4 Destructive Sins Of The Tongue

Summary

The lecture emphasizes the immense power and danger of the tongue, highlighting how words can destroy good deeds and lead to the Hellfire. It discusses various forms of harmful speech like backbiting, slander, and gossip, and the severe consequences they carry in Islam. Practical advice is given on how to avoid spreading rumors and controlling one's speech. The speaker underscores the importance of being mindful of one's words and actions, as they are all recorded and will determine one's fate in the hereafter. The video ends with a reminder to fill one's book of deeds with good actions and words.

Takeaways

• 📱 Listen to lectures on the go with the One Islam TV app, available on multiple platforms.
• ⚠️ The tongue is extremely dangerous and can destroy good deeds with just one word.
• 🗣️ Backbiting (GBA) is harmful, even if what is said is true.
• 🧨 Slander (bhan) involves making up lies about others.
• 👂 Gossiping (namima) spreads discord in the community.
• 🛑 If someone shares gossip with you, refuse to listen and stop the spread.
• 📚 Every word we say is recorded and will be judged on the Day of Judgment.
• 🤐 Our faith and hearts are linked to the control of our tongues.
• ✍️ We are the authors of our own book of deeds, which determines our final destination.
• 📜 Fill your book with good deeds, respect, and secret acts of charity.

Q & A

What is the main theme of the lecture discussed in the transcript?

The main theme of the lecture is the extreme danger of the tongue and how our words can significantly impact our deeds and lead to either reward or punishment in the hereafter.

What are the four harmful behaviors related to speech mentioned in the lecture?

The four harmful behaviors are backbiting (Ghiba), slander (Buhtan), gossip (Namima), and false accusation (Ifk).

How does the speaker define backbiting (Ghiba)?

Backbiting is defined as saying something about a brother or sister in their absence that they would not like, even if it is true.

What is the difference between backbiting (Ghiba) and slander (Buhtan)?

While backbiting involves saying something true that the person would not like, slander involves making up something false about the person.

What is Namima and why is it considered harmful?

Namima is gossiping or spreading information to cause discord among people. It is harmful because it ruins relationships and spreads strife within the community.

What does the term 'Ifk' refer to, and why is it considered the worst form of harmful speech?

'Ifk' refers to spreading false accusations or rumors without certainty. It is considered the worst because it can lead to severe consequences, as illustrated by the story of Aisha in Islamic history.

What advice does the speaker give to prevent engaging in harmful speech?

The speaker advises asking whether the information is good, true, and beneficial before listening or repeating it, and if not, to reject hearing it to stop the spread of harmful speech.

What is the significance of the story about the young sister in the train?

The story emphasizes patience and kindness, reminding us that the difficulties and annoyances we face in life are temporary, like a short trip.

How does the speaker illustrate the importance of controlling one's tongue?

The speaker illustrates this by explaining that every word we say is recorded and will be part of the book we present on the Day of Judgment, which determines our final destination.

What final message does the speaker convey about our deeds and their recording?

The final message is that we are the authors of our own book of deeds, and we should fill it with good actions, respect, and secret good deeds, as this book will decide our fate in the afterlife.

Outlines

00:00

🕌 The Power and Danger of the Tongue in Islam

This paragraph introduces the topic of the lecture, which is about the significant impact of the tongue in Islam. It discusses how a single word can nullify good deeds, referencing an example of someone making a derogatory comment about another's height. It emphasizes the gravity of backbiting, slander, and gossip, explaining that these actions can lead people to Hellfire. The speaker cites Hadiths to illustrate the severe consequences of using the tongue irresponsibly and underscores the need for caution in speech.

05:02

🙅‍♂️ How to Handle Gossip and Protect Relationships

This section advises on how to handle gossip. It suggests questioning the person spreading gossip to determine its truth and intent, and rejecting any information that isn't verified or beneficial. The speaker stresses the importance of stopping gossip to prevent the destruction of relationships and mentions a principle that those who spread gossip to you will likely gossip about you to others. The focus is on maintaining integrity and stopping harmful speech at its source.

10:04

🚫 The Seriousness of Unverified Information and Rumors

This paragraph discusses the severity of spreading unverified information, known as 'ifk.' Using the example of false rumors about the Prophet Muhammad’s wife Aisha, it highlights how baseless talk can cause significant harm. The speaker warns against forwarding or sharing information without verifying its authenticity, particularly in the age of social media. The emphasis is on understanding the weight of words and their potential consequences in the eyes of Allah.

📖 Writing Your Own Book of Deeds

This segment reflects on the concept that individuals are the authors of their own book of deeds, which will be presented on the Day of Judgment. The speaker encourages the audience to fill their book with good deeds, such as kindness to parents, secret charitable acts, and righteous behavior. The message is about taking responsibility for one's actions and words, knowing that they will determine one's final destiny. The importance of conscious and deliberate positive actions is highlighted.

Keywords

💡Tongue

The tongue represents speech and the words we use. The video emphasizes the extreme danger of the tongue in causing harm through gossip, slander, and falsehoods. It illustrates how a single word can erase good deeds and lead to Hellfire, highlighting the importance of controlling one's speech.

💡Backbiting (Ghibah)

Backbiting is defined as saying something about someone in their absence that they would not like, even if it is true. The video explains that backbiting is harmful and can destroy relationships and trust, urging viewers to refrain from such behavior to preserve their good deeds and faith.

💡Slander (Buhtan)

Slander involves making false statements about someone, fabricating lies to damage their reputation. The video categorizes slander as worse than backbiting, as it involves intentional deceit. It warns against the severe consequences of slander in the afterlife.

💡Gossip (Namimah)

Gossip refers to spreading rumors or information that causes discord among people. The video explains that gossip is severely punished, as it spreads fitnah (mischief) and ruins relationships. It provides an example of someone being punished for gossiping in their community.

💡Rumors (Ifk)

Rumors are unverified information that can cause significant harm. The video uses the example of false accusations against the Prophet’s wife, Aisha, to illustrate how rumors can spread quickly and damage reputations. It emphasizes the importance of verifying information before sharing it.

💡Iman (Faith)

Iman, or faith, is described as being closely linked to the condition of the heart and the words one speaks. The video states that a person's faith will not be complete until their heart and tongue are aligned with righteousness, highlighting the role of speech in maintaining one's faith.

💡Day of Judgment

The Day of Judgment is the time when individuals will be held accountable for their deeds. The video emphasizes that everyone will receive a book of their deeds, written by themselves through their actions and words. This book will determine their final destination in the afterlife.

💡Book of Deeds

The book of deeds is a metaphor for the record of one's actions and words, which will be presented on the Day of Judgment. The video stresses that individuals are the authors of their own books and encourages viewers to fill their books with good deeds to ensure a favorable outcome.

💡Justice of Allah

The justice of Allah refers to the divine fairness in holding individuals accountable for their actions. The video highlights that Allah's justice ensures that every word and deed is recorded accurately, and individuals will face the consequences of their own choices, emphasizing personal responsibility.

💡Good Deeds

Good deeds are actions that earn rewards and bring one closer to Allah. The video encourages performing good deeds, such as charity, kindness, and truthfulness, as they will be recorded in one's book of deeds and contribute to a positive outcome in the afterlife.

Highlights

The extreme danger of the tongue is emphasized, including how a single word can erase good deeds.

Gestures and remarks, even seemingly small ones, can contaminate relationships and have significant consequences.

The tongue is a major reason why people go to Hellfire, according to the teachings discussed.

Backbiting (Ghiba) is defined as saying something about someone in their absence that they would not like, even if it's true.

Slander (Bhan) involves making up false statements about someone, which is considered even worse than backbiting.

Gossip (Namima) involves spreading rumors and statements between people to cause discord.

How to respond to gossip: Ask if it's good, true, or will improve relationships. If not, reject it.

Rejecting gossip can stop the spread of harmful information and protect relationships.

People who gossip to you are likely to gossip about you to others, so be cautious of their intentions.

The incident of Aisha (RA) demonstrates how baseless rumors can spread and cause harm.

The importance of verifying information before sharing it, especially in the age of social media.

The tongue's usage can lead to Paradise or Hellfire, highlighting the importance of mindful speech.

Using one's tongue for good, like praising Allah, can have significant positive impacts.

Our deeds and words are recorded, and we will be accountable for them on the Day of Judgment.

We are the authors of our own book of deeds, and what we choose to say and do will determine our final destination.

The story of a sister on a train teaches patience and tolerance, emphasizing that life's journey is short.

Transcripts

do you want to listen to lectures

without having your phone

on get the one Islam TV app today

available on these platforms grateful to

Allah Subhan Allah this is something

that we spoke about I gave a around few

months ago and few Brothers came to me

after that and

said this should be once every two

months or once every week

[Music]

and that is about the

danger the extreme danger of the

tongue the

Demolisher the burner of hassat we work

extremely hard to collect these good

deeds and with one word One

statement

gone we fast we don't

we

pray and Subhan Allah this tongue this

tongue we could say something with it

that could erase all of

it could erase all of

it as Sofia is leaving the room

in one narration it says she pointed

with her hand she just gestured like

this she said short gestured short and

another narration she said she is

short you have said one

word if it is

mixed with the ocean the ocean will

become

contaminated short how many times short

tall fat big fat so all these things

that we keep repeating all the time and

we sometimes we do signs behind

someone's back and all of this stuff

destroys very long Hadith when mu was

asking him about Islam and IM and all

this he

said at the end of the Hadith

the meaning of the Hadith the tongue is

the main reason why people go to the

Hellfire the tongue is the main reason

why people go to the

Hellfire now today I want to

mention four things we mentioned them in

in our class the other day and I will

repeat them there's

GBA Believe It or Not people think that

GBA is the worst but in this series here

in the in the order it is the lowest

there's

bhan

Reba bhan

namima

if

worst extremely horrible bad very B very

bad bad let me Define them one by one is

backbiting what is backbiting Allah to

say something about your brother or

sister in their absence that they do not

like

and it's true it's true that's a very

important statement bhan same thing but

it's not true you made it up

slander you made it up it's not even

exist you fabricated it then comes

namima

namima wasam was passing by a grave one

time and he said those two people are

being punished with something they

thought it was simple but it's huge what

is it I said one of them he did not

clean himself after urinating and the

second he used to go with namima in his

community what does namima I go to gulam

I say gulam do you know what M said

about

you gulam do you know what M said about

you so I go to one person and I tell

them do you know what the other person

said about you this is called namima

gossip this is very bad horrible now

before I go to the if if someone comes

to you and

says zah do you know what M said about

you it looks like m is going

around do you know what mon said about

you what do you

say number one you ask the person who

came and said that is it

good mon is going to say say no it's

bad you ask is it true I'm not

sure is it going to make me love the

person more you're going to hate

him so you're telling me something that

is not good going to make me hate the

person and you're not sure if it's true

or

not I don't want to hear

it this is how you stop these people but

what happens most of us the stuff is

Juicy who's going to come to you and say

do you know what this about you w this

is where your IM shows when you say no I

don't want to hear it you kill him you

know what one of the Sala

said he said thean did not find anyone

other than you as a messenger because

this is a messenger of the shaitan he's

coming to ruin a relationship of two

people so when you say I don't want to

hear it you killed the

Shan and you

help the brother to stop this

namima and there's a big very wellknown

formula

is exactly whomsoever comes and tells

you what others said about you he's

going to go to others and tell them what

you said about them this is very well

known so don't think that this guy is he

wants your well-being and Welfare and no

no no no this guy is he enjoys or she

enjoys going around and spreading this

FNA and then comes the if is the worst

if is the worst and the easiest to fall

into that's why the incident of our

mother AA was

called the story the issue of if it was

called if what is

if I I don't know they're saying

people are

talking I'm not sure I

heard isn't this what happened with our

mother AA nothing happened nothing

happened and the rumors spread like

wildfire even some sahabah participated

in spreading the rumor and nothing

happened

nothing how many times oh I heard I

don't know and how many times we send

things we forward things that we have no

clue if they are authentic or not or not

we are participating in this this is a

huge this is very big we take them light

especially with the spread of social

media we take these things light this is

very

heavy you think it's easy but in in the

sight of Allah it's huge it's a huge

so control this tongue wasam said told

us that

our Iman will not become straight and

good until our heart is good and the

heart will not become good until the

tongue is good until the tongue is good

you know our our righteous predecessors

you know what they used to do Subhan

Allah he used to have a

Kota kot today I'm going to speak 400

words when he gets to

400 I'm done for the day see you

tomorrow Subhan Allah one of the used to

say 40 years I did not say a word except

I have an answer to Allah for

it I did not say a word except if Allah

told me why did you say this word I'm

ready I have an

answer

so we all know that all these statements

all these words nothing is missing every

single word is recorded this tongue

could be a reason to go to Jenna or it

could be a reason to go to to the

Hellfire by the way I use it Subhan

Allah how beautiful is this Dean with a

half a

date you protect yourself from the Hell

Fire one H is multiplied by 700 times

two words very light Subhan Allah Subhan

are very heavy in the scale Subhan Allah

so why don't I get my tongue used to

doing something good all the time and

remember this uh short story there was

was a young sister going in the train

from one place to another and she was

sitting in the train and another lady

came with all kinds of bags and and she

squeezed herself next to her yeah the

sister's going to explode but she kept

her smile she kept on smiling even

though it was very obvious that this

sister the other one bothered her a

lot and man sitting across looked at

that and he got so annoyed by the way

the action of the sister so he asked the

other sister how come you did not

complain she

said the trip is

short the trip is

short so anytime someone bother you tell

yourself the trip is

short anyone anytime someone did not

give you the respect that you need did

not appreciate what you have done for

them remember the trip it's short I'm

going to get off the next

station my brothers and sisters Subhan

Allah from the justice of Allah look

look how just and how great is Allah and

I will end with this look how great is

Allah subhana wa

tala we all know that on the day of

judgment we either get our book with the

right hand or with the left hand I beg

Allah in this night of jum to make us

all get our book in the right hand

this book this

book Allah subhanahu wa taala told us

that you you you you you you are the

author you wrote that

book you wrote that book is there any

more

Justice whatever you want to see in that

book Go ahead and do it now what do you

want to see in that

book what do you see what do you want to

see in that book go ahead and do it now

you are writing your own book and like

told us do not blame if you see

something in that book do not blame

anyone except yourself because you are

the one who wrote that book you want

curses lies cheating every everything is

in that book everything no cheating no

lying everything what we did is

recorded everything everything every

single word we uttered every move we

made is in that book you wrote that book

so you don't want to see yourself

backbiting lying cheating watching

something Haram listening to something

Haram do not do it you are writing your

own

book whatever is in that book will

decide where is our final

destination this book is not something

easy this book will decide my final

destination there's no let me come

back let me come back and do something

else and change and improve no that's it

done that's

it whatever you want to see in that book

go ahead and write it

now please make sure you have all great

stuff in that book make sure you have

B respect and honor and good treatment

to the parents in that book make sure

you have some tud make sure you have

some

hidden donations hidden

secret that no one knows except Allah

fill that book because at the end of the

day on the day of judgment we will be

told

may Allah subh make our last Deeds our

best deeds and our last

words with one for kids TV your little

ones will enjoy lots of animated series

catchy songs and engaging stories all

designed to teach them the beauty of

Islam in an enjoyable and fun way our

content will inspire and entertain your

children while increasing their love for

and his Prophet sallallah alaih wasallam

download the one forkids TV app now from

the Apple Google and Amazon stores today

[Music]