Narcissistic Wife. 10 Ways a Narcissistic Wife Treats Her Husband

Summary

In this video, relationship coach Lilia addresses the often-overlooked issue of narcissistic abuse in relationships, specifically focusing on how narcissistic women treat their husbands. She explains the psychological manipulation and emotional control that narcissistic wives inflict on their partners, including blame-shifting, emotional neglect, and isolation. Lilia highlights the damaging effects of constant criticism, invalidation, and emotional absence in such relationships. She encourages men suffering from narcissistic abuse to understand that the problem lies with their partner's behavior, not with them, and urges them to seek support in overcoming these toxic dynamics.

Takeaways

• 😀 Narcissistic wives often make their husbands feel like the problem in the relationship, manipulating them into believing they are at fault.
• 😀 These women rarely treat their husbands as partners, constantly undermining and opposing them to assert control.
• 😀 Intimacy in the relationship is often withheld as a means of manipulation, leaving the husband feeling isolated and guilty for desiring physical connection.
• 😀 Narcissistic wives frequently isolate their husbands from friends, especially female ones, to maintain control and prevent outside influence.
• 😀 Narcissistic wives tend to live in a fantasy world where they believe they could have done better, consistently belittling their husbands and making them feel inadequate.
• 😀 They often blame their husbands for all their life’s problems, using them as an emotional punching bag for past traumas or issues unrelated to the relationship.
• 😀 The relationship dynamic is imbalanced, with the husband being expected to serve the wife’s needs and desires without being treated as an equal.
• 😀 Narcissistic wives excel in blame-shifting, making their husbands believe that everything that goes wrong is their fault.
• 😀 Emotional absence is common in narcissistic relationships, as the wife’s inability to empathize or feel remorse leaves the husband emotionally drained.
• 😀 Narcissistic wives often use threats of divorce or leaving as a manipulation tactic, further eroding the husband’s self-worth and stability.

Q & A

What is the main focus of the video?

The main focus of the video is on narcissistic abuse in relationships, specifically highlighting the behavior of narcissistic women in domestic partnerships and the impact on their husbands.

How does a narcissistic wife typically make her husband feel in a marriage?

A narcissistic wife often makes her husband feel like the problem in the relationship. She may blame him for everything, leaving him feeling like he's constantly disappointing her and causing him to question his own actions and worth.

Why does a narcissistic woman always seem to be against her partner?

She is often skeptical and unable to trust her partner, due to her own unresolved emotional issues and lack of a secure attachment. This lack of trust leads her to oppose and criticize her husband, preventing a true partnership.

What is the impact of withholding affection in a relationship with a narcissistic wife?

A narcissistic wife may use sexuality to manipulate her husband, then later withhold affection, making him feel guilty for wanting intimacy. This causes emotional isolation, making the husband feel like there is something wrong with him.

How does a narcissistic wife handle her husband's friendships?

A narcissistic wife will typically try to prevent her husband from having friends, especially female friends. She may create problems with anyone he wants to befriend, seeing their support system as a threat to her control over him.

What kind of fantasy world does a narcissistic wife live in?

She lives in a fantasy where she believes she could have done better than her husband, often criticizing him and telling him he isn't good enough. This leads her husband to feel inadequate and pushes him to try harder to meet her unreasonably high expectations.

How does a narcissistic wife use blame in the relationship?

A narcissistic wife shifts the blame for everything in her life onto her husband. Whether it's past trauma or mistakes made by others, she convinces him that it's his fault, manipulating him into believing that everything goes wrong because of him.

What is the 'queen-servant' dynamic in a narcissistic marriage?

In this dynamic, the narcissistic wife sees herself as the queen and expects her husband to serve her. The husband must report his finances and actions to her, losing his sense of autonomy and becoming subservient to her control.

How does a narcissistic wife shift blame for her own mistakes?

A narcissistic wife is an expert at blame-shifting. If something goes wrong, she will place the blame on her husband, making him believe that any issues are entirely his fault, even when they aren't.

What emotional response can a husband expect from a narcissistic wife when confronting her about issues?

A narcissistic wife is emotionally absent and lacks empathy. When confronted about her behavior or issues in the relationship, she may show no remorse and may become defensive, making it difficult to have meaningful conversations.