I'm Gay and I Dislike Pride Month
Summary
TLDRThe speaker expresses a conflicted view on Pride Month, feeling it's unnecessary to celebrate something as innate as sexuality. They argue that true acceptance comes from normalcy, not special treatment, and criticize the community's exclusion of differing opinions. The script also addresses the glamorization of LGBT struggles and the need for the community to be more open-minded and tolerant of diverse perspectives.
Takeaways
- π³οΈβπ The speaker has never attended a Pride parade and feels that the focus on pride might be misplaced, as they don't view their sexuality as something to be proud of.
- π€ The speaker questions the celebration of being gay as if it's a choice, comparing it to being proud of having brown hair or two hands, which are also not chosen.
- π The speaker feels that the widespread encouragement to be proud of one's sexuality can be strange and unnecessary, as they don't pay much attention to their own.
- π The speaker experiences internal conflict when seeing posts on social media celebrating aspects of themselves they don't focus on, leading to mixed feelings about the support.
- π The speaker argues that making special months or parades for the LGBT community might inadvertently make 'gayness' seem special, which they find undesirable.
- π The speaker doesn't want to be treated as special or different for their sexuality, preferring to be seen as normal and not defined by it.
- π€·ββοΈ The speaker disagrees with the idea that Pride parades necessarily encourage acceptance, believing that true acceptance comes from normalizing, not highlighting differences.
- π The speaker observes an awkward social pressure on straight people to show support for the LGBT community, which can create distance rather than connection.
- π€ The speaker suggests that most people don't care about one's sexuality, and that this indifference is how it should be, as sexuality is irrelevant to many.
- π€ The speaker finds it odd that some people wear their sexuality as a badge of honor and questions the need for constant relevance to it.
- π³οΈ The speaker reflects on the push for acceptance in the LGBT community, questioning the need for it beyond legal equality, and the potential for this push to backfire.
- π€ The speaker appreciates the tolerance shown by many straight people and suggests that the LGBT community should reciprocate this tolerance, even towards those with differing views.
- π The speaker criticizes the exclusionary practices within the LGBT community, advocating for true inclusivity and open-mindedness, including towards those who disagree.
- πΆ The speaker points out the complexities and struggles within the LGBT community, such as mental health issues and the process of having children, which are often romanticized but are actually challenging.
- π The speaker expresses frustration with the noise and conflict within the LGBT community, suggesting that less focus on sexuality and more on individuality could be beneficial.
- π The speaker concludes by advocating for quietness and reflection within the community, rather than constant noise and conflict, to better achieve true acceptance and understanding.
Q & A
Why does the speaker feel that attending a pride parade might not be fulfilling for them?
-The speaker feels that the main reason they would attend a pride parade would be to meet attractive people, but they have observed from online videos that pride events might not be where 'baddies' go, leaving them uncertain about what they would gain from attending.
What does the speaker compare being told to be proud of their sexuality to?
-The speaker compares being told to be proud of their sexuality to being told to be proud of having brown hair and two hands, as both are aspects they did not choose and were born with.
Why does the speaker find it strange to see an abundance of rainbow-themed posts on social media during pride month?
-The speaker finds it strange because they do not pay much attention to their own sexuality in their daily life, and the sudden praise for an aspect of themselves feels out of place and superficial.
What internal conflict does the speaker experience regarding pride parades and the celebration of their identity?
-The speaker experiences an internal conflict where they understand the historical importance of pride parades but feel uncomfortable with the idea of celebrating something they consider a trivial aspect of their identity.
Why does the speaker believe that making special months or parades for the LGBT community might not be beneficial?
-The speaker believes that such special recognitions make 'gayness' seem special, which they argue is counterproductive to the goal of normalizing and integrating the LGBT community into society.
What does the speaker think about the pressure put on straight people to show support for the LGBT community?
-The speaker feels that there is an unnecessary pressure on straight people to actively show support or risk being seen as unsupportive or even homophobic, which they believe is an unfair expectation.
How does the speaker view the current level of acceptance and support for the LGBT community in society?
-The speaker believes that society has become more accepting of the LGBT community, with many people being indifferent to one's sexuality, which they see as a positive development towards normalcy.
What does the speaker suggest about the attitude of the LGBT community towards those who do not fully align with their values?
-The speaker suggests that the LGBT community can be exclusionary towards those who do not completely agree with their values, which they see as contradictory to the community's claims of being inclusive and accepting.
Why does the speaker argue that the LGBT community should be more open-minded and tolerant of differing opinions?
-The speaker argues that true open-mindedness involves being tolerant of opinions that do not align with one's own, and that this approach is more likely to foster understanding and acceptance than confrontation.
What does the speaker criticize about the way the LGBT community is marketed and presented on social media?
-The speaker criticizes the romanticization and glamorization of the LGBT community on social media, arguing that it overlooks the real struggles and complexities faced by its members, such as mental health issues and the difficulties of starting a family.
What is the speaker's stance on the importance of constantly seeking acceptance and support for the LGBT community?
-The speaker's stance is that the constant need for acceptance is a juvenile expectation, and that the LGBT community should focus on living their lives without seeking validation from others, especially since there will always be people who do not accept them.
Outlines
π³οΈβπ Questioning the Celebration of Pride
The speaker expresses a personal conflict with the concept of Pride Month, comparing it to an unnecessary celebration of unchosen traits like hair color or the number of hands one has. They feel uncomfortable with the idea of being proud of their sexuality, as they consider it a normal part of their identity rather than something to be celebrated or hidden. They also critique the social media bombardment with rainbow-themed posts during Pride Month, suggesting that it can create a sense of obligation to be happy about the support, even if it feels forced or unnatural. The speaker argues against the idea of making 'gayness' special and for treating everyone, including themselves, as normal, without the need for special recognition or parades.
π£οΈ Challenging the LGBT Community's Expectations
In this paragraph, the speaker challenges the notion that the LGBT community should continuously seek acceptance and validation from others. They argue that the community's insistence on being recognized and celebrated can be counterproductive, potentially leading to a backlash rather than progress. The speaker suggests that the focus should be on living a normal life without the need for special attention or parades, and that the community should embrace the tolerance and acceptance that already exists in society. They also address the community's tendency to exclude those who do not fully align with its values, advocating for true open-mindedness and tolerance of differing opinions. The speaker reflects on their own experiences and the complexities of LGBT life, including the challenges of starting a family, and criticizes the romanticized portrayal of the community on social media.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Pride Month
π‘Casual Acceptance
π‘Specialness
π‘Normalization
π‘Tolerance
π‘Inclusivity
π‘Homophobia
π‘Identity
π‘Mental Health
π‘Glamorization
π‘Open-Mindedness
Highlights
The speaker expresses a lack of desire to attend a pride parade, questioning the motives behind such events.
A critique of the notion of pride in being gay, comparing it to being proud of unchosen physical attributes.
The speaker finds it strange to be praised for an aspect of identity they pay little attention to.
An internal conflict between societal expectations of pride and personal comfort with one's identity.
Concerns that celebrating pride may inadvertently make 'gayness' seem special or different.
A personal preference for not being treated as special or different based on sexuality.
Disagreement with the idea that pride parades necessarily encourage societal acceptance.
The awkwardness of social interactions when one's sexuality becomes known.
A critique of the pressure on straight individuals to show support for the LGBT community.
The speaker's belief that most people are indifferent to one's sexuality, which they argue is preferable.
A perspective that the LGBT community's push for acceptance may be counterproductive.
Reflections on the progress of gay rights, suggesting that the fight may have gone too far.
The speaker's view that the LGBT community should be more tolerant of differing opinions.
A call for the LGBT community to practice the open-mindedness it preaches, including towards homophobes.
The speaker's personal resilience and lack of need for acceptance from others.
Critique of the romanticization of LGBT struggles and the community's portrayal in media.
The complexities and costs associated with same-sex couples having children.
A year after the last LGBT video, the speaker reflects on the lack of change in community attitudes.
The speaker argues against the importance of building one's identity on sexuality.
A suggestion that the LGBT community should reduce its noise level to allow for more meaningful change.
Transcripts
pride month came in harder than Miley
Cyrus on a wrecking ball came in I've
been out the closet for as long as I've
been out the womb and I still have yet
to go to a pride par I feel like the
only reason I would go would be to pick
up some baddies but judging by the
videos I've seen online Pride's not
where the baddies go during pride month
there's this widespread encouragement to
be proud of something that you simply
didn't choose to be I mean being told to
be proud that I'm gay feels the same as
being told to be proud that I have brown
hair and two hands I mean I didn't
really choose these things I just popped
out the [Β __Β ] portal like this and I'm
forced to exist with it now if you're
anything like me it feels a little
strange to be casually scrolling through
your IG feed to suddenly see a rainbow
assortment of posts praising an aspect
of yourself that you really don't even
pay much attention to and then you get
those thoughts in the back of your head
like oh but shouldn't I be happy that
these people are supporting me I mean
hey there's a whole month dedicated to
celebrating an aspect of myself that was
once unacceptable so this is a good
thing right you surface level thoughts
try to convince you to be happy about it
but something internally is still just
not sitting well see if you keep making
these special months and these special
parades then it makes gayness special
and I know I can't speak for everyone
but I don't want to be treated like I'm
special especially not for something as
trivial as my sexuality I have no desire
to be treated like I'm different when I
feel perfectly normal some people might
think that the pride parades encourage
people to be more accepting of the
community but to be honest I disagree
the only way you're going to reach
normaly is when you stop constantly
highlighting the fact that you're
different I can feel this awkward
distance between myself and an
acquaintance when they find out I'm gay
there's this subtle pause where I can
tell they feel some amount of social
pressure to say something supportive so
that they don't seem homophobic there's
this weird pressure put on straight
people that if they're not openly
supportive or actively participating
then they're somehow not an ally when in
actuality most people just don't care
they don't care that you're gay it makes
no difference to them your sexuality is
completely irrelevant in their mind
which is exactly how it should be do you
really want to be treated any
differently on the basis of who you want
to hump I just find it strange to see
people wearing their sexuality like it's
some badge of honor like maybe we should
reconsider giving relevance to this
really irrelevant detail about us I mean
I'd like to say there's more depth than
my character than my love for big booty
Latinas I understand that in many ways
the LGBT community is still pushing to
be more accepted but I guess the part I
don't understand is why you need that
acceptance anyway legally you can get
married to who you want now so what are
you pushing for after enough time and
effort a push starts to feel like a
shove and that's the point I feel like
we passed a long time ago where we're
not just raising awareness and support
but trying to force others to agree with
it that's when you really start to see
some push back and the progress you were
making for the community actually starts
to regress I mean overall I feel like
straight people have been pretty nice to
us sure I got called a [Β __Β ] and a Dy
more times than I could count but for
every person who called me a slur there
were thousands that voted in support of
gay marriage a lot of people have been
tolerant of us and I just think it's a
good idea to return some of that
tolerance it's okay if someone's not
okay with you being gay they have their
own life their own experiences and their
own freedom to believe whatever they
want it's pretty unreal how the LGBT
community is known for being an
inclusive and accepting group yet
they're extremely excluding of anyone
who doesn't fully align with 100% of
their values they're so inclusive that
if you're not inclusive they exclude you
get it if we're going to preach
open-mindedness then let's actually be
open-minded that means being open to
people who completely disagree with your
worldview real open-mindedness means
being tolerant to opinions that don't
align with your own there are people who
will never relate to your perspective
and they don't have to as crazy as it
sounds I think I could be friends with a
homophobe I grew up never being accepted
I don't care if you don't like who I am
I'm open to hearing your perspective
even if it's not one that I personally
subscribe to I'm never going to try to
force you to adopt my point of view
that's a trivial battle I have zero
interest in fighting and honestly
adopting that kind of attitude is a hell
of a lot more likely to warm somebody up
to gayness than screaming at them that
they're evil and homophobic I personally
feel like this ideology of constantly
needing acceptance is just a juvenile
expectation overall there's always going
to be people who don't like you and
don't accept you that's just a normal
part of life as long as they're not Gaye
keeping opportunities from you or
deliberately trying to harm you then
that lack of acceptance really shouldn't
even bother you I feel like the LGBT
community is so quick to blame their
inability to fit in or be liked on their
sexuality like oh it's because I'm gay
or it's because they're homophobic when
in reality that's probably only the case
a small percentage of the time I also
find it kind of strange how the LGBT
community is marketed these days and I
use the word marketed very intentionally
here because it does feel like social
propaganda that's trying to sell you
something LGBT is presented as all
sunshine and rainbows literally the flag
that represents the community is a
rainbow but it's no secret this
community struggles severely mental
health outcomes are trash our self
delete rates are ridiculously high and
don't even get me started on the
involved lengthy tedious process of
trying to have a kid with someone who's
the same sex there are many aspects of
gayness that just suck like it's weirdly
romanticized on social media these days
and I don't get it like why glamorize it
I got to spend thousands of dollars to
extract my eggs pay to keep them in a
baby freezer find a sperm donor and then
once it's all said and done there's only
like a 30% chance of success so if it
doesn't work I got to pay for that
process all over again I can't just nut
in the [Β __Β ] and then 9 months later she
poops out a baby like this shit's
complicated it's been a year since I
released my last LGBT video about pride
and what's amazing is that 2 million
people watched it but it feels like
nobody listened people in the comments
were calling me a traitor saying things
like friendly fire will not be tolerated
but when did we ever declare a war I
don't want to fight you you've built
your entire identity on something as
trivial as who you want to sleep with
and as far as I'm aware you didn't make
that decision and neither did I I'm not
firing shots I'm telling you it's dumb
to have your guns out in the first place
you think there's way more people who
care about this than there actually are
nobody cares about who you're trying to
hump except for whoever is trying to get
humped people were wanting me to make
more LGBT related videos but I didn't
want to because continuously bringing it
up just gives this trivial thing way
more importance than it does deserves
the best thing this community can do
right now is to be quiet and I know it
sounds harsh for me saying that but
there's just a lot of noise coming from
this community and it sucks knowing that
by making this video I'm really just
adding to it but I'm not trying to add
fuel to the Flames I'm holding a fire
extinguisher trying to put it out fall
back too close you ain't even me trust
my brothers
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