Girl Chat | My Horrible Hinge Dating Stories + Dating In Atlanta Aint For The Weak!

Summary

In this episode of 'Vulnerable Talks', Victoria shares her humorous and sometimes cringe-worthy dating experiences, highlighting the miscommunications and misunderstandings that can occur in the online dating world. From being blocked unexpectedly to dealing with men who reveal their true colors too soon, Victoria's stories provide a candid look at the dating pool, encouraging viewers to share their own tales and perhaps find comfort in the shared absurdities of modern romance.

Takeaways

• 🎥 The video is an episode of 'Vulnerable Talks' hosted by Victoria, discussing her personal dating experiences.
• 💧 Victoria mentions she doesn't keep alcohol at home due to the negative effects it has on her the next day.
• 🌺 The video is sponsored by Dossier, a fragrance brand that offers luxury-inspired fragrances at a lower cost.
• 📞 Victoria shares her frustration with dating apps, particularly Hinge, where she has had more bad experiences than good.
• 🚫 She recounts a story of a man who blocked her after she expressed disinterest in a 'friends with benefits' relationship.
• 😡 Another man reacted aggressively when Victoria hung up on an unexpected call, showing a lack of understanding or patience.
• 🤔 Victoria reflects on her own storytelling skills and her desire to improve them to better communicate her experiences.
• 👥 She expresses a wish for a more positive outlook on dating, despite the negative experiences she has encountered.
• 💬 Victoria invites viewers to share their own dating stories in the comments section for a sense of community and shared experience.
• 😅 She tells a story of a man who lied about his job and living situation, which she found out when they met in person.
• 💭 The video concludes with Victoria considering the idea of hosting a live call-in segment for more interactive content with her audience.

Q & A

What is the main topic of Victoria's video?

The main topic of Victoria's video is her personal experiences with dating and the challenges she has faced.

Why does Victoria not keep alcohol in her house?

Victoria does not keep alcohol in her house because she finds that even a small amount can leave her feeling tired the next day, and she needs to be able to get up early.

What is the brand of fragrance Victoria mentions in the video?

Victoria mentions 'dossier', a fragrance brand that offers scents inspired by luxury fragrances.

What is the significance of the term 'friends, friends' used by one of Victoria's dating experiences?

The term 'friends, friends' is used by one of Victoria's dates to imply a 'friends with benefits' relationship, which Victoria was not interested in.

Why did Victoria decide to meet up with the Capricorn man after initially hesitating?

Victoria decided to meet up with the Capricorn man because the weather was nice and she felt they had been building a connection through consistent communication.

What was Victoria's reaction when the Capricorn man suggested they were 'friends, friends'?

Victoria was confused and clarified that she had never given the impression that she was interested in a 'friends with benefits' arrangement.

How did Victoria handle the situation when the Capricorn man blocked her after their conversation?

Victoria was surprised but ultimately felt it was for the best since they wanted different things and she could have just been friends with him.

What was Victoria's experience with the man who called her on a bad day?

Victoria had a bad day and received a call from a man she had forgotten about. She hung up on him, thinking it was a prank, and he reacted negatively, leading to Victoria blocking him after his aggressive text message.

Why did Victoria feel the man who called her had anger issues?

Victoria felt the man had anger issues because he reacted aggressively and cussed her out in a text message after she hung up on him, without knowing the context of why she did so.

What is Victoria's perspective on the dating experiences she has shared?

Victoria tries to maintain a positive outlook despite the negative experiences, focusing on the idea that there are still good people out there and that speaking negatively can attract more negativity.

What does Victoria suggest for her audience to do if they have similar stories?

Victoria encourages her audience to share their stories in the comment section, possibly for a future video feature, and considers the idea of an interactive girls' night or live call session.

Outlines

00:00

💔 Reflecting on Disappointing Dating Experiences

In this segment, the host, Victoria, introduces a video discussing her negative dating experiences. She apologizes for any background noise and explains her preference for water over alcohol during recording due to its lack of after-effects. The video is sponsored by Dossier, a fragrance brand offering luxury-inspired scents at a fraction of the cost. Victoria shares her intention to speak positively about dating despite her bad experiences, aiming to attract better outcomes. She invites viewers to share their stories in the comments section and mentions that many of her dating mishaps occurred through the Hinge app.

05:00

😤 Misunderstandings and Blocking on a Date

Victoria recounts a specific dating experience where she had a picnic with a man who had been consistently messaging her. However, when she suggested they meet, he revealed he was looking for a 'friends with benefits' arrangement, which she was not interested in. After expressing her disinterest in such a relationship, he ghosted her and eventually blocked her on both phone and Instagram. This story highlights a common theme of miscommunication and unmet expectations in the dating world.

10:02

😡 An Unexpected Call and Angry Reaction

In this paragraph, the host describes an unpleasant interaction with another dating prospect who had her phone number. After forgetting who he was and hanging up on him during a bad day, the man sent her a text expressing anger and resentment. Victoria emphasizes her lack of interest in someone who reacts so aggressively to a simple misunderstanding, blocking his number and reflecting on the prevalence of such behavior among men she has dated.

15:03

🤔 Deception and the Unraveling of a Date's Lies

Victoria shares a story of a man she met on a dating app who lied about his job, owning trucks, and having an apartment. They had a phone conversation where he claimed to work for a prestigious company and later suggested they meet up. During their date, he continued to weave a web of lies, even telling a liquor store employee that they were getting married. Eventually, it was revealed that he had been living in a hotel and had fabricated his entire life story to avoid being judged for his financial situation. The host expresses her disappointment and confusion over his dishonesty.

💌 Closing Thoughts and Engaging with the Audience

In the final paragraph, Victoria wraps up the video by expressing her love for her audience and considering the idea of an interactive session where she could call viewers and record their stories. She asks for feedback on this idea through the comments and shows appreciation for the viewers' engagement. She signs off with a request for green heart emojis, aligning with her outfit, and promises to connect in her next video.

Keywords

💡Vulnerable Talks

Vulnerable Talks appears to be the name of the video series where the speaker shares personal experiences. It is a platform for open and honest discussions, as indicated by the use of the word 'vulnerable'. In the script, the speaker introduces the video as 'another episode of vulnerable talks,' indicating that this is a recurring theme where she discusses personal topics.

💡Dating Experiences

Dating experiences are the central theme of the video, with the speaker sharing her personal stories of dating, both good and bad. The concept is integral to the video's narrative as it provides the context for the speaker's anecdotes and reflections. For example, she mentions 'talking about my horrible dating experiences' and shares specific stories of her encounters on dating apps.

💡Hinge

Hinge is a dating app mentioned in the script, which the speaker uses as a platform for meeting potential dates. It is relevant as it serves as the backdrop for the dating stories she shares. The speaker expresses her frustration with the quality of matches she encounters on Hinge, indicating that it is a significant aspect of her dating journey.

💡Consistency

Consistency is highlighted as an important aspect of communication in the dating context. The speaker appreciates when her matches on dating apps are consistent in their messaging, as it shows interest and investment in getting to know her. For instance, she mentions a match who 'would DM me every day,' which she initially interprets as a positive sign of consistency.

💡Friends with Benefits

The term 'friends with benefits' is used to describe a casual relationship where two friends engage in physical intimacy without a romantic commitment. In the script, the speaker recounts a misunderstanding with a match who expected this type of relationship, which she did not, leading to confusion and the end of their communication.

💡Ghosting

Ghosting refers to the act of suddenly cutting off all communication with someone without explanation. The speaker describes an experience where a match who was previously consistent in messaging her suddenly stopped all contact after she expressed disinterest in a 'friends with benefits' arrangement, illustrating the concept of ghosting.

💡Fragrance

The script mentions a sponsored segment about fragrances, specifically from the brand Dossier. The fragrances are described as being inspired by luxury scents but offered at a fraction of the cost. This keyword is relevant as it introduces a commercial aspect of the video and provides an example of a product endorsement.

💡Storytelling

Storytelling is a key aspect of the video, as the speaker aims to engage her audience by sharing personal anecdotes. She acknowledges her desire to improve her storytelling skills to better connect with her viewers. The script includes her reflections on her ability to tell stories, such as 'I'm really not that good at storytelling y'all, I'm trying to get better'.

💡Positive Outlook

A positive outlook is emphasized as a desirable mindset, especially in the context of dating and life experiences. The speaker discusses her efforts to maintain a positive attitude despite negative experiences, as she believes that focusing on the negative can attract more negativity. This concept is woven throughout the narrative as she shares her dating stories.

💡Lying

Lying is a theme that emerges in the speaker's dating stories, where she encounters individuals who are not truthful about their circumstances or intentions. For example, she shares an experience with a match who lied about owning an apartment and a car, which she finds confusing and disappointing, as honesty is an important value in her relationships.

💡Emotional Reactions

Emotional reactions are a significant part of the video, as the speaker recounts her feelings and the emotional responses of her matches during various dating scenarios. The script includes instances where she is surprised, confused, or disappointed by the actions of her dates, such as when a match reacts aggressively after she hangs up on him during a phone call.

Highlights

Introduction to 'Vulnerable Talks' with Victoria, a platform for open conversations.

Victoria apologizes for the sound of glass clinking, attributing it to her need for water during the video.

Mention of a preference to avoid keeping alcohol at home to ensure readiness for the next day.

Sponsorship disclosure for Dossier, a fragrance brand inspired by luxury fragrances.

Description of Dossier's affordable luxury-inspired fragrances compared to high-end brands.

Victoria's intention to share her dating experiences, both good and bad, for a relatable discussion.

A reflection on the tendency to remember negative dating experiences more vividly.

Victoria's commitment to speaking positively about dating to attract better experiences.

A humorous anecdote about a misunderstanding with a man who thought they had a 'friends with benefits' arrangement.

The unexpected reaction of being blocked by someone after a dating misunderstanding.

A discussion on the challenges of finding quality matches on dating apps like Hinge.

A story about a man who lied about his job and personal circumstances during a dating interaction.

An account of a date where the man falsely claimed they were engaged to a liquor store employee.

The revelation that the man had been living in a hotel and had lied about owning an apartment and trucks.

Victoria's idea of hosting an interactive 'girls night' via phone calls for sharing stories.

A call to action for viewers to share their stories in the comments for potential inclusion in future videos.

The video concludes with Victoria expressing love for her audience and teasing the next video.

Transcripts

why this man block me he blocked me not

saying you can't do it honey cuz you

know hey what's up D ladies welcome back

to another episode of vulnerable talks

with v AKA girl chats okay but if you're

new here hey girl hey my name is

Victoria make sure you guys hit that

subscribe button said you never miss

when I upload a video um and I'm sorry

if you hear the glass clinking

um I need my water okay cuz I'm about to

be doing a lot of talking cheers girl

okay I don't have any WI

or any type of liquor in the house I try

not to keep that stuff in the house

because I got to be able to get up in

the morning and I don't know what it is

the odor I get I cannot drink and get up

the next day I'll be tired I be I'll be

tired I don't care if it's one glass I

need to sleep in okay so we got water

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in today's video we are going to be

talking about my horrible dating

experiences okay I've had some good ones

along the way but you know how it go you

remember more of the bad ones it just

how it go um so yeah I'm just going to

tell you a couple I'm really not that

good at storytelling y'all I'm trying to

get better because I do have a lot of

things I want to talk to y'all about so

I just need to get better with it

thought we could just laugh at My Pain

girl maybe y'all can share some stories

Down Below in the comment section as

well cuz girl it has been rough out here

I see what people say there is a lot of

things that's not supposed to be in the

dating pool but you know I'm really

trying to get to the point where I speak

you know not negatively about it I want

to say good things like okay there is

still good men there is still people out

there that want the same things as me

I'm speaking it okay because if you keep

you know speaking negative things over

your life and your situations you're

going to keep attracting that so I'm

trying my best to stop doing that and I

wasn't like that for such a long time

but girl now that I have been out here

in these streets okay feeling like a

straight cat I have witnessed a lot okay

and and now I see now I see because I

used to be that girl like you know I

just have such a positive outlook on it

but once you had like so many different

experiences with people and you see how

people can be you be like ooh this is

what's out here like really but anyway I

digress so let's go ahead and get into

it if you do have a story you want to

share something funny something recently

that happened to you so we can talk in

the comments Kiki in the comments girl

leave your stuff down below because I

love to read y comments and I don't know

if I said it already but a lot of these

situations have came from dating men off

hinge I know I know sis do not come for

me cuz I know they call hinge unhinge

now it is so bad okay like I don't know

what happened cuz somebody was telling

me like years ago H was a really good

place to meet people and I was like okay

like I'mma give it a

try m m I don't know what it is maybe

I'm like on the wrong hinge I don't know

or maybe I need to pay for it I don't

know but where where y'all meeting these

people at cuz I see success stories all

the time with people dating people off a

hinge getting married having kids you

know what I'm saying white pck fence and

everything I don't know I I don't know

where yall find these people I do have a

lot of matches

but they're not like of quality a lot of

them just want one thing for me and I'm

sure you guys can guess what that is I'm

trying to figure out what's on my

profile to make you think I want to deal

with you like I'm just trying to figure

out so anyway um I'm going tell you

about the two recent ones that just

happened I have tons of stories like and

now that I think about it my last

relationship was from hinge okay so if

y'all see my last

video then yeah you seen what I kind of

put up with I have match with this guy

or whatever first of all he who's a

Capricorn I don't really do Capricorns

not really my thing um my dad is a

Capricorn I feel like my dad is the only

man Capricorn I'm ever going to like

love in my life

because I'm an Aries it just doesn't go

right together he was so consistent

would DM me every day okay like hey what

you doing what's up like just so

consistent and I'm thinking like okay we

cool like we vibing we building

something you know and I had called him

one day it was like really nice outside

I was like oh yeah we should meet up cuz

he tried to meet up with me before but I

was like you know what I want to get to

know you a little bit more I don't want

to just meet up right away but I was

like you know

what let's just meet up he was like

let's go to the park we'll have a picnic

blah blah blah blah so anyways I had

called him one day to like do that cuz

it was nice outside and I was like okay

we might as well do it today if you're

available we sitting there talking

trying to plan stuff out and this [ __ ]

going to ask o can I say that and this

man going to ask me so we'll be doing

after and I'm like going home like what

else is we going to do like I'm confused

you know he was like Oh I thought we

were going to be like friends friends

and I'm like what you mean friends

friends he was like you know and I'm

like friends with benefits like friends

and doing other things he was like yeah

I thought she was on that I'm like when

did I ever give the impression that I

was on that I never said that that's

what I wanted from you never ever ever a

long story short he ended up um not

meeting me that day of course he was

like oh I'll hit you up later whatever

whatever and I was like telling him like

if you going to be on that we could just

be friends like I'm not trying to do

that like I don't mind just tying you as

a friend I'm cool with that but girl he

was not okay with that why this man

block me he blocked me he blocked me on

my phone number and he blocked me on

Instagram I'm

like I I had no idea that that's what he

wanted from me I had no idea that that's

what we were getting to um but in his

mind that's what was happening and the

fact that you blocked me after that is

crazy but it's cool though because we

didn't want the same things anyway but

we could have been friends like you was

real cool but I was just like that's

crazy you wasted all your time hitting

me up every day asking me how I'm doing

trying to see me constantly getting my

number getting my Instagram like to just

ghost me like it was so weird but I'm

like you know what it's cool cuz we was

not on the same page anyway okay so yeah

that happened

y'all this next one just happened to me

the other day and it happened on the

worst day y'all oh my God I was having

such a bad day I just was not in the

mood and I have forgot that I had gave

this guy my number and this was like

mind you maybe like a week or two ago

I'm not thinking about you no more dude

he's obviously not consistent so I'm not

remembering who this man is so anyway he

up calling me and I'm like hello he's

like he's like hello and I'm like who is

this he was like oh this is such and

such and I'm

like come again like I don't know who

you are so anyway I was busy and I was

having a bad day I would I man I end up

hanging up on him because I didn't know

who it was I'm like I feel like

somebody's playing on my phone I'm

hanging up so anyway girl why he text me

this I'm just going to put it up on the

screen what are you talking about Sir

first of all I don't even remember who

you are cuz if you got my number you

should have been called me so I can

remember who you are especially like

when you're on dating apps and stuff

usually I don't give my number out I

have only given my number to like a

select few but if you don't hit me up

within like that day or a couple days I

don't remember you you know what I'm

saying I forgot I gave you my number cuz

usually once I give people my number I

unmatch them

so I I don't know you so anyway the fact

that he went off on me like that like a

whole female he was really his feelings

was crazy and he's talking about he

dodged a bullet no I dodged a bullet

with you sir because the fact that you

would go off on me just like that you

don't know my phone could have died

something could happen to me and you're

going off on me because the phone cut

off granted I did hang up on him but he

don't know that he don't know that so

from that text message I was like oh

absolutely not I blocked his number I

was like first of all the audacity is

crazy crazy because you don't even know

me you have no idea what I'm going

through what nothing so yeah obviously

you have anger problems sir and I don't

need to deal with you so I am happy that

I seen your true colors

right away thank you Jesus okay I don't

know what is going on with these men

these days like he was really mad like

granted but you know I was going to say

granted I didn't hang up on him but he

don't even know that I hung up on him

anything could have happened anything

could have happened okay so yeah that

was that but yeah girl it happened on

such a bad day too like I was having a

really rough day I got the messages

after he called I was just

like like why why okay like maybe text

me and say hey you good or hey what

happened maybe um you know not cuss me

out though I wasn't thinking he would do

that even if he would have text me and

said something I would have been like oh

I'm sorry I didn't know it was you send

me a picture what something you know

what I'm saying but he went to straight

cussing me out and I was just like wow

like that has never happened to me

before and I don't know you guys for

some reason lately like this is like a

little side note I just have not been

wanting to like date or go nowhere or

talk to anybody like I have not been in

a head space to even get my energy to

anybody so yeah when he called me I was

just

not I wasn't in the right head space

yeah that was weird that's weird let's

see what else can I tell y'all I have a

whole bunch of stories some of them I

can't tell y'all though

because it it it's bad I feel like I

wish I had like a private group video

video chat something for that we will

have to be in private girl not on this

whole internet Beyonce's internet as y

like to say because baby if I say that

out

loud I would probably be embarrassed too

but girl I've had some situations ooh I

got a good one this happened a minute

ago so I'm trying to think of the

details but long story short we end up

matching we were talking vibing he was

really consistent remember the first

time we got on the phone and he was

telling me like what he do for living he

was telling me that he worked for

Amazon like some type of Amazon

warehouse he said this fancy big name

and he was like do you know what that is

and I'm like no never heard of it um and

he was like oh it's this this and that

this is what I do blah blah blah so I'm

like okay cool he thought he was doing

something he was like yeah I do blah

blah blah blah and I'm like cool okay

glad you're making money glad you're

able to take care of yourself and me

eventually but anyways one day he had

textt me he was like what you doing and

I'm like nothing chilling or whatever

and I was like you know I'm kind of

tired of texting let's get on the phone

like cuz he was always texting me a lot

so we got on the phone and I noticed

like I could tell he was in the car I'm

like oh what you got going on where you

going and he was like oh I'm in it was

like a whole different state or whatever

he was like oh I'm driving my truck to

so and so and I'm like driving your

truck like I was really confused at

first I thought he was talking about

like a regular truck I didn't know he

was talking about like you know one of

them the big old truck because he told

me he did something else for a living

and so I was like okay he was telling me

Oh I own like three trucks and blah blah

blah blah blah bracking like he was with

the first job I'm like okay whatever he

come back here he was like hey let's

meet up I'm back in Atlanta I'm going to

take you to dinner blah blah blah so we

end up meeting up and I met him at this

cigar bar restaurant I actually called

him when I got to the restaurant and the

man came out to my car so I was was like

I thought we were having dinner like

what happened I don't know anyway I just

was like let me just go with it I think

I was like let's go get something to

drink you know it was a weekend I just

wanted to have a drink or whatever so we

end up going to get something to drink

y'all when we got to the liquor

store this man embarrassed me so bad so

we walked into the liquor store and you

know how like the people that work the

liquor store they're always like really

talkative you know very friendly want to

have a conversation and this man

oh my God this man tells the guy that

works at the liquor store that we're

getting married he was like yeah we

already have a venue picked out um we're

doing X Y and Z here's our colors like

going into extreme detail it was the

weirdest thing with the straightest look

on his face and I'm looking at him like

bombastic side eye this is our first

kind of date you know what I'm saying

like what are you doing I was just like

we're not we're we're not doing that you

need to go with it go with it like he

was so into it he wanted me to go with

it like if we were talking and we were

like to that level I wouldn't mind like

you know Road playing with stuff like

that because I could see how that could

be fun you know to mess with people in

that way but I was just like you're

being weird you're being weird and it

just threw me off cuz I was just like no

so anyways we end up leaving the liquor

store and he was like oh um I'm staying

at a hotel cuz I was asking him like oh

where's your apartment what part of the

city you live in blah blah blah blah he

was like oh I'm staying at a hotel and

I'm like why are you staying at a hotel

he was like oh because my I just moved

into my apartment I don't have any

furniture I don't have a couch or

anything like that so if we go there

you're just going to be standing up and

blah blah blah so I'm like okay whatever

girl come to find out the man was living

in a hotel the entire time never had an

apartment never had a car lied to me

about every I mean everything it was the

weirdest thing so I'm like why would you

tell me this stuff off rip he was like

well I didn't want you judging me I

didn't want you to think I was broke or

I didn't have any money or I'm

like why lie though like why make me

think one thing and you're not that like

I just it's not adding up I hope that

you guys enjoyed this video and that you

guys got a nice little laugh out of my

stories okay if you have a good story

too leave it down below in the comments

maybe I'll feature it in a video I don't

know I'm really thinking about doing

like a live not live but like where I

call you guys on the phone and then like

I record it like I'm doing now I feel

like that would be really really nice

kind of have like an interactive girls

night or I could go live and do it what

y'all think let me know in the comments

down below okay so anyways you guys I

love you guys so much if you guys want

it to end of this video put let me see

put a green heart and the Emojis okay

because I have a green dress on okay

with that being said I love you guys so

much and I will talk to you guys in my

next one bye