Drop Everything you do and do this!

Dennis Bettinger
11 Jul 202404:11

Summary

TLDRIn this video, Dennis discusses overcoming hesitation and taking immediate action when faced with decisions outside of your comfort zone, like shooting a video in public or talking to a crush. He explains the concept of the 'in-between' phaseβ€”a short window where you decide to act or back out. Waiting too long allows negative thoughts and fears to take over. Dennis shares personal experiences and stresses the importance of immediate action to avoid regret and disappointment. He encourages viewers to take quick steps to build momentum and achieve their goals. If you enjoy such content, consider subscribing to his channel.

Takeaways

  • πŸ“Ή Committing to tasks outside your comfort zone often leads to hesitation and a mental freeze.
  • πŸ’‘ Waiting too long to take action increases fear and makes it harder to act.
  • πŸ“ž The speaker's experience with cold calling highlights the negative impact of hesitation.
  • 🌸 Hesitating when approaching someone of interest in public can amplify fear and negative thoughts.
  • 🧠 The 'in-between' phase, a short window of around 3 seconds, is crucial for decision-making.
  • ⏳ Delaying decisions allows the ego to rationalize and create negative scenarios.
  • 😑 Waiting too long can lead to self-anger and disappointment.
  • πŸƒβ€β™‚οΈ Immediate action during the 'in-between' phase is key to overcoming hesitation.
  • 🚿 Taking immediate steps, like jumping out of bed or going to the gym, helps overcome the initial barrier.
  • 🌍 The speaker aims to document his journey of achieving goals and dreams, sharing learnings along the way.

Q & A

  • What is the main topic of the video?

    -The main topic of the video is overcoming hesitation and taking immediate action when faced with challenging decisions.

  • Who is the creator of the video?

    -The creator of the video is Dennis, who is building his business in sales and documenting his journey on YouTube.

  • What specific example does Dennis give to illustrate overcoming hesitation?

    -Dennis gives the example of cold calling, which was outside of his comfort zone and initially scary for him.

  • What does Dennis refer to as the 'in between' phase?

    -The 'in between' phase refers to the short time window, usually around 3 seconds, where one hesitates between taking action and avoiding it.

  • Why does Dennis believe waiting too long to make a decision is problematic?

    -Dennis believes that waiting too long allows the ego to rationalize and create negative scenarios, making it harder to take action and leading to anger and disappointment.

  • What is Dennis's solution to overcoming hesitation?

    -Dennis's solution is to take immediate action as soon as one realizes they are in the 'in between' phase, such as jumping out of bed or quickly heading to the gym.

  • How does Dennis relate his personal experiences to the video's main topic?

    -Dennis shares personal experiences of overcoming hesitation, such as cold calling and wanting to talk to someone interesting, to illustrate the importance of immediate action.

  • What does Dennis hope to achieve by documenting his journey on YouTube?

    -Dennis hopes to document the ups and downs of building his business and achieving his goals, while sharing the lessons he learns along the way.

  • How does Dennis describe the process of taking action after the initial hesitation?

    -Dennis describes that once the first step is taken, it becomes easier to continue, as 'what is in motion stays in motion.'

  • What does Dennis encourage viewers to do if they find his content interesting?

    -Dennis encourages viewers to subscribe to his channel if they find his content interesting, so they can see more of his journey and learnings.

Outlines

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πŸš€ Overcoming Hesitation and Taking Action

Dennis introduces the video's theme of overcoming hesitation when facing decisions outside of one's comfort zone. He shares his personal experiences with cold calling and approaching people, emphasizing the common mistake of waiting too long to act, which only amplifies fear and negative thoughts. Dennis explains the concept of the 'in-between' state, a brief window of 3 seconds where one must fight their ego to make the right decision. He advises viewers to take immediate action to avoid self-anger and disappointment, illustrating the point with examples like jumping out of bed or going to the gym without delay.

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Keywords

πŸ’‘Comfort Zone

The 'comfort zone' refers to a state of psychological comfort or ease within which a person operates without feeling stressed or anxious. In the video, Dennis discusses stepping outside of one's comfort zone as a necessary action for personal growth, using examples like public speaking or approaching someone you find attractive.

πŸ’‘Hesitation

Hesitation is the act of pausing or delaying action when faced with a decision. The script mentions hesitation as a common response when considering actions outside the comfort zone, which can lead to negative thoughts and missed opportunities, as Dennis explains.

πŸ’‘In-Between Mode

The 'in-between mode' is a state of uncertainty or indecisiveness. Dennis describes it as a brief window of time where one is torn between taking a difficult action or avoiding it. This concept is central to the video's message about the importance of decisiveness.

πŸ’‘Ego

Ego, in this context, represents one's self-esteem or self-importance that can hinder personal growth. Dennis talks about the ego as a force that rationalizes inaction and creates fear, thus preventing individuals from taking steps outside their comfort zone.

πŸ’‘Decision-Making

Decision-making is the cognitive process of selecting a course of action from multiple alternatives. The video emphasizes the importance of quick decision-making, especially within the 'in-between mode,' to avoid the negative impacts of hesitation.

πŸ’‘Action

Action refers to the process of doing something rather than merely thinking or planning. Dennis encourages taking immediate action to overcome the hesitation and to start moving towards one's goals, as the first step is often the hardest.

πŸ’‘Fear

Fear is an emotional response to a perceived threat or danger. In the script, fear is depicted as a barrier that prevents individuals from taking action, particularly when considering actions that are outside their comfort zone.

πŸ’‘Rationalization

Rationalization is the act of justifying or making excuses for an action or belief. Dennis explains that the ego uses rationalization to create negative reasons for not taking action, which can lead to self-anger and disappointment.

πŸ’‘Self-Anger

Self-anger is the feeling of resentment or frustration directed towards oneself. The video script mentions self-anger as a consequence of not taking action and allowing the ego to rationalize inaction, leading to disappointment.

πŸ’‘Disappointment

Disappointment is the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by unmet expectations. In the context of the video, disappointment arises when one fails to take action due to hesitation, leading to a sense of personal failure.

πŸ’‘Momentum

Momentum, in this context, refers to the impulse or drive that builds up as a result of taking action. Dennis suggests that once the initial action is taken, momentum can help maintain the motion towards achieving goals, making further actions easier.

Highlights

Dennis commits to stepping out of his comfort zone and shares his experiences.

Discusses the common hesitation that occurs when faced with decisions outside one's comfort zone.

Mentions the state of the brain 'freezing' during moments of indecision.

Introduces Dennis's background in sales and his goal of living freely and traveling the world.

Details Dennis's YouTube channel's purpose: documenting his journey and sharing learnings.

Shares a personal story about overcoming fear in cold calling.

Explains the concept of the 'in between' state and its impact on decision-making.

Describes the three-second window for making decisions and its significance.

Talks about the negative consequences of waiting too long to make a decision.

Introduces the idea that inaction can lead to self-anger and disappointment.

Advises on taking immediate action to overcome the 'in between' state.

Suggests practical actions like jumping out of bed or going to the gym to break the cycle of indecision.

Emphasizes the importance of momentum once the first step is taken.

Encourages viewers to subscribe for more insights on Dennis's journey.

Ends the video with a reminder of Dennis's commitment to achieving his goals and dreams.

Transcripts

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guys whenever you told yourself or you

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committed yourself to do something that

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is maybe outside of your comfort zone

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maybe I don't know um shooting a video

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in public maybe talking to your crush

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whatever it might be then you will

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realize that often you're in this state

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where your brain like often like freezes

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a bit and you're in this in between mode

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like okay should I do it should I not do

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it you're hesitating the problem is when

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you're waiting too long and this is what

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I will talk about in this video but for

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everybody who's new to the channel my

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name is Dennis and I'm building my

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business in sales right now because I

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want to live free and travel the world

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right now as you can see we are in

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medene Columbia and here on YouTube I

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want to document the whole journey like

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the ups and downs in between um and of

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course the learnings that I have today I

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want to share a learning so yeah in

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general if this is interesting consider

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subscribing and we will see each other

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more often but let's continue with the

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video all right what I what I can tell

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from experience some years ago I was

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into code calling right there of course

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it was outside of my comfort zone I was

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like scary uh it was scary for me to

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call those people and what I was doing I

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was doing a mistake right I was waiting

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and waiting and I was hoping that it

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will get better it would get easier but

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the problem that I realized okay the

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longer I was waiting the harder I get

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right it was always like getting more

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and more scary uh when I was waiting and

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the same for me was when for example

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when I was outside and was talking to I

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was not talking to I was seeing a girl

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that seemed interesting to me seemed

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pretty and I wanted to talk to her but

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of course like maybe there were other

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people around watching and was scary so

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what I did was I was hesitant I was not

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doing it like immediately I was waiting

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I realized all those negative thoughts

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that came up in my brain why this is the

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worst idea possible and why I should

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should not do this so what I learned is

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that whenever we like um in front of a

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like hard decision we are in this pH

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called the in between right and in in

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between is like we're making the

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decision between okay doing something

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doing what is hard what we are scared of

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or doing the easy way and not doing it

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and excusing ourselves this pH is

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usually only a Time window of 3 seconds

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so a very very short time window and in

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this short time window this in between

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we are fighting a fight with our ego the

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problem is when we are not making

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decision towards okay doing the right

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step the right action the chances of

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making the right decision always goes

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almost goes to zero and with have no

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chance anymore why is that because the

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longer we wait the longer we give our

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ego the chance to like two things right

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first rationalize and we're

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rationalizing we're searching like for

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all the negative reasons why it's the

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worst idea possible but we shouldn't do

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it and the second thing that is

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happening is that we are that the ego

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starts drawing a picture in our head of

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all the scary things that are happening

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we draw the picture why it's super scary

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if we would do it and why it's a bad

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idea and these two things when we wait

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too long always leads to First anger

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anger we angry at ourselves and leads to

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disappointment we disappointed ourselves

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because we again excused ourselves okay

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it was our fault we have to take

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responsibility but the thing is the odds

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were against us because we just waited

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too long and we gave the ego too much

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like air to Breathe Right with those 3

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seconds so the easy solution is once

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once we're real realizing that we are in

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those three seconds that we're in this

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in between right in between okay make

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the right decisions and the wrong

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decisions we had first immediately have

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to do something we have to jump up like

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maybe jump out of bed if you if you

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think about okay should I snooze or

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should I wake up jump out of bed take

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action immediately go take a cold shower

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if you're in between okay should I go to

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the gym or should I not go to the gym

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jump up grab your clothes your gym

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clothes and then run to the gym if

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necessary because after taking action

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it's usually okay the decision is done

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and the first step is always the hardest

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right after that you are in motion and

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what is is in motion stays in motion

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then it's usually easy all right I

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appreciate that you watch until the end

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for everybody who's new to the channel

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my name is Dennis and some years ago I

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committed myself to achieve all of my

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goals and dreams and right now I'm on

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the Journey of achieving all of my goals

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and dreams and yeah my goal is to

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document the journey here on YouTube and

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of course share my learnings uh along

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the way so if this is interesting

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consider subscribing and then we might

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see each other in the next video but for

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now thanks for watching buis

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