use you
they'll be very nice when people have to
dump you they'll show their true colors
never lead give money and please don't
give your body parts H they'll never get
it back uh no matter how emotional it is
because tomorrow when you get dumped
then don't cry about it number four is
this is very common with Indians both
men and women they will give you sun
moon and stars they'll promise you
marriage they'll mislead you and uh this
can be emotionally breaking for the
party that believes in you that is why
now uh the Indian law has stated that if
you promise a girl marriage and you have
sex with her and then you don't you know
go ahead as per plan then you can be
held I don't know either for contempt or
something in jail you can actually be
jailed and many girls are weaponizing
this law against many dumb idiotic uh
immature men and also keep this in mind
maybe you wanted sex badly maybe you're
feeling horny maybe the girl was very
sweet sweet but after having sex she
turned out to be a [ __ ] there are many
females who are like that then obviously
you would want to spend your life with
someone who's a [ __ ] irritating
female right so don't promise someone
something and remember verbally you can
be taken out of context so always make
sure everything is in writing and there
are witnesses so that you don't fall
into trouble especially if you an Indian
so don't promise and if in a country
that you stay they don't put you in jail
or they don't give you any problem still
don't promise because it can hurt an
individual I've done it only once in my
life out of the 300 400 relationships I
had that was only during my 20s my first
serious love relationship where I
thought I'll get married and have
children with her I spoke to her mother
everything big mistake shouldn't have
done it it hurt the female very badly
number five don't do with women is play
with your trust and i' would also say
the same about men who do that to other
women uh uh you know and women who do it
to men is don't play with their trust
just don't it's very hurtful it's very
wrong you should not do it I have matter
of Shame I've done it and I've done it
with very close very good people and I
Did It For My survival I'm very ashamed
about it but then it is what it is I it
was survival of the fittest I did it
with people I shouldn't have done and it
was very wrong but um I know you'll say
you're Too Faced yes I take whatever bad
words you want to give me on this but
don't break people's trust and after
I've done that I've never done it again
and I made sure with my wife with my kid
I stand as a guy with Integrity I know
still it doesn't absolve me for the
wrong that I've done and the people that
I've hurt so here is one area where I'm
a bit Too Faced because I've done in the
past and but I'm preaching to you now
not to do it okay sorry about it but it
is what it is number six is
don't uh do things which are not normal
and I'm not talking of sex or you know
you put your leg up like this and you
put something out of your body and
person opens the mouth I'm not talking
of all that poro stuff I'm talking of
don't go out of the way to be who you're
not because let's say for example you're
with your partner and you're being
overly nice and you keep opening the
door every single time and you keep
serving them food they will think this
is a standard and you need to do it for
the rest of your life I give you my
personal examples where I us to
literally give my wife the wallet and I
to literally tell whatever you want to
buy just buy you know as to blindly
trust her now when I put rules and
regulations in place where she has fixed
pocket money she's very uncomfortable
with not having access to my wallet it
has t it is still taking time she still
wants the unlimited access that she had
and she feels bad about it she feels
like I don't love her now you know even
though I still take care of her so don't
do what is which you can't do normally
otherwise so if you plan to open the
door you have to open the door forever
if you planning to serve the person and
feed the person with your hand you have
to do it forever the day you stop it's
going to backfire so avoid doing
anything that is not overly normal okay
like if you plan to cook for her you'll
have to cook for the rest of your life
okay massage you'll have to massage your
feet for the rest of your life so keep
that in mind number seven this might be
a little controversial but avoid meeting
her friends her family members her
everyone and trying to please them
because somehow people people end up
gossiping people end up talking and
remember her friends are her friends her
family is her family they will always
support her talk good about her and
you'll be the bad person so even if
she's at fault you will be hated so keep
a distance uh you being too familiar
with backfire so keep them at a distance
and let them be so don't avoid meeting
apart from the one courtesy visit stay
away just stay away and avoid it totally
okay so this is one thing you should not
do with women number eight is expose
yourself too much I'm not talking of
exposing yourself physically which you
have to when you're having intimate sex
but expose yourself in terms of the
secrets in terms of your vulnerabilities
in terms of things that can be used
against you in the code of law or can be
weaponized because when you are
romantically in love everything is fine
when things backfire it's going to [ __ ]
is going to hit the ceiling like they
say number nine is initially when you
meet up with your partner please do not
have unprotected sex because you just do
not know who she has gone to what she's
doing in fact you might you know uh be
with her I know relationships where guys
and girls have been with each other 5
years 10 years and they still have
extramarital Affairs or you know outside
relationships all you need to do is one
bad choice one bad mistake with someone
who's infected with the STD and very
soon you'll have it so I'm not saying
never have unpredicted sex once you come
to know the person and you trust the
person person and you're sure then have
unprotected sex but only caveat here is
you don't want to have children you
better use protection otherwise you'll
end up with a kid whom you do not have
the financial muscle or the emotional
capacity or the desire to take care of
and then it becomes ugly when you want
to go for abortion or maybe one doesn't
want to go one wants to go and in some
cases in the west they even girls they
target athletes or Rich guys purposely
get them drunk purposely get
themselves pregnant and then they
blackmail emotionally blackmail them to
take care of them or they claim
financial compensation by taking them to
courot my very close friend uh from uh
India based in Dubai he was working in
um still is working for a multinational
company very high salary he apparently
fell in love with this very ordinary
vanilla not at all good-looking but
hyper young girl uh in
uh India okay she is not the type he
would ever want to marry never well
guess what uh because she was half his
age or something less than that she
purposely got him drunk purposely got
herself pregnant and purposely he had no
other choice but to marry her and he has
been miserable ever since so be careful
of unprotected sex and last if not the
least
is you know like
open your life to the
them so much trust them so blindly that
you just do not know where to draw the
line I've made this mistake whether it's
your bank account whether it's true
facts whether it's your vulnerabilities
whether it's your passwords whether
anything see in my case I've shared with
my wife my passwords everything okay
cards all that she made one mistake one
mistake of giving in th B 500 B uh she
lend it twice after nearly 7 or 8 years
7 years of marriage and I posted a video
where I thought I was going to break up
with her permanently finished she did a
genuine mistake because it was for a
teacher uh who was kind of taking care
of my little one nice person good heart
good character good everything but it
didn't matter because I had made it very
clear to her you asked me if you take
money from my account even one one penny
ask I will either say yes or no but
don't take out without asking and why
because in her family there are people
who have lost millions millions for
generations of wealth one of her
relatives lost four generations because
someone had taken money without asking
somebody else bank account got exposed
lost all the money so due to that I'm
the only bread earner I told her do not
yet she did it she she her excuse was I
made a mistake
I said fine I need time to think whether
this relationship should continue or not
after nearly a month month and a half
two I decided I'll give it a second shot
which I never would have agreed but she
lost all the BS and benefits of
unlimited access you know whatever even
though
she's an amazing human being she can
still be trusted but one mistake is all
it took like a crack in the glass so
even though I'm giving you the advice I
broke my own rule okay but
thankfully it wasn't a disaster like I
know in some cases where here actual on
the island guy has lost a
multimillionaire married a very simple
uh girl she turned out to be a
manipulator she sucked him dry over over
180 million uh British pounds gone okay
don't want to get more more into this
there are many such stories like that so
just be careful if you reveal everything
and you open up everything whether
emotions bank accounts Secrets whatever
you don't know when they're going to use
it against you so these are the 10
things you should not do with women I
don't know what you'll agree I don't
know what you'll disagree but good bad
ugly feel free let me know what are your
thoughts but like I told you I'm sharing
with you from my own life from the
mistakes I made so let me know what do
you think I will be reading your
comments this me signing off you guys
take care
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