6 Signs They’re Serious About You

Summary

In this video, the speaker shares six key signs to help you determine if someone is truly serious about you in a relationship. These signs include getting curious about the other person, looking for mutual curiosity, following up after dates, scheduling time together, involving you in important decisions, and ensuring you feel comfortable in sensitive situations. By distinguishing between attention and intention, the video offers a practical guide to recognizing genuine commitment and avoiding time-wasters in dating.

Takeaways

• 😀 Attention is not the same as intention. Attention may give temporary excitement, but intention reflects a deeper, genuine commitment.
• 😀 Get curious about the person you're dating. Ask questions that reveal their values, lifestyle, and long-term goals.
• 😀 Be neutral in your tone when asking questions. A relaxed curiosity helps uncover the truth about the other person without making them feel pressured.
• 😀 Look for curiosity in return. A person serious about you will actively want to learn about you and understand what you're looking for in a relationship.
• 😀 Follow-up after a date is essential. If someone is truly interested, they will make an effort to continue the conversation and keep the momentum going.
• 😀 Scheduling time to see you demonstrates commitment. If someone takes the initiative to put plans in the diary, it shows they're serious about making time for you.
• 😀 Don't confuse talking about plans with actually scheduling them. True commitment involves making concrete plans, not just hypothetical discussions.
• 😀 Involve your partner in key decisions that could affect the relationship. Serious people consider your feelings when making life-changing choices.
• 😀 Serious people will include you in conversations about their future and important life decisions that could impact the relationship.
• 😀 Make sure to feel comfortable with any situation that might cause insecurity. A serious partner will reassure you and ensure you're at ease with their actions and relationships.
• 😀 If someone is serious about you, they will communicate openly and compassionately when issues arise, showing that they value your feelings and the relationship.

Q & A

What is the key distinction between attention and intention in dating?

Attention refers to someone giving you their focus without any commitment to the future, whereas intention involves someone having a clear purpose or plan for the relationship and where they want it to go.

Why is attention considered a dangerous 'drug' in dating?

Attention can create excitement and false expectations, leading you to invest emotionally in someone who might not be serious about you, based purely on the attention they give, rather than their actual intentions.

How can you use curiosity to assess if someone is serious about you?

Being genuinely curious about the other person, asking open-ended questions about their life and intentions, allows you to gauge their values and what they're looking for in a relationship, which helps you see if they're serious.

What does it mean if the person you're dating is not showing curiosity about you?

If they aren't asking questions about your values, background, or long-term goals, it might indicate that they're more focused on impressing you rather than genuinely getting to know you, suggesting a lack of seriousness.

What is the significance of following up after a date in terms of seriousness?

When someone follows up after a date, it shows that they're invested in maintaining momentum and are serious about progressing the relationship, rather than just treating the date as a one-time event.

How is scheduling a date different from just talking about plans?

Scheduling a date involves committing to a specific time and plan to meet, which shows serious intent and prioritization, while talking about plans without setting a date reflects a lack of commitment or urgency.

Why is it important to involve the person you're dating in major decisions?

Involving them in decisions that could affect your time together or the future of the relationship demonstrates a commitment to transparency, respect for their feelings, and shows you're taking the relationship seriously.

What should you look for to tell if someone is serious about involving you in their decisions?

You should notice whether they communicate key life choices, like a job relocation or a busy schedule, and whether they consider your feelings in their decision-making process.

How do you know if someone is trying to make you feel comfortable in potentially uncomfortable situations?

If they anticipate situations that could cause discomfort, like interactions with friends, and proactively address them to reassure you, it signals that they care about your feelings and are serious about the relationship.

What role does time and patience play in evaluating someone's seriousness?

Evaluating someone's seriousness takes time, as people's true intentions and character can only be revealed over a longer period of consistent behavior. Rushing to conclusions based on short-term actions may lead to misjudgments.