Why You’re Lost & Directionless (and how to fix it)
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the common struggle of feeling lost and unmotivated, emphasizing the importance of self-improvement. It suggests a mindset shift to view problems as opportunities and quests rather than obstacles. The speaker advises starting with small, manageable tasks to gain experience and build habits, gradually tackling bigger challenges as confidence and skills grow. The script encourages viewers to identify and address their most meaningful problems, envisioning a better future and taking actionable steps to bridge the gap between their current and desired state.
Takeaways
- 🔍 Identifying Problems: Recognize the problems or obstacles that are holding you back in life and understand that they are opportunities for growth.
- 🛑 Stop Waiting for Signs: Stop waiting for external cues to start taking action; instead, take responsibility for your own self-improvement journey.
- 💡 Mindset Shift: Change your perspective to view problems as quests or challenges to be overcome, rather than insurmountable barriers.
- 📝 Awareness and Acknowledgment: Become aware of your problems and acknowledge them as the first step towards finding solutions.
- 🔑 Pinpoint the Most Meaningful Problems: Focus on the problems that, if solved, would have the most significant impact on your life.
- 🎯 Set Clear Goals: Define what your life would look like once the problems are solved, creating a clear vision of success.
- 🚀 Start Small: Begin with small, manageable tasks to build habits and gain experience (XP), gradually working up to more significant challenges.
- 🌱 Build Habits: Utilize the two-minute rule from 'Atomic Habits' to start building habits by making them easy to start and maintain.
- 📈 Gain Experience: Each problem solved is an opportunity to gain experience and 'level up', preparing you for bigger challenges.
- 🏆 Value the Journey: Understand that the process of overcoming problems is valuable, as it builds character and resilience.
- 💪 Commit to Action: Take consistent action towards solving your problems, as it is through action that you will see progress and change.
Q & A
What is the main mindset shift discussed in the video?
-The main mindset shift discussed is viewing problems as opportunities instead of obstacles, and approaching them proactively rather than avoiding them.
Why do people often feel lost and directionless?
-People feel lost and directionless because they are used to being told what to do by the education system and lack guidance in self-improvement, where they need to take initiative.
What is the significance of rephrasing problems as quests?
-Rephrasing problems as quests simplifies the approach to solving them by giving a clear goal and making the process feel more like a game with levels to conquer.
How does the speaker suggest identifying the most meaningful problems to solve?
-The speaker suggests writing down all problems and then pinpointing which ones would be most meaningful if solved, or which ones are holding you back the most.
What is the purpose of imagining the outcome of solving a problem?
-Imagining the outcome helps to visualize the benefits of solving the problem, providing motivation and a clear direction for the steps needed to solve it.
Why is it important to start with small problems to gain experience?
-Starting with small problems allows individuals to gain experience and build confidence, which is essential for tackling bigger challenges later on.
What is the 'two-minute rule' mentioned in the script?
-The 'two-minute rule' is a strategy from the book 'Atomic Habits' where a habit is made so easy that anyone can do it, making it simpler to build and maintain the habit.
How does the speaker describe the process of leveling up in life?
-The speaker describes leveling up as gaining experience and skills by solving problems, similar to gaining XP in a video game, which allows for tackling more significant challenges.
What advice does the speaker give for someone who wants to start a business but has other issues to address first?
-The speaker advises to first focus on self-improvement and solving personal issues like addiction to social media or poor health before attempting to start a business.
How does the speaker relate the process of self-improvement to a game?
-The speaker relates self-improvement to a game by suggesting that problems are like quests that need to be completed to level up, providing a sense of progression and achievement.
What is the value of tackling bigger problems or quests?
-Tackling bigger problems or quests is valuable because they require more action and effort, leading to significant personal growth and a sense of accomplishment.
Outlines
🔄 Overcoming Unmotivation and Embracing Problems as Opportunities
The speaker discusses the common struggle with feeling lost and unmotivated, suggesting a shift in mindset to view problems as opportunities. They share their personal journey of self-improvement, highlighting the importance of taking initiative and not waiting for external guidance. The key message is to reframe problems as 'quests', which simplifies the approach to tackling them. The speaker emphasizes the need to identify and understand the root causes of negative feelings and to prioritize solving the most impactful problems in one's life.
🎯 Setting Goals and Visualizing Success After Solving Problems
Building on the idea of problem-solving, the speaker advises to envision the outcome of solving these problems, essentially setting a clear goal or 'point B'. They suggest writing down the current state ('point A') and the desired state after addressing the issues. This exercise helps in creating direction and understanding the benefits of overcoming challenges. The speaker also touches on the importance of gaining experience and 'leveling up' through solving problems, recommending starting with small tasks to build momentum and gradually tackling larger issues.
💪 Incremental Progress and the Value of Overcoming Big Challenges
The speaker emphasizes the value of taking action and gaining experience through problem-solving, likening it to gaining 'XP' in a game. They argue that while small tasks are important for building habits and experience, it's the bigger challenges that offer more significant rewards and personal growth. The speaker encourages starting with small, manageable tasks to build up to tackling larger goals, using their own transformation from being skinny to fit as an example of incremental progress and the power of consistent effort over time.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Self-improvement
💡Motivation
💡Problems as Opportunities
💡Habit Tracker
💡Education System
💡Mindset Shift
💡Quests
💡Awareness
💡Lifechanging Problems
💡XP (Experience Points)
💡Atomic Habits
💡Leveling Up
Highlights
The importance of recognizing and addressing periods of feeling lost and unmotivated in life.
The role of self-improvement and the mindset shift required to view problems as opportunities.
The common issue of waiting for external signs or guidance instead of taking initiative in self-improvement.
The concept of reframing problems as 'quests' to make them more approachable and solve them proactively.
The necessity of becoming aware of one's problems and identifying their root causes.
Understanding that negative feelings are symptoms of larger, unresolved issues.
The strategy of pinpointing the most meaningful and life-changing problems to focus on solving.
The idea of visualizing the outcome of solving problems to gain clarity on the desired end state.
The process of gaining direction by identifying the current state and the desired future state.
The value of gaining purpose, direction, experience, and leveling up through problem-solving.
The practical advice of starting with small problems to gain experience and build up to tackling larger ones.
The analogy of life as a game where problems are quests that lead to personal growth and 'leveling up'.
The concept of 'XP gain' as a metaphor for personal growth and development through overcoming challenges.
The recommendation to start with small, manageable tasks to build habits and discipline.
The principle of the 'two-minute rule' from the book 'Atomic Habits' for habit formation.
The personal journey from being skinny to fit and the incremental steps taken to achieve it.
The emphasis on the value of bigger quests and the sacrifices required to achieve significant life goals.
The motivational message that the journey to success is a long-term commitment involving consistent effort.
The call to action for viewers to subscribe and engage with the content for further support and guidance.
Transcripts
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a lot of us have had periods where um we
feel lost and directionless you know
period periods where you feel
unmotivated and you kind of don't know
what to do and you're like all right
what's next for me like how do I solve
this how do I go ahead and get back to
solving my problems every day trying to
achieve my
goals um because ultimately that's what
we all want to do right that's what you
want to do you want to achieve your
goals and Achieve
success so I've had a lot of this um in
my journey of self-improvement I think
I've been on self-improvement for about
one and a half year now maybe two years
and I've always had these periods where
all of a sudden I just
feel lifeless you know like you you
slack off and all your habits like my
habit tracker has is all red and then it
just sucks and I've realized that a lot
of times a lot of us are waiting for
some type of sign someone telling us
when to start or what to do and that's
also because the way the education
system is programmed everything you're
used to being told what to do right all
your life you've been told what to do so
in self-improvement no one's telling you
what to do no one's really
standing behind you like screaming at
you now there is one main mindset shift
which I'm going to be talking about in
this video which you have to make um
that will change everything for you and
that is that you have to look at
problems as
opportunities you have to stop running
away from those problems and actually
running towards the problems because if
you don't do anything then it's not
going to solve itself right it's not
going to solve itself if you feel
unmotivated and you keep scrolling on
Tik Tok or you keep lying that in your
bed wondering why you're unmotivated
then you're not going to solve the
problem that's not how you should do
this so you have to re rephrase these
problems as quests because when you
rephrase these problems as quests then
it gets pretty simple it's a it's a
simple plan you have a problem then the
only thing you need is you need to find
how to solve the problem which accidents
you have to undergo to solve the problem
and the first step to doing this is you
have to become aware of your
problems why do you have your
problem now when you feel unmotivated
right when you feel unmotivated when you
feel um like you can't focus when you
feel bad in your own body you have to
figure out why am I having this and
those feelings those emotions those
negative feelings and emotions are
actually not the problem the negative
feelings and emotions are the symptoms
of a bigger problem
so because you're not solving the
problem the symptoms will only get worse
the longer the longer you don't solve
the problem the worse the symptoms will
get or the more symptoms will multiply
and the worse you'll feel so you have to
solve the problems as quick as possible
but first off you have to address what's
your problem now obviously there are so
many problems out there you can't solve
all the problems at once um so the first
step is to pinpoint the most meaningful
lifechanging problems if they were
solved so as actually will step write
down uh a bunch of your problems and
then write down which ones are the or
like underline which ones are the most
uh which ones will be the most
meaningful if you change them or you
have to pinpoint which problems are
holding you back the most so that could
be maybe you're constantly scrolling on
social media you're addicted to social
media maybe you're staying up late every
night which will cause you to uh not be
able to wake up every morning and you'll
just not be as effective overall or um
maybe you're struggling with mofab or
which will affect your self-image or
maybe you're just eating a bunch of
Foods your diet is completely out of
place or maybe you're being
undisciplined or you can't focus you
know there's so many problems out there
um that could be holding you back and
you have to pinpoint the exact ones
which one would make the most the most
difference if they were solved in your
life in your specific life so when we
apply that mind shift change change that
I talked about now you have these
problems right they're not actually
problems they're simp they're quests and
like like I guess like The Game of Life
or whatever right if you look at life as
a game now your problems are your quests
just like in video games you have
certain quests that you have to do and
then you level up but before we actually
go about leveling up and like solving
these problems solving these quests
first um we're going to write down what
your life would look like if the
problems or quests were um solved
so now you've got the problems written
down and you've underlined which ones
will change the life the your life the
most and on the other side of the paper
I don't know how you how you written it
down but however you've done that uh the
other side of the paper or like on the
bottom make a a separate section with um
the result like the result or the
outcome or like uh something like that
right if the problem was solved and
write down what your life would look
like so maybe now instead of being
skinny you're um is you don't like how
you look the result is or the um solved
version is you look jacked right or
you're you're lonely you've got the girl
or um you know you're focused of I mean
you you have brain fog you're working
very focused on your business and making
progress in your business because you're
focused now right you have to you have
to
um imagine what your life would look
like if you um so solved the problem or
achieved the quest completed the task
and now what have we achieved in this
video right we have the problem and we
have the the um solved version so we
have a point a and a point B we have a
beginning a beginning and a destination
right the only thing that's missing is
is the middle right so now you have
Direction This is Direction because now
you you realize where you are and you
realize where you want to go that's
direction if you like videos like these
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could so they can make more
progress um but let's talk about how to
get from point A to point B right the
middle part we've got Direction you're
not lost anymore how do you get from
point A to point B first off what will
you achieve when you get from point A to
point B what will you gain in the
journey you'll gain purpose Direction
but also experience and I want to go in
a little deeper about this experience
because it's pretty important you're
basically leveling up right you're
leveling up you're gaining XP when you
solve these problems you gain
XP I guess that's a way you could look
at it you're gaining XP as you solve
problems
so you could start off with solving more
small problems because when you imagine
you try to solve the the hard the level
10 problem right the hardest problem and
you're at level one
it's just not really going to work maybe
you can like power through with
willpower but we're not talking about
that we're talking about what's
realistic you have to start with the
small problems and gain XP and then as
you level up you can go ahead and solve
the bigger problems go ahead and
complete the bigger um quests so my
advice would be to start small and work
up gain that XP and then work on the
bigger um quests so if you want to start
a business but you're still addicted to
social media and you have no mind power
and you're eating bad and you're like
not fit then bro don't work on your
business go level up first and then work
on your business try and make money so
as another example right start making
your bed every day start meditating for
3 minutes every day that's also how you
build habits something I learned in the
book called Atomic habits it's called
the two-minute rule where you basically
make uh a certain habit really easy so
anyone can meditate for 30 seconds if
you were to meditate for 30 seconds each
day then you get the habit of meditate
meditating and you might as well do 2
minutes or 3 minutes maybe five minutes
10 minutes right when you make something
really easy like this it's easier to
build up the Habit so uh start small and
build your way up uh gain some XP and
then you can work on the big bigger
problems like a business and that kind
of stuff right so I went from skinny to
Jack
and my point a was I was skinny I was
eating a bunch of but my metabolism
was fast so I stayed skinny but I was
skinny I I was unhealthy I ate I
didn't work out so my small tasks were
to eat some more protein right maybe get
a few push-ups in I started doing
push-ups every day which is a small
thing it's not like a big workout it's
not like now where I hit like three-h
hour workouts right if you told me in
that point a if in point a if you told
me to do a 4 Hour 4 Hour workout then
bro I'm not going to I'm not going I'm
not going to do that right but I
could do push-ups every day I could do a
15minute like 15minute ad workout that I
found on YouTube from like Chris Harry
or whatever and I was working up I was
gaining that XP
right leveling up leveling up leveling
up and now I'm at a like level 100 um
workout uh Quest and now those those
small tasks are super easy for me
they're they're they're minor right so
yeah I've got a little off topic but
what I was trying to say is that these
bigger um quests take a lot of action
take a lot of XP and that's also what
makes them more valuable than those
small tasks right building a successful
business is way more valuable as a quest
than making up your bed in the morning
right it's because it takes so much
action it takes so much so much takes so
much out of you to get there and that's
what gives you more value than those
smaller tasks but in order to get to
that those bigger tasks you have to do
the small tasks uh along the way so the
same goes for building a business as for
building a bigger Physique in order to
get gains you have to sacrifice and
level up because there's so many small
all the workouts they're all little
level UPS they're all little XP gains
and the same for building a business
when you work on that business you gain
XP but it takes years it takes it can
take years it takes
months years of sacrifice in order to
get to that level if it were easy then
everyone would do
it so that's what gives it value I hope
this video was um valuable to you uh if
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