Younger Women CHASE Older Men Who Ask “Trigger” Questions

Summary

In this video, Rob Judge explores the art of strategic conversation to attract women, focusing on the power of 'Chase Trigger Questions.' He outlines three types of questions that can entice a woman to pursue a man: setting standards to create a chase-worthy goal, validating her achievements to build attraction, and displaying authority subtly to establish value. These techniques aim to shift the power dynamic in dating, encouraging men to guide interactions rather than merely chase after interest.

Takeaways

• 🔄 Chasing a girl often leads to losing her, and the opposite is also true; making her chase you can make her yours.
• 🤔 Strategic conversation is key for older men to attract younger women, focusing on guiding the interaction rather than just what is said.
• 📌 The art of asking the right questions can shift the power dynamic in a conversation and make a woman interested in pursuing the man.
• 🎯 Three types of 'Chase Trigger Questions' are introduced: setting a standard, validating, and displaying authority.
• 📚 Questions that set a standard offer a 'carrot' for the woman to chase, by subtly communicating what the man is looking for in a partner.
• 🤝 Validating questions tap into the 'Golden Mirror' principle, reflecting a woman's idealized self-image back to her, making her crave the man's approval.
• 💼 Questions that display authority subtly showcase the man's mastery and knowledge, establishing his value without appearing boastful.
• 🕊️ Setting a standard through questions can create a frame where the woman is trying to live up to the man's expectations, fostering a chase dynamic.
• 🔍 Listening closely to a woman's words can reveal how she wants to be seen and validated, which can be used to ask validating questions.
• 🧐 Displaying authority through questions can intrigue a woman and make her curious to learn more about the man's expertise or experiences.
• 📈 The process is gradual, involving the introduction of a Chase trigger followed by follow-up questions that build on the initial interest.
• 📘 The speaker suggests that learning from women's techniques can be beneficial, as they can be reverse-engineered to enhance one's own approach.

Q & A

What is the main premise of the video script provided?

The main premise of the video script is about the concept of strategic conversation to shift the power dynamic in dating, particularly for older men to attract younger women, by using 'Chase Trigger Questions' to make a woman chase them.

What are 'Chase Trigger Questions' as mentioned in the script?

'Chase Trigger Questions' are specific types of questions designed to make a woman interested in a man by setting a standard, validating her, and displaying authority, thus triggering her to chase him.

How does the script suggest to set a standard in a conversation with a woman?

The script suggests setting a standard by embedding it in a question rather than stating it directly. For example, instead of saying 'I like intelligent women', one might ask 'What's the last good book you read?'

What is the 'Golden Mirror principle' mentioned in the script?

The 'Golden Mirror principle' refers to the idea of validating a woman by reflecting her idealized image back to herself, making her crave your approval and thus increasing her attraction towards you.

How can asking for a book recommendation be a form of validation according to the script?

Asking for a book recommendation can be a form of validation because it shows that you believe she has good taste and intelligence, and it treats her as someone whose opinion you respect.

What is the purpose of using questions to display authority in the script?

Using questions to display authority is meant to subtly showcase your mastery and knowledge in a certain area, which can be attractive to a woman and establish your value without appearing boastful.

How does the script advise to handle a situation where a woman does not answer a 'Chase Trigger Question'?

The script advises to playfully challenge her if she does not answer a 'Chase Trigger Question', creating a flirtatious banter and an opportunity to position yourself as someone who knows what they are talking about.

What is the significance of the 'carrot' analogy used in the script?

The 'carrot' analogy signifies the idea of dangling something desirable just out of reach to create curiosity and interest, making the woman want to chase after it to satisfy her curiosity.

How does the script define 'slow burn' in the context of building attraction?

The 'slow burn' refers to the gradual introduction of 'Chase Triggers' and building upon them with follow-up questions to intensify the attraction without making it an immediate switch.

What is the importance of being an attentive listener according to the script?

Being an attentive listener is crucial as it allows you to pick up on cues about what a woman values and how she wants to be seen, enabling you to validate her in a way that is meaningful and attractive.

What is the 'Unlock the Scrambler' course mentioned in the script and how is it related to the video's content?

The 'Unlock the Scrambler' course is a resource created by the speaker and Bobby Rio that presumably delves deeper into the tactics and techniques discussed in the video, providing a comprehensive guide to the concepts of strategic conversation and attraction.

Outlines

00:00

🤔 Strategic Conversations for Attraction

The paragraph introduces the concept that actively chasing a girl often leads to her losing interest, and suggests that the opposite approach, where the girl chases you, is more effective. The speaker, Rob Judge, outlines a strategy involving strategic conversation to shift the power dynamic. He emphasizes the importance of asking the right questions to guide the interaction and to make the girl do most of the talking, thus relieving pressure from the man. The paragraph sets the stage for a deeper dive into 'Chase Trigger Questions' designed to entice a woman to pursue the man.

05:00

📚 Leveraging Questions to Set Standards

This section focuses on the first type of 'Chase Trigger Questions'—those that set a standard. Rob explains that to get a woman to chase you, you must provide her with something to chase, which involves setting and communicating your standards subtly through questions. He advises against listing standards directly, as it can disrupt the vibe, and instead suggests embedding them in conversation. Examples are given, such as asking about the last good book read or the craziest place visited, to subtly communicate what the man is looking for in a woman. The paragraph also touches on how to handle situations where a woman does not meet the standard, suggesting playful challenges to create attractive tension.

10:01

🔍 Validating Interest with the Golden Mirror Principle

The second type of 'Chase Trigger Questions' discussed is those that validate. Rob highlights the importance of showing interest in a woman in a way that does not come off as desperate. Instead of complimenting her on her looks, he suggests validating her for something she has worked for, which can be achieved by closely listening to her and reflecting her idealized image back to her through questions. This 'Golden Mirror' technique is illustrated with an example involving a woman who wanted to be seen as intellectual. Rob validates her by asking for a book recommendation, which not only shows interest but also positions him as someone with knowledge that she desires.

15:02

👤 Displaying Authority to Attract Interest

The final paragraph delves into the third type of 'Chase Trigger Questions'—those that display authority. Rob explains that having authority or mastery in a subject, especially one that interests a woman, can be a powerful attraction trigger. He advises establishing this authority subtly, without appearing boastful. Using personal examples, Rob illustrates how to use insider knowledge and jargon to pique a woman's curiosity and establish oneself as an authority figure. The importance of not being predictable and maintaining an engaging conversation is also emphasized, with the goal of leaving the woman wanting to learn more.

🚀 Implementing the Learned Techniques

In the concluding paragraph, Rob encourages the viewer to start implementing the techniques discussed in the video. He specifically addresses older men dealing with a significant age gap and suggests that these strategies can be particularly effective in such situations. Rob also promotes the 'Unlock the Scrambler' course for a more comprehensive understanding of these tactics and invites viewers to follow him on social media for exclusive content. He ends by asking for likes, subscriptions, and comments to engage with the audience further.

Keywords

💡Chasing

The term 'chasing' in the context of the video refers to the pursuit of a romantic interest, often in a manner that can be perceived as desperate or overly eager. It's used to describe a common behavior where men pursue women, which the speaker suggests is counterproductive. The video implies that 'chasing' can lead to losing the person's interest rather than gaining it.

💡Strategic Conversation

Strategic conversation is a method of engaging in dialogue with a purposeful intent to guide the interaction towards a desired outcome. In the video, it's suggested as a means for an older man to attract younger women by asking the right questions that can subtly shift the power dynamic in a conversation, making the woman interested in pursuing the man.

💡Chase Trigger Questions

'Chase Trigger Questions' are specific types of questions designed to provoke a response that leads a woman to pursue the man. These questions are part of a strategic approach where the man aims to make himself more attractive by setting standards, validating the woman, and displaying authority, all through the medium of conversation.

💡Standards

In the video, 'standards' are the criteria or qualities that an individual seeks in a romantic partner. The speaker emphasizes the importance of communicating one's standards subtly through conversation to set a benchmark that the woman may aspire to meet, thereby creating a situation where she may start to 'chase' the man.

💡Validation

Validation, as discussed in the video, is the act of recognizing and acknowledging someone's qualities, achievements, or efforts in a way that makes them feel appreciated and understood. The speaker suggests that validating a woman for her efforts rather than her inherent qualities can create a deeper connection and make her more interested in the man.

💡Golden Mirror Principle

The 'Golden Mirror Principle' is a concept introduced in the video where a man reflects a woman's idealized self-image back to her, thereby validating her in a way that she finds gratifying. It involves listening closely to what a woman says and responding in a way that shows he sees her as she wants to be seen, which can be achieved through asking questions that validate her identity.

💡Authority

Authority in the context of the video refers to the perceived expertise or mastery in a particular area. The speaker suggests that displaying authority subtly through questions can make a man more attractive to a woman. It's about showcasing knowledge without coming across as bragging or showing off.

💡Carrot

In the video, a 'carrot' is a metaphor for an incentive or reward that motivates a woman to pursue the man. By setting standards and offering insights or recommendations (like book suggestions), the man dangles a 'carrot' that the woman becomes curious about and wants to obtain, thus chasing the man.

💡Slow Burn

'Slow Burn' is a term used to describe a gradual and sustained process rather than an immediate change. The video suggests that implementing 'Chase Trigger Questions' is not about getting instant results but about building interest over time, creating a prolonged attraction.

💡Attraction Triggers

Attraction triggers are elements or actions that evoke a sense of attraction or interest. In the video, the speaker outlines specific types of questions that can act as triggers, such as those that set a standard, validate the woman's identity, or display the man's authority, all aimed at increasing a woman's attraction towards the man.

Highlights

Chasing a girl can lead to losing her, and the opposite is also true.

To attract a girl, make her chase you instead.

Strategic conversation is key for older men to attract younger women.

The importance of guiding the interaction rather than just talking.

Asking the right questions can take the pressure off and make her do most of the talking.

Shifting the power dynamic through strategic questioning.

Three types of 'Chase Trigger Questions' to make a woman chase you.

Questions that set a standard and bait her to chase you.

The Golden Mirror principle to make her crave your approval.

Questions that display authority and subtly showcase mastery.

The slow burn approach to building attraction over time.

Communicating your standards subtly through questions.

Using playful challenges to create attractive tension.

The art of dangling a carrot to keep her interested and chasing.

Validating her achievements to communicate genuine interest.

The Golden Mirror technique to reflect her idealized image back to her.

Displaying authority through insider knowledge and jargon.

The importance of being an attentive listener to understand her desires for validation.

The value of asking for recommendations or opinions to validate her.

Using precise terms and insider knowledge to pique her curiosity.

Transcripts

Chasing a girl equals losing her.

Chasing a girl equals losing her

If chasing a girl means losing a girl, then the opposite is also true.

If you can get a girl to chase you, then she's yours.

And if you're an older guy, the most effective way to get younger

women to chase you is through strategic conversation.

It's not so much about what you say, but how you guide the interaction.

And the key lies in asking the right questions.

When you know what questions to ask.

She is going to do most of the talking, which takes the pressure off of you.

Hello. Welcome.

I am Rob Judge, and today we're going to be shifting

the power dynamic by asking the right questions.

Most guys, they ask questions simply to keep the conversation

going, which is kind of like playing checkers, right?

But I'm about to show you how to play chess, where every question

you ask is a strategic move to get her to chase you.

But before we get to the questions, let's quickly go over

why specific questions, what I like to call “Chase Trigger Questions,”

can get a woman to chase you, especially a younger woman.

Because typically men chase women, which almost always fails.

To get a woman to chase you...

She needs a reason to chase you.

And today, we're going to cover three types of questions

that trigger a woman to chase you for three different reasons.

First up, we have questions that set a standard.

These questions, they dangle a carrot which baits her to chase you.

Next up we're going to cover questions that validate.

These tap into the Golden Mirror principle

making her crave your approval.

Finally, we're going to go over questions that display authority.

These allow you to subtly showcase your mastery

and knowledge, which establishes your value.

We'll use these three triggers carrots, validation and value

to turn the tables and to get her to chase.

But keep in mind this is going to be a slow burn, not an immediate switch.

The goal is to introduce a Chase trigger and then build on it

with follow up questions that fan the flames.

So now that we've laid the groundwork, let's dive into the questions.

One: Questions that set a standard.

If you want a woman to chase you.

You have to give her something to chase.

Which means you need to set a standard and to set a standard.

You have to know what your standards are.

As an older guy, this shouldn't be that difficult.

You should already know what you're looking for

in a woman, and chances are you probably do.

However, what you probably don't do or at least you don't do effectively,

is communicate those standards to the women that you're interacting with.

Most guys, they don't set standards.

And these often means that the woman sets a standard which makes him chase her,

which leads to her losing interest.

Even if you're one of the few guys that are less comfortable

expressing your standards for a woman, chances

are that you're probably going about it in a kind of heavy handed way.

Because simply listing your standards and expectations

almost always comes off as a bit of a buzzkill, right?

While it's good that you're setting a standard, you're doing it

at the cost of disrupting the vibe.

A much better way to communicate your standards is to embed them in a question.

So rather than saying, I like intelligent women,

you might ask her, so what's the last good book that you read?

Or let's say you like worldly women or adventurous women,

you could ask the craziest place that she's ever been to,

or the last country that stamped on her passport.

By setting a standard this way, you do a few essential things, right?

First, you're showing her that you have standards,

but you're doing it in a subtle way because you'd only ask her the last

good book that you read because it matters to you, which communicates

what you’re looking for, and it gives her something to chase.

Even if it's been years since she wrote a good book,

if she tries to answer the question, it sets the frame

that she's trying to live up to your standards.

Which gets her in the habit of chasing you.

Now, if a woman doesn't answer the question, for example,

if she says something like, oh, I don't read,

this isn't the worst thing, actually,

because it opens the door for some flirtatious banter.

Whenever this happens, what I would do is I'd playfully challenge a right.

So to go back to the reading example,

I might say something like you don't read what?

Are you serious?

What puts her on the spot a bit right?

And it creates some of that healthy, attractive tension.

Now, what I found is that women will often push back to this, right?

Maybe she'll say something like, oh, well,

the last good book I read was in high school,

or the last good book I read was back in college.

So to respond to that, I would usually say something like,

oh, well, that makes sense because you stopped reading

because no one showed you what the good books are.

Now, this gives her a bit of an out, right?

It allows her to agree with me and kind of take my side

while maintaining her pride.

But even better, this positions me as someone who knows what those good books

are. Now, once again, this is a great way to set a chase free

because most women, they’re are at least going to be curious,

and they're going to ask you, like all right,

so what are these good books like, what should I read?

And by saying that even if she is a bit skeptical,

she confirming that you have knowledge that she wants to know.

In other words, you have a carrot that you can dangle to get her to chase you.

Think of it like an itch that she's asking you to scratch.

At first, it might just be like a slight itch, right?

But the more that you dance around it without scratching it,

the more it intensifies.

Whenever I get to know a woman, and whenever I can tell that

she's curious about something that I said, or something about my lifestyle

or something that came up in conversation, I use that as a chase trigger.

So if a woman asked about books that she should be reading,

I'd probably respond something like, oh yeah, well,

I'll tell you once I get to know you a little bit better. Or.

Yeah, sure, I'll give you a reading list in a second.

But first I want to know about dot dot dot.

And then I would change the subject. Right.

Because I'm dangling the carrot just out of reach.

I'm not essentially saying NO but I am saying not yet.

Now, if you understand how to dangle a carrot just out of reach,

you know the secret to getting a woman to chase you?

Two: Questions that validate.

Communicating your interest in a woman it's essential

because no one's going to chase someone that they have no chance with.

However, you need to communicate

the right kind of interest and you need to do it the right way.

If all you do is shower, a woman compliments and kiss her ass,

you're going to make yourself look desperate and pathetic

and you're most certainly going to kill whatever attraction or even

just whatever respect that she might have had for you.

A better way to communicate interest is by validating

and recognizing her for something she had to work for.

Now, this is much different from a flattering compliment

which praises her for something that she was just born with, like her looks.

When you validate her, you speak to her on a deeper, more intimate level.

And almost all women find validation more gratifying and more attractive

than a meaningless compliment

that she'd probably already heard a thousand times before.

Now, to do validation the right way.

Pay close attention when she's speaking, because she's going to tell you

exactly the way that she wants to be validated.

Now, this is so critical.

The secret to standing out amongst all the other guys vying for a woman's

attention is recognizing her for how she wants to be seen.

In the Unlock the Scrambler course, Bobby Rio and I call this the Golden Mirror

because you're reflecting a woman's idealized image back to herself.

One example that I use in the seminar

was I explained in detail how I had met this girl.

Right?

She was young, busty, blond, and at the time she was working

as a stripper, and she actually went on to become a pretty well known porn star.

So the reason I bring that up because as you can imagine,

at first glance this girl looked like your typical sexy bombshell.

But as soon as I started talking to her, I realized

that was not the way that she wanted to be seen.

I was listening closely when she was talking,

closely to what she was saying, and based on what she said

and how she chose her words, I very much got the sense that she wanted

to be seen as intellectual, as someone who was cultured.

Now, I didn't simply say, wow, you seem really smart because while

that’s not a terrible idea.

It doesn't necessarily contribute to the vibe and also too

it could come off as a bit supplicating.

So instead,

I validated her with a question by asking her for a book recommendation.

Specifically, I remember I pulled out my phone and I said, hey,

so I just finished the book that I was reading,

and since you seem like someone who reads a lot, she had pretty good taste.

Give you a book to order from Amazon.

Now, she lit up when I said this and she jumped at the chance to recommend a book.

And I remember after I placed the order, I looked up my phone.

The expression on her face confirmed that

my stock had gone way up in her eyes.

Now notice I didn't simply just tell her

that I thought she was smart or that she had good taste.

I found a way to show her that, and it was as simple

as embedding validation into a simple question.

Now, most of the never thing to do this, but,

you know, really think about this, right?

If you tell a woman

something that you like about her, and you really meant what you said,

you would treat her like someone who has that admirable quality.

So in my case, I didn't just compliment her intelligence.

I started treating her like an intelligent person whose opinion

that I respected.

Now, understanding

this can separate you from every other guy that she's talking to you.

In fact, if I had to pick, like, five dating skills to master

the golden mirror with absolute be on that list.

So it's absolutely skill that you should work to master.

And what that means is you need to become an attentive listener.

Listen closely.

When a woman’s speaking almost think of yourself like a detective, right?

Listen to the words that she's using, the phrases, the expressions,

and really ask yourself, what does she seem to value the most?

What qualities seemed most important to her?

when I work with a client, right, I often ask them to consider

what might she do with their time. She had a day off from work.

Or if maybe if she didn't have to work at all.

Money wasn't an issue.

How would she spend her day?

And I also try to have them remember,

like a unique word or expression or phrase that she might have said or used.

And I really try to have them consider what that might say about her personality

even more.

What does that say about how she's portraying herself?

How she wants to be seen?

Now, once you've zeroed in on a characteristic quality

or skill that you think is a core component of her identity,

the next step is figuring out how to show her

that you see her this way, rather than simply telling her.

As I mentioned earlier,

asking her something is often an easy way to do exactly that.

Whether it's asking for a recommendation, some advice,

or even just her opinion, validating her through a question

is a very effective way to communicate attractively with women.

Three questions that display authority.

Any time you're in authority or mastered something, especially if

it's something that a woman's interested in, it's an attraction trigger.

Even having a basic understanding can be attractive.

But you have to establish your knowledge in an understated way

that doesn't seem like you're showing off or bragging.

Now, to do this once again, we can use a well-placed question.

So to go back to another personal example.

Back when I lived in New York,

I met this girl in a bar once who told me that she was an editor

for fashion magazine, which at the time also happened to be my job.

I was also working as an editor.

But rather than saying, oh, I'm an editor too, I displayed my insider knowledge.

I displayed the fact that I had authority in that world to request it.

I asked her, I said, are you an actual editor or are you an editorial assistant?

Now, if you work in publishing, people often say they're editors,

when in reality they're just editorial assistant,

which is actually something I did for a long time.

But again, it's something that I know because when you work in that industry,

that's what a lot of people do.

So when I said that, it actually made her laugh and she responded.

Actually, three weeks ago I got promoted to a full blown editor.

So I said, oh, very nice.

So your name's on the masthead, That's impressive.

Now, again, just to put this in context, a masthead is a page or a section

in a publication that lists the editorial brass

of that publication, which again, most people, they never look at this.

But if you work in publishing, this is something that you notice

and this is something that you know about.

But even more important, I hope that you're seeing how questions

with insider knowledge and insider jargon can establish you as an authority.

When she told me that she worked in publishing.

I could have just said, oh, obligatory or two.

But proclamations like that, they often come off as overeager

and even more important.

They risk killing the vibe.

If you come out and tell a woman, oh, I do that to the conversation.

It just goes in a very predictable direction, right?

Becomes very interview style, because we can all imagine what would come next.

When you say something

like that, right, she's going to say, oh, so what magazine do you work for?

How do you like working there?

Oh, do you know so-and-so?

That's why you always want to show a woman your authority or your insider

status, rather than simply telling her how.

You could also display it for her in a way that draws a woman in,

which makes her curious to want to learn more.

Even if she doesn't have that same insider knowledge, you know, funny enough,

when I was preparing one of these YouTube videos, a few weeks back,

my girl Adriana, who we may recognize from the intro of this video,

she said to me, she said, wow, you're like an MMJ.

And I had no idea what she meant.

So I asked her to explain

and she was like, oh, and then MMJ means a "Multi-Media Journalist."

And yeah, just puts it in context.

since Adriana does the weather for a Spanish-speaking news station,

a term like MMJ comes from a world where she's an authority.

And now, by using that precise term, it baited my curiosity, which reinforced

something that I find very attractive, which is that she's very good.

She's very charismatic at her job. also, too.

I just like to make, quick side note here, some of the best techniques

and tactics that you can learn are things that women do to you,

because you can backward engineer them and add them to your repertoire.

So there you have three types of questions that trigger

a woman to start chasing you by dangling a carrot,

validating her gold in your and subtly displaying your value.

You tap into powerful attraction triggers that leave a woman wanting more.

Now, this topic is so important that I actually plan on releasing

more videos about it over the next couple weeks,

but for now, start implementing what you learned today.

The next time you talk to a beautiful woman,

especially, you're an older guy and there's a significant age gap.

And if you want an entire crash course in more tactics and more techniques,

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