This Technique Will Help You Own Any Woman
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the art of seduction through emotional connection rather than logical conversation. The speaker shares his journey from being socially awkward to mastering the technique of 'listening like a therapist' to stir emotions in women. He emphasizes the importance of asking emotional questions that prompt long, expressive answers, leading to deeper connections. The script also references Arthur Aaron's '36 Questions to Fall in Love' and concludes with a personal anecdote illustrating how emotional engagement can lead to intimacy. The speaker encourages creativity and the application of these techniques to build memorable connections.
Takeaways
- 😀 **Emotional Connection**: To connect with a girl on a deeper level, engage her emotions rather than just her mind.
- 🎧 **Listen Like a Therapist**: Use active listening to understand and respond to her emotional cues, making her feel heard and valued.
- 🔄 **Shift from Logic to Emotion**: Transition conversations from logical topics to emotional ones to create a more intimate connection.
- 🗣️ **Ask Emotional Questions**: Craft questions that prompt her to express her feelings and experiences, fostering an emotional dialogue.
- 🔑 **Unlock Emotional Door**: Initially, girls may have their emotional guard up; asking the right questions can unlock this door.
- 💬 **Expressive Answers**: Seek answers that are not just yes/no but are long and expressive, showing depth in her emotions.
- 🔁 **Continue Emotional Flow**: Keep the conversation flowing by building upon her emotional responses with related follow-up questions.
- 🚫 **Avoid Interview Mode**: Steer clear of a question-answer format that can make the interaction feel like an interview.
- 💡 **Be Creative**: Use creative methods like personality tests to naturally guide the conversation towards emotional topics.
- ⚖️ **Balance Conversation**: Aim for a 70-30% talking ratio, favoring the girl to speak more, especially in the early stages of the relationship.
Q & A
What is the primary technique discussed in the script for connecting with someone on an emotional level?
-The primary technique discussed is 'listening like a therapist,' which involves asking emotional questions and listening to the responses in a way that encourages the expression of feelings.
How does the speaker categorize the initial reactions of girls when they meet new men?
-The speaker categorizes the initial reactions into three groups: potential boyfriend, friend, or someone they don't want to meet again.
What was the speaker's initial category when meeting girls, according to the script?
-The speaker initially fell into the category of 'someone she doesn't want to meet again' due to being socially awkward and introverted.
What is the key difference between being seen as a 'friend' versus a 'boyfriend' according to the speaker?
-The key difference is the ability to stir emotions. To be seen as a boyfriend, one must know how to evoke emotions in the girl.
How does the speaker suggest one can 'stir emotions' in a conversation?
-One can 'stir emotions' by either entering feelings into the conversation or bringing out feelings that the girl already has, but initially, the focus should be on bringing out her feelings through emotional questions.
What are 'emotional questions' as described in the script?
-Emotional questions are inquiries that prompt the person to express their feelings, such as anger, sadness, hatred, admiration, passion, etc., rather than just providing factual information.
What is the importance of listening carefully to the responses when asking emotional questions?
-Listening carefully allows the person to express themselves fully and creates an opportunity to delve deeper into their emotions, which is essential for building an emotional connection.
Why should the conversation not be in 'interview mode' when trying to create an emotional connection?
-Being in 'interview mode' with constant questioning can be off-putting and does not allow for a natural flow of emotional expression. It's important to relate questions to each other and maintain a conversational tone.
What is the significance of the 36 questions mentioned in the script?
-The 36 questions, created by social psychology researcher Arthur Aaron, are designed to increase intimacy by revealing personal details and behaviors related to closeness. They are meant to help participants feel a significant attraction towards each other.
How does the speaker suggest using the 36 questions effectively?
-The speaker advises understanding the concept behind the questions rather than merely memorizing them. The goal is to learn how to turn regular conversations into emotional ones by asking questions that prompt personal and intimate responses.
What is the main lesson the speaker wants the audience to take away from his personal story involving the MBTI test?
-The main lesson is that by engaging in activities that encourage emotional expression and self-disclosure, one can create a deeper connection that may lead to increased intimacy. It also highlights the importance of being creative and not just robotically applying techniques.
Outlines
🗣️ Mastering Emotional Connection Through Conversation
The speaker shares his journey of self-improvement in social skills and seduction, emphasizing the importance of engaging with a girl's emotions rather than her logical mind. He introduces his technique called 'listen like a therapist,' which involves asking emotional questions and listening to the responses deeply. The speaker explains that by doing so, one can move from being just a friend to a potential boyfriend. He also discusses the difference between logical communication and emotional conversation, providing examples of how to ask questions that elicit emotional responses. The speaker promises to delve deeper into this topic in future episodes and encourages understanding over memorization of questions.
💬 Deepening Conversations with Emotional Questions
In this paragraph, the speaker continues to elaborate on the technique of asking emotional questions, using the example of discussing a girl's favorite museum to illustrate how to transition from a logical conversation to an emotional one. He warns against falling into 'interview mode' and emphasizes the importance of letting the girl express herself while actively listening. The speaker also introduces Arthur Aaron's '36 Questions to Fall in Love,' a set of questions designed to increase intimacy by revealing personal details and feelings. He shares the first ten questions and promises to provide the complete list if the video gets enough engagement. The speaker concludes with a personal anecdote about using the technique to deepen a connection with a girl, highlighting the importance of creativity and emotional engagement over robotic application of techniques.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Seduction
💡Emotions
💡Social Skills
💡Therapist
💡Emotional Questions
💡Emotionally Expressive
💡Interview Mode
💡Arthur Aaron's 36 Questions
💡MBTI Test
💡Sexual Desire
Highlights
The key to connecting with a girl is to speak to her emotions rather than her mind.
A technique called 'listen like a therapist' can help in stirring emotions.
Girls categorize men into potential boyfriend, friend, or someone to avoid after initial interaction.
The speaker was initially categorized as someone to avoid due to social awkwardness.
Learning social skills helped the speaker move from being avoided to being seen as just a friend.
Understanding how women think and the importance of emotions was a turning point.
To be seen as a boyfriend, one must know how to stir a girl's emotions.
Emotions can be stirred by either entering feelings into her or bringing them out.
Asking emotional questions and listening like a therapist can help bring out emotions.
Emotional questions should make the girl express her feelings, such as anger, sadness, or admiration.
The answer to an emotional question should be long and expressive.
Listening carefully without interrupting is crucial when a girl starts expressing herself.
Turning an emotional question into an emotional conversation involves building on her responses.
Avoiding 'interview mode' and creating a natural flow in conversation is important.
The girl should talk 70% of the time, and the man should talk 30%, especially in the beginning.
Arthur Aaron's 36 questions are designed to increase intimacy and reveal personal details.
The secret to using emotional questions is understanding the concept, not just memorizing the questions.
A personal story illustrates how emotional connection can lead to physical intimacy.
Men and women experience sexual desire differently, with women needing emotional connection first.
Creativity is essential when applying these techniques to avoid seeming robotic.
These techniques can be applied to create deep connections with anyone, not just romantic interests.
Transcripts
after years of experimentation and study
on seduction girls and social skills I
discovered that if you want to own any
girl all you need to do is speak to her
emotions not her mind and the quickest
way to do this is by using a technique I
like to call listen like a therapist
when a young man talks to a girl after a
short period the girl's mind categorizes
him into one of three categories
potential boyfriend friend or someone
she doesn't want to meet again for me I
was always in the third category someone
she doesn't want to meet again this was
because I was socially awkward and often
you who are listening to me now I was
more socially inept than you because
from a young age I was very introverted
and didn't know how to talk to people
after a while I started learning some
social skills and I began to know how to
talk which made me socially acceptable
at this stage when I started talking to
girls I moved from this category to that
one I became just a friend and here was
the shock why what's the secret what
mistake was I making then I started
learning how women think I read every
book or article about women I started
learning and the first thing I
discovered was that the difference
between a boyfriend and a friend is
emotion if you want a girl to see you as
a boyfriend you must know how to stir
her emotions you must speak to her
emotions I began applying this principle
with girls and started moving from the
friend category to the boyfriend
category I understood the secret so what
do I mean when I say you should stir her
emotions listen to me well now because I
will walk you through everything step by
step there are two ways to stir emotions
and feelings either these feelings are
entered into her or they are brought out
of her initially the girl has a lock on
the door of her emotions you can't put
feelings into to her this method cannot
be used at the beginning but you can
bring them out the moment you make her
express feelings you will have opened
the door to her emotions and don't worry
I will delve deeper into this matter in
upcoming episodes of the series on how
to attract women but if you want a small
idea on this topic you can watch this
video where I explained how you can put
feelings into her anyway how can you
make her express feelings by using the
technique of listening like a therapist
how will you apply this technique you
will ask her emotional questions and
listen to the answers like a therapist
what do I mean by emo questions I will
explain how to ask these questions and
give you examples of how to answer them
and I will explain everything when I
first read about this topic and started
researching it I found that some people
give you a number of questions and tell
you to ask them and the girl will answer
you and that's it but no it doesn't work
like that I will give you examples of
questions to ask later but you need to
understand not just memorize you need to
understand what emotional questions mean
and create them yourself according to
the circumstances you are in so we
humans to create an emotional connection
need to talk in an emotional way we need
to express our feelings and to make the
other person talk in an emotional way
you need to ask an emotional question
I'll give you an example imagine you are
a girl just imagine I came to you and
started talking about studies or your
job and you start telling me you study
computer science and do this and that
and that what is this this is logical
communication meaning you are talking
about something logical in a cold way
but imagine if I asked you what you
study and you said computer science and
then I asked you if you like this field
you can say no you can say yes but
imagine if I asked asked you why why do
you like it or why don't you like it
here you will start expressing those
feelings you have inside about what you
like and what you don't like and this
will make you talk more and express more
feelings this is the first condition of
an emotional question a question that
makes the woman Express her feelings
those feelings can be anger sadness
hatred admiration passion Etc another
example imagine two people talking Guy
where do you live girl New York guy wow
New York that's a beautiful city in this
case what happened hm nothing just a
cold logical conversation after a few
hours the girl will have forgotten this
conversation as if it never happened but
let's see someone who understands what
we talked about today where do you live
girl New York New York how can you live
in a city like that note if you don't
understand why I said this answer please
when you finish this video watch the
entire series because I explained this
anyway let's go back to our conversation
girl why what's the problem it seems
like a very noisy City to me do you like
New York here my brother you have asked
an emotional question related to
feelings and started applying the
technique let's continue the
conversation girl yes of course why
let's stop again to see what happened
when the girl answered with this answer
yes of course even though it's an answer
to an emotional question it didn't meet
the second condition of an emotional
question the answer should be long the
girl's answer should be long and
expressive meaning if you ask a girl if
she likes New York and she says yes
don't just stare at her ask why and here
the girl in the second example will
start to express and start to talk and
start pouring out her feelings to you
and start talking emotionally here here
comes the Second Step listen to her
carefully at this moment you should try
to get her to express herself as much as
possible you need to listen and not
interrupt her when she starts talking
and sharing her story with you at this
moment you are not talking to her mind
but to her emotions to that instinct
responsible for love but is that all no
this is just the first step the
emotional question is merely a key to
unlock something bigger it is just a key
to the door of emotional conversation
after you ask her and let her tell you
her story and express herself it's time
to turn the emotional question into an
emotional conversation let's return to
the scenario imagine the girl answers
and starts talking and talking and
reaches a point where she says I like
the Metropolitan Museum of Art there by
the way if you don't know this is a
famous Museum in New York in this
situation you can stop her and ask wow
do you like Arc yes of course then why
and once again blah blah blah blah blah
blah blah and you continue like this
listening to her and each time
transitioning from one thing to another
focusing on always letting her talk
about emotional things it doesn't matter
what she talks about the important thing
is to immerse her emotions in the
conversation now I want you to compare
this conversation with the first one the
first conversation she will have
forgotten after 10 minutes the second
conversation will stay in her mind for
years because you stirred her emotions
in it and let me not forget to warn you
about a mistake many people make which
is the interview mode where they keep
asking questions and the girl answers
and then they ask more questions and
they just keep asking please don't do
this the questions should be related to
each other one thing complimenting
another and now you may ask me should I
not not talk should she just keep
talking and I just listen listen
carefully in a conversation with any
girl she should be talking 7% of the
time and you only 30% especially in the
beginning always let her talk a lot this
is a topic we will continue to discuss
in more detail in the upcoming episodes
of the series now let me give you
examples of emotional questions you can
ask the social psychology researcher
Arthur Aaron created a list of questions
he called 36 questions to fall in love
he conducted this experiment with a 100
people pairing a man and a woman who
didn't know each other giving them the
list and having them ask each other
these questions by the end of the
experiment all the participants felt a
significant attraction and some even
continued their relationships and got
married thanks to this experiment the 36
questions aim to reveal personal details
and behaviors related to intimacy they
are designed to increase intimacy with
the other person there are three sets of
questions each containing 12 questions
the intensity of the questions gradually
increases both within each set and
across the three sets I won't be able to
present the entire list in this video so
I'll give you the first 10 questions if
this video reaches 2,000 likes I'll
share a PDF file with all 36 questions
in the first comment one would you like
to be famous in what way two before
making a phone call do you ever rehearse
what you're going to say why three if
you could change anything about the way
you were raised what would it be four
what would constitute a perfect day for
you five when did you last sing to
yourself to someone else six if you were
able to live to the age of 90 and retain
either the mind or body of a 30-year-old
for the last 60 years of your life which
would you choose seven if you could wake
up tomorrow having gained one quality or
ability what would it be eight do you
have a secret hunch about how you will
die nine what is your most terrible
memory 10 for what in your life do you
feel most grateful these questions I've
given you now I don't want you to
memorize them I want you to understand
them I want you to grasp the concept the
secret is not in having the questions
and asking them the secret is knowing
how to turn a regular conversation into
an emotional one so here we will move on
to something very important and I'll
tell you a story that happened to me so
you can understand some time ago I was
dating a girl and we had been dating for
about 3 weeks I had asked her to come
over to my place what you need to know
is that this girl was not the type to
have sex on the first night she believed
that sex should happen after a long time
and only after being in a committed
relationship we had just started dating
and we just getting to know each other
before she came over she told me look
I'm coming over just to spend time at
your place we won't do anything beyond
kissing and innocent cuddling we won't
do anything sexual you know how I am I
said no problem she came over and we sat
down and started talking I began
thinking about something we could do
together and an idea struck me I said to
her let's try the mbti test by the way
the mbti test is a personality test you
go to a website that has this test and
you start answering many questions and
in the end it gives you your personality
type she agreed and I started asking her
the questions from the test with each
question I tried to get her to elaborate
and tell me stories about herself after
a while and before we finished the test
we ended up having sex why now listen to
me carefully for us men sexual desire is
triggered visually we see a beautiful
girl and we automatically desire to have
sex with her this is how our sexual
desire Works women however feel sexual
desire when they start experiencing
emotions and if you are the reason for
these emotions you can consider yourself
as having won her over this is the first
lesson I want you to learn from this
story the second lesson is that you need
to be creative don't just go up to her
and start asking her questions you'll
come off as robotic or like someone who
watched a YouTube video telling you to
ask these questions and then you went to
ask them but is this enough no if you
only apply this technique you might end
up in the therapy Zone with the go you
need to implement everything we've
learned in this series please just try
what I've told you today and trust me
you'll be amazed by the results note
this doesn't have to be applied only
with girls you can also use it with
people if you want to create a deep and
memorable connection if you want me to
make a video about social skills please
let me know in the comments by the way
if you have any problems or questions
please write them in the comments so I
can know what issues you have and talk
about them in the upcoming episodes of
the series don't forget to subscribe
this was the dark needle thanks for
watching and I love you old
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