Increase the number of women you are meeting.

Summary

In this video, Dr. Sha Reed, author of *The Dating Toolbox*, shares practical tips for men on where and how to meet women. He discusses various locations such as supermarkets, coffee shops, gyms, dance studios, and dog parks as ideal spots to connect. Dr. Reed also touches on the challenges and strategies for successful online dating, emphasizing the importance of standing out and using tricks like adjusting height or income on dating profiles to improve chances. He encourages a balanced approach of meeting women in the real world while still using dating apps as a supplement.

Takeaways

• 😀 Supermarkets are a great place to meet women – casual, easy opener like commenting on the price of groceries can start a conversation.
• 😀 Coffee shops are another excellent location to meet women. Using openers, like the 'jealous girlfriend opener,' can help initiate a conversation.
• 😀 Gyms can be challenging, but demonstrating excellence (e.g., offering helpful advice) is a great way to approach women without being intrusive.
• 😀 Dance instruction classes, like at Arthur Murray studios, are ideal places to meet women since the ratio of women to men is often very favorable.
• 😀 Dog parks offer a relaxed, social environment to meet women, especially when you’re spending time with a dog.
• 😀 While internet dating can be tough due to tough competition, it still works well when used to supplement real-world interactions.
• 😀 Internet dating is biased, often favoring taller men with six-figure incomes. To level the playing field, it’s okay to 'round up' your height or income when creating a profile.
• 😀 Don’t be afraid to use embellishments in your dating profile (e.g., rounding up your height or income) to make things fairer and more balanced.
• 😀 Successful internet dating involves creating a compelling profile with good photos, funny, light-hearted messages, and customizing responses based on the woman’s profile.
• 😀 Differentiation is key in online dating. Using unique, humorous approaches (e.g., suggesting an 'online marriage' joke) can get positive responses and help you stand out from the crowd.

Q & A

What is Dr. Sha Reed's primary message about meeting women?

Dr. Sha Reed emphasizes that there are plenty of opportunities to meet women if men are willing to put in effort and go beyond just relying on internet dating. He suggests a variety of real-world places such as supermarkets, coffee shops, gyms, dance studios, and dog parks as ideal locations.

How does Dr. Reed suggest starting a conversation with women in supermarkets?

Dr. Reed recommends using everyday situations, like commenting on the high cost of groceries, as conversation starters. For example, he suggests saying something like, 'Gosh, that $8 box of granola used to be $2. Isn't that crazy?'

Why are coffee shops considered good places to meet women?

Coffee shops provide a relaxed, social atmosphere where interactions are natural. Dr. Reed shares that he met his wife at Starbucks and used an approach called the 'jealous girlfriend opener' to start a conversation. The key is confidence and being approachable.

What is the 'demonstrating excellence' technique for meeting women in gyms?

In the gym, Dr. Reed suggests 'demonstrating excellence' by offering helpful advice or tips on exercises. For example, if a woman is struggling with her squat form, helping her improve it can serve as an opener and display your confidence and knowledge.

What makes dance studios a great place to meet women?

Dance studios often have a higher ratio of women to men, making them ideal for meeting potential partners. Dr. Reed recommends getting involved in dance classes as a way to interact with women in a fun and social setting.

How does Dr. Reed view dog parks as places to meet women?

Dr. Reed considers dog parks an excellent venue for meeting women, especially for pet owners. He shares personal experiences of dating women he met while spending time at the dog park during graduate school.

What is Dr. Reed’s opinion on internet dating?

Dr. Reed acknowledges the challenges of internet dating, particularly the competition. However, he encourages men to use dating apps to supplement their in-person encounters. He stresses the importance of not giving up on internet dating despite its flaws.

What strategies does Dr. Reed recommend to improve success on dating apps?

Dr. Reed advises men to optimize their profiles by rounding up their height and income, and to use a standard, lighthearted message that can be customized based on the woman’s profile. He emphasizes the importance of a strong profile picture and a genuine, engaging approach.

Why does Dr. Reed suggest rounding up numbers on dating apps, like height and income?

Dr. Reed recommends rounding up numbers as a way to level the playing field, given the biases of online dating platforms. He argues that this isn't dishonest, but a way to compensate for the stacked odds against men in these environments.

How does Dr. Reed approach sending messages to women on dating apps?

Dr. Reed uses a two-part approach: first, sending a standard, humorous message that he can customize, and second, carefully reading the woman's profile to tailor the message accordingly. He believes this saves time while still being personal.