If You’re Longing for More than This
Summary
TLDRIn this video, Jackie and Bobby from Ascension Presents explore the concept of 'longing'—the unquenchable desire for something more profound than earthly satisfaction. They discuss how this ache can be a sign of being made for a higher purpose, drawing on insights from C.S. Lewis and Saint Augustine. The video offers constructive ways to deal with this longing, such as prayer, self-awareness, community, physical activity, and service, emphasizing that the ultimate satisfaction lies in the eternal embrace of God's infinite love.
Takeaways
- 😔 The script discusses the universal human experience of longing and the 'ache' for something more than what can be found on earth.
- 🌏 C.S. Lewis is quoted to suggest that desires that cannot be satisfied on earth indicate that humans are made for another world.
- 💔 The feeling of longing persists even in fulfilling life circumstances like marriage, indicating it is a deeper spiritual need.
- 🕊 Saint Augustine's quote is used to express that our hearts find rest only in God, suggesting the ache is a sign of our divine purpose.
- 👥 The speaker emphasizes the importance of community and good friends in dealing with the ache of longing.
- 🙏 Prayer is presented as a constructive way to address the ache, by opening one's heart to God and expressing the deep desire for connection.
- 🏃♂️ Engaging in physical activities like hiking or surfing is suggested as a healthy outlet for the energy associated with the ache.
- 🤔 The script encourages self-awareness to identify and replace unhealthy coping mechanisms with healthier ones.
- 🙅♀️ Distraction through social media, entertainment, and other means is warned against as it does not address the underlying ache.
- 💖 Serving others is highlighted as a way to experience God and satisfy the ache, as it involves selfless giving and recognizing God's presence in others.
- 📚 The speaker references the 'Song of Songs' to illustrate that moments of divine connection are fleeting on earth but eternal in heaven.
Q & A
What is the main theme discussed by Jackie and Bobby in the video?
-The main theme discussed by Jackie and Bobby is the concept of 'longing' or 'ache' for something more in life that cannot be satisfied on earth, and how this longing is related to our spiritual journey.
What did C.S. Lewis suggest about the unquenchable desires within us?
-C.S. Lewis suggested that if we have desires that cannot be satisfied by earthly things, the most logical explanation is that we were made for another world.
How does Jackie describe the feeling of 'ache' in the context of the video?
-Jackie describes the 'ache' as a deep sense of emptiness or longing that cannot be satisfied by anything on earth, experienced by melancholics and romantics.
What does Saint Augustine's quote imply about the human condition?
-Saint Augustine's quote implies that humans are restless and will not find true satisfaction until they find their rest in God, as they were made for God.
How does Jackie relate her personal experience with the concept of 'ache'?
-Jackie shares that even after getting married to an amazing man, the 'ache' or longing still exists, indicating that only God can truly satisfy it.
What does the speaker in the video suggest about the purpose of the 'ache'?
-The speaker suggests that the 'ache' is a divine invitation to seek God more deeply and to recognize that true satisfaction lies beyond earthly experiences.
What does Pope Benedict XVI describe as the ultimate satisfaction in eternal life?
-Pope Benedict XVI describes eternal life as the supreme moment of satisfaction where we are embraced by totality and in turn embrace it, experiencing an overwhelming joy in the ocean of infinite love.
What are some of the destructive ways people try to fill the 'god-shaped hole' according to the video?
-Some destructive ways mentioned include using alcohol, drugs, sex, pornography, and endless distractions like social media to numb the 'ache' or longing.
What constructive actions are suggested in the video to deal with the feeling of 'ache'?
-The video suggests praying sincerely, knowing oneself and one's unhealthy coping mechanisms, surrounding oneself with good community, engaging in physical activities, sitting in silence, and serving others as constructive actions.
How does the video relate the act of serving to experiencing God?
-The video relates serving to experiencing God by stating that serving others allows us to become a sincere gift of self, which in turn helps us to encounter God and find fulfillment beyond our own needs.
What does the video suggest about the role of community in dealing with the 'ache'?
-The video suggests that having a good community is essential, whether one is single or married, as it provides support and a sense of belonging, which can help in dealing with the 'ache'.
Outlines
💙 The Eternal Longing for More
In the first paragraph, Jackie and Bobby from Ascension Presents explore the concept of 'longing' and 'ache' for something more than what can be found on Earth. They reference C.S. Lewis and Saint Augustine, suggesting that this unfulfilled desire is a sign that we are meant for another world, and it is God's gift to us to always seek more. They discuss how even in fulfilling life events like marriage, the ache for something greater remains, as only God can truly satisfy it. The paragraph also touches on the idea that our generation is burdened by the belief that life is meaningless and that we must create our own purpose, which contrasts with the human experience of having a mission and a calling. The ache is described as a divine invitation to a deeper relationship with God, and the paragraph ends with a reference to the Song of Songs, indicating that the ultimate satisfaction of this longing is found in heaven.
🙏 Coping with Longing Through Prayer and Community
The second paragraph focuses on constructive ways to deal with the 'ache' of longing for God. It emphasizes the importance of genuine prayer, where one can express their deepest desires and feelings to God, even in the solitude of nature. The paragraph also highlights the need for self-awareness to recognize and replace unhealthy coping mechanisms with healthier ones. The value of surrounding oneself with good friends and community is underscored, as it provides support and examples of good relationships. Engaging in physical activities like hiking or surfing with others is suggested as a way to channel the energy associated with longing. The paragraph also discusses the significance of serving others as a means to experience God's presence and to grow in holiness. It concludes with a reminder that we should not run from the ache but embrace it as a call to desire God more deeply, using our experiences to serve and minister to others.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Longing
💡Ache
💡Desire
💡Melancholics
💡Romantics
💡Vocation
💡Religious Life
💡Consecrated Life
💡Celibate
💡Eros
💡Destructive Coping Mechanisms
💡Constructive Coping Mechanisms
💡Service
💡Consume Catholicism
Highlights
The concept of 'longing' and 'ache' for something more than earthly satisfaction is discussed.
C.S. Lewis's perspective that an insatiable desire may indicate being made for another world is presented.
The idea that God has given us a never-ending desire as a gift is introduced.
The experience of 'ache' persisting even in fulfilling life circumstances like marriage is shared.
Saint Augustine's quote about the heart's restlessness until it rests in God is mentioned.
The challenge of finding meaning and purpose in a universe perceived as meaningless is discussed.
The notion that nothing on earth can satisfy the 'ache' is explored.
Pope Benedict XVI's description of eternal life as the ultimate moment of satisfaction is cited.
Destructive ways to cope with the 'ache' such as substance abuse and distractions are warned against.
The importance of prayer and connecting with God in moments of longing is emphasized.
Recognizing and avoiding unhealthy coping mechanisms is suggested as a constructive approach.
The necessity of community and good friends in dealing with the 'ache' is highlighted.
The role of physical activity as a healthy outlet for dealing with the 'ache' is mentioned.
Sitting in silence and allowing God to fill the 'ache' is recommended as a spiritual practice.
The transformative power of serving others as a way to encounter God is discussed.
The idea that God wants us to desire Him more and to be brave in facing the 'ache' is presented.
The transcript concludes with an encouragement to not run from the 'ache' but to let God fill it through service and desire for Him.
Transcripts
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[Music]
hey we're jackie and bobby with
ascension presents and today we're
talking about what do you do with your
longing what do you do with that ache
for more what do you do with that
desire that cannot be satisfied here on
earth okay so what do we mean by the
ache what do we
mean by longing i would say this is one
is for all the melancholics and the
romantics out there
who just they have that again that that
emptiness almost that like nothing on
earth will satisfy
and c.s lewis put it pretty bluntly when
he said if you have all these desires
for earthly things and they can be
satisfied but you have something within
that cannot
the most logical explanation is that you
were made for another world
and i think this is the gift that god
has given us that we're never satisfied
here we never think
this is it i've made it there's always
this longing there's always this
desire for something more and we can run
unhealthy things
to fill that up to meet that need or we
can run to healthy things
and sometimes i know sometimes when i
was single i thought oh
if i only get married that ache will go
away
well guess what i married an amazing man
who i love you're my best friend the
theology of the bobby
but guess what even in marriage that
ache still exists because
only god can satisfy that ache as saint
augustine said you have made us for
yourself o lord and our hearts are
restless until they rest in you
so everybody has that ache do not think
that
all of sudden like when you're in your
vocation that's going to go away no
that's not true
um because even in marriage even if you
are called to the religious life the
consecrated life celibate
i mean you're still going to experience
that ache i think our generation really
likes that saint augustine quote because
we've been either directly or indirectly
uh brought up with this understanding of
the universe is meaningless
and you make your own purpose and you
make your own
plan of life and that's a heavy burden
to carry first of all
but it also doesn't resonate again with
that human experience that no i am made
for a mission and a purpose
and a vocation a call and so i'm
restless
within anything else that again doesn't
satisfy that ache
because the the frustrating thing is
that nothing on
earth will and even good things again
when you're in
your a marriage with an amazing person
when you're in a great job when you've
just kind of come off an amazing retreat
or conference and you just
feel god's grace sometimes there's that
and there's that pit of like but it
can't last forever the mountaintop
experience can't last forever here on
earth
and that's frustrating and i remember
asking a speaker one time
why would god give us that like what's
the point of that
and he directed me to the song of songs
and this is so from the song of songs
chapter 5
i opened to my beloved but my beloved
had turned and gone
my soul failed me i found him not i
called him but he gave no answer
i am sick with love you know i will say
there are times and moments on earth
where you do feel that
who that grace that love you just want
to sit there you want to marinate in it
forever
but the only place where it's going to
last forever is
heaven that's the only so on earth we're
going to have moments of that
experiences of that beauty
that truth that goodness that's that
eros that longing um
for god and there will be moments when
we experience like
ugh like that grace but it's not the
only place where it's actually going to
last for all of eternity is in heaven
and pope benedict xvi described that
eternal life that state that god willing
awaits us as the supreme
moment of satisfaction in which totality
embraces us and we embrace
totality it will be like plunging into
the ocean of infinite love
a plunging ever anew into the vastness
of being
in which we are simply overwhelmed with
joy okay but brass tacks so we have this
longing
it won't be satisfied on this side of
heaven so what do we do with that i
think there are
destructive ways we can try to fill that
god-shaped hole and we all know
right we all know what those are yeah i
mean anything that's trying to numb that
anything that's trying to numb the ache
is on automatic like
alcohol drugs sex pornography i mean
just like every
we we try it all you guys it's like we
we try for these moments
of like just happiness to like to just
get rid of that pain that ache
just endless distraction endless
entertainment social media
endless scrolling so like that i don't
have to confront
that um the ache within and a priest
friend of mine told me years ago that
loneliness is is god knocking on the
door of your heart
it's the god who wants to spend time
with you and so what are some
constructive things to do when you're
having that moment of the the ache and
the longing has reared its head first of
all pray like
really pray not just like again
kind of formulaic cheesy like open your
heart open your heart to god
go on a walk go somewhere where people
aren't around
and just let out that cry you know
scream in the middle of the woods if you
need to that ache for god to be known
for the beloved to see you
to feel the consolation so you're
directing it
to god know thyself also know where you
tend to run to
unhealthy coping mechanisms and how you
can substitute those
for some healthy ones there another way
is it's so
important to surround ourselves with
good friends good people
because if you are single you absolutely
need good community if you're married
you kind of have built in community
um but when you're single you and this
is why people religious life
like they live in community you need
humans
we right like you can only find yourself
in being a sincere gift of self and that
means you need to be surrounded by
people
and so i know when i was single when you
were single we had good
we have we still have great friends um
but for me when i was single i was like
i want married couples in my life to
show me what a good marriage looks like
i also want good single friends so
i made sure i was like i need community
because i can't do this on my own and
you need sometimes people just to talk
if you're more active again exercise
hiking
surfing and that you can do with other
people
too i think is a great constructive way
to
to get that energy out there to get that
again the angst and
the ache and all that and again to
realize when it's it can become coping
mechanisms
and i'm just trying to distract myself
and hide versus
entering into it and even stuff you can
do silently
so you can sit in that silence and be
stretched because
the song of songs it talks about that
stretching of love is that
god is saying you don't desire me enough
and i'm
out of love not to toy with you out of
love i'm gonna make you sit in this
stretch and out of the agony comes the
ecstasy
it's not it's not this thing that lasts
forever it's just god wants
god doesn't he says we don't long for
him enough
it's okay to feel that pain yeah it's
okay to sit in that
and that ache who it's hard to sit in
there because again we just want to run
to something else to like numb it or to
forget about it and
just sit there in that ache that pain
that loneliness and allow god to fill it
the last thing
is to serve because again you can only
find yourself in becoming a sincere gift
of self gowdy misspells 24.
a lot of us it's built in our vocations
like as parents we're
constantly serving constantly serving
our children like wiping their
butts and like food all the time it's
like
constantly dying to self but that's like
literally how you grow
and how um you that ache like
you experience god because we can become
so self-centered focused so me focused
so selfie
culture focused that we forget that
serving is such a huge
part um and so and you will experience
god in
serving for sure as jeff cavin says
we're all tempted to just consume
catholicism
and think we're doing catholicism like
these videos and podcasts and articles
and books are great for our formation
but it needs to always be so that we can
go out
and serve and minister to others and
there
god again wants to fill that ache by
recognizing like
be my hands and feet be in the world for
me
don't run from the ache god wants you to
desire him
more and more and more so be brave sit
in that we're jacking bobby from all of
us at ascension presents
god bless
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