The Party: a virtual experience of autism – 360 film

The Guardian
7 Oct 201707:22

Summary

TLDRThe script depicts Layla's sensory and social challenges during her mother's surprise birthday party. Layla, who is on the autism spectrum, experiences an overwhelming sensory overload and struggles to navigate social interactions. Her internal monologue reveals her thoughts and coping mechanisms, such as tapping her head to feel calm. Despite her father's well-intentioned efforts, the party becomes a nightmare for Layla. Her mother's understanding and the promise of no more surprises provide a comforting end to the ordeal, highlighting the importance of recognizing and accommodating individual needs.

Takeaways

  • 🎉 Layla experiences sensory overload during a party, finding the noise and crowded environment extremely challenging.
  • 🎧 Layla uses headphones as a coping mechanism to manage her sensory sensitivities.
  • 👥 Layla feels alienated at social gatherings, as she struggles to connect with others and fit in.
  • 👨‍👧 Layla's father tries to encourage her to socialize, but he doesn't fully understand the difficulties she faces.
  • 👵 Layla's grandmother shows understanding and acceptance, recognizing her uniqueness without labels.
  • 🎂 The surprise party for Layla's mother becomes overwhelming for Layla, leading to a sensory meltdown.
  • 🤯 Layla's inner monologue reveals her struggle to process sensory input and her desire to escape the chaos.
  • 👩‍👧 Layla's mother provides comfort and understanding, acknowledging the need for support without surprises.
  • 🌟 The script highlights the importance of recognizing and accommodating the unique needs of individuals with autism.
  • 💬 Voices of girls with autism in the script share their experiences, emphasizing the challenges of social interactions and sensory processing.

Q & A

  • What is Layla's internal reaction to the party being held at her house?

    -Layla finds the party to be her worst nightmare, with people invading her space and expecting her to act like them. She feels overwhelmed by the sensory input and the expectation to socialize.

  • Why does Layla tap her head?

    -Layla taps her head as a self-soothing mechanism to help her feel calm amidst the sensory overload and chaos of the party.

  • What does Layla's father expect from her during the party?

    -Layla's father expects her to socialize and interact with the guests, as he asks her to get some drinks and implies that she should be more outgoing.

  • How does Layla's mother's arrival affect her during the party?

    -Layla's mother's arrival triggers a strong emotional response in Layla, who is overwhelmed by the surprise and the sensory chaos of the party, leading her to feel like she needs to escape.

  • What coping mechanism does Layla use to deal with her sensory sensitivities?

    -Layla uses a grounding technique where she focuses on '5 things I can see, 4 things I can touch, 3 things I can hear' to help her cope with the sensory overload during the party.

  • What does Layla's grandmother think about labels and diagnoses?

    -Layla's grandmother believes that labels and diagnoses are unnecessary fuss and that everyone is unique in their own way, without needing to be categorized.

  • How does Layla feel about fitting in with other young people at the party?

    -Layla feels like she doesn't fit in with the other young people and is unsure of how to act or how to interact with them, which adds to her anxiety and discomfort.

  • What does Layla wish she could have done to avoid the party?

    -Layla wishes she could have come in fancy dress to the party, as it would have allowed her to avoid being herself and the social pressures that come with it.

  • How does Layla's mother reassure her after the party?

    -Layla's mother reassures her by acknowledging the difficulty of the situation and promising that it will get easier for them to help Layla now that they understand her needs better.

  • What is the significance of the 'surprise' element in the party for Layla?

    -The surprise element in the party is particularly challenging for Layla due to her sensory sensitivities and the unexpected nature of the event, which amplifies her stress and anxiety.

  • How do the voices of girls with autism at the end of the script relate to Layla's experience?

    -The voices of girls with autism reflect similar experiences and challenges faced by Layla, such as sensory overload, the need to practice social interactions, and the struggle to appear neurotypical, which validates Layla's feelings and experiences.

Outlines

00:00

🎉 Layla's Challenging Birthday Party Experience

Layla, who is on the autism spectrum, experiences a birthday party as a sensory and social challenge. The script captures her internal struggle with the noise, the crowd, and the expectation to socialize. Layla's inner voice contrasts with her outer responses, revealing her discomfort and the coping mechanisms she employs, such as tapping her head to feel calm. Despite her father's encouragement to engage, Layla finds solace in her headphones and the support of her understanding grandmother. The surprise element of the party exacerbates her sensory overload, leading to a moment of crisis where she retreats to a quieter space with her mother's help. The conversation with her mother acknowledges the difficulty of the situation and the need for better support and understanding moving forward.

05:01

🎧 Layla's Reflections and the Voices of Autistic Girls

In the aftermath of the party, Layla expresses her relief and exhaustion, indicating the toll such social events take on her. She wishes for easier integration but also recognizes the need for personal space and recovery time. The narrative transitions to include the voices of other autistic girls who share their experiences and strategies for navigating social situations. They discuss the practice of neurotypical behaviors, the overwhelming nature of sensory input during anxiety, and the need for retreat after social exertion. The segment highlights the effort to appear neurotypical and the importance of self-care in managing the challenges of autism in social contexts.

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Keywords

💡Autism

Autism, or Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), is a developmental condition characterized by challenges with social skills, repetitive behaviors, speech and nonverbal communication. In the script, Layla's experience at a party highlights the sensory and social challenges that can be associated with autism. Her inner voice reveals her struggle to process the sensory overload and her desire to escape the overwhelming environment.

💡Sensory Overload

Sensory overload refers to a condition where the nervous system is unable to process sensory information effectively, leading to discomfort or distress. Layla experiences this at the party, with her inner voice describing sounds as 'mixing together, spilling out, spilling in,' indicating her struggle to cope with the noisy and chaotic environment.

💡Social Anxiety

Social anxiety is the fear of social situations that involve interaction with others, leading to feelings of self-consciousness, judgment, and embarrassment. Layla's reluctance to join the party and her inner dialogue about fitting in reflect her social anxiety. Her thoughts about not knowing how to act or how her face appears to others are indicative of this anxiety.

💡Stimming

Stimming, or self-stimulatory behavior, is a repetitive movement, sound, or activity that is often used by individuals with autism to self-regulate or cope with stress. Layla's tapping of her head is an example of stimming, which she uses to feel calm amidst the sensory chaos of the party.

💡Neurotypical

Neurotypical refers to individuals who do not have a neurological condition like autism and whose development and behavior are considered typical. The script contrasts Layla's experience with that of neurotypical individuals, highlighting her struggle to 'practise being neurotypical' and fit in with societal expectations.

💡Invisibility

Invisibility, in the context of the script, is a metaphor for feeling unseen or ignored. Layla feels invisible when her aunt and father discuss her diagnosis without acknowledging her presence, suggesting that her experience and feelings are not being considered.

💡Self-Advocacy

Self-advocacy is the act of speaking up for oneself, asserting one's needs, and making choices. Layla's request for 'no more surprises' is an example of self-advocacy, as she communicates her needs to her mother and sets boundaries to protect her well-being.

💡Support

Support, in the context of the video, refers to the assistance and understanding provided by others to help an individual with autism navigate challenging situations. Layla's mother's acknowledgment of her struggles and her promise to help in the future illustrate the importance of support in facilitating inclusion and understanding.

💡Identity

Identity is the sense of self or individuality. The script explores Layla's struggle with her identity as she grapples with the expectations of others and her own desires to fit in. Her inner dialogue about being a 'biscuit' among 'salads' metaphorically expresses her feeling of not belonging.

💡Understanding

Understanding, in the video, is the empathetic comprehension of Layla's experiences and needs by her family. The script shows a progression from initial lack of understanding, as seen in the surprise party, to a growing awareness and acceptance, as Layla's mother promises to help her in the future.

💡Safety

Safety, in Layla's perspective, is a state of comfort and security, often achieved by escaping overwhelming situations. Her retreat to a quiet space after the party and the use of headphones to block out external stimuli illustrate her need for a safe environment to process her experiences.

Highlights

Layla's internal struggle with social interactions is vividly portrayed, highlighting the sensory overload and anxiety she experiences.

The use of inner and outer voices to represent Layla's thoughts and speech provides insight into her coping mechanisms.

Layla's reliance on headphones as a means to self-soothe and manage sensory input is a relatable detail for many on the autism spectrum.

The dialogue between Layla and her father showcases the tension between societal expectations and personal comfort levels.

Layla's internal monologue about the party chaos emphasizes the sensory challenges faced by individuals with autism.

The moment when Layla's grandmother misunderstands her behavior highlights the communication barriers often encountered.

Layla's self-reflection on fitting in, comparing herself to a biscuit amidst a pasta salad, is a poignant metaphor for feeling out of place.

The aunt's comment about Layla's sister catching up with her underscores the often unspoken comparisons within families.

Layla's roar like a lion is a powerful moment of self-expression and a temporary escape from her overwhelming environment.

The conversation between Aunt 2 and Layla's dad about her diagnosis brings attention to the lack of awareness about autism in girls.

Layla's internal dialogue about being seen and heard by her family despite her autism is a testament to her resilience.

The surprise party scene is a turning point that triggers Layla's sensory overload, leading to a crisis.

Layla's mother's understanding and support after the party is a crucial moment of empathy and validation.

The final scene where Layla retreats to a safe space with her headphones on signifies her need for self-care.

The voice-over of girls with autism sharing their experiences provides a broader perspective on the challenges they face.

The transcript ends on a hopeful note, suggesting that with understanding and support, the future may become easier for Layla.

Transcripts

play00:06

(Music)

play00:14

(Muffled voices)

play00:19

Layla (inner voice): “How are you Layla?

play00:21

"I’m fine, how are you?”

play00:25

Layla (inner voice): Loads of peoply-people

play00:27

invading my house, expecting me to act like them….

play00:31

(sigh) Parties are my worst nightmare

play00:34

Layla (outer): My headphones! Dad!

play00:37

Layla (inner voice) Everything sounds everywhere now.

play00:40

Dad: People will think you don’t want to talk to them.

play00:42

Layla (inner): People would be correct.

play00:43

Dad: It’s only 180 minutes of your life.

play00:45

Layla (inner voice): Sounds now mixing together,

play00:48

spilling out, spilling in... all around me -

play00:52

tangled, tinny tumbleweed.

play00:56

Dad: Layla can you get some drinks please.

play00:58

Layla (outer voice) : ‘Sorry, Layla’s brain is processing…

play01:00

Please leave a message, after the tone...BLEEP

play01:03

Granny: Oh darling girl!

play01:04

What are you talking about?’

play01:06

Layla (inner) : I want to do this for mum.

play01:08

Don’t know if I can.

play01:10

(Tap, tap tap noises can be heard)

play01:11

Gran: Layla, stop tapping your head.

play01:13

Layla (inner voice) : They don’t like it

play01:15

but it helps me feel calm.

play01:18

(DOORBELL)

play01:19

Layla (inner voice): Here comes the invasion.

play01:21

Outer face smiling. Don’t stare.

play01:26

Remember the five things…

play01:34

(Music)

play01:37

Granny: Darling, are these gluten-free cakes, do you know?

play01:39

Layla (inner voice): Don’t tap, don’t tap.

play01:42

Look at all that food touching other food.

play01:45

Would biscuits really be friends with a pasta salad?

play01:48

Maybe this is why I don’t fit in -

play01:50

I’m the biscuit, they’re the salad.

play01:53

WE DON’T BELONG ON THE SAME PLATE!

play01:55

Aunt 1: Layla! why aren’t you out there

play01:56

with the other young people?

play01:58

Layla (outer voice) : I’m fine here, thanks

play01:59

Layla (inner voice): The other young people

play02:01

don’t seem to like me very much

play02:03

Aunt 1: Gosh! Your sister really is catching up with you.

play02:06

What’s that look for? It’s a party!

play02:08

Layla (inner voice): Am I staring? I’ve literally

play02:10

no idea what my face is doing.

play02:13

How does everyone else know how to act?

play02:17

(Child roars)

play02:18

(Layla roars like a lion)

play02:22

Adult: Sorry she’s a bit shy -

play02:24

Have you told her your names?

play02:26

Layla (inner voice) I wish I could have come in fancy dress,

play02:29

then I wouldn’t have to be here as me.

play02:31

Aunt 2: I heard about her diagnosis

play02:33

Dad: ‘It's taken, you know, a little while to sink in but

play02:37

she’s on the spectrum.

play02:38

Aunt 2: I didn’t realise it affected girls.

play02:39

Dad: No, neither did we.

play02:41

Layla (internal): I’m not deaf you know. Or invisible.

play02:44

Granny (whispering): You’ve always been special to me.

play02:46

I don’t know why give people labels.

play02:48

Everyone makes such a fuss these days, don't they?

play02:51

But you’re just you and you’re unique.

play02:54

(Cutlery falls off table)

play02:56

Layla (inner voice): CUTLERY AVALANCHE!

play02:58

Make it go away.

play03:00

Focus on something.

play03:01

I can do this.

play03:03

Dad: Come on everyone! In here!

play03:05

She’s going to be here soon.

play03:06

Layla (inner voice): Oh no it’s all happening -

play03:07

here's the champagne.

play03:09

I can't move.

play03:10

I’ll never get through all of them

play03:12

(Loud explosion of a champagne cork) (Cheering)

play03:16

Need to keep calm.

play03:18

Dad: And the lights please.

play03:20

Remember the exercise.

play03:23

5 things I can see, 4 things I can touch,

play03:28

3 things I can hear...

play03:30

EVERYONE: Surprise!

play03:32

Layla (inner voice): Mum! Mum! Mum! Mum!

play03:39

Layla (inner voice): No no no no no.

play03:42

Ellie to Layla: Look the cake is coming out. Looks, it's amazing.

play03:45

Layla (inner voice) I need to get out.

play03:48

Five things, remember.

play03:51

Like, can I...

play03:53

Five things, five things...

play03:55

(People sing happy birthday)

play03:57

I can't hear. Remember. I can’t… Hear... See.. Can’t see.

play04:04

Mum: Layla, are you ok? It's OK darling, come on. Come with me.

play04:10

Sweetheart, it's ok.

play04:22

(Knock on door)

play04:28

Mum: Hey, how are you doing?

play04:31

I brought you some cake.

play04:34

Layla (inner voice): I ruined it, didn't I? I always ruin things.

play04:42

Mum: I think dad got a bit carried away there.

play04:44

You know what he’s like.

play04:47

I don’t think he realised how hard it would be for you.

play04:52

Do you know what? It's going to get easier for us to help you now.

play04:56

Now that we know.

play04:57

Layla (outer voice) 'No more surprises.'

play05:00

Mum: 'It's a deal.”

play05:02

Layla (outer voice): Happy birthday mum.

play05:04

Mum: Aw, thank you darling.

play05:10

You take as long as you need.

play05:14

(Headphones back on, soothing music plays.)

play05:27

Layla (inner voice): At least Mum gets it.

play05:31

I wish it could be easier, but it’s exhausting.

play05:35

I’ll be recovering from this for days.

play05:39

I want to fit in but sometimes I need to fit myself out.

play05:46

Just leave, escape.

play05:52

I’m here. Where I need to be, where it’s safe.

play05:57

It’ll be ok.

play06:00

And maybe sometime in the future, it’ll be easier.

play06:09

(VOICE OF GIRLS WITH AUTISM)

play06:11

“I don’t think you’d have known I was autistic

play06:13

until you put me in a birthday party setting.”

play06:28

“I’d practise conversations, so I’d practice

play06:30

what they might say to me, how I’d introduce myself,

play06:32

or how if they’d introduce themselves what I’d say.”

play06:35

“I consider facial expressions before I make them,

play06:38

because a lot of it is practising being neurotypical.”

play06:40

“When I’m anxious my brain flashes things at me,

play06:43

like, really fast. My head will go all fizzy."

play06:45

"Kind of like when you’re at the tube stop

play06:47

and you know the tube goes past really quickly,

play06:48

it’s kind of like that.”

play06:50

“It seems to build up and up and up and then...

play06:52

It’s like you can hear everything

play06:54

and it’s in layers and it’s so overwhelming.”

play06:57

“I just go into shut-down

play06:59

and just wouldn’t be able to do anything.

play07:02

If I was that tired from a social scenario

play07:04

I’d literally just have to crawl under the duvet

play07:07

and put stuff on it.”

play07:09

“You know you try really hard to come across

play07:11

as neurotypical and then it just means

play07:13

that people don’t realise that you actually

play07:15

do struggle with things.”

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Autism AwarenessFamily DynamicsSocial ChallengesSensory OverloadInner DialogueTeen ExperienceEmotional JourneyAcceptanceInclusivityMental Health
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