職場10年真的可以過我想要的生活嗎?!工作?創業?職涯?生涯?怎麼規劃😮
Summary
TLDRS姐 addresses the question of whether one's job can truly satisfy life's needs, considering factors like family background, ambitions, and motivations. She introduces the 'Golden Triangle' of career, family, and personal life, emphasizing the importance of balance. S姐 discusses the concept of income ceilings and the idea that job satisfaction isn't just about making money but also about personal fulfillment. She encourages viewers to think about their future, explore interests, and communicate with family to achieve a balanced life. The video ends with an invitation for viewers to share their thoughts and questions.
Takeaways
- 😊 The balance between career, family, and life is essential for personal satisfaction.
- 💡 Different people have varying needs and ambitions based on their backgrounds and personal goals.
- ⚖️ The 'golden triangle' of life: achieving a balance between career, family, and personal life can lead to contentment.
- 🔄 Comparing yourself to others, especially between different lifestyles (like entrepreneurs vs. employees), can lead to dissatisfaction.
- 🏆 Career goals and personal ambitions should be aligned with one's long-term vision, such as planning for the next 10 years.
- 🔍 Regular self-assessment and planning can help manage feelings of insecurity about the future.
- 🛠️ Interests and hobbies can evolve into side projects or secondary careers, which may bring additional satisfaction or income.
- 👨👩👧 Effective communication with family members is crucial to maintain a healthy balance between work, family, and personal time.
- 📅 Time management and prioritizing tasks are key to achieving a well-rounded and fulfilling life.
- 🌟 It’s important to visualize life beyond work, especially post-retirement, and start preparing for it early.
Q & A
What is the central question that S姐 addresses in the script?
-The central question addressed by S姐 is whether one's job can truly satisfy their life needs.
What is the 'Golden Triangle' concept mentioned by S姐?
-The 'Golden Triangle' concept refers to the balance between career, family, and personal life, which, when well-managed, can lead to a fulfilling life.
How does S姐 differentiate between 'interest-based side jobs' and 'work-based side jobs'?
-S姐 differentiates them by stating that interest-based side jobs are more enjoyable, while work-based side jobs are primarily for earning money.
What does S姐 suggest as a way to deal with the feeling of dissatisfaction despite having a balanced life?
-S姐 suggests that dissatisfaction may stem from comparison and advises individuals to reflect on which 'world' they prefer and to focus on their own life planning rather than just career planning.
How does S姐 define the term 'income ceiling' in the context of jobs?
-The 'income ceiling' refers to the maximum earning potential within a job, which is limited by the organizational structure and budget considerations of a company.
What advice does S姐 give to someone who feels overwhelmed by their job and family responsibilities?
-S姐 advises such individuals to allocate specific time for planning and pursuing interests or further education to create a more balanced life.
Why does S姐 emphasize the importance of life planning over career planning?
-S姐 emphasizes this because many issues encountered in the workplace are actually life issues, and a well-thought-out life plan can help address these concerns more holistically.
What is an example of a person who has achieved a good balance in their life according to S姐?
-An example given is a friend of S姐, Elsa, who, despite having a demanding career with multiple ventures, manages to find time for personal interests and relaxation.
How does S姐 describe the importance of communication with family and partners in managing one's life balance?
-S姐 highlights the importance of communication as it helps in negotiating time and responsibilities, preventing a continuous state of compromise and dissatisfaction.
What is the 'homework' that S姐 assigns to the audience at the end of the script?
-The 'homework' is for the audience to reflect on their own time allocation and to consider what they would like to do if they were not working, indicating a step towards planning their ideal life.
How can one start identifying their interests or passions as suggested by S姐?
-S姐 suggests spending time researching and participating in various activities to discover interests, or trying new things regularly to expand one's horizons.
Outlines
🤔 Balancing Career, Family, and Personal Life
The speaker, S Sister, addresses a common concern about whether one's job can truly meet life's needs. She suggests that this question is influenced by individual family backgrounds, personal goals, and ambitions. S Sister introduces the concept of the 'Golden Triangle' of life, which includes career, family, and personal life, and emphasizes the importance of achieving a balance among these three aspects. She explains that if one finds their career, family, and personal life in harmony, they are likely to feel content. However, she also points out that comparing oneself to others, such as entrepreneurs who may enjoy more freedom but also face different challenges, can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction. S Sister advises that understanding one's own preferences and planning for the future can help alleviate such concerns.
📈 Prioritizing Time and Commitments in Life
In this paragraph, the discussion continues with the challenges faced by a friend named Elsa, who is a business partner of the speaker. Elsa's extensive business commitments, including a women's empowerment academy, a skincare brand, and a café, consume a significant portion of her time, leaving little room for family life. The speaker compares this to her own life, where she has also dedicated a large portion of her time to her career, including the academy, e-commerce side business, and personal branding. However, she makes an effort to maintain a social life and engage in personal interests. The speaker encourages viewers to reflect on how they allocate their time and to consider what they would like to do if they were not working, suggesting that being able to envision this can guide them towards making changes in their current lifestyle.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Life Needs
💡Golden Triangle
💡Work-Life Balance
💡Career
💡Entrepreneur
💡Income Ceiling
💡Personal Life
💡Hobbies
💡Career Planning
💡Life Planning
💡Social Values
💡Financial Planning
Highlights
The concept of 'Golden Triangle' in life, which includes career, family, and personal life, is introduced as a way to achieve balance and satisfaction.
The importance of aligning one's ambitions, motivations, and life goals with their career and personal aspirations is discussed.
The idea that job satisfaction depends on the balance between work, family, and personal life, rather than just the job itself.
Comparing the lifestyles of entrepreneurs and workers, highlighting the lack of traditional 'time off' for entrepreneurs.
The societal framework that dictates the typical workweek and how it impacts an individual's time for work, family, and personal activities.
Differentiating between 'interest-based side jobs' and 'work-based side jobs', and their impact on personal satisfaction.
Investment and financial management as part of career planning, aimed at earning money and achieving ideals and a sense of accomplishment.
The multifaceted nature of family, encompassing one's original family, relatives, spouse, and possibly children.
The role of personal interests, further education, and social circles in defining one's personal life.
The speaker's personal journey and mindset shift from a headhunter to someone with a defined vision for their life by age 35.
The importance of exploring interests and hobbies, even if they are not immediately clear, to find fulfillment outside of work.
The notion that entrepreneurship is not solely about profit but can also be about proving oneself and finding the right fit.
The impact of life planning over career planning, as many workplace issues are fundamentally life issues.
A case study of a friend, Elsa, who exemplifies the challenges of balancing a heavy career load with personal life.
The idea that income has a 'ceiling' and how it relates to the structured nature of corporate jobs and budgets.
The speaker's own experience with adjusting the balance between career, personal brand, and social life.
The importance of imagining and planning for life after retirement or the traditional work life.
Encouraging viewers to reflect on their time allocation and aspirations for life without work, as a step towards finding fulfillment.
The call to action for viewers to leave comments with their thoughts and questions, fostering engagement with the speaker's content.
Transcripts
好 今天回答
忘記講 我是S姐
Hi大家好 我是S姐
今天要回答大家網友廣大的一個提問
所謂的廣大就是那幾個
(蕭亞軒GG)
這的確是廣大人想要問 內心想問的問題
我的工作真的可以滿足我的生活需求嗎
你想想看
我必須說這個問題
來自於每個人家庭背景不一樣
跟你的比例問題
跟你的目標夠不夠遠大
或是野心跟動機的問題
當然我們這樣講好像很籠統
我就用一個東西讓大家去思考
就是人生有個東西叫黃金三角
就是你的整個事業跟你的家庭跟生活
三件事情解決了
所以怎麼說
如果你發現你的事業家庭跟生活
這三件事情達到一個不錯的平衡
你當然會覺得現在生活很好
你只是覺得好像缺了什麼
因為你就開始看到
有些人過得很開心
然後到處玩來玩去
你就開始羨慕她的生活
可是你沒有想過反過來很多創業者
可能也會說工作者很幸福
因為創業者她的時間一到日
幾乎也沒有所謂的放假可言
當然放假是自己安排的
那就代表什麼事情
代表其實你只要是工作者
你的時間已經被這個系統
社會的價值觀排好了
怎麼排 一到五白天認真上班
一到五的晚上可能就是自己的生活
或者是家庭這件事情
六日可能就是你自己安排
這個比例你要怎麼做
可能家庭事業跟生活 就一樣這三件事情
那只是把這三件事情再看細一點點
事業可能包含了你的工作
跟興趣型的副業
或者是你真的拿來做的一些副業
就真的是
靠你的工作專業變成了副業
這是不一樣的
因為興趣型副業你做起來可能比較開心
但工作型副業你就只是賺錢而已
再來可能你投資理財
我們把它放在事業裡面
因為反正事業就是拿來賺錢跟賺理想
跟成就感
但家庭可能就包含你的真正的原生家庭 親戚
以及另一半
可能還包含了小孩
所以是不是有一堆事情了
然後生活可能就包含你的興趣
你想要進修的事情
你的人脈圈
所以我常在外面講一個心智圖
就是包含這好幾個
10個以上的這種規劃
那就代表你去想一下
每一年只要讓自己的事業
家庭跟生活達到一個完美比例
你就OK了是嗎
為什麼我說工作可不可以符合你生活需求
可以因為你白天好好工作
晚上好好生活陪家人
假日再自己安排
其實你這樣生活很幸福
但為什麼你會覺得好像不滿足
那是因為你真的在比較 所謂的比較
你看到創業者的狀態
來自於這是兩個世界的level
你就要去思考其實你自己喜歡哪個世界
因為創業者的東西跟賺錢一回事
可是還有一部分是理念型的創業
所以她們的確賺了錢就會是你想像不到的
但是所有的工作一定都會有個收入的天花板
所謂收入天花板我扣掉那些什麼保險 壽險
跟其她的這種不算
所有的收入都有天花板
一間公司的組織把每一個人都
當成一個預算去看
也就是說職場它是一個框架存在的
你在這個框架裡面過得很好
你就不要羨慕她人
因為你額外賺錢的方式
就是我剛剛講的事業圈的東西
只是你的時間比例安排問題
如果你發現你現在已經結婚生小孩了
然後你覺得很幸福
然後跟公婆相處
然後有些進修跟興趣
這樣其實很好
所以你只是今年很開心
明年很開心
你再擔心的是
你是不是10年後會不開心
因為你可能擔心出什麼問題就這樣而已
如果你擔心10年後會出問題
你只要每個禮拜挪出一點點時間
讓自己去規劃
未來可以做的事不就好了
舉個例子
你對某些東西是有興趣的
你就去花時間鑽研它
你喜歡花藝你喜歡什麼
你就鑽研它
如果你找不到興趣怎麼辦
你就大量的
每個禮拜固定有一個時間或兩個時間
去做一些你不知道的東西
參加一些活動
認識一些朋友
慢慢的你的圈子會定型
這樣頁沒有不好 定型以後
如果你覺得不滿足於現狀
就再加一個圈子而已
像我就是這樣慢慢出來的
也就是說我其實在27歲的時候就非常定義自己
我知道我在35歲之前
應該就不會在職場工作了
所以我因為這樣的想法
我就開始思考去做很多事情
如果你有辦法去這樣想的話
你就可以去理解
像很多人就說對我想創業
但我不知道創什麼
這個時候你就不用想
你就大量去接觸人
大量接觸活動
然後找一下對的興趣慢慢就找出來
因為創業不見得 有時候是獲利模式的問題
有的時候是單純的證明
自己不適合當工作者而已
所以這個議題為什麼特地拿一集來講
就是因為太多人把這個議題變得
好像很小 但其實上很大
她會很多細節可以去講
其實我在為什麼
強調人生規劃大於職涯規劃的地方
因為多數你在職場上遇到的問題都是人生問題
這樣子就解決了
好再強調一次事業跟家庭跟生活
我舉一個朋友的例子
我有一個朋友就是我的創業partner elsa
她人生 你就想想看
你想到自己去想別人
她的比例是這樣
她的事業太大了
她有她的女力學院
好跟我合作女力學院
她有她的苒苒面膜
然後她還有同時間她的咖啡廳
然後這些 這個問題底下是不是還有一大堆問題
譬如說咖啡廳要處理人的問題
錢的問題 苒苒要處理出貨的問題
行銷問題 員工問題
女力學院要處理學生的問題
所以一大堆問題
所以你看她公司事業是不是就佔她的時間比例
在每一週都佔了至少七八成以上
你覺得她會有家庭生活可言嗎
如果這時候她是有老公的
那叫她老公願意支持她來做的事
她每個禮拜
可能每一天配老公幾天
或是另一半的時間
她剛好就因此沒了
所以她就把很多時間放在這
然後她的生活可能就是空閒時間的時候
有一些放鬆生活的方式
或者是興趣
所以她就會一直花錢買東西
你看她這個比例是不是就很特別
相對我來說好的
因為我自己已經把獵頭的工作辭掉了
請不要再你可以私信問我工作
但是請不要再私信我
叫我幫你找工作
我留下各個獵頭聯絡方式好了
我自己是怎麼樣
我事業比例可能也是跟Elsa一樣
佔了大概六七成
我一大部分的時間都在女力學院
自己的電商副業
還有經營個人品牌這三件事情
然後像Elsa就比較沒有經營她的個人品牌
就類似這樣
有時候空閒我的生活在乾嘛
拍抖音
所以歡迎去訂閱sherrys500的IG
我都放在那上面
我的生活時間可能比較Elsa多一點點
因為剛好我的朋友圈比較多
我是一個沒辦法獨處
沒辦法太常獨處人
所以我需要朋友
所以會有很多一大部分
10%-20%時間會放在跟朋友相處
或者出去玩或者是放鬆
或是自己看書的時間等等最後這個時間
所以我們的比例其實很像
我們在家庭上都比較少
不代表我們不想要
而是我們知道
這一年或這一兩年我的比例會怎麼放
也不代表我們不想交另一半
如果有遇到就稍微調整時間而已
所以我們還是過得很開心
看似有壓力
但事實上還是開心
所以如果你的不開心
你就要去思考
對未來的沒有安全感代表你對未來想像不到
只要你能夠想像那個比例問題
慢慢就會因此調整
而不會好像別人說這個很好
好像可以賺
你就想說好我投入看看
這個好像可以賺
我投入看看就會導致你自己分身乏術
我遇過一個朋友是這樣子的
她本身是在金融業上班
然後她已經結婚剛生小孩
可是然後她工作非常的忙
那個忙就是因為她的工作是比較偏向
就是櫃員
所以她很多時候需要加班
又外商的銀行
然後她回到時間又很晚
導致她的一到五的時間幾乎都是
回到家陪小孩睡覺
然後就這樣
然後還要準備考證照等等
所以的唯一給自己的時間就是假日
可是六日的假日
很多時間有一半以上給公婆
要處理一些家庭的事情
家庭的東西
她是不是就沒有自己的時間
久了以後她就覺得很辛苦
同時間她又想說
她想要多點自己收入
因為其實工作她去算時間CP值不是很高
她就覺得未來開始 開始去思考該怎麼辦
同時她又覺得她當櫃員在未來
有沒有可能被職場上被淘汰
有可能 所以她開始有一些危機意識的時候
那個時候就是
她可以開始改變時間的使用模式的時候
工作還是必須要加班沒問題
但是在家裡挪出至少半天
或者是平日的至少一天或兩天晚上跟老公溝通
小孩給老公處理
她來做其她進修 非這個產業的
或者是她自己的興趣
去認識朋友或都好
所以她的比例如果安排好就不會矛盾
可是最怕就是女性
不懂得怎麼跟另一半或是家人溝通
導致自己的生活一直在妥協
所以我才說其實那都是比例問題
你只要想一件事情
工作她大概就會知道最多到60歲
你不可能工作到70歲
那個工作不叫工作
那個工作叫做我就只是讓自己維持生存
你可以想像或者是
在60歲以後的樣子
我們很多人想不到
但我至少能夠想像自己不工作長怎麼樣
如果你想得到的話那個畫面就會出來
你就開始去找朝這個畫面去追
譬如說很多朋友說我想要做freelancer
她想要不上班
我就請她去想像
她不上班要做什麼
很多人是想不到
所以只好繼續工作
這是比例問題
這一集給大家就回家功課
歡迎你在底下留言
你去思考你自己的時間
跟你不工作想要做什麼
如果你想得到代表你就在往路上前進
想不到那你就好好工作
就調整比例問題而已
那就這樣 記得
如果有任何問題在底下留言
我會依照你的問題選擇性的回答
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