how to stop being a victim | mindset shifts to take control of your life & cut out the BS!

Summary

Dieses Video erkundet das Opfermentalität und wie man sich von ihr befreien kann. Es identifiziert Anzeichen wie das Blame-Game und die Sprache in schwierigen Zeiten. Es bietet eine Reihe von Mentalitätsveränderungen, um vom Opfer zum Helden zu werden, einschließlich des Stoppens des 'Warum ich?'-Narrativs und des Übernehmens von Verantwortung. Es gibt praktische Übungen wie das Protokollieren von Erfolgen und das Herausfordern des 'Warum ich?'-Narrativs, um ein positives Leben zu führen.

Takeaways

• 😀 Manchmal kann ein Opfermentalität dazu führen, dass man in einem Kreislauf gefangen ist und keine Fortschritte macht.
• 🔄 Traumata sind real, aber sie sollten nicht deine Identität bestimmen.
• 🚫 Bleiben in einem Opfermentalität bedeutet, dass man sich selbst aufhalten und keine Chance auf Verbesserung hat.
• 🌟 Jeder hat ein Trauma, aber es liegt an uns, ob wir es als Grund für Stagnation nutzen oder als Antrieb für Erfolg.
• 🔄 Um von einem Opfer zu einem Helden zu werden, ist es notwendig, das Opfermentalität zu erkennen und es aus dem Leben zu verbannen.
• ❌ Ein Zeichen von Opfermentalität ist, andere Menschen oder Umstände für deine Probleme zu verantwortlich zu machen.
• 🗣️ Die Sprache, die man verwendet, wenn man durch schwierige Zeiten geht, kann ein Indikator für ein Opfermentalität sein.
• 🛑 Um von Opfer zu Helden zu werden, musst du aufhören, nach 'Warum' zu fragen und stattdessen nach 'Was kommt als nächstes' suchen.
• 🌈 Visualisiere dich selbst fünf Jahre in der Zukunft, erfolgreich und frei von der Vergangenheit, um ein besseres Selbstbild zu entwickeln.
• 🔄 Übernehme Verantwortung für deine eigene Entwicklung und erkenne, dass du die Kontrolle über dein Leben hast.
• 📝 Praxistipps wie das Schreiben eines 'Sieg-Logs' und das Ausüben von 'entgegengesetzten Handlungen' können helfen, das Opfermentalität zu überwinden.

Q & A

Wie kann man eine Opfermentalität erkennen?

Eine Opfermentalität kann durch das Tragen von Schuld an anderen oder der Umgebung für eigene Probleme, das Hingehen auf das Warum der Herausforderungen und das Halten an einer Sprache der Opferrolle erkannt werden.

Was ist der Unterschied zwischen Menschen, die ihre Probleme als Ausrede benutzen und denen, die sie zu einem Antrieb machen?

Jede Person hat eine traurige Geschichte, aber die einen nutzen sie als Ausrede, um stagniert zu bleiben und zu beschweren, während die anderen sie als Antrieb nutzen, um erfolgreicher zu werden.

Wie kann man eine positive Veränderung von Opfer zu Held machen?

Dazu gehören die Einstellungsänderungen wie das Aufhören, nach dem Warum zu suchen und stattdessen das Was-Nächstes zu fragen, das Einnehmen einer Heldenrolle durch Identitätswechsel und das Übernehmen von Verantwortung für die eigene Realität.

Was ist die Bedeutung von 'Held-Identitätswechsel' in diesem Kontext?

Der Held-Identitätswechsel bezieht sich darauf, sich selbst in einer zukünftigen, erfolgreichen und glücklichen Version vorzustellen, die alle Herausforderungen überwunden hat, um aus der Opfermentalität herauszukommen.

Warum ist es wichtig, die eigene Verantwortung für die Lebenssituation zu übernehmen?

Durch das Übernehmen von Verantwortung erkennt man, dass man die Kontrolle über sein eigenes Leben hat und dass man durch eigene Handlungen Ergebnisse erzielen kann, die zu einem gewünschten Lebensergebnis führen.

Wie hilft das Buch 'By Yourself, Damn Flowers' beim Übergang von Opfer zu Held?

Das Buch bietet in jedem Kapitel Aufgaben, die dazu beitragen, den Leser auf seiner Selbstliebe-Reise zu unterstützen und die höchste, selbstbewusste und mächtigste Version von sich selbst zu werden.

Was sind die praktischen Schritte, die in der 'Heimarbeit' des Videos vorgeschlagen werden, um von Opfer zu Held zu werden?

Die Schritte beinhalten das Üben von entgegengesetzten Handlungen, das Erstellen eines Sieg-Logbuchs und das Herausfordern der 'Warum ich?'-Narrative.

Wie kann man die 'Warum ich?'-Narrative in ihrem Leben ändern?

Indem man die 'Warum ich?'-Sprache abschafft und stattdessen nach Vorteilen, zu lernenden Lektionen und Möglichkeiten zur persönlichen Entwicklung fragt, wenn man eine Herausforderung oder ein Problem hat.

Was ist die Hauptbotschaft des Videos über das Überwinden einer Opfermentalität?

Die Hauptbotschaft ist, dass man seine Traumata nicht als Identität definieren sollte, sondern stattdessen die Kontrolle über sein Leben übernehmen und sich auf die Entwicklung und den Erhalt eines erfolgreichen Lebens fokussieren sollte.

Wie kann man seine Opfermentalität durch praktische Übungen reduzieren?

Durch das Ausüben von entgegengesetzten Handlungen, das Aufzeichnen von Siegen und das Herausfordern des 'Warum ich?'-Narratives kann man seine Opfermentalität reduzieren und zu einer stärkeren, selbstbestimmteren Persönlichkeit werden.

Outlines

00:00

🚫 Das Opfer-Denken: Wie es Ihre Zukunft blockiert

Dieser Absatz beschreibt das Gefühl des Opfer-Status und wie es das Leben blockiert. Der Sprecher reflektiert über seine eigene Erfahrung als Opfer und wie diese Mentalität ihn daran hinderte, voranzukommen. Er betont, dass Traumata real sind, aber sie nicht die Identität einer Person sein sollten. Die Botschaft ist, dass man sich nicht von Vergangenheit und Traumata definieren lassen sollte, sondern stattdessen die Kontrolle über sein eigenes Leben übernehmen und eine positivere Einstellung entwickeln muss, um erfolgreich zu werden.

05:02

🗣️ Sprache als Spiegel des Opfer-Denkens

Der zweite Absatz konzentriert sich auf die Sprache, die Menschen verwenden, wenn sie durch schwierige Zeiten gehen. Es wird erklärt, wie sich das Opfer-Denken in der Art und Weise zeigt, wie man über Herausforderungen spricht. Der Sprecher fordert dazu auf, statt sich als Unglücklich oder Verlierer zu betrachten, diese Situationen als Chancen zu sehen, um zu wachsen und zu lernen. Er betont die Bedeutung, eine positivere Erzählung zu erzählen und sich auf die Zukunft zu konzentrieren, anstatt sich von der Vergangenheit zu definieren.

10:03

🔄 Vom Opfer zum Helden: Mentale Umschichtungen

In diesem Abschnitt werden die Schritte beschrieben, die notwendig sind, um das Opfer-Denken aufzugeben und stattdessen eine Helden-Mentalität zu entwickeln. Es wird betont, dass man aufhören muss, nach 'Warum' zu fragen und sich stattdessen auf 'Was kommt als Nächstes' zu konzentrieren. Der Sprecher empfiehlt, sich selbst in fünf Jahren zu visualisieren, erfolgreich und frei von der Vergangenheit, und diese Vision als Inspiration für die heutigen Handlungen zu nutzen. Er betont die Notwendigkeit, Verantwortung für die eigenen Entscheidungen zu übernehmen und die Kontrolle über sein eigenes Leben zu ergreifen.

15:03

🌟 Praktische Schritte zur Überwindung des Opfer-Denkens

Der vierte Absatz bietet praktische Übungen und Aufgaben, um das Opfer-Denken zu überwinden und ein positives Leben zu führen. Es wird empfohlen, die 'entgegengesetzte Aktion' zu praktizieren, um automatisierte negative Reaktionen zu überwinden. Der Sprecher fordert dazu auf, ein 'Sieg-Logbuch' zu führen, um alle kleinen und großen Erfolge zu dokumentieren und sich an sie zu erinnern, wenn man sich selbstwertlos fühlt. Schließlich wird die 'Warum-ich-Erzählung' herausgefordert, indem man sich die Frage stellt, was man aus einer Herausforderung lernen kann und wie man diese Erfahrung nutzen kann, um zu wachsen.

Keywords

💡Opfermentalität

Die Opfermentalität bezieht sich auf eine psychologische Haltung, bei der eine Person das Leben und die Ereignisse als unangemessene und ungerechte Behandlungen wahrnimmt. Im Video wird betont, dass eine solche Mentalität verhindert, dass man sein Leben voranbringt, da man sich in den Traumata verstrickt hält und nicht die Verantwortung für die eigenen Erfahrungen übernimmt. Ein Beispiel aus dem Skript ist, wenn die Sprecherin sagt, dass man aufhören muss, sich als Opfer zu betrachten, um voranzukommen.

💡Verantwortung

Verantwortung ist das Bewusstsein und die Tatsache, dass man die Kontrolle über sein eigenes Leben hat und dass man seine Handlungen und Entscheidungen selbst trifft. Im Video wird betont, dass das Annehmen von Verantwortung für die eigenen Erfahrungen und das Aufhören, andere für die eigenen Probleme zu verantworten, ein entscheidender Schritt ist, um die Opfermentalität zu überwinden.

💡Identität

Identität bezieht sich auf die Gesamtheit der Eigenschaften, die eine Person definiert. Im Video wird betont, dass Traumata und negative Ereignisse Teil der Identität sein können, aber sie nicht die gesamte Identität darstellen sollten. Die Sprecherin fordert dazu auf, sich nicht von den Traumata zu definieren, sondern stattdessen die Kontrolle über die eigene Identität zu übernehmen.

💡Wachstum

Wachstum im Kontext des Videos bedeutet persönliche Entwicklung und Veränderung durch Herausforderungen und Schwierigkeiten. Es wird argumentiert, dass durch das Überwinden von Schwierigkeiten ein Prozess des Wachstums stattfindet, der zu einer stärkeren und weiseren Person führt. Ein Beispiel ist die Aussage, dass Herausforderungen willkommen sein sollten, da sie einen Teil des Lebenswegs der Evolution und des Wachstums sind.

💡Narrative

Ein Narrative ist eine Geschichte oder eine Reihe von Ereignissen, die eine bestimmte Sichtweise oder Interpretation präsentiert. Im Video wird die Idee kritisiert, dass man sich von negativen Erzählungen ablenken lässt, die das Leben als ungerecht darstellen. Stattdessen wird empfohlen, ein positives Narrative zu schaffen, das auf Wachstum und Lernen fokussiert.

💡Selbstachtung

Selbstachtung bezieht sich auf die Fähigkeit, sich selbst und seine Bedürfnisse zu respektieren und zu pflegen. Im Video wird betont, dass man sich selbst achten und seine Grenzen einhalten muss, um Opfermentalität zu vermeiden und ein gesünderes Selbstbild zu entwickeln.

💡Höchste Selbst

Das höchste Selbst ist ein Konzept, das auf eine spirituelle oder metaphysische Perspektive hinweist, in der man sich als Teil einer größeren Ordnung und mit einer tieferen Weisheit verbunden sieht. Im Video wird das höchste Selbst als eine Ressource angesehen, um Herausforderungen zu überwinden und eine positivere Sichtweise auf das Leben zu entwickeln.

💡Entschuldigung

Entschuldigung im Video bezieht sich auf das Annehmen von Verantwortung für die eigenen Handlungen und das Aufhören, sich selbst oder andere zu beschuldigen. Es wird argumentiert, dass das Annehmen von Verantwortung dazu beiträgt, die Opfermentalität aufzugeben und stattdessen eine proaktive und positivere Einstellung zu entwickeln.

💡Gegensätzliche Handlung

Gegensätzliche Handlung ist ein Konzept, bei dem man sich bewusst gegen das Verhalten oder die Reaktion richtet, die normalerweise durch eine Opfermentalität ausgelöst würde. Im Video wird dies als eine Übung empfohlen, um neue Verhaltensmuster zu erlernen und die Opfermentalität zu überwinden.

💡Siegeliste

Eine Siegesliste ist ein Tool, das im Video vorgeschlagen wird, um alle kleinen und großen Erfolge zu dokumentieren, die man täglich erreicht. Dies soll dazu beitragen, das Bewusstsein für den eigenen Fortschritt zu schärfen und die Fähigkeit zu stärken, Herausforderungen als Gelegenheiten zu sehen, anstatt sie als Hindernisse.

Highlights

Realizing the futility of a victim mentality and its detrimental cycle.

Understanding that traumas are real but should not define one's identity.

Recognizing the choice between using past experiences as an excuse or as a driving force for success.

Learning to identify victim mentality through blaming others for personal situations.

The importance of taking accountability for one's life despite external circumstances.

Shifting perspective on parents' actions by understanding their own traumas and limitations.

Changing the narrative from 'life is unfair' to seeing challenges as opportunities for growth.

Adopting a proactive language during tough times instead of a victimized one.

Embracing challenges as necessary for personal evolution and growth.

Moving from a victim to a hero mindset by ceasing the 'why me' questions and focusing on 'what's next'.

Visualizing a successful future self to break free from the victim mentality.

The power of character switching to imagine overcoming problems like a hero in a story.

Taking accountability as a step towards personal growth and away from victimhood.

Recognizing that every challenge is an opportunity for learning and growth.

Practicing opposite action to replace victim mindset reactions with empowering ones.

Creating a victory log to document and reflect on daily achievements and progress.

Challenging the 'why me' narrative by seeking benefits, lessons, and growth opportunities in adversity.

Encouragement to take control of one's story and see every experience as part of personal evolution.

Transcripts

for so many years I felt like such a

victim I was always complaining around

the way that my life was around the way

that people treated me the fact that

just nobody understands me and the

horrific card that I had been dealt in

life but thank God eventually I realized

that staying in victim mentality just

kept me stuck in the same old cycle over

and over and would never allow me to

move forward your traumas are definitely

real but they are not your identity and

the more that you choose to stay stuck

in them and allow them to create the

physical experience that you have every

single day the longer you're going to be

stuck there it's a hard truth but you

can't keep saying this is who I am

because of what happened to me every

single person on this planet has a sad

story but half of those people use it as

an excuse to stay stagnant and complain

all day and the other half use it as

their driving force to be better and

more successful than you could have ever

imagined so which one do you want to be

if it's this one then stay tuned for the

rest of the video because I'm going be

breaking down how to recognize a victim

mentality so that you can finally cut it

out of your life and then breaking down

all the mindset shifts you need to go

from victim to hero and then finally the

homework chapter where I share with you

all practical steps and tips so that you

can finally get to a successful place in

your life where victim mentality has no

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a website or a domain chapter number one

how to recognize how victim mentality is

showing up in your life and step number

one is probably the biggest which is

that you blame other people for your

situation or the happenings in your life

for example my friends are always too

busy for me my parents were never there

for me and you know what I have to talk

about the parent thing in a little bit

more detail because to be completely

honest that was me I used to feel so

unlucky with the family that I had and

the upbringing that I had and I thought

I can't believe I've been dealt this

card in my life and although it's not

false what I'm saying and although that

treatment was not deserved I had to step

out of that and take accountability my

own life to realize I cannot control

that that is an external circumstance

all I can control is the mindset that I

have around that particular situation

because there's no changing it and so

instead wouldn't I rather do myself the

favor to grab myself a little bit more

peace and happiness in my life of

realizing this is my parents' first time

living through life they have their own

set of traumas their own upbringing that

they didn't agree with either and

they're literally always doing the best

they can to try and raise you or teach

you with the knowledge and with the

resources that they have at their

disposal and if you can't relate and you

feel like your parents are always

mistreating you then it's switching your

mindset to they are hurting themselves

they didn't have the opportunity or the

time or the privilege to be able to

recognize that they had traumas to heal

and it's okay to go to therapy or it's

okay to work on yourself or you're not a

bad person for recognizing you have

weaknesses and then you need to try and

fix those to be able to be a better

person for other people and once you

realize that it finally allows you to

take yourself out of the situation and

stop this Narrative of life is so unfair

and everybody hates me and whatever I

have it's the worst case situation and

you finally start seeing things for how

they are which finally gives you the

freedom to be able to move on past it

sign number two a victim mentality is

your language when you're going through

tough times of course it feels like a

natural instinct to feel like everything

is against me you know I feel unlucky

why is this so hard for me why do I keep

failing over and over again nothing's

working out for me maybe I'm not meant

for this and while that may feel true in

the moment you are reinforcing that

narrative you are making that your

identity and you are attracting the same

old situations and results into your

life by deciding to say that throughout

every negative experience you have and

so instead when you go through a

negative experience and you switch oh my

God nothing ever works out for me too I

have to go through tough times to be

able to evolve and grow as a person and

become stronger and wiser and more

powerful I am never going to be able to

be the most ideal version of myself if I

don't go through all of the challenges

and obstacles now to be able to become

her she is only that smart and resilient

and powerful and confident because of

all of the things that Tred to knock her

down and the wisdom and the knowledge

she gained in overcoming each of those

challenges so I welcome these challenges

they are simply an inevitable part of my

journey of evolution and growth that I

need to be able to get to the next phase

and the next level in my life of growing

and succeeding and becoming the best

version of myself and so I would never

say everything bad happens to me because

in actuality everything is working in my

favor for my greater purpose and the

story line that I must go on to be able

to f fill all of my gifts and true

potential moving on to chapter number

two now that we know the two biggest

causes and signs of having victim

mentality so that we can work back from

them now it's time that I share with you

guys all of the mindset shifts you guys

need to go from victim to Hero step

number one is no more why AKA we need to

stop trying to put meaning to all of the

challenges and all of the adversities we

have because when you're so focused on

why does this keep happening to me why

can't I find a good guy why can't I

trust anyone and you're constantly

trying to find the meaning behind your

problems you are still stuck and

stagnant because you aren't actually

actioning moving on or trying a

different way of living so the mindset

shift here is to stop asking why and

replace it by asking what's next you

need to stop dwelling on the past and

how many times one situation has

happened to you and instead think if

this is a situation that I keep going

through and I don't like it okay what's

the step now to make sure that I never

have to deal with it ever again is it by

surrounding myself with different people

is it about changing my mindset is it

about showing up in a different way and

this mindset makes you feel so much more

empowered because it reinforces the

truth that you are in fact in control of

your reality whereas victim mentality

completely goes against that and tries

to train you into thinking that

everything is happening to you and you

are so unlucky step number two is my

favorite and this is character switching

I want you to take a second to imagine

yourself 5 years from now you're not

just out here existing in survival mode

questioning why everything is happening

the way it is no no no no you are

thriving you are successful you get

every single thing you ever wanted

you're living a life that reflects your

true potential one that frees you from

the shackles of your past trauma you do

not identify with the person that you

used to be in the life you used to live

because you were leveled up so much and

that right there was an example of

visualization when I was personally

trying to shift out of my Victim

mentality experience which went on for

so many years by the way I started to

visualize myself as someone who didn't

have any problems in her life who was so

so happy who was thriving who got to do

what she wanted to do for work who felt

free and this might sound so simple but

it's already so transformative because

it gets you out of the habit of having a

victim mentality and it reduces the

amount of time you're spending each day

being consumed by your problems and your

unluckiness and instead replacing it

with time where you're thinking about a

better future about how things are going

to improve about all the abundance

you're going to gain in your life which

directly goes against everything that

victim mentality stands for and so it

cancels each other out so I think think

a really powerful exercise you guys can

practice is right now to visualize a

character in a book or a movie and

imagine this character has all of the

problems that you are struggling with

right now and now think what would they

do if those problems were a part of

their story you might not know the exact

solution but you do know how boring if

while I continue to watch this movie or

read this book this character sits there

and does nothing and complains and cries

for the next hour no no no you know this

character and you know how movies end if

you know how books said this character

is going to pick up and they're going to

try something else and the story line is

going to shift and you're going to be

taken on this entire adventure of how

they solve these problems and become

better because of it so that they can

get to the inevitable happy ending of

that movie and guess what that character

is you life is a game life is like a

book or a movie you have your story and

you get to create every single chapter

and moment of it and what this really

links into and what I've been trying to

say this whole time with character

switching is this is an example of

having an alter ego which I have an

entire to this on my YouTube channel and

the form of identity switching which is

when you finally separate yourself from

everything that you are familiar with

and everything that may be real in your

Physical Realm right now and instead

shift it to who you want to be and the

last step for this chapter is to take

accountability and step into your

highest self this step really links into

the first cause that we broke down in

this video which is victim mentality is

caused by blaming external situations

and external people but this goes

directly against it because by taking

accountability and knowing I am not

where I want to be in life because I

keep skipping the gym or waking up late

or maybe I shouldn't have let that

person have access to me and then maybe

my piece would have been protected in

order to move on and create the reality

that you really want so that victim

mentality no longer has a place there we

actually have to take accountability for

the role that we play in each of these

situations because while that person

shouldn't have treated you that way and

while none of your traumas are deserved

we always had a role to play we didn't

have the correct boundaries in our life

when that person came into it we had

worked on our self-esteem and our

insecurities which then influenced the

circle that we had around us we were

procrastinating and we weren't having

our priorities for our studies in the

right place which then got us the

results that we had in the end and this

form of taking accountability is not

about feeling guilty or feeling bad

about yourself it's about recognizing

that you have all of the control and all

of the power in your life at all times

and the second that you start to realize

your mistakes something magical starts

to happen which is if these are the

actions which got me that result now you

start to gain all of the these ideas

about the next actions that you need to

implement to make sure you never get

those results again and you start to get

better ones that align to your dreams

and what links into this is stepping

into your highest self your higher self

is not consumed by its ego so when bad

things happens it doesn't think in the

way your ego does which is I can't

believe that person treated me that way

or I can't believe this happened no your

higher self thinks I needed this

experience this is teaching me something

about myself this is teaching me a

valuable lesson that I need to be able

to move on in my life I am so grateful

to have had this experience because of

the knowledge it's given me for example

your highest self knows that a breakup

isn't a failure it doesn't determine

your attractiveness or your worth or

your capabilities in finding the love of

your life it was simply a stepping stone

to refining your standards and just

finding the person that's actually meant

for you and when you look at things from

this perspective nothing is good or bad

anymore it's simply a part of your

Evolution and so you can't take anything

personally anymore there is no such

thing as being a victim in fact you're

always the hero of your story because

everything is always working out for you

and that brings us to the final chapter

of this video Chapter 3 homework AKA

practical steps to progress on this

journey to going from victim to hero in

your life by the way if you like all the

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practice opposite action all this means

is that whenever you're next presented

with a challenge or a problem which is

making you want to act in a way that

reinforces your victim mindset egy

blaming complaining feeling sorry for

yourself self-pity urge yourself to

instead replace it with the opposite

action because honestly this is a long

journey and it's going to take a lot of

practice to to get you out of this

mentality that you've been stuck in for

a long time and instead replace it with

one that aligns to your higher self but

the more often that you practice the

opposite reaction the more it's going to

feel like second nature to you and you

will literally level up into that type

of person so the next time that you want

to complain or blame you are going to

ship that and replace it with gratitude

by knowing that this is just an

inevitable step on your growth Journey

that everything is always working out

for you that this is teaching you

something but you just don't know it yet

the goal here is to just rewire your

actions and your language to break out

of the pattern the victim mentality is

keeping you stuck in her task number two

is to create a victory log I want you to

write down all of the victories that you

achieve every single day it doesn't

matter how big or how small it could

literally be making your bed if that is

something you usually struggle with you

could write down things like I didn't

snooze my alarm this morning or I woke

up 30 minutes earlier than I usually

would I got this task completed today I

went to the gym even though I felt

really shy and then at the end of every

day or simply when you're feeling a

little bit down about yourself or that

life isn't going very great you need to

read through this list and be reminded

of all of the times you showed up for

yourself all of the times you proved how

abundant and amazing and Powerful life

is because it's actually all in your

control it's so easy to forget the

progress we make every single day when

we're so consumed about where we need to

be or the next steps we need to take and

so by doing this activity you are so

much aware of all of the progress and

all of the ones you've made that it

becomes so much easier to see almost

every experience as an opportunity

rather than an obstacle and the final

homework task is probably most important

and this is to challenge your why me

narrative you stop being a victim when

you finally step away from saying why me

and start saying thank you and the way

to do this is by first cutting out the

why me language in a situation and

instead looking at the situation through

a few different angles and the easiest

way to do this is just by asking

yourself the following questions

whenever you're struggling in a certain

situation question number one is what

benefits could come from this challenge

this could be new skills a fresh start a

new mindset a little bit more knowledge

or wisdom a new standard you need to set

in your life question number two is what

lessons can I learn from this experience

basically what can you take from this

situation or challenge or adversity

that's going to then make you stronger

in the future and finally question

number three how can I utilize this

experience to grow into the best version

of myself yeah that's right you are

taking every single Challenge and

obstacle that life throws at you and

making it your bit you are always

focusing on what you can control you are

taking every single Challenge and

extracting all of the abundance and all

of the knowledge out of it to be able to

make sure that it is simply just a role

and basically your employee and making

sure that you are leveling up into the

best version of yourself and honestly

after seeing it that way why would you

ever feel like a victim again and that

brings us to the end of this video I

hope you guys enjoyed it if you did as

always please comment down below and let

me know what resonated with you what

step you really liked what piece of

advice you like and which homework task

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brand new video bye

I me

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