What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (or EFT)?
Summary
TLDRLa Thérapie Axée sur les Émotions des Couples (EFT) est une approche innovante basée sur des décennies de recherche sur le lien affectif, enseignée dans le monde entier. Elle combine l'expérience de Carl Rogers, la thérapie systémique de Salvador Minuchin et la théorie de l'attachement de John Bowlby pour créer un dialogue thérapeutique riche et profond. L'EFT se concentre sur l'expérience émotionnelle des partenaires, l'expression de ces émotions et la manière dont elles influencent leur relation. Le but est de renforcer le lien émotionnel, d'améliorer la sécurité, la satisfaction et la confiance. La recherche montre que l'EFT peut changer la perception cérébrale de la menace et favoriser une meilleure gestion des émotions. Le processus implique de créer un environnement sûr, d'aider les partenaires à explorer leurs émotions et à établir de nouvelles interactions pour renforcer leur lien. L'EFT est structurée en trois étapes clés : désamorçage du cycle négatif, restructuration du lien et consolidation des changements. Les thérapeutes EFT utilisent des techniques spécifiques telles que la question simple, la validation et la mise en scène pour guider les couples vers une relation plus sûre et plus satisfaisante.
Takeaways
- 🌟 L'EFT (Thérapie Axée sur les Émotions en Couple) est basée sur 50 ans de recherche sur le lien affectif, tant entre mère et enfant que dans les relations amoureuses.
- 📈 L'EFT est largement validée empiriquement, avec 16 études de résultats et 9 études sur le processus de changement.
- 🤝 L'EFT combine l'approche de Carl Rogers (thérapie experienciale), Salvador Minuchin (thérapie systémique) et John Bowlby (science de l'attachement).
- 💬 L'EFT est une conversation qui se focalise sur l'expérience émotionnelle des personnes dans leur relation et les modèles de communication qui y sont liés.
- 🧠 Une étude de 2013 montrait que l'EFT affecte la façon dont le cerveau perçoit la menace et y réagit, renforçant la théorie de l'attachement et du lien adulte.
- 🛠 L'EFT se concentre sur le changement dans le présent, au cours de la session, plutôt que de donner des devoirs à la maison.
- 🚫 La principale contre-indication de l'EFT est l'incapacité de créer un environnement sûr pour les deux partenaires, notamment en présence de menaces ou de violence.
- 🔁 L'EFT suit un modèle de cinq étapes, allant de l'observation de l'interaction en cours à la création d'une nouvelle interaction qui favorise le lien affectif.
- 🔄 Les trois étapes fondamentales de l'EFT sont la désescalade du cycle négatif, la restructuration du lien et la consolidation des changements.
- 💡 L'EFT vise à créer un lien émotionnel plus sûr, augmentant ainsi la satisfaction, l'intimité et la confiance dans la relation.
- 🌐 L'EFT est au cœur d'une révolution en thérapie de couple, offrant une base scientifique à la pratique thérapeutique.
- 📚 Pour en savoir plus sur l'EFT, les ressources sont disponibles sur le site web why-cet.org, y compris des formations, des articles et des études.
Q & A
Qu'est-ce que la thérapie des couples axée sur l'émotion (EFT) et quelles sont ses bases scientifiques ?
-La thérapie des couples axée sur l'émotion (EFT) est une approche thérapeutique basée sur 50 ans de recherche sur le lien affectif entre la mère et l'enfant et les liens romantiques entre partenaires. Elle utilise la science du lien et de l'attachement pour guider le thérapeute dans la compréhension des relations intimes, de leur dysfonctionnement et des voies pour les réparer.
Quels types de couples peuvent bénéficier de l'EFT ?
-L'EFT a été étudiée et appliquée avec succès avec de nombreux types de couples, y compris ceux qui sont dépressifs, ceux qui font face à un traumatisme, ceux qui ont des enfants atteints d'une maladie chronique, ainsi qu'avec les familles.
Comment la thérapie EFT est-elle structurée et quel est son objectif final ?
-L'EFT est structurée comme une conversation entre trois approches thérapeutiques différentes. Son objectif est de créer un lien émotionnel plus sûr, d'augmenter la satisfaction, l'intimité et la confiance dans la relation, en dépassant la simple négociation de conflits ou la résolution de problèmes concrets.
Quels sont les cinq mouvements que l'on observe dans un thérapeute EFT expérimenté ?
-Un thérapeute EFT expérimenté effectue constamment cinq mouvements : se concentrer sur le processus actuel, approfondir les émotions, clarifier et créer un nouveau message, traiter cette nouvelle étape dans l'interaction, et finalement, renforcer le sentiment de compétence des partenaires en mettant en valeur leurs réalisations.
Comment l'EFT aide-t-elle à changer la dynamique de la relation ?
-L'EFT aide les couples à identifier et à comprendre les modèles négatifs de leur relation, tels que la demande et le retrait. Ensuite, elle facilite des conversations qui permettent de créer de nouvelles interactions et des expériences émotionnelles correctives, qui renforcent le lien et la sécurité émotionnelle entre les partenaires.
Quels sont les trois stades de changement dans l'EFT ?
-Les trois stades de changement dans l'EFT sont : 1) la désescalade du cycle négatif, 2) la restructuration du lien à travers des conversations qui renforcent le lien émotionnel, et 3) la consolidation, où les partenaires créent leur propre histoire d'amour sur comment ils se sont bloqués et comment ils ont réparé leur relation.
Quel est le principal contre-indicatif de l'EFT ?
-Le principal contre-indicatif de l'EFT est l'incapacité de créer un environnement sûr pendant la session thérapeutique. Cela peut être le cas si un partenaire menace la sécurité de l'autre, s'engage dans une infidélité ou menace de violence.
Comment l'EFT utilise-t-elle les recherches en neuro科学 pour renforcer la pratique clinique ?
-L'EFT utilise les recherches en neuro科学 pour montrer comment les conversations de liage peuvent changer la façon dont le cerveau perçoit et gère la menace. Une étude de scanner cérébral publiée en novembre 2013 a montré que les interactions de liage après l'EFT changent la perception cérébrale de la menace.
Quels sont les outils clés d'un thérapeute EFT pour faciliter le changement dans la relation des couples ?
-Les outils clés d'un thérapeute EFT incluent la concentration sur le processus actuel, l'approfondissement des émotions, la clarification et la création de nouveaux messages, le traitement des nouvelles interactions et l'encouragement et la validation des progrès des partenaires.
Quelle est la durée habituelle d'une thérapie EFT ?
-La durée d'une thérapie EFT varie généralement entre 8 et 20 sessions, selon les besoins et la progression des partenaires dans le processus thérapeutique.
Où puis-je trouver plus d'informations sur l'EFT et les ressources pour y accéder ?
-On peut trouver plus d'informations sur l'EFT et les ressources pour y accéder sur le site web www.iceeft.com. Ce site propose des ressources, des bandes vidéo de formation, des listes de chapitres et d'articles sur l'EFT, ainsi que des notifications sur les externats de formation.
Quels sont les livres de référence pour apprendre l'EFT ?
-Le texte de référence pour l'EFT est 'Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love', publié en 2004. Il existe également un workbook et un casebook qui accompagnent ce livre.
Outlines
😀 Introduction à la Thérapie Axée sur les Émotions (EFT) pour les Couples
Sue Johnson présente la Thérapie Axée sur les Émotions (EFT), une approche thérapeutique avancée basée sur 50 ans de recherche sur les liens affectifs entre la mère et l'enfant et entre les partenaires amoureux. L'EFT est enseignée dans le monde entier et possède une validation empirique solide avec de nombreuses études sur les résultats et le processus de changement. L'objectif principal de l'EFT est de créer un lien émotionnel plus sûr, ce qui conduit à une satisfaction, une intimité et une confiance accrues. Des études récentes ont montré que l'EFT peut modifier la façon dont le cerveau perçoit la menace et gère la protection. L'EFT est axée sur l'expérience actuelle et la relation, et le thérapeute guide les clients pour explorer et exprimer leurs émotions, favorisant ainsi de nouveaux modèles de liens positifs.
🚨 Contraindications et Méthodes de l'EFT
Le principal contre-indicateur de l'EFT est l'incapacité de créer un environnement sûr lorsque l'un des partenaires menace la sécurité émotionnelle, par exemple en menaçant de quitter la relation ou en faisant preuve de violence. L'EFT implique une validation et un soutien constants des partenaires, ainsi que la création d'une sécurité émotionnelle pendant la session. Le thérapeute EFT effectue cinq mouvements clés : se concentrer sur le processus actuel, approfondir les émotions, clarifier et créer un nouveau message, processer cette nouvelle interaction et enfin, renforcer les réalisations des partenaires. Le processus comprend trois étapes principales : dé-escalader le cycle négatif, restructurer le lien et consolider les changements.
🤝 Les Étapes de l'EFT et la Création d'Interactions Nouvelles
L'EFT se concentre sur la création d'interactions nouvelles qui favorisent des conversations puissantes sur les besoins et les peurs des partenaires. Le thérapeute aide les couples à exprimer leurs vulnérabilités et à demander réciproquement un soutien émotionnel. Cette approche permet de créer une réponse émotionnelle plus profonde et une capacité accrue à être ouverts et réceptifs l'un envers l'autre. Le troisième stade de l'EFT, la consolidation, aide les couples à évaluer les changements réalisés et à créer leur propre histoire d'amour sur la manière dont ils se sont bloqués et comment ils ont réparé leur relation.
🌟 La Révolution de la Thérapie des Couples et les Ressources pour en Apprendre davantage sur l'EFT
La thérapie des couples fait actuellement l'objet d'une révolution scientifique, et l'EFT en fait partie. Pour ceux qui sont intéressés par l'EFT, il est suggéré de visiter le site web whyseeft.com pour accéder à de nombreuses ressources, des bandes de formation, des listes de chapitres et d'articles, une liste de toutes les recherches sur l'EFT, et des informations sur les externats de plusieurs jours qui constituent la formation de base en EFT. Le texte de base sur l'EFT est 'The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection' publié en 2004, et il existe un cahier de travail et un cahier de cas qui l'accompagnent.
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Keywords
💡Thérapie axée sur l'émotion (EFT)
💡Validation empirique
💡Lien maternel et romantique
💡Thérapeute EFT
💡Sécurité émotionnelle
💡Neuroscience
💡Présentation du changement
💡Contraires à l'EFT
💡Validation et soutien
💡Cinq mouvements de l'EFT
💡Stades de changement EFT
Highlights
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is a globally taught therapy based on 50 years of bonding research.
EFT has substantial empirical validation with 16 outcome studies and 9 process of change studies.
EFT has been applied with various couple types, including those dealing with depression, trauma, or chronically ill children.
The therapy integrates experiential and systemic approaches, influenced by Carl Rogers, Salvador Minuchin, and John Bowlby.
EFT focuses on the present, aiming to create secure emotional bonds and increased satisfaction, intimacy, and trust.
Recent EFT research links therapy to changes in brain perception of threat, as shown by a 2013 brain scan study.
EFT sessions primarily occur in real-time, with the therapist guiding clients to explore their emotional experiences.
The main contraindication for EFT is an inability to create emotional safety due to threats or dangerous cues from a partner.
An EFT therapist uses five key moves in sessions, focusing on present emotions and interactions.
EFT therapy usually spans between 8 to 20 sessions, depending on the couple's needs.
The therapy involves creating new interactions that lead to bonding conversations, fostering a secure bond.
EFT operates in three stages: de-escalation of negative cycles, restructuring the bond, and consolidation of changes.
Therapists in EFT constantly reflect clients' realities, asking simple questions to deepen emotional understanding.
EFT is part of a revolutionary science of relationships, offering a new approach to couple therapy.
For more information on EFT, resources, training, and research are available on the official website, ww-why see EFT calm.
The basic text for EFT is 'Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love', accompanied by a workbook and casebook.
EFT aims to help couples understand and step out of negative patterns, creating a more secure and responsive relationship.
Transcripts
hi I'm sue Johnson and I'm going to talk
to you for a few minutes about
emotionally focused couples therapy or
EFT EFT is a leading edge couples
therapy that is taught all over the
world and is based on the last 50 years
of research into bonding both bonding
between mother and child and romantic
bonds between partners the fact that
it's based on this bonding research and
science means that the EFT therapist has
a map a map to what matters in intimate
relationships how they work a map to how
they go wrong and a map to what is
needed to put them right at the moment
EFT has substantial empirical validation
we have 16 outcome studies and nine
studies of the process of change and how
it occurs we've also done studies with
many different kinds of couples with
depressed couples with couples facing
trauma with couples who have chronically
ill children we also use EFT with
families of course but most of our
research and work has been on couples so
what does the FT look like EFT is really
like a conversation between Carl Rogers
the father of experiential therapy
salvador minuchin who's the father of
systemic therapies and including John
Bowlby who really founded the whole
science of attachment and bonding so if
you can imagine these three men coming
together and teaching us how to do
couples therapy you've kind of got an
image of EFT its experiential it focuses
on how people experience their
relationship how they put together their
emotional experience express those
emotions the emotions are the music of
the dance between lovers
and it's systemic in that it looks at
the whole relationship and the patterns
in the relationship and how couples get
stuck in very negative patterns and how
we can help them shift their emotional
signals change the music and create more
positive bonding patterns the goal of
EFT is not just to change the way people
fight make them more able to negotiate
about issues like chores or even feel a
little more satisfy with each other
the goal of EFT is to create a more
secure emotional bond and our research
says that we can do that we can also
create satisfaction intimacy Trust all
these good things that come from feeling
more secure with your partner our latest
research has focused on exactly how you
create that increased security in your
bond with your partner and we if you're
very interested in the research you can
go to +1 which is a neuroscience journal
it is online and if you look in November
2013 you will see a brain scan study
that we just did that showed that after
EFT holding your partner's hand once
you've had these bonding conversations
changes the way your brain perceives
threat and how your brain deals with it
this is very fascinating and it links
EFT and clinical practice into all the
theory and science about the nature of
attachment and adult bonding EFT focuses
on the present change happens in the
present in the relationship we sometimes
give homework but mostly it's all about
what happens in the session change
happens in the process of interaction
between the couple and in the process
where the Thera
test guides the client to go deeper into
their emotional experience make sense of
that experience find aspects of the
experience that they don't usually pay
attention to and put that experience
together in a new way so that they can
send new signals to their partner that
help their partner move with them in the
dance in a different way the EFT
therapist constantly tries to create
safety in the session for both partners
and the contraindication for eft the
main contraindication is that you cannot
create that safety you cannot create the
safety because one partner is literally
threatening or is putting out so many
danger cues by always announcing they're
going to leave by commenting on the fact
that they are having an affair with
someone else or literally by being
threatening and threatening violence or
harm to their partner you cannot then in
these circumstances create the emotional
safety to work on creating more secure
bond and you cannot help the other
person to become vulnerable this is not
ethical in fact so this is the main
contraindication but an EFT therapist is
constantly validating and supporting and
creating safety in the session and
helping people make sense of what's
going on right here and now right in the
session if you watch an experienced EFT
therapist you kind of see them doing
five moves all the time in any of the
sessions EFT usually takes between 8 and
20 sessions but you will see the EFT
therapist constantly doing these five
new moves the therapist goes into what
is happening right now in the session
present process either inside the
partner's or between the partners the
the therapist will say
what is happening right now could you
help me I'd like to stop here for a
minute you turn to him and you said in
an angry voice you didn't do what you
said you were going to do you didn't fix
the cabinets and you turned to her and
you started to cry and you said I can
never get it right with you it doesn't
matter what I do and you turn back to
him and said yes but you didn't fix the
cabinet's
so the EFT therapist will stay here and
will say is this what happens at home
you're angry at your partner you point
out the ways he's disappointed you and
you hear how angry she is and right here
right now you actually tried to reach
for her although at home you say that
you do distance but right here right now
you try to reach for her but somehow it
didn't work
you stayed back and said to him yes but
I don't believe that you really care I
think you're going to disappoint me
again and you guys kind of get stuck
here all the time is this what happens
you're focusing on the process between
the couple and you also focus on the
person's emotional process so you might
talk to her and say even when your
partner now shows you his tears you
remember that for a long long time he
was very distant and very cold and some
part of you doesn't respond to those
tears it's like you go back to your
anger and to your list of demands that's
what you do and she says yes that's
right I can't get past my anger so you
focus on the present process the process
of putting the emotions together and the
process of interaction then the EFT
therapist in the second step deepens the
emotion the EFT therapist will say so
could you help me what happens to you
when you see his tears she says I see
them I see them I see them but I don't
trust
and the EFT therapist might use simple
questions by saying how are you feeling
right now she says I feel tense I feel
tense I can see the tears but I just
feel this tension in my throat and the
therapist might say could you help me if
that tension had a voice what would it
say she says it would say don't believe
him
don't believe him you're only going to
get disappointed again so then we stay
with that and we help her talk about the
fact that she's been so hurt in the
relationship we go deeper into her more
primary core emotions her soft emotions
and we help her start to talk about how
she's been so hurt that she's got a wall
around her and all she really does is
stand behind that wall and kind of yell
directions for change over the wall but
deep inside she's so scared of being
hurt and let down again it's so hard for
her to trust then the EFT therapist will
clarify that message for her and create
an enactment create a new interaction
based on the new signals that they've
put together in the session so the
therapist might say could you turn to
him please and say you're right I am
caught in my anger all the time it's so
hard for me to let down my guard and
begin to trust and believe that you want
to be there for me I'm so scared of
being hurt again could you tell him that
so you set up an interaction so what
have we done so far we focused on
process slowed it down focused on what's
happening in the session we've gone
deeper into the emotion we've distilled
the emotion and deepened it and now
we've created a new message based on
that new experience so she's now going
to turn to him and tell him that she
does that the fourth step is that the
EFT therapist processes that new step in
the darts what was it like for you to
tell him that that was
amazing that you had the courage to do
that what was it like for you to tell
him that and she says it was scary but
it felt good and that is true underneath
all this anger I'm afraid and I say to
him and what was it like for you to hear
your partner talk about this and he says
it makes me feel better at least now I
know I'm not the only person who's
afraid in this relationship and I can
hear her I can hear her there's been
years of her and distance in this
relationship so now we have a new step
in the dance a new interaction the kind
of interaction that's going to really
create corrective emotional experiences
of connection with the couple this is a
real antidote to the negative pattern of
demand and withdraw that the couple
walked in the door with then the EFT
therapist step five of the regular EFT
pattern of therapist intervention then
the EFT therapist ties a bow on the
whole thing and goes matter and says
look at what you guys just did and we do
this in a way that builds their sense of
competence that they can shape their
relationship look at what you guys just
did that's amazing you've been so angry
for so long and here you are actually
talking to him about the hurt underneath
and it's amazing that you can stay and
listen to your partner and recognize
that she has good reasons for being so
angry at you and look at what you guys
just did you shared something new and
you you both stayed here and worked on
this that's incredible that you can do
that the EFT therapist does these steps
again and again and again but with
different levels of intensity there are
three basic stages of change and EFT of
course we create safety all the time but
the first stage is de-escalating the
negative cycle the couple come in with
which is usually some form of critical
demanding followed by withdrawal or
sometimes mutual withdrawal when a
relationship is really starting to
unravel so first of all we help the
couples see the pattern they're caught
in we help them understand what's
happening from an attachment and bonding
point of view how they are both really
scaring the hell out of each other and
trying to protect themselves as well as
they can and still dance together and we
frame the negative pattern and the
insecurity and distance between them as
the problem at the end of de-escalation
the couple can come together and see the
dance they're caught in and help each
other step out of it they can say things
like yes we got caught in that dreadful
pattern this weekend but I said to him I
said we're caught in that pattern is
this one of these times when you get to
feel scared
once they've de-escalated they have a
secure base to really go deeper into
their relationship and create a
corrective experience of bonding and
emotional connection safe emotional
connection so the second stage of EFT is
restructuring the bond here we create
very powerful conversations that we call
withdraw re-engagement
and blame a softening if you want an
easier way to think about it we also
call them hold me tight conversations in
hold me tight conversations the
therapist helps both partners in the
couple talk about their fears
we all have built-in fears in our love
relationships fears of rejection fears
of being deserted and abandoned and
turned away from so the EFT therapist in
these hold me tight conversations helps
people talk about their fears in a way
that pulls their partner towards them
and helps their partner learn to offer
reassurance and
arming and safety for those fears then
we help people talk about their needs in
a way that their partner can hear and
respond we're really trying to create
deeper levels of emotional
responsiveness between the couple when
both partners can turn and share their
vulnerabilities and ask what they need
on an emotional level I need you I need
to be able to tell you when I get scared
I need you to come close and hold me and
reassure me that I'm your special one
when they can do that the bond between
them really shifts and they start to
have a whole new ability to be open and
responsive to each other in the third
stage of EFT consolidation we help the
couple look at all the changes they've
made and create their own love story
about how they got stuck and how they
fix their relationship and put it right
we also help them dream about the future
and where they're going to go if you
watch an EFT therapist they're
constantly reflecting people's reality
as it comes up in the session as they
create it slowing the process down so
that people can move into deeper places
within themselves and look at what's
happening between them and their partner
they're constantly asking simple
questions what's that like for you how
are you feeling right now what happens
to you inside as you say this what is
the trigger for this where does this
anger start how do you feel it in your
body
what do you say to yourself when you see
this expression on her face
they're asking simple questions they're
validating and normalizing people of
course you feel sad when this happens
they're doing little interpretations
like yes I understand I think you do
feel scared it's not just uncomfortable
I think this is scary they're also
showing people the patterns they're
quoting and reframing them reframing the
problem in the relay
ship as the pattern of interactions the
dance that the couple get caught in and
of course they're constantly setting up
new enactments new interactions
interactions that lead to these powerful
bonding conversations that can make a
relationship into a more secure bond
couple therapy is in the middle of a
revolution we have never ever before had
a science of relationships to base
couple therapy on EFT is part of this
new revolutionary science of
relationships if you are interested in
EFT I suggest that you go to the website
ww-why see EFT calm on there you will
find many resources training tapes lists
of chapters and articles on EFT list of
all the research on EFT and
notifications about where we're doing
for day externships which is the basic
training on EFT so I invite you to go to
that website the basic text what EFT for
couples is the practice of emotionally
focused couples therapy creating
connection that came out in 2004 and
there's a workbook and a case book that
go along with that
thank you for listening it was fun to
talk to you
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