I’m 50-year-old Japanese man. I made a big mistake how to raise our precious daughter.

Summary

A 50-year-old Japanese man discusses the challenges of raising his 4-year-old daughter, who exhibits shyness in kindergarten performances. He contemplates whether he has spoiled her by providing too many toys and reflects on her sometimes cold attitude towards friends. The man also announces his new YouTube channel for learning Japanese and offers business consultation services in Japan. He shares his thoughts while enjoying a favorite, affordable sandwich.

Takeaways

• 👨‍👧 The speaker is a 50-year-old Japanese middle-aged man with a 4-year-old daughter, indicating a 46-year age gap.
• 👨‍👧‍👦 He acknowledges that he is not alone in having a significant age difference with his child and has received comments from others in similar situations.
• 📚 The daughter is in her second year of kindergarten and has shown 'poor performance' in activities involving parents and kids, possibly due to shyness.
• 🎥 The speaker has launched a new YouTube channel to teach Japanese language basics and invites viewers to learn with him.
• 🎓 The speaker discusses common kindergarten activities worldwide, including performances by children in front of parents.
• 🤔 The daughter's shyness is a recurring issue during performances, contrasting with her behavior during practices.
• 🇯🇵 In Japan, children born in April are considered the oldest in their school year, which may affect the daughter's maturity and behavior.
• 🧐 The speaker reflects on whether he and his wife have spoiled their daughter by giving her everything she wants.
• 🚼 The speaker used to be a toy-focused YouTuber, which may have contributed to an abundance of toys for his children.
• 🤯 He is concerned that too many toys might lead to immaturity and a lack of patience in children.
• 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 The speaker is worried about his daughter's recent cold attitude towards her friends and is seeking advice on how to improve her behavior.

Q & A

What is the main concern of the speaker about his daughter?

The speaker is concerned about his daughter's shyness and her behavior towards her classmates, as she has been showing a cold attitude recently.

What is the age gap between the speaker and his daughter?

There is a 46-year age gap between the speaker and his daughter.

Why does the speaker think his situation is not unique?

The speaker believes his situation is not unique because he has received comments from others who have a significant age gap between themselves and their children.

What is the speaker's profession or past activity?

The speaker used to be a YouTuber focusing on toy reviews for kids.

What is the speaker's nationality and age?

The speaker is a 50-year-old Japanese man.

What is the speaker's daughter's current educational status?

The speaker's daughter is in her second year of kindergarten.

Why does the speaker think his daughter might be acting out?

The speaker speculates that his daughter's behavior might be due to her being shy, and possibly being spoiled by receiving many toys and having her every want fulfilled.

What is the speaker's daughter's birth month, and what does it signify in the Japanese school system?

The speaker's daughter was born in April, which means she is the oldest among her classmates in the Japanese school system, as the school year begins in April.

What is the speaker's concern about the number of toys he has given his children?

The speaker is concerned that giving his children too many toys might have made them immature and unable to handle situations without patience.

What kind of video content does the speaker have on his new YouTube channel?

The speaker's new YouTube channel offers basic Japanese language lessons.

What does the speaker want from the viewers regarding his situation with his daughter?

The speaker is seeking advice from viewers on how to better raise his daughter, as he is unsure if his current approach is correct.

Outlines

00:00

👨‍👧 Age Gap and Parenting Challenges

The speaker, a 50-year-old Japanese man, discusses the unique challenges of raising his 4-year-old daughter given their 46-year age gap. He acknowledges that he is not alone in facing such a situation and mentions receiving comments from others with similar age differences. The speaker also introduces his new YouTube channel for learning Japanese and describes his daughter's shyness during kindergarten performances, contrasting her behavior at practice with her reluctance to perform in front of parents.

05:02

🤔 Reflecting on Parenting and Shyness

The speaker continues to explore his daughter's shyness, noting that teachers have observed her performing well during practices but freezing during actual performances. He also discusses his daughter's birth month and its implications in the Japanese school system, where she is the oldest in her class. The speaker expresses concern about whether he and his wife have spoiled her by providing too many toys and material things, potentially leading to a lack of patience and maturity.

10:04

🚼 Overindulgence and its Effects on Behavior

The speaker, a former toy reviewer on YouTube, reflects on the potential negative effects of giving his children an abundance of toys. He questions whether this overindulgence has contributed to his daughter's behavior, which includes instances of physical aggression towards him. He also mentions a video he made showing his daughter's violent behavior and the critical comments he received, prompting him to consider his parenting approach.

15:06

🍔 Balancing Parenting with Daily Life

In the final paragraph, the speaker transitions to a lighter topic, sharing his enjoyment of a cheap and delicious sandwich while inviting viewers to offer advice on raising his daughter. He describes the sandwich in detail, highlighting its affordability and taste, and uses this as a segue to ask for input on his parenting concerns.

Keywords

💡Age Gap

The term 'age gap' refers to the significant difference in age between two individuals, typically used in relationships or family contexts. In the video, the creator mentions a 46-year age gap between himself and his 4-year-old daughter, which is central to the theme of generational parenting and the unique challenges it presents.

💡Japanese Middle-aged Man

This phrase describes the cultural and demographic identity of the video creator, a 50-year-old man from Japan. It sets the stage for discussing cultural norms and expectations in Japanese society, particularly regarding age and parenting.

💡Kindergarten

Kindergarten is a preschool educational institution for children prior to the age of formal schooling. The video discusses the creator's daughter's experiences in kindergarten, highlighting the social and performance aspects of such institutions.

💡Performance Anxiety

Performance anxiety refers to the feeling of nervousness or anxiety that occurs in people when they are under pressure to perform well, especially in public settings. The script describes the daughter's 'freezing' during a kindergarten performance, indicating she may be experiencing performance anxiety.

💡Shyness

Shyness is a personality trait characterized by a lack of comfort in social situations or with new people. The video mentions the daughter's shyness as a possible reason for her behavior during performances, contrasting with her behavior during practice sessions.

💡YouTube Channel

A YouTube channel is a platform on YouTube where content creators can upload and manage their videos. The creator announces the launch of his new channel for teaching Japanese, which is an additional aspect of the video beyond the main theme of parenting.

💡Toys

Toys are objects designed for children's play and entertainment. The script discusses the creator's concern about having given his children an excess of toys, which he worries might have affected their development and behavior.

💡Violence

Violence refers to behavior involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something. The video creator mentions an incident where his daughter was physically aggressive towards him, raising concerns about how his parenting may have influenced her behavior.

💡Patience

Patience is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset. The script suggests that the creator's children may lack patience, possibly due to being given too many toys and not having to wait for things.

💡Growing Up

Growing up refers to the process of maturing from childhood into adulthood. The video creator reflects on his daughter's developmental stage, considering whether her current behavior is a natural part of growing up or a result of his parenting.

💡Attitude

Attitude refers to a person's opinion or feeling about something or someone. The script mentions the daughter's 'cold attitude' towards her friends, indicating a change in her social behavior that the creator is concerned about.

💡Lunch

Lunch is a meal eaten in the middle of the day, typically between breakfast and dinner. The creator shares his lunch experience, which serves as a casual backdrop to the more serious discussion about parenting and his daughter's behavior.

Highlights

A 50-year-old Japanese man discusses raising his 4-year-old daughter amidst a 46-year age gap.

The man acknowledges he's not alone in having a significant age difference with his child and receives comments from others in similar situations.

He announces the launch of a new YouTube channel for learning Japanese language.

The daughter shows poor performance during kindergarten activities, often freezing and not participating.

Teachers suggest the daughter might be shy, as she performs well during practices but not in front of parents.

The man realizes his daughter's unique personality, including her shyness, and accepts it as part of her identity.

The daughter, born in April, is the oldest in her class in Japan, where school year starts in April.

The man contemplates whether he and his wife have spoiled their daughter by giving her everything she wants.

He used to be a toy-focused YouTuber, which might have contributed to his children having more toys than others.

The man questions if providing too many toys has led to his daughter lacking patience and becoming immature.

He shares a video of his daughter displaying violent behavior towards him, sparking comments about his parenting.

The man notices his daughter's cold attitude towards her friends and classmates, causing him concern.

He seeks advice on how to improve his parenting and his daughter's behavior towards others.

The man shares his favorite inexpensive sandwich and its appealing combination of thin bread and hamburgers.

He invites viewers to comment with advice on raising his daughter, showing his openness to feedback.

Transcripts

hi today I would like to talk about how

I should raise my fouryear

daughter while I'm

eating my lunch

today so I'm 50 years old Japanese

middleaged

man I'm I think I'm very typical

Japanese middleaged

man but uh the unique point of me myself

is I'm 50 years old my my daughter is 4

years old as you can imagine we have 46

years old age Gap and uh looking at

fathers of her

classmates they are they look very very

young and uh I understand that you know

I'm not alone

uh

like who has the big gap between father

and daughter and I have received so many

comments explaining the similar

situation like some um some somebody

someone gave me comments like I'm over

60s and my daughter is still like very

very young and

uh I I I think I understand that you

know I'm not alone and uh this is not my

problem and then then we have to deal

with and this is not you know uh the

cause

of the problem that I'm going to talk

about

today so my daughter 4 years

old studed

her uh

kindergarten since she became 3 years

old so she has now second year of he

kindergarten and every time we went

to high school to participate like you

know the parents and the kids

activities

she had shown

us like I don't know how to say poor

performance I don't I I shouldn't say

poor but I don't know how to say in in

best way in English because

so before moving on to today's topic I

have an announcement I have launched my

new YouTube channel where you can study

you can learn Japanese language with me

so if you are interested in learning

Japanese language with me please click

the link in the description box of this

video you will be led to my new YouTube

channel where you can stud stud basic

Japanese language with me so

kindergartens I think it's it is not

only happening in Japan but also

happening in the world I think we have

the same situation we must have the same

situation kindergarten have

kindergartens have the

activities where parents and kids are

playing together and especially you know

uh kids are showing their

performances with the pre pre pre

preliminary practices and dancing

singing together and um we actually we

have participated in the several

occasion several you know these kind of

activities but every time we have we

went there and see our daughter's

performance actually see she

was freezing she was freezing she she

was freezing and other kids for example

for one occasion I can give you the one

occasion so the kids were supposed to

sing sing sing a songs sing a song with

a dancing dancing performers it's like a

you know music performance so they had

practiced a

lot and then the day they showed us the

performances only our

daughter didn't show her

performance so she was frozen and

she look

at the floor all the time like

this didn't show any smiles and uh you

know other kids were dancing singing

like you know very very playful so they

showed us they showed the the parents

and they show the classmates you know

the best performances but my our

daughter was

freeing just

freeing so we understand that you know

she is just a so I have um another

announcement if you are looking for

someone who can help your business in

Japan or something related to Japan

Japanese things please contact

me through the contact form that you can

find in the link in the description box

of this video shy she's just a

shy and uh maybe she does she she didn't

want to

show in front of the you know every

everybody and uh because you know when

we talked about this problem not problem

I think this incident with their

teachers they said you know maybe your

daughter was just a shy

because when they had

practices our daughter she your

daughter looked very well dancing

singing together with other

kids but the day actually they have to

they had to show the performance their

parents maybe she becomes she became

just a shy but every time every occasion

we

had every time she

showed the poor performance sorry I

don't know how to say poor so that's why

I'm just saying poor so she she's she

she's she was always the freezing

so and now actually she's very very

unique so

we have recognized her identity and her

characteristics her personality and

including the shinness and uh you know

as you can imagine and

uh I don't know and actually she was she

she was born in April she was born in

April and uh actually in Japan the new

school the new school begins from April

so meaning if you are born in April you

are the

senior the the

oldest kids in in your in your school if

you are born in like March February

January you have to part you have you

have you you will be put into

the the

classes how do you say I don't know

sorry um I don't know how to explain

properly this situation but anyway if

you are born in in April in Japan and

the school the the new school starts

from April so you will be the oldest you

will be the senior the the most senior

uh kids in the class so meaning she

actually she actually is the most senior

in the class because you know looking at

her classmates who are born in like

January February March it almost like

they have one year Gap so she looks very

senior than other kids and she must be

like more mature more mature than other

kids we understand and uh maybe she has

just been become the very very

difficult

age to Growing to be growing up to from

the just the small kids to the maybe you

know K kids who can

understand

everything so so they don't they didn't

understand what they are doing you know

what the purpose of and maybe my our

daughter is very very smart so we can we

can tell we can tell the difference

between my daughter and other

kids so but

uh the reason why I wanted to speak

about this topic is that I don't know if

I if we me and my wife have been

spoiling her too

much we have given her everything

everything she

wanted and uh I'm not sure if you're

familiar with my situation I used to be

a a toy my I used to be a

YouTuber Miz

YouTuber uh focusing on the toy toy

review so and so that's why I have many

many toys for kids especially for kids

so and I still have possessed so many

toys and actually I have given them to

our sons not only for not only to my

daughter but also my son so maybe they

have much much

more toys than other kids so I'm

wondering

if I had big mistake to given

them the more more toys than others so I

remember

when I read articles explaining if you

give your kids so many things so many

toys

they would become immature and they

cannot stand anything so

they

are growing up

with without patient patient

so that's why I'm wondering if

I have made big mistake to raise a kid

and actually I made in I made a video

showing my daughter's a little bit

violence against me so she punched me

kicking she was kicking me and uh with

in screaming and uh actually it was not

because

I was filming her and she hates actually

she hates to be filmed to be filmed this

is true but uh the video I showed you

before I'm not sure if you are if you

have already watched it or not so she

was very very violent against me she was

kicking me she was punching me and uh I

have I I received so many comments

saying you know it was

too too violent you I made I I must I

must make big mistakes to how to raise

my

kids especially my daughter but uh I

don't know I don't know and the reason

why I wanted to speak out today again is

that

so uh recently we I have realized

her attitude toward

her classmates her

friends look like not good way so she a

little bit she was she was showing a

little bit like a cold attitude toward

her friends recently and I have realized

recently that's why I wanted to make

this video today so and I think I can

fix

how to raise our kids how to raise our

daughter and uh but I'm not sure if this

is just natural thing or this is just it

happens all the time and everywhere and

maybe many parents are facing the same

issues and same problems and maybe she's

just in the middle of the growing up

from the little kid

babies from the baby to the little kid

small kid

but I don't know so yeah go back to the

my today's lunch I'm going to show you

this my

favorite

sandwich and uh this is really cheap

really cheap uh I can I bought this one

for only like one below $1 $1 us and it

has four four hamburgers four

hamburgers and a

this is not like um

oding

hamburger and the the bread is very thin

very thin soft very very soft and

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inside so you see there's a hamburger

it's really good the combination between

so this is not my first time for me to

share this hamburger I think it's it's

it is it has been my second time but uh

I wanted to show you

again so the combination between

hamburger and the

thin bread is really

nice

M

spur

so if you have some

advice regarding how to raise my

daughter please give me your comments