exposing our relationship
Summary
TLDRIn this video, the hosts humorously discuss their unsuitability for giving relationship advice, despite their own romantic misadventures. They share funny and serious questions from viewers about navigating post-breakup scenarios, including 'friends with benefits' and dealing with cheating. The hosts candidly offer their perspectives on these complex issues, using humor and empathy to connect with viewers and provide both comedic relief and thoughtful insights.
Takeaways
- 😄 The hosts humorously disclaim being experts in relationship advice, yet they proceed to offer guidance based on their own experiences.
- 😂 They acknowledge that they are not the best examples for relationships, but their past experiences make them relatable to viewers facing similar issues.
- 🤔 The hosts emphasize the importance of understanding one's own emotions and motivations before making decisions in a relationship.
- 🚫 They advise against continuing physical intimacy if the goal is to move on from a past relationship.
- 💔 The conversation touches on the pain of cheating and the difficulty of rebuilding trust after such a breach of trust.
- 🤝 They suggest that open communication is key in relationships, especially when dealing with issues like ghosting or unmet needs.
- 😖 The hosts express that certain behaviors, like cheating, are highly disrespectful and can leave a lasting negative impact on a relationship.
- 🤔 They ponder the balance between the investment in a relationship and the potential risks of continuing it after significant issues like cheating.
- 😳 The script includes a discussion about how to handle a situation where a friend's partner is unfaithful, highlighting the complexities of loyalty and honesty.
- 👫 The hosts conclude by suggesting that learning from both successful and failed relationships can provide a comprehensive guide for navigating one's own relationship.
Q & A
What was the initial reaction of the hosts when they were asked for relationship advice during their live stream?
-The hosts were surprised and amused that people were asking them for relationship advice, considering they see themselves as poor examples of a relationship to follow.
What did the commenters on the live stream request from the hosts?
-The commenters requested relationship advice from the hosts during their live stream session.
What did the hosts do to gather more questions for their relationship advice video?
-The hosts went on Instagram and asked their followers for questions about relationship advice.
What was the nature of the relationship advice questions that the hosts received?
-The questions were described as 'juicy', indicating that they were likely complex or involving intimate details.
What was the situation of the person who asked if they should agree to be 'friends with benefits' with their ex?
-The person had recently broken up with their ex but still had feelings for them and was considering becoming 'friends with benefits' to continue the physical aspect of the relationship.
What advice did the hosts give to the person who wanted to get over their ex but was tempted by a 'friends with benefits' arrangement?
-The hosts suggested that if the goal is to get over the ex, it might be difficult to do so while still being physically intimate, and they advised considering stopping the physical encounters.
What was the dilemma of the person who received a message from their ex after ending a long-term relationship?
-The person was feeling lonely after a breakup and received an invitation from an ex to reconnect, which made them question whether they should get back together or focus on healing first.
What was the hosts' opinion on cheating in a relationship?
-The hosts considered cheating to be a high form of disrespect and advised that if someone cheats and the partner decides not to take them back, the cheater has no moral ground to demand to be taken back.
What was the hosts' take on the situation where a girlfriend has serious gas issues?
-The hosts found the situation humorous but acknowledged that it could be a deal-breaker for some. They suggested that it might be a natural reaction for the girlfriend and that the boyfriend should consider whether he can accept it or not.
What was the hosts' advice for someone whose partner frequently ghosts them?
-The hosts advised that ghosting is a form of disrespect and that communication is key. They suggested moving on if the person has been ghosted, as it shows a lack of respect for the relationship.
What did the hosts suggest for someone who finds a used condom in their room, indicating their spouse may have cheated?
-The hosts empathized with the situation but suggested that finding a used condom is a strong indicator of cheating and that the person should consider the implications for their future and whether they can rebuild trust.
Outlines
😅 Hilarious Request for Relationship Advice
The script begins with the hosts addressing their viewers, humorously acknowledging that they are not the best candidates for giving relationship advice. Despite their self-deprecating introduction, they delve into a live session where they received numerous comments asking for such guidance. They express surprise at this unexpected request, given their own relationship mishaps, but decide to use it as a learning opportunity. They collected questions from their Instagram followers and shared some of the juicier ones, which include dilemmas like maintaining a friends-with-benefits arrangement post-breakup and dealing with loneliness after a long-term relationship ends.
😳 Dealing with Cheating and Intimacy Confusion
In this section, the hosts tackle a couple's request for advice after one partner cheated. They discuss the complexities of trust and respect in relationships, emphasizing that cheating is a major breach of trust. They humorously suggest that if someone cheats and their partner decides to take them back, it's a personal choice but not one they necessarily agree with. They also address a scenario where a woman is considering being friends with benefits to get over an ex, highlighting the emotional and physical challenges of such a decision.
🤔 Navigating the Challenges of Communication and Disrespect
The hosts discuss the importance of communication in relationships, using the example of a man who was ghosted by his partner. They argue that ghosting is a form of disrespect and that open communication is key to resolving issues. They also humorously touch on a situation where a woman is always 'borrowing' food from her partner, suggesting that understanding and addressing such behaviors without causing conflict is important. The conversation takes a serious turn when they discuss finding a used condom, indicating infidelity, and the emotional turmoil it causes.
😔 The Dilemma of Cheating and Loyalty
The final paragraph sees the hosts grappling with the aftermath of cheating, both when it's discovered by a partner and when witnessed by a friend involving their friend's partner. They discuss the concept of loyalty and the moral dilemma of whether to inform a friend about their partner's infidelity. The hosts conclude by reflecting on the value of advice from both successful and failed relationships, suggesting that learning from both can provide a balanced perspective on relationship dynamics.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Relationship Advice
💡Friends with Benefits
💡Ghosting
💡Cheating
💡Communication
💡Respect
💡Love Languages
💡Vulnerability
💡Disrespect
💡Problem Solving
💡Trust
Highlights
Presenters humorously deny being good at giving relationship advice.
They received relationship advice requests during a live stream.
The couple admits they are the 'poster children for do not be like us' in relationships.
They find comfort in knowing they are not the only ones with relationship issues.
A viewer asks for advice on whether to accept a friends-with-benefits offer post-breakup.
The presenters suggest stopping physical intimacy to move on after a breakup.
Another viewer seeks advice on getting back together with an ex after a long-term relationship.
The presenters recommend not returning to a relationship after being ghosted.
A viewer asks for help in winning back a girlfriend after cheating.
The presenters assert that cheating is a form of disrespect and advise against taking back a cheater.
A humorous roast about a girlfriend's gas issues is read out loud.
The presenters suggest that the issue with a girlfriend's gas might be a deal-breaker.
A viewer is advised to communicate with their partner about ghosting behavior.
The presenters discuss the natural tendency of women to share food during dates.
They advise understanding and addressing relationship issues without causing fights.
A husband finds a condom and is advised to leave his cheating wife.
The presenters emphasize the importance of minimizing future risks in relationships.
A viewer is conflicted about telling their friend that her boyfriend cheated.
The presenters conclude that learning from both successful and failed relationships is valuable.
Transcripts
today we're going to be exposing our
relationship
sorry girl akce
AK and welcome or welcome back to our
channel so for today's video we actually
did a live the other day you know we
used to do lives like all the time like
weekly during that live something so
funny happened we actually had quite a
bit of people comment and they were
asking us for relationship advice and I
literally was like child
we are the wrong people to be asking for
relationship advice we are the poster
children for do not be like us okay
there is they not like us all right over
here over here and then there is do not
be like us over here I just thought it
was hilarious that there were people in
the comment section like seriously
asking us for relationship advice but
like I guess like at the end of the day
when you have gone through those things
and you have learned and you have grown
from them I guess we can be pretty good
at relationship or whatever y'all know
the drill we went on Instagram and we
asked you guys for what you might need
advice on in um your relationships and I
read some of them while I was
transferring them and let me just
say let me just say they're pretty juicy
you know what it's like strangely
comforting to know that like we're not
the only ones who had a terrible
relationship you know if you really hear
stories about other couples and other
people a lot of these problems overlap
they go through the same stuff it's
stuff you it's pretty terrible I was
dated my ex for 5 months we just
recently broke up for several reasons
I'm not over him and he just asked me to
be friends with benefits I kind of want
to say yes because that D is that
good but I also want to get over him and
move on NGL we hooked up this morning
you know what NGL means not going to lie
we hooked up this morning this morning
meaning when you ask this you just
hooked up and then asked the question no
I'm not shaming you I'm not shaming you
shout out to you for knowing how to
enjoy a good D you just recently broke
up you're just basically saying you
can't get over him that is the point but
she wants to get over him that was her
question you're not there just for the D
I feel like there's emotions attached
you think she loves him some sort of
might be I'd say first and foremost
figure out if you do love him still or
you're actually over and you literally
are there for the de real hes do exist
there are women there that do not give a
single damn she very well might just be
in it for the de like I I would say
based off of this conversation though
cuz she said how she get over him that
implies that she's might be in love with
him or whatever but girls nowadays they
move in the same way that men was moving
in like the ' 80s and ' 90s if you're a
hoe stay for the day if you're not a ho
it gets more complicated you got to
really identify your feelings and
emotions and navigate like what's
stopping me from wanting to be with this
man even though the D is so good right
but okay to answer the question you
might want to stop smashing you might
want to stop like hooking up if your
goal is specifically just to get over
him it might be really hard to get over
him if you guys are still being
physically intimate and that's
considering that you love him you'll be
all right like next question all right I
just ended a long-term relationship of 3
years I'm feeling extremely lonely and
coincidentally my ex before this just
hit me up and he wants to link I'm
really
V I'm really vulnerable and really Hony
I don't love him but I don't want my
body count to go up by engaging in
random flings the question is should I
dive back in and spin the block or try
to heal first fantastic question um
because I get it unless your body count
is one you can't tell me that you
haven't like spun the block out of fear
of not wanting your body count to go up
I personally have not engaged in such
activity don't look at me like that I'm
I personally have not engaged in such
activity this is like not an uncommon
occurrence yeah a lot of people spend
the block I get it it's all about
communication right if they're on the
same page they just in it
to I don't see nothing wrong take it
away you let him know that there is no
love I don't want to give you the wrong
impression I love it
AFF you s I don't know o v e I don't
even know
inection I know that song do no no not
this one these men's are scrubs
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and
SC you kind of had that style in your
hair too today
no
scrubs okay I cheated on my
girl why are you laughing bro it's not
funny you know what this is a person
question I thought I wrote it so you
wrote it no
I she found out and broke up with me but
I really want her
back why are you laugh he's like bro
this to my life right now a real person
said this yes the other cooie
CI ain't hit the same okay I feel you I
feel you okay
why you say it like that Hey listen I'm
reading somebody's real problems okay
I'm sorry I'm sorry and I realized I
love her but she won't even talk to me
how do I win her back n you [ __ ] up
already cuz like if you cheat this goes
for both opposite sex both but if you
cheat and then they decide to take you
back that's all cool if they don't
decide to take you back you can't say
nothing about it because you don't have
the grounds or moral field like moral
like capacity to demand back to love you
and I feel like I'm sure a part of you
feels ashamed than guilty and like I
feel like I can't even shouldn't be
allowed to talk to her or like be very
carefully treading and there's another
part of you that's very like honest to
yourself authentic but like greedy which
she was like I just want her what can I
say about that it's your choice at the
end of the day but like if she's not
talking to you how how will you get her
she already disappointed too much you
could like pull one of them '90s moves
go to her house with a boom box yeah I
feel like girls are you know suckers for
that kind of stuff or whatever some
girls some girls my heart is Stone Cold
when it comes to that kind of stuff you
know what I'm saying I built this
confidence Brick by Brick okay and um
it's going to take you know come hell
high water I don't let anybody knock me
off of that and I just feel like
cheating is one of the highest forms of
disrespect if you do choose to take a
partner back when they do cheat and
stuff like that I just feel like it's an
uphill battle only you two know what
really went on in that Dynamic of your
relationship so I would suggest maybe
giving her some time you shouldn't have
cheated in the first place you stupid
ass I was good at I'm trying to fix my
relationship with the Lord okay your
dumb shouldn't have cheated in the first
place stop cheating it's not it's not
good like you said the other CI ain't
hit to same exactly now look at you
dumb having a hard time so he no no no
no I'm I'm a keep it real with you I'm
going to keep it a 100 always they ask
for our advice you know what I'm saying
what is your girlfriend or your your ex
at this point because you don't up
stupid what is your ex-girlfriend's like
love language try to cater to that you
only want her back because kuchi is not
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hitting too much to the side see me
you're so to the side that you're
basically looking at me why do all the
prettiest girls have stomach issues I
love my girlfriend but she has some
serious gut issues when she passes gas
it smells like rotten eggs she should
have come with a warning label it smells
like something that has just emerged
from a zombie Crips
like get read the rest it's funny go
ahead goad I can't even read this like
her booty hole just summon something
from the undead I'm convinced it's less
of a fart and more of a ha hazardous
hazardous waste spill
this is not is that bad hazardous waste
spill yo I never heard that phrase
before I'm pretty sure the EPA needs to
be notified smells so bad no at this
point this person just wants to like's
just roting roast out are you sure you
love that's his goal here oh my God keep
going it smells so bad I'm convinced it
turns the air into a toxic waste Zone I
swear I need to call in a HazMat team
Dam it's not just a fart it's a full-on
chemical warfare attack my nostrils are
filing for a restraining order
if I could bottle up that stench and
create a new scent for her it would be
called oh my God you get the point all
that to say it smells so bad that I have
genuinely considered breaking up with
her about it you didn't break her break
up yet I feel like I feel like you got
more hate for her and her fart than you
think bro I don't know what to do but I
do know I can't live with break up you
need to wipe your hands clean of that
situation the way he roasted that little
girl if I was his girlfriend I would be
in tears I I can't fathom there's no way
something smells like what whatever that
two paragraph worth of explanation was
and she has to be farting on a
consistent basis my advice would be tell
your girlfriend she got to cut on the
protein after a few amazing dates with
this guy I had been seeing for over 6
months he suddenly ghosted me
boo I was devastated 2 weeks later he
reached out claiming he was overwhelmed
I really like him should I give him
another chance or move on you always
have the option to communicate you can
give a million excuses underneath the
Sun as to why you don't communicate or
whatever but it literally takes 2
seconds whatever your reasoning is
totally valid there is always going to
be an excuse there's not always going to
be a justification for said excuse
because communication takes 2 seconds I
personally I would move on ghosting is
one of the highest forms of disrespect
when you're pursuing somebody romantic
basally right taking time and space is
okay communication and comprehension of
that communication is always key my girl
is annoying as Fu I'm just kidding my
girl is annoying as listen here I'm a
growing man I eat a lot and my girl
likes to pretend that she's dainty when
she really be on her big back is because
every time I eat she
eats when she really be on a big back is
what's a big back is it's like sh but
they don't want to say a bad word every
every time we are out and about or at
home and I'm getting food I always ask
her if she wants something she always
says no she's not hungry but as soon as
the food comes the first thing I hear is
can I get a bite when we go out to
dinner it's even worse she gets what she
wants I get what I want but when the
food comes out every time she says mine
is better than hers and end up eating
mine instead leaves me to eat whatever
BS she doesn't eat if she wasn't fine as
hell I would have been left her how can
I dress this without coming off off
selfish or causing a fight you know what
I say about
this from what I hear from everywhere
right mhm this is just a natural thing
guys need to start understanding that
this is a nature of women and it's not a
bad thing women feel emotion in a
different type of way than a guy does
and then it's not always cold short like
guys where it's just like emotions out
logic in what's more efficient we're
problem solvers I I believe guys they're
naturally they love problem solving and
that's how they bond but like if you're
thinking all the time what's the problem
solving solution for eating this meal
what's the fastest way to enjoy this
meal with the lowest cost is it's not
going to work out in a man man and woman
relationship I feel like guys try to
understand when girls are like that and
girls try to understand that he's trying
his best when he's trying to understand
that so if you see your man not having a
reaction and being very sweet to you and
you're like I want yours and he's like
mhm have it babe then understand that
he's trying actually trying it's not
coming natural and that's what I would
say and it might not apply to a lot of
men it might be my unpopular two cents
that's just what I think I would to say
it's unpopular I think that there's
going to be people that um agree with
you indefinitely for sure one thing that
I highly disagree with is that you said
that men are problem solvers they like
to think that they are problem solvers
but they go about it in a backwards ass
way when it comes to women I'll just say
that and then leave it there okay you
think about that marinade on it okay
sure I was going to say I'm like I don't
see anything wrong no I'm just kidding I
get it it could be a little bit
frustrating but I definitely have like
even right now I'm such a can I get a
bite head like even to you bro like like
I see him eating something
like and I'm like oh this looks good and
I'm speaking I'm speaking from a point
where it's like I used to be like why
why would you ask for mine why didn't
you order yours I used to be like that
right now I'm just I just give it to you
right no you've always been really like
good about
sharing most of the time it's cuz you
want to buy the mine too we're both like
good at ordering yeah you know we we we
just like having two menus instead of
one at the same we always order like
whenever we like did go out together we
always order we order two two or three
or four and then we always know if we
get three menus we're all we're both
eating three types of food exactly if we
get four we're eating four types of food
I say you have two options right first
one would be to understand it second one
would be to address it and um not
understand it and just want to have a
conversation about it don't start a
fight don't address it understand it by
understanding that how would you feel if
she told you stop watching car reviews
stop watching Drop Shipping courses stop
looking at your bank account and it only
emotionally invest in me how would you
feel you would feel like you're you
can't be yourself right that's the same
thing for a woman you you're going to
make her feel like she can't be herself
and be in a healthy mood if you're like
why do you ask like why you can take my
food blah blah blah about this food
thing if something just naturally
happens for her you got to accept it for
what it is without causing a fight I'm
not so sure that he's insinuating that
he would cause a fight I think that he's
insinuating that him bringing it up
would cause a fight yeah which is really
sucky when you're in a relationship with
somebody you should be able to address
things with them without fear of how
they're going to to respond to your pra
yeah IDE cuz I feel like that's very
unhealthy if you have to worry that like
oh my partner is not going to respond to
this kindly when you're trying to
express uh something that is hurtful to
you in the relationship you cannot be
mad at me for being mad at you that's
ridiculous you know what I'm saying so I
feel like it would be one of those
situations but yeah whatever he said I
found a used condom in my room my wife
and I are supposed to be celebrating 10
years this month I don't know how to
conf front her because we have never
used condom we have a beautiful life
together but I don't know what to do I'm
devastated so your wife brought in
another man and used the condom had
intercourse and then you found that out
and you've been mared 10 years is it
like a female condom or a male condom is
it he so it's a male condom he's talking
about how do you know how do you know he
didn't find like a female condom like
she wasn't getting her coochie eight I
don't even know what a female condom is
that's why I'm saying he's probably male
cond I feel like he would have specified
it I feel like women know everything and
men don't know much things they
understand interested in I don't even
know what a female accent is so that's
why I'm just assuming right if you
something like me that it's like a
little thing that you put and then you
without getting any somebody cheats on
you it's always the best to just leave
you can't just like kind of dumb it down
to it's just best to leave because like
for some people it might not be the best
option for them to leave not leaving not
leaving when you're cheated is the same
thing as allowing disrespect some people
stay in relationships when they get cool
and if it works out I I congratulate you
guys but however I am stating that you
are turning a side Blind Eye to the
situation if you take back somebody who
cheated that's all I'm saying perod I
know people who have been cheated on in
relationships and stuff like that they
go through extensive therapy to rebuild
and repair their relationships and trust
and like all that stuff so that's why
I'm saying I don't want to diminish
nobody's experience you have two things
on a scale the disrespect you receive
for somebody cheating on you versus
everything else your memories how much
you like her how much she likes you
what's your future is going to be what
you invest so far both of these are
quite heavy I agree right but here's my
thing a lot of people like to make the
argument about time right they're like
I've invested so much time at the end of
the day all the time energy love
whatever you have already spent has been
spent if you were to continue this
relationship risk something like that
happening in the future then you got to
think about now the extended time that
is going to be wasted if that makes
sense you got to have enough trust in
your person to know that this is not
going to happen again that's the
strongest point I really felt that
because when you're thinking about the
best future you could have from now you
have to think from now not from when it
started yeah right so that's the same
logic they use for people who are
addicted to gambling is that I lost this
much so far but if I'm just lucky once I
can make up for it so they just keep on
going they don't think about the
probability of how much they'll lose
exactly how much more they're the prob
the probability of losing each game they
think about what we lost what we can
gain and what's the best logical
solution but that itself is a trap you
have to think from now no we need to
minimize risk I need to get out of this
table that's the best solution yeah I
just talked about the weight thing but
like why it weighs so much when you get
cheated on is not because what you feel
at the moment I just felt so
disrespected yes that's a part of it but
what lesson does it teach for taking
them back about the cheating plus what
future what kind of future does it imply
when somebody's disrespect you enough to
cheat on you right and you got so much
life ahead of you still if you got kids
I can understand why it would be you
know more more difficult my best friend
cheats on her mom wait what my best
friend cheats on her mom man okay you
want me to read it because you're not
doing a very good job my best friend
cheats on her man regularly dang near a
different man for every day of the week
I don't really I don't really care that
she does it because I don't even really
like that man my loyalty is to her but
this weekend I was out at the bars and
saw her man making out with another girl
I'm torn because that's my girl and I
think she should know but at the same
time part of this feels like Karma I
don't want to shoot the messenger do I
tell her or do I mind my business I
would say that's just a big p bu bro I
wouldn't
know [ __ ] a mess just the way that
my loyalties are set up I would most
likely tell my friend I'd be like just a
heads up player like you know what I'm
saying like you got played for being a
player exact you might be getting a
little play do this is just our two
cents you know what I'm saying take
everything that we say with the grain of
salt clearly we stupid our relationship
f
so like we're not like the perfect
people to be asking I honestly think at
the end of the day this video will be
helpful because to complete your advice
from of relationship set it has to be
from some people who have maintained an
amazing relationship and from some
people who failed miserably miserably
yeah there's something to learn from
both sides I feel like then you can
complete the set with enough you know
enough right things to go off off of
right you know what I'm saying you
perspective yeah these are the stuff
that are there doing very healthfully
these are the stuff I cannot do or else
I'll lose my relationship right it's
like the Angel and the devil it's like
this is what I want my relationship to
look like and this is what I don't want
my relationship you follow the angel and
then purposely do the opposite of the
what the devil says you'll extra extra
you'll do well if you don't listen to
anything that we just said that's it for
today's video If you like this video if
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