Episode 7 - Do Girls Like Gifts?

Summary

In this video, Nuclear Kalio discusses the nuances of gift-giving in romantic relationships. He emphasizes that while gifts can be appreciated, they should not lead the way in dating. Kalio suggests that gifts should be appropriate to the stage of the relationship and the person involved, cautioning against expensive gifts early on. He highlights the importance of not being seen as an 'easy mark' and stresses that a gift's value is greatly enhanced when it comes from a man a woman is attracted to, rather than one who simply has money to spend.

Takeaways

• 🎁 Women's appreciation for gifts is conditional and depends on the giver and the context of the relationship.
• 💰 Leading with gifts or money can be perceived as a lack of confidence and may not attract genuine respect or interest from women.
• 🛍️ The culture of gifting, especially by 'sugar daddies,' has become normalized, but it doesn't necessarily equate to genuine affection or attraction.
• 🚫 Avoid leading with gifts early in dating as it can signal that you're an 'easy mark' and not a challenge, which may reduce attraction.
• 👫 The appropriateness of a gift is tied to the stage and nature of the relationship; it should not be given unless there's a clear connection and understanding between both parties.
• 🤔 Consider the type of gift and its timing; for instance, intimate gifts like lingerie may not be suitable for early stages of dating or without a sexual relationship.
• 🔄 Gifts should be reciprocal and reflect a balance in the relationship; one-sided gifting can indicate a lack of genuine interest or commitment.
• 🌟 The value of a gift is often overshadowed by the perceived value of the giver; a gift from someone a woman is attracted to holds more worth than an expensive gift from someone she's not.
• 🤝 A gift's significance is enhanced by the relationship's intimacy and the woman's loyalty and commitment to the giver.
• 💬 Social media can sometimes distort the importance of gifts, with women sometimes prioritizing showing off material gifts over acknowledging the giver.
• 📈 The speaker emphasizes the importance of personal charm and connection over material wealth when it comes to attracting and maintaining a woman's interest.

Q & A

What is the main topic discussed in the video script?

The main topic discussed in the video script is whether women like gifts and how this can affect relationships, particularly in the context of dating dynamics.

What is the first question one should ask themselves when considering if women like gifts?

The first question one should ask is whether the likability of gifts depends on who is giving them, highlighting the importance of the giver's identity in the gift-giving context.

Why might a woman not respect a man who frequently gifts her expensive items?

A woman might not respect a man who frequently gifts her expensive items because she may see him as trying to 'buy' her affection or attention, rather than earning it through genuine connection and personality.

What is the advice against doing on a first date according to the script?

The advice against doing on a first date is leading with gifts or taking a woman to an expensive dinner, as it may portray the man as 'easy' with his resources and not attractive to women.

What type of date is suggested as a better alternative to an expensive dinner for a first date?

A coffee date or meeting for drinks is suggested as a better alternative for a first date, focusing on time and attention rather than spending a lot of money.

What is the significance of giving a gift that is appropriate to the timeline of the relationship?

The significance of giving a gift appropriate to the timeline of the relationship is to ensure that the gift is meaningful and not perceived as possessive or out of place, which can enhance the connection between the giver and receiver.

Why might giving lingerie as a gift be considered inappropriate in certain stages of a relationship?

Giving lingerie as a gift might be considered inappropriate in the early stages of a relationship or before being sexually intimate, as it can come off as presumptuous or possessive.

What is the term 'Skittles man' mentioned in the script, and what does it imply?

The term 'Skittles man' refers to a man who is so attractive and important in a woman's life that even a simple, inexpensive gift like a pack of Skittles would be highly valued and appreciated.

What is the importance of a woman qualifying for a man's attention and gifts according to the script?

The importance of a woman qualifying for a man's attention and gifts is to ensure that the man's resources are not wasted on someone who may not be genuinely interested or committed to him.

What is the advice regarding giving gifts to a woman who has been generous to you?

The advice is that if a woman has been generous and thoughtful with her gifts, it is appropriate to reciprocate with a thoughtful gift on special occasions, as a way of rewarding good behavior and showing appreciation.

What is the warning about women who may brag about gifts on social media but not acknowledge the giver?

The warning is that if a woman brags about gifts on social media without acknowledging the giver, it may indicate that she values the material gift more than the relationship, which can be a red flag for the giver.

Outlines

00:00

🎁 The Complexity of Gifting in Relationships

Nuclear Kalio discusses the nuanced topic of gifting in romantic relationships, emphasizing that it's not a straightforward yes-or-no question. He suggests that the appropriateness of gifts depends significantly on the giver and the nature of the relationship. Kalio warns against leading with gifts, as it can undermine one's attractiveness by signaling desperation or an 'easy mark.' He also touches on the idea that women may not respect men who are overly generous with resources early in a relationship, as it removes the element of challenge and mystery.

05:01

🛍️ The Timing and Appropriateness of Gifts

Continuing the conversation on gifting, Kalio highlights the importance of timing and appropriateness when giving gifts to women. He shares personal anecdotes to illustrate the point, such as giving a playful sticker as a gift after establishing a connection. Kalio advises against giving extravagant gifts like lingerie early in a relationship, as it can come off as possessive or inappropriate. He stresses the need to understand the type of woman one is dealing with and to ensure that gifts are suitable for the stage of the relationship.

10:02

💎 The Value of Gifts from an Alpha vs. a Beta

Kalio delves into the concept that the value of a gift is significantly influenced by the perceived 'alpha' or 'beta' status of the giver. He argues that a gift from an alpha male, even something as simple as a flower, can hold more worth than an expensive gift from a beta male. This is attributed to the alpha's perceived leadership and game, which makes even small gestures feel more meaningful. Kalio also touches on the pitfalls of men who lead with money due to a lack of social skills or 'game', which can result in being categorized as a sugar daddy or not being taken seriously in a relationship.

15:04

🤔 The Conundrum of Gifting and Social Media

In this section, Kalio addresses the issue of women receiving gifts and then showcasing them on social media, often with little acknowledgment of the giver. He criticizes this behavior as a sign of misplaced priorities and a misuse of the sentimental value of gifts. Kalio suggests that such actions can devalue the relationship and the man's efforts, turning gifts into mere social currency rather than tokens of affection and appreciation.

20:05

🎉 The Importance of Gifting as a Reward for Qualification

Kalio discusses the idea of gifting as a reward for a woman who has shown genuine interest and effort in the relationship. He differentiates between obligatory gifting and giving a gift out of appreciation. Kalio shares personal experiences where thoughtful gifts from women have led him to reciprocate in kind, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and rewarding good behavior in a relationship.

25:06

🚫 Setting Boundaries on Gifting Expectations

In the final paragraph, Kalio sets clear boundaries on when and how to give gifts in a relationship. He warns against giving in to the pressure of cultural expectations or the desire to impress. Kalio stresses the importance of ensuring that any gift given is deserved and that the woman in question has demonstrated loyalty and commitment. He encourages viewers to maintain a cautious approach to gifting until a solid foundation of trust and exclusivity has been established.

Keywords

💡Gifts

Gifts in the context of the video refer to material items given to women by men, often as a sign of affection or to express interest. The video discusses the implications of giving gifts, suggesting that they should not be the leading factor in attracting a woman and that their appropriateness depends on the stage of the relationship. For example, the script mentions 'expensive dinners' and 'expensive purses' as gifts that may not always lead to respect or attraction.

💡Lose Frame

Losing frame in the video script refers to losing control or the upper hand in a social interaction, particularly in the context of dating. It implies that a man might appear weak or desperate if he gives gifts with the expectation of winning a woman's affection, which could negatively affect his social standing in her eyes. The term is used when discussing the potential pitfalls of gift-giving.

💡Sugar Daddy

A 'Sugar Daddy' is a term used to describe an older, wealthy man who provides financial support or luxury gifts to a younger woman in exchange for companionship or a romantic relationship. The video mentions the 'sugar daddy and gifting culture' to illustrate how some women may view men who lavish them with gifts, potentially leading to a power imbalance in the relationship.

💡Challenge

In the script, 'challenge' relates to the idea that women are attracted to men who are not easily won over or acquired. It suggests that if a man gives away his resources too easily, he may be perceived as less attractive because he does not present a challenge. The concept is used to explain why men should not lead with gifts when dating.

💡Resources

Resources in this video refer to the wealth, time, attention, or material possessions that a man might offer to a woman. The script warns against giving away these resources too easily, as it could diminish a man's perceived value in the eyes of a woman. The term is used to emphasize the importance of not being too generous without establishing a connection first.

💡First Date

The term 'first date' is used in the script to discuss the appropriate behavior when meeting a woman for the first time. It suggests that men should not spend a lot on the first date, such as taking a woman to an expensive dinner, as it might signal that they are 'easy marks' and not worth the pursuit. Instead, the focus should be on personality and charm.

💡Personality

Personality is highlighted in the video as the most important attribute a man should lead with when dating. It is suggested that one's charm and personality are more valuable than material gifts and should be the primary means of attracting a woman. The script contrasts personality with the act of giving gifts, which should not be the first impression made.

💡Timeline

The 'timeline' of a relationship refers to the progression of the relationship over time. The video mentions that gifts should be appropriate to the timeline, meaning that the type and value of the gift should match the stage of the relationship. For instance, a small, playful gift like 'Shiba Inu stickers' is mentioned as an appropriate gift after a certain level of comfort has been established.

💡Appropriate

Appropriateness in the context of the video pertains to the suitability of a gift relative to the relationship's stage and the woman's personality. The script advises that gifts should be fitting and not too extravagant or intimate early on, such as not giving lingerie to a woman one has not yet been intimate with, to avoid appearing possessive or crossing social boundaries.

💡Alpha and Beta

The terms 'alpha' and 'beta' are used in the script to describe two different types of men in the context of social hierarchy and dating. An 'alpha' is portrayed as a man who leads with charm and personality, whose gifts are highly valued by women because of his perceived high status. Conversely, a 'beta' is described as a man who tries to lead with money or material gifts, which is seen as less attractive. The script uses these terms to illustrate the difference in the value of gifts given by each type of man.

Highlights

The importance of considering the giver when determining if women like gifts.

The influence of sugar daddy culture on the normalization of gifting in relationships.

Women's preference for a challenge in relationships rather than easy access to resources.

The advice against leading with gifts in the dating process to avoid being perceived as an easy mark.

The suggestion that the first date should focus on time and attention rather than expensive gifts.

The concept of gifts being appropriate to the timeline and nature of the relationship.

The idea that gifts should be playful and fun, rather than extravagant in the early stages of dating.

The inappropriateness of giving certain gifts like lingerie early in a relationship.

The potential offense that practical gifts like kitchen appliances might cause in a relationship.

The notion that a gift's value is amplified when it comes from an alpha figure in a woman's life.

The comparison between the impact of a gift from a man with game versus one without.

The warning against leading with money due to the risk of being categorized as a sugar daddy or trick.

The emphasis on building a connection before giving significant gifts.

The story illustrating the value of a simple gift when it comes from a meaningful connection.

The concept of 'Skittles man' and the idea of being content with small gestures in a relationship.

The advice on not giving gifts out of obligation but rather as a reward for good behavior.

The distinction between giving gifts as a sign of appreciation versus using them for social media clout.

The final advice on keeping gift-giving within the context of the relationship's stage and the woman's loyalty.

Transcripts

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hello everyone it's nuclear kalio here

for another episode bringing you some

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content out there on both those

platforms all right so today's topic of

the day is basically

um

do women like gifts

um and obviously this is not a yes or no

right I think this is uh it depends

answer right but it's a very important

thing because you can easily lose a girl

or lose frame

by thinking a certain way about whether

you should give a girl gifts or not

right so

the first question you have to ask

yourself when uh you know when you're

trying to figure out if if girls like

gifts women like gifts is it does it

depend does it depend on who it's from

and the answer is yes

um

as you've probably seen sugar daddy and

gifting culture to women has become much

more popular and much more normalized

and accepted and as normal and you know

just part of

um

just part of the part of the game right

um but do you think that those men that

are gifting

and giving girls expensive dinners

expensive uh

purses bags stuff like that do you think

that they're uh that they like and

respect those men

uh more likely than not it's gonna be a

no at a minimum they will not see those

men

as

um

as men they would want to be in

relationship with right women want to

compete and women want to feel that like

a man and his resources are a challenge

don't take away when you give well your

resources away to women very easily what

she sees you as is just an easy Mark you

know just another guy there's no

challenge there's no mystery there's no

fun right so

always assume or always think

um

when women whether deciding whether

women like gifts is like the big

questionnaire is from who right

um so when it comes to dating you never

want to lead with gifts right never want

to lead with uh

um giving them you know that's why

that's why me and other guys that give

advice on here never suggest to to take

a woman to dinner on the first date or

take her to an expensive date right

because what you're saying is uh that

you you're giving you're an easy Mark

and women are not attracted to something

a man that is easy to part with his

resources right she'll she'll

automatically see you as you know just a

trick or a sugar daddy or just a food

call or whatever right

um

you always want to leave with your

personality personality your charm

that's not to say be extremely cheap

obviously I think a coffee date or some

drinks would be uh the best type of

first date

um but on those dates you don't have to

spend exorbitant amount of money right

the focus is on your time and attention

is what you're giving them right not

your money not your gifts you know

paying for two or three drinks it's just

the cost of doing business but it's not

like the same as a dinner where you're

you know she can order whatever she

wants and you know it's seen more as a

giving something you know

um and then uh

you know you don't want to

uh

get you don't want to give if you do get

to a point where you do want to give the

girl something right remember that it's

it's has to be appropriate to the

timeline of your relationship with her

and also

um to

where you're at where she's at what type

of person she is for example

um once

I know I go very well and we've met

we've connected and maybe we've

um hooked up or something like that

right I have a collection of uh Shiba

Inu stickers that I collect or just buy

from Amazon and then I give it to her

right it's just a little sticker right

but

it's it's more playful and fun and it's

coming from a guy that she's already

hooked up with based on charm and

personality right so it means that much

more it's not like I'm giving her a

Gucci bag or shoes or a dress or

anything like that right

so gifts should be appropriate for the

timeline another example is like uh you

don't want to give girls weird gifts

right so let's say

um a popular gift is lingerie right a

lot of guys like to give girls lingerie

obviously it serves a double purpose she

she the guy gets the high of

um feeling sexually dominant by telling

the one what to say what to wear and the

girl feels sexy by having a guy tell her

what to do and what to wear right but

you don't want to buy lingerie for a

girl you haven't had sex with yet right

and even then it's still iffy right make

sure that you bring that if you do want

to give a girl your dating make sure

that you've already you know hooked up

with her and make sure that you you feel

that Comfort Comfort where you guys are

very open and then you can say hey I

want you to wear this for me right and

then you buy her or whatever right

um also a lot of women already have

lingerie so they'll probably be like no

I already got that's all good I'll wear

it for you right

um another another iffy one is like uh

let's say

uh say kitchen appliances and stuff like

that

um especially for girlfriends like if

your girlfriend is uh

likes to cook likes to cook and the

stuff in the kitchen sure you know

buying her things that make her domestic

uh chores much easier would probably be

a good thing right and then there's some

women that like you know even getting

them like a toaster or something may or

something may may make them offended

right obviously I would Ur on the side

of like if you get a gift for a girl and

regardless of what it is and she doesn't

like it then that's probably a red flag

right there but I would say that um you

know make sure that your gifts are

appropriate to the type of woman you're

dealing with and make sure that most

likely there is no gift that matters

before you hook up and even then

make sure that before you give a girl a

gift make it appropriate to the

situation you're in right like I said a

sticker

uh two or three times after you guys

hook up two or three times it's funny

it's cute it's you know it's like you

know this guy's kind of quirky you know

it adds a little bit of character to to

your guys's relationship and it's funny

right but you know giving them lingerie

after the first time you hook up it's

kind of it's kind of weird right it

seems possessive you know make sure that

you have the type of relationship where

you guys at least have that

understanding that there's some

um connection between you guys and

there's a level of comfort where you can

start introducing that kind of stuff

right

um

and then it goes to the concept where

like and this is a crazy you know this

is a crazy uh

thing to to witness but a gift from an

alpha is what is worth more than a gift

from a beta by an extreme magnitude

right a guy that's trying to lead with

money can give a girl a pearl or I don't

sleep pearl necklace uh uh I don't know

something like gold a gold necklace or

something like that or or uh a scrapbook

full of the memories you know

or something right

but that will be nothing compared to an

alpha that gives her a flower that he

just picked five minutes before going to

meet her right

um and that's a crazy comparison because

there are men that like have to lead

with money because they don't have game

they don't have you know they lead with

just money right especially you see

these guys that um never in their 20s

that never worked worked to to get

experience with women so when they get

to their 30s and they grind which is

nothing wrong with that obviously but

they grind and they push forward and

then eventually it gets to the point

where that they get to their 30s they

have a good job they have lots of money

maybe one or two houses or whatever like

that right and then they have no

experience with women so that you know

they think that leading with money

is going to get them the woman they want

and it could get their foot in the door

right but what happens is

um they leave with money and the women

you know when you lead with money women

automatically put you in the category of

Sugar Daddy Trick or whatever right so

they take women on expensive dinners

they give women gifts they you know and

the women just don't respond well and

the thing is the nefarious thing about

all this is that women are designed to

take your resources like that's

biological right so although most of the

time they'll never say no to a stranger

giving them things

right when a guy when we get when we try

to get gifted with people strangers try

to give those things we get nervous we

don't understand why we start

questioning things but women

automatically they can go with on a day

with a guy they've never met the guy

will pay for an expensive dinner and

they'll be like thanks and give them a

hug and go home and never see him again

block his number block his IG and so on

and so forth right

so understand that before you even think

about giving a woman anything besides

your attention time and maybe one or two

drinks or a coffee make sure that at

least you have that connection like uh I

would say

um

until you've slept with the girl

and you know it's not a one-night stand

and she's into you don't even think

about giving her anything beyond the

things I I mentioned right because if

not you're going to be put in that

category and more often than not a lot

of guys find themselves on a third or

fourth or fifth date and they're like

okay any day now I'm gonna make my move

but honestly

um

you know you don't want to be in that

position right

um

so you know there's I have a story time

um I was uh

dating a girl while I was in the

military and I was deployed and she

would send me boxes full of you know

treats coffee pictures of her

non-explicit pictures of her I told her

not to bring give me anything explicit

but um

uh you know very nice things she would

send me

and you know I was like man I should

probably get her something back you know

like whenever I pull into Port maybe you

know drink it or something when I pull

into port and the only thing she told me

like the only thing I want is like a

rock from each place you go to Iraq and

I'm like you mean like you know like a

rock with

like

or just a rock and she's like yeah she

was a geology student so you know she

liked rocks

um she liked to look at them and study

them so you know

the fact that there's men out here that

that are giving women like expensive

things and stuff just to

just to have a chance and like a foot in

meanwhile there's guys that you know

girls are just asking them for a rock

you know and that's you know and Iraq

doesn't really have any value so the

what adds value to that rock I'm giving

her is that it's coming from me so you

see how

um you can give a woman the whole world

and the moon and the stars but if it's

not coming from the main guy in her life

or you know the guy she's most attracted

to in her life it doesn't mean anything

and that's why I say you know the it's

the difference between a gift from an

alpha and a gift from a beta

it the magnitude is so extreme that you

cannot you cannot chance you cannot even

gamble with giving a woman a gift before

you have that connection especially

through intimacy right you do not give

up you do not give things to girls until

you at least have some sort of

connection Beyond

um just you know a first date right I

would say for me personally

uh two weeks in of like just hooking up

and and maybe you know second and third

day she's cool you you like her

um then you can start thinking like hey

you know uh maybe you hooked up three

times and you're saying okay well hey

you want to go grab some sushi you know

um depending on the man and depending

the girl but never lead with money

before you guys hook up that is act that

is asking me put in a box you don't want

to be put in right

um

so yeah like I mentioned before women

are designed to strike resources right

so that's not something that they

consciously do it's just within their

biology they have to take take take

that's just who they are but if they

realize they can't take from you easily

but without performing or giving

something in return first

um

then you know they'll see you as you

know a higher higher in their you know

higher an attraction this guy is

actually worth something he's not going

to give it away to me easily so I have

to you know perform as more perform as a

woman instead of just you know existing

right

um

let's see what I got here

yeah so you don't you don't want to give

you don't want to give your your uh your

resources away because Adam likely puts

you in a loser category

um

so you know in the space we have this uh

we have this saying called uh

be a skittles man right and you know

I've gotten questions of what is the

Skittles man a skittles man is basically

a guy that on days like like

I would say more more specifically

February 14th

um which is Valentine's Day and like

days like Christmas or something like

that that you are the type of man that

if you gave her Skittles

a pack of Skittles that she would be

overjoyed and happy

right after that maybe a sticky note

with like you know some crass comment

about her body you know but you know a

lot of guys

see that and they think oh well you know

that's not manly because you know you're

you're doing it to piece your own ego if

not needing to give something right the

thing is that like it's not so much that

you do you do or you don't right it's so

much the fact that like you're you're so

important and so attractive in her life

right that even if you gave her a rock

or a pack of Skittles or a sticky note

saying thank you you have not you have

thank you for your nice ass or whatever

you give her right

she

values that gift not because of the

value the in the

objective value of a of a gift but

because it's coming from you she's going

to Value it that much more right a pack

of Skittles from an alpha a guy that

she's

completely in love or in lust or

whatever with is worth

hundreds of times more than a piece of

jewelry from a guy that she's just not

sure about or she's just

you know she was the guy that she

settled for

you know all those things right and

other guys you understand that like

gifts have a time and place right but

they you never lead with a with gifts

right your time and attention is your

biggest asset and you have to make it

known to her and the way you make it

known to her is you know when she acts

up you remove your attention

um

when she's not when she's not uh you

know holding up her part of the bargain

in terms of relationship then you remove

attention right uh I know marriages is a

little different because you know you're

you're married you probably have kids

and all that stuff but your time and

attention

um matters and that should be the number

one gift and you have to treat it as as

such you're you're uh your time is

something that you can't get back and if

you give a woman your time you're giving

her your more your most uh valuable

asset right

if you give her

gifts and all that stuff

um and your time and your attention

she's gonna think oh man it's just

another guy that's you know

that does not that does not build

attraction at all

right

um so here's a sad part too A lot of

times women get gifts

um from Men on social media

errors are for men in real life and then

they go on social media and then they

they post 10 pictures of the gift and

like one picture of the man or no

pictures of the man right I see this all

the time Facebook IG and it ranges it

could be a bouquet of flowers on her

birthday or on a

or Valentine's Day she'll Post 10

pictures of the flowers

um

and then one picture of the guy giving

you know

of the guy giving her the flower and the

guy I've never seen or just the guy that

she's sort of in a relationship with

she's not sure about she's not very

attractive but she's like safe he's like

the safe option right so when

as you can see like uh

you know gifts for women usually if

they're not coming from an alpha

they're usually just used for cloud

social media cloud and to signal to

other women like I can get men to give

me things I'm better than other women

like it's it's a social hierarchy right

and this one of the saddest versions of

this

um is I see women that I've known like

University you know from University and

they get with a guy that you know this

just doesn't look like he's

super attractive he may be a little bit

overweight he may be you know just look

like a dork or whatever you know

whatever would have you right

um and then uh like they'll get engaged

and the ring has like 20 pictures or 10

pictures of the ring and one picture of

the guy

right

um

and it's like it's sad because like you

know the guy has just given you

his undying you know his implied undying

commitment right and then you're taking

the token of that commitment which in

itself is expensive monetarily you know

rings can get expensive and you're

parading it on social media to brag to

your friends right I would say one or

two pictures is fine right but I've seen

women that you know

they have they post a ring but not the

guy and that's really sad right you

never want to be in that position that's

that's that's the huge that's the

biggest red flag right you never want to

be in a position where you're giving

gifts to your girl and she goes directly

to social media and brags about the gift

and not you right you are the prize the

gift is just a bonus or an extension of

the time and intention of how valuable

you know your time and attention are

right and you never want to be in the in

that position

um

it's really important to understand that

uh you never give a girl a gift

um

if you unless you you know unless you

want to unless never under obligation

right if if a girl really truly likes

you right

um

and you know her a special day is coming

up or you know all her friends are

getting gifts or whatever

um

do you want to give her a gift or do you

feel like you have to there's a big

difference right or it could be a mix of

both right

um I feel like for the most part I

personally would not mind giving a girl

a gift I'm I'm Valentine's Day on her

birthday right but I've you know this is

because

when it's Christmas or my birthday I've

gotten great gifts from women and

um they've gone all out to give me

they got they've gone all out to give me

gifts that I needed very thoughtful they

took the time to think what I would what

I would like and if a woman did that for

me like let's say on Christmas you

better believe that on February 14th you

know I'm it's a candlelit dinner right

because what she has proven is you know

she's she's doing tryouts for being uh

my girlfriend or and future wife so when

a girl is qualifying to you you know she

you know you should reward her and now a

lot of guys will say well there's other

ways here where am I of course you know

of course there's other ways for a word

but I feel like if a woman is really

trying and she's really going all out

and you know she's in your frame uh and

you know that special day comes up like

Christmas or the holiday you know

whatever other holiday or February 14th

her birthday there's nothing wrong with

you know putting a little thought into

it right

um

typically girls that go out and give and

give you gifts and are qualifying to you

and doing you know just are just are

happy with your time and attention if

you give them a gift a really nice gift

maybe they might brag to their friends

but they they will feel it will be very

important to them they will see you as

you know her knight in shining armor

right and that's okay but you know

there's a thin line here and just know

that with time as you get more game and

more aware of of women's Behavior you'll

be able to call this Behavior out better

right so you know like I said Christmas

comes around and she gives you like 200

worth of gifts unsolicited and she

doesn't ask for anything in return

you best believe that on February 14th

whenever uh

uh

you know it's time to give her a gift it

could be a bouquet of roses a teddy bear

or a candle at dinner or whatever and

you know I will not feel bad at all or

not feel like I'm being used at all

because you know she already put in the

effort right there's absolutely nothing

wrong with giving women gifts if she's

qualifying to you if she's doing

everything right you know you always

reward good behavior and you ignore bad

behavior right you remove your attention

um

and uh yeah it it giving gifts is

something that like it's it's a thing

that like

from the outside

it's easy to call out a guy and be like

hey you haven't had sex with her or you

know you just met this girl why are you

giving her a free dinner or why are you

giving her a purse or a bag or whatever

right but a lot of guys just can't

um you know they get into this trap of

thinking that they have to hustle and

grind and not talk to women at all in

their 20s and then we get to the 30s

they have all this money and success

which is fine that's great you know

that's all we're all striving for but

like they don't have that thought that

hey you know women they do care about

your status and your success and your

money right but

if

they will not respect men that lead with

their money right

you have to develop that charm and that

personality to get women to like you and

then that's when you know everything is

has to be done in an appropriate manner

right and even and within and within

that if we zoom in there are certain

gifts like I mentioned before that you

don't give women at first right like for

example I like you know if I meet a girl

I really like and things are going well

then I I you know I gave her a little

sticker after two or three times with me

you know like hey he's a little sticker

and if she like looks happier over

Jordan oh it's so cute

um then I know like okay well you know

she's an appreciative person it's it's

one of my [ __ ] tests to women is testing

their true desire for me right now

um

you know there there are women that will

never pay for anything and never give

you anything in return right you know

like uh they're very um

you know they latch on to the old war

thinking where it benefits them which is

like not paying for anything but and

that's an iffy situation right like it's

not like you're as a man we don't need

gifts right we don't expect it we don't

need it right

um

but there are women that like get

there's there's cultures where like

gifting is a normal thing to get to do

you know and you know women are smart

and women use these different

backgrounds and culture and inject them

into you know dating life into their

dating life and expectations and try to

put the pressure on men to go ahead and

give them gifts based on

a culture that they don't even haven't

even grown up in are not part of anymore

and you know it's kind of annoying you

know you see this a lot with like

cultures like uh more you know like

sometimes Latin America where

um you know women expect to be kind of

wine and dined because it was a more

traditional you know their mom and dad

was a more traditional

um

you know upbringing right but understand

that that's that's just not the way it

is there you know and if a girl comes

with that energy you shut them down like

we're not here to call a woman even more

than they're already coddled right if

you want

uh the resources if you want the gifts

you have to give me commitment right you

have to prove to me that you're not

seeing other men at least try to fake it

enough to where I believe you right give

me the benefit of the doubt but until

then you know I'm not I'm not gonna

budge you know you have to have that

attitude right there are women that are

going to hook up with you hook up with

you hook up with you and have fun and

hook up and all you're doing is paint

buying them drinks and and all that

stuff but then the the magnitude of

gifts that they're gonna ask for or

imply that they want is going to

increase over time right so here's what

you do right so the problem is I'm you

know I'm hooking up with a girl and it's

great and we keep hooking up but here

here's the thing here's the caveat I

have no problem buying a dinner for a

girl I've already hooked up with and I'm

having fun with right no problem right

but here's where it gets iffy then they

start asking for like hey I want to go

out but I need a dress get me a dress or

I want to go out and I need some new

shoes right and you do this

all right

um but here's the thing you shouldn't be

buying physical gifts for women like you

know beyond dinner unless she can prove

that she's Chast to you that she's

sexually loyal to you

right

because there are a lot of women that

are willing to to they already find you

attractive they're willing to sleep with

you and extract Resources with you and

have all the benefits of your girlfriend

but none of the Chastity that comes with

being your girlfriend like only sexual

loyalty to you right so be careful with

those gray areas understand that there's

different levels of gifts there's gifts

that are very uh you know like I you

know like address a purse a bag physical

gifts a ring a necklace a makeup set

whatever stuff like that those are

things that typically you give to girls

that are like

your girlfriend right and even then

those are more like special Day gifts

like you know hey baby uh you know

you've been working hard and I've been

working hard let's get a date night I

bought you a dress surprise you know

those are not for girls that

yeah of course they're like sleeping

with you and you know they're Pleasant

and everything but until you can those

girls are are really like

um in your frame and qualifying to you

and and you know at least implicitly

imply that they're only with you giving

you the benefit of of thinking that

you're you're the only one then that's

when you kind of then then that's that

green light but until then keep it low

investment

uh gives little small things and and as

she has to earn those gifts and the best

way for a woman to earn gifts for me

personally is to I need I need to know

that she's not

uh sleeping around with other guys right

and I think that's a good model to go

off right

um

other than that

um thank you for watching that's all I

got on the matter for right now

um if you guys have any questions or you

guys have any comments about uh what

type of gifts you should be giving and

when it's appropriate uh let me know

down in the comment section

um and thanks for watching uh

and uh have a good night

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