8 Signs You Have Self Respect

Summary

In this video, Amanda explores the concept of self-respect, identifying eight pillars that define it: being one's own best friend, knowing priorities, respecting others, admitting mistakes, maintaining boundaries, standing by one's values, recognizing self-worth, and surrounding oneself with respectful people. She challenges the viewer to reflect on these pillars and consider how they can cultivate self-respect to improve their mental health and personal relationships.

Takeaways

• 📞 Amanda reluctantly helps a friend who has been unsupportive in the past, highlighting the need for self-respect.
• 🤔 Self-respect is not just about being kind to others but also about treating oneself with the same kindness and care.
• 🌟 Being your own best friend means treating yourself with the same respect and care as you would a loved one.
• 🎯 Knowing your priorities helps maintain self-respect, even when faced with tempting alternatives.
• 🌈 Respecting others, regardless of their status, is a sign of having self-respect.
• 🙇‍♀️ The ability to admit when you're wrong and apologize is a sign of humility and self-respect.
• 🚧 Maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial for self-respect, ensuring your time and energy are spent wisely.
• 🌳 Standing by your values, even when unobserved, is a key component of self-respect.
• ❤️ Recognizing your own worth and reasons to love yourself can help build self-respect.
• 👥 Surrounding yourself with people who respect you is essential for maintaining self-respect.

Q & A

What is the main issue Amanda faces with her friend Susie?

Amanda faces the issue of Susie constantly asking for favors and not being there when Amanda needed her, which causes Amanda to feel drained and conflicted about helping her.

Why does Amanda continue to help Susie despite her frustration?

Amanda continues to help Susie because she is a good person who wants to avoid conflict and possibly deep down hopes that Susie will change her behavior.

What is the first pillar of self-respect mentioned in the script?

The first pillar of self-respect is being your own best friend, which means knowing how to respect and befriend yourself.

How does treating oneself with kindness relate to self-respect?

Treating oneself with kindness is a sign of high self-respect because it shows that you value yourself as you would a loved one.

What does it mean to know your priorities according to the script?

Knowing your priorities means sticking to what is most important to you, even when faced with difficult choices or temptations.

Why is it important to respect others to gain self-respect?

Respecting others, regardless of their status, shows that you have enough self-respect to understand that treating people well is its own reward and not dependent on their position.

What does the ability to apologize signify about a person's self-respect?

The ability to apologize signifies that a person has both confidence and humility, acknowledging their mistakes and showing a willingness to grow and improve.

How does maintaining healthy boundaries contribute to self-respect?

Maintaining healthy boundaries helps protect one's time and energy, ensuring they are invested in fulfilling activities and relationships, which in turn builds self-respect.

What role does integrity play in self-respect?

Integrity is the foundation of self-respect. When actions and words are rooted in integrity, it naturally leads to a self-respecting mindset and a sense of inner peace.

Why is it beneficial to list your own positive traits to improve self-respect?

Listing positive traits helps remind you of your value and worth, reinforcing self-respect and providing motivation to continue adhering to your values.

How does surrounding oneself with respectful people enhance self-respect?

Surrounding oneself with respectful people reinforces self-respect by providing a supportive environment that validates and encourages one's own respect for oneself.

What is the script's stance on the importance of self-respect in mental health?

The script emphasizes that self-respect is crucial for mental health, and it encourages maintaining self-respect as a continuous journey, not just a destination.

Outlines

00:00

📚 The Struggle with Self-Respect

In this video script, Amanda discusses the importance of self-respect and how it is often overlooked. She starts with a scenario where she is asked to do a favor by a friend who has been unreliable in the past. Despite her exhaustion, Amanda agrees to help, reflecting on why she always says yes. She realizes that while she thinks she is being kind, she is actually being unkind to herself by not respecting her own boundaries and needs. Amanda then outlines eight pillars of self-respect: being one's own best friend, knowing one's priorities, respecting others, admitting when one is wrong, maintaining healthy boundaries, standing by one's values, recognizing reasons to love oneself, and surrounding oneself with respectful people. Each pillar is explained with examples and advice on how to incorporate them into one's life to build self-respect.

05:02

🌟 Cultivating Self-Respect for Personal Growth

The second paragraph continues the discussion on self-respect, emphasizing the importance of self-love and confidence as part of personal growth. It mentions that everyone experiences fluctuations in self-confidence, but the key is to maintain self-respect consistently. The paragraph highlights the decline in mental health and the creators' commitment to producing content to address this issue. The script encourages viewers to reflect on their own self-respect and to share the video with others who might benefit. It concludes with an invitation to explore more resources on the topic through the Psych2Go YouTube channel, and a thank you for being part of their journey.

Keywords

💡Self-respect

Self-respect refers to the intrinsic value one places on oneself and the dignity one accords to their own being. It is a foundational aspect of self-esteem and personal empowerment. In the video, self-respect is discussed as a crucial component of personal well-being and is explored through eight pillars that exemplify how individuals can cultivate and maintain it. The script uses the example of prioritizing family obligations over social status to illustrate self-respect in action.

💡Friend

A friend, in the context of the video, is someone with whom one shares a bond of mutual affection and trust. The narrative begins with a scenario involving a friend who has been unreliable and consistently asks for favors, prompting a discussion on the importance of self-respect and setting boundaries in relationships. The script contrasts the behavior of this friend with the principles of self-respect.

💡Boundaries

Boundaries are the limits or edges we set to protect our physical, emotional, and mental well-being. In the script, maintaining healthy boundaries is listed as one of the pillars of self-respect. It is discussed in terms of valuing one's time and energy and choosing to invest them in fulfilling relationships and activities, thereby creating a protective barrier against toxic influences.

💡Integrity

Integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. It is highlighted in the video as a core value that supports self-respect. The script suggests that acting with integrity, even in the absence of witnesses, is a sign of self-respect because it reflects a commitment to one's values and ethics.

💡Humility

Humility is the quality of being modest and respectful toward others. The video script mentions that being able to apologize and show humility when wrong is a sign of self-respect. It contrasts with arrogance and suggests that self-respecting individuals are willing to acknowledge their mistakes and learn from them.

💡Values

Values are principles or standards of behavior that act as guidelines in one's life. The script emphasizes the importance of standing by one's values as a pillar of self-respect. It suggests that self-respecting individuals hold fast to their morals and ethics, regardless of external pressures or the presence of others.

💡Priorities

Priorities are the tasks or objectives that are considered most important. In the context of the video, knowing one's priorities is a sign of self-respect. The script uses the example of choosing between a social event and fulfilling a family obligation to illustrate how self-respecting individuals make decisions based on their values and what matters most to them.

💡Conflict

Conflict refers to a serious disagreement or argument. The video script mentions that despite disliking the friend's requests, the protagonist agrees to help to avoid conflict. This reluctance to engage in conflict is contrasted with the need for self-respect, suggesting that standing up for oneself is a part of respecting oneself.

💡Toxicity

Toxicity in the video refers to the negative influence or harmful effects that certain people or situations can have on one's well-being. The script advises self-respecting individuals to create boundaries to protect themselves from toxic influences, emphasizing the importance of self-care and self-preservation.

💡Respect for Others

Respect for others means treating people with consideration, regardless of their status or background. The video script includes respecting others as one of the pillars of self-respect, suggesting that individuals who respect themselves are also likely to treat others with respect, which in turn can enhance their own self-respect.

💡Self-Love

Self-love is the act of appreciating and caring for oneself. While the video primarily focuses on self-respect, it also touches on self-love as an aspect of personal well-being. The script implies that self-respect and self-love are interconnected, with self-respect being a foundational element that supports self-love.

Highlights

Amanda receives a call from a friend who often asks for favors but was not there when needed.

Despite being tired from work, Amanda agrees to send her homework to her friend.

Amanda wishes her friend would take responsibility for her own life.

Amanda's compliance with her friend's requests is not due to kindness but a lack of self-respect.

Self-respect is defined as knowing how to respect and befriend oneself.

Showing others that you treat yourself with kindness is a sign of high self-respect.

Having self-respect means sticking to your priorities in difficult situations.

A person with self-respect respects others regardless of their social status.

Knowing when you're wrong and showing humility by apologizing is a sign of self-respect.

Self-respecting people maintain healthy boundaries and invest their time and energy wisely.

True self-respect involves holding yourself to your values, morals, and ethics, even when unobserved.

Developing self-respect involves recognizing and valuing your own characteristics and traits.

Surrounding yourself with people who respect you is crucial for maintaining self-respect.

Mental health struggles are prevalent, and self-respect is essential for healing and growth.

The video encourages viewers to share their experiences and thoughts on self-respect.

Psych2Go provides resources and tips for growing respect for oneself and others.

Transcripts

- [Amanda] After a long day at work,

you receive a call from a friend.

This is a friend who was nowhere to be found

when you needed her,

but she constantly asked you for favors.

You dread these phone calls, but you still pick up.

Hey, Susie, what's up?

- Hi, I need you to send me your homework.

I forgot to do mine.

- [Amanda] This is the sixth time that this has happened.

Even though you're exhausted from work,

and you hate it so much

that she constantly asks you for favors

that she is capable of doing herself,

you reply, yeah, of course, I'll send it over now.

- Thank you.

- [Amanda] You just wish that she would grow up,

and realize that she is responsible for her own life.

But if you hate it so much, why did you say yes?

It's because you're a good person,

and you don't wanna cause any conflict, right?

The truth is no.

Even though you think that you're doing this out of kindness

and care for your friend,

the truth is you are being unkind to yourself,

not giving yourself the self-respect you deserve.

So now, what is self-respect?

Here are eight pillars of self-respect.

See how many you cross off.

Number one, I'm my own best friend.

Having self-respect means knowing how to respect

and befriend yourself.

Showing others that you treat yourself

the way you treat someone you love

is one of the strongest signs that you have

a high level of self-respect.

Being kind and caring,

and maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself

are all great habits to practice, to have more self-respect.

Others who see this are more likely to treat you

with more respect,

because gaining respect from others

starts from having self-respect.

Number two, I know my priorities.

When faced with difficult situations,

a person with self-respect sticks to their priorities.

For example, let's say you have a choice

between attending a party

that might heighten your social status,

or staying home and babysitting your younger sibling

that you promised your parents you would.

If keeping the family obligations is a higher priority

than increasing your social status,

you may choose to keep your responsibilities,

and sacrifice the fun for the time being.

Not only would you be reinforcing to yourself

that you have self-respect,

but others will also respect you

for being confident in your decisions,

and not being swayed by outside influences.

Number three, I respect others.

Those with high respect show respect to everyone,

regardless of class, age, gender, sexuality, et cetera.

CEOs and political leaders know that showing respect

to those in less powerful positions

is one way to gain respect from others,

because they have enough self-respect

to know they gain others respect

by the way they treat others,

not purely through their high level positions.

Number four, I know when I'm in the wrong,

and can show humility by apologizing.

One of the best combinations

found in the most self-respecting leaders

includes both confidence and humility.

Remember that knowing you are always growing,

and have room for improvement is a sign of self-respect.

Number five, I maintain healthy boundaries.

A self-respecting person

understands that their time and energy are valuable.

They're more likely to invest those things in people,

and activities that bring them true fulfillment.

Instead of cutting out toxic people from life,

or immediately going cold turkey on activities

you know don't support you,

find ways to gradually create boundaries

that'll help bring you more inner peace.

With practice, you'll learn to trust yourself

in weeding out what is toxic from your system.

And with more self-trust comes more self-respect.

Number six, I stand by my values, regardless of a witness.

True self-respect is holding yourself to values, morals,

and ethics, whether or not others are there to witness.

When your words and actions are rooted in integrity,

you will naturally gravitate

towards a self-respecting mindset.

Integrity is the voice within

that is most grounding in the whirlwind

of tempting influences.

Follow it wisely,

and you'll always find yourself in a place of self-respect.

Number seven, I know I have reasons to love myself.

An easy exercise for developing more self-respect

is writing down characteristics and traits

that make you feel highly valuable,

and worthy in your own eyes.

Maybe it's the way you treat people with kindness,

your consistent punctuality,

or how you always have courage in the face of your fears

that makes you respect yourself.

Read the list back to yourself

when you need a reminder of your values,

and practice self-respect every day by sticking to them.

And number eight, I surround myself with people

I know respect me too.

Once you've solidified a strong sense of self-respect

for yourself,

and have maintained distance from those who don't,

finding a tribe that loves and respects you

will become second nature.

When you know who you are,

and why you deserve to respect yourself,

you'll refuse to allow anyone

who wants to convince you otherwise

to have any influence in your life.

Everyone struggles with self-confidence and self-love

from time to time,

but they aren't meant to be final destinations

where healing and growth stop.

What matters is maintaining

a consistent amount of self-respect for ourselves

and one another throughout the ups and downs of it all.

There has been a huge decline

in mental health around the world,

which is why we are so committed

to creating more content than we ever have.

Thanks for being a part of our journey.

Can you relate to any of these signs?

Let us know in the comments below,

and share this with someone who might benefit.

As, always the studies and references used

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For more tips and resources

on how to grow respect for yourself and others,

be sure to check out our Psych2Go YouTube channel

for more videos.

Thanks so much, and see you next time.