How to guarantee you regret your life
Summary
TLDRThis video script humorously outlines the 'perfect' path to a life filled with regret, suggesting prioritizing work over all else, following others' expectations, suppressing feelings, neglecting friendships, avoiding change, ignoring health, seeking instant gratification, holding grudges, and never allowing happiness. It satirically advises against intentional living and self-reflection, ultimately urging viewers to avoid the author's book on 'Feelgood Productivity' and a series on intentional living.
Takeaways
- π Prioritizing work over all else can lead to regret, as it may sacrifice health, relationships, and personal fulfillment.
- πΌ The pursuit of traditional career success and societal approval can result in a life that lacks authenticity and personal satisfaction.
- π« Suppressing feelings and avoiding open communication can lead to unspoken frustrations and missed opportunities for genuine connections.
- π₯ Neglecting friendships by not investing effort can cause relationships to fade and contribute to a lonely life.
- π Staying within one's comfort zone and avoiding change or growth can lead to a stagnant and unfulfilling life.
- π Avoiding books like 'Feelgood Productivity' that promote a balanced approach to life can keep one stuck in a cycle of grind without joy.
- π Ignoring health by consuming unhealthy foods, avoiding exercise, and leading a sedentary lifestyle can have detrimental long-term effects.
- π₯ Prioritizing instant gratification over long-term well-being can lead to short-term pleasures at the expense of future happiness and success.
- π€¬ Holding grudges and not forgiving can create a life filled with resentment and bitterness.
- π Refusing to allow oneself to be happy and setting unrealistic conditions for happiness can prevent the experience of joy and contentment.
- π― Living without intention or purpose, and not reflecting on what constitutes a good life, can result in a directionless and regretful existence.
Q & A
What is the main message of the video script regarding prioritizing work over everything else?
-The main message is that prioritizing work over all aspects of life, such as health and relationships, can lead to regret in the long run, as it neglects the importance of a balanced life.
What is the irony in the script's approach to achieving career success?
-The irony lies in the fact that the script suggests prioritizing work to the extreme, which is actually a recipe for regret, contradicting the typical advice for career success.
According to the script, what is the second top regret of the dying as mentioned in Bonnie Ware's book?
-The second top regret of the dying, as mentioned in Bonnie Ware's book, is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard.'
What does the script suggest about following societal expectations and the potential for regret?
-The script suggests that blindly following societal expectations and the approval of others can lead to a life filled with regret, as it may prevent one from living a life true to oneself.
Why does the script advise against suppressing one's feelings?
-Suppressing feelings can lead to unspoken frustrations and missed opportunities for authentic connections, which can contribute to a life of regret.
What is the potential consequence of letting friendships fade over time, as suggested in the script?
-Letting friendships fade can result in a lonely and miserable life, as it deprives one of the support and companionship that strong social connections provide.
How does the script relate sticking to one's comfort zone to a life of regret?
-Sticking to one's comfort zone and avoiding change or growth can lead to a stagnant life, which may be filled with regret due to missed opportunities for personal development.
What is the script's stance on the importance of taking care of one's health?
-The script humorously suggests that neglecting one's health by not exercising, eating unhealthy, and prioritizing work over well-being can lead to regret later in life.
Why does the script argue against prioritizing instant gratification?
-Prioritizing instant gratification over long-term benefits can lead to a life of regret, as it may result in missed opportunities for growth and fulfillment.
What does the script suggest about the relationship between holding grudges and potential life regrets?
-Holding grudges and not forgiving others can contribute to a life of regret, as it prevents one from experiencing the peace and growth that come from forgiveness and reconciliation.
How does the script recommend approaching happiness in life to avoid regret?
-The script humorously recommends setting unrealistically high standards for happiness, which can make it almost impossible to achieve, thus ensuring a life of regret.
What is the final point the script makes about designing one's life with intention?
-The script suggests that having no intention or reflection when designing one's life can lead to regret, as it implies a lack of thoughtful consideration about what truly matters to the individual.
Outlines
π Prioritizing Work Over All Else
This paragraph humorously suggests prioritizing work and career success above all else as a surefire way to regret one's life. It satirically recommends sacrificing health, relationships, and personal fulfillment for the sake of climbing the corporate ladder. The speaker cites 'The Top Five Regrets of the Dying' by Bronnie Ware, highlighting the regret of working too hard. The tone is ironic, implying that such a life is not fulfilling and urging the audience to consider what truly matters.
π€ Living Up to Others' Expectations
The second paragraph focuses on the theme of living according to the expectations of others rather than one's own desires. It sarcastically advises following societal norms and parental wishes, even if it means suppressing personal passions and interests. The speaker again references the top regrets of the dying, emphasizing the importance of living a life true to oneself. The summary points out the irony of the advice, suggesting that conforming to others' expectations can lead to a life of regret.
π‘ Suppressing Emotions and Letting Friendships Fade
This paragraph discusses the detrimental effects of suppressing emotions and allowing friendships to wither. It mockingly suggests keeping feelings hidden and not investing in relationships, which can lead to isolation and missed opportunities for authentic connections. The speaker points out that not expressing feelings or maintaining friendships can contribute to a life filled with regret, as per the regrets of the dying.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Regret
π‘Work-Life Balance
π‘Corporate Ladder
π‘Authenticity
π‘Instant Gratification
π‘Comfort Zone
π‘Intentionality
π‘Health
π‘Forgiveness
π‘Happiness
π‘Friendship
Highlights
Prioritizing work over everything else may lead to life regrets, as suggested by Bonnie Ware's book 'The Top Five Regrets of the Dying'.
Achievement and career success are not the only important things in life; neglecting health and relationships can be detrimental.
The pressure to constantly climb the corporate ladder and achieve material success can overshadow personal fulfillment.
Canceling on friends and missing family moments for work can result in long-term regret.
The belief that earning more money equates to family happiness is a misconception that can lead to regret.
Following societal expectations and parental desires can lead to a life filled with regret, contrary to living true to oneself.
Suppressing feelings and not expressing needs can lead to missed opportunities for authentic connections.
Allowing friendships to fade due to lack of effort can result in a lonely life.
Sticking to one's comfort zone and avoiding change or growth can lead to a stagnant and regretful life.
The speaker humorously suggests avoiding 'Feelgood Productivity' in favor of 'Disciplined Productivity' to ensure regret.
Neglecting health by not exercising, eating unhealthy, and smoking can have long-term regretful consequences.
Prioritizing instant gratification over long-term benefits can lead to a life of regret.
Holding grudges and not forgiving others can contribute to a life filled with resentment and regret.
Not allowing oneself to be happy and setting unrealistic happiness conditions can prevent experiencing joy.
Lacking intentionality in life design and going with the flow can result in a directionless and regretful life.
The speaker recommends avoiding a three-part series on intentional living to ensure a life of regret.
Transcripts
if you want to guarantee that you're
absolutely going to regret your life you
should absolutely prioritize work over
everything else you know work and
achievement and sort of climbing the
ladder of corporate and Career Success
is just the most important thing in life
right like there's nothing more
important than making sure you get that
next wrong on the ladder that making
sure you get your freaking million
subscriber YouTube claque and making
sure you get that first class degree
because obviously if you don't squeeze
out those extra percentage points in
your University degree it's just not
even worth it right whenever there's a
choice between prioritizing your health
or thinking about your relationship
or doing something related to work you
should always pick the work example you
should totally cancel on your friends
for the sake of staying at the office a
little bit later you should miss the
childhood of your kids because you were
working too hard and you should
absolutely convince yourself that
earning that money is the thing that's
really going to bring you fulfillment
it's going to bring you Joy and and you
should convince yourself that the extra
money is really what your family want
from you rather than your own Presence
by the way the reason this is the first
point we're talking about is because a
palet of careers by the name of Bonnie
wear once wrote a book called the top
five regrets of the dying and and the
second of the top five regrets is I wish
I hadn't worked so hard so if you really
want to guarantee that you regret your
life you should probably completely
ignore that advice and work really
really really really hard for your
entire life secondly if you want to
completely guarantee that you regret
your life you should follow what other
people expect of you you should do
exactly the thing that your parents
really want of you you should do exactly
the thing that Society thinks is good
for you and that would give you social
status and that would give you the
approval of people that you know and
also people that you don't know you
should should try to do anything
unconventional you shouldn't even think
of following your passions or God forbid
taking a pay cut to do a job that you
might enjoy more the most important
thing to make sure that you regret your
life is to follow what others expect of
you and again in Brackets the top regret
of the dying is I wish I'd had the
courage to live a life true to myself
not the life others expected of me so if
you really want to guarantee that you
regret your life don't have the courage
to live life true to yourself and
instead live the life that other people
expect of you all right tip number three
for guaranteeing that you regret your
life is to always suppress your feelings
no one should really have to know what
you really feel about something you
should never really express any of your
needs or your preferences you should
always suppress your feelings keep them
to yourselves never really be honest
with anyone about how you're feeling you
know because God forbid they might think
less of you they might think you're less
likable or less lovable all of those
reasons and you should really feel those
unspoken frustrations and those missed
opportunities for authentic connections
because oh you just really do not want
to express any of your feelings Point
number four to guarantee that you regret
your life is to let your friendships
fade over time don't ever put any effort
into investing in friendships after all
you know if you're really friends then
you it shouldn't require any effort to
keep in touch right you know they should
be the ones reaching out to you and the
fact that they haven't reached out to
you probably means that they're not
interested in being friends with you and
so you obviously shouldn't reach out to
them you should never write Christmas
cards you should never wish anyone a
happy birthday because you know who
needs to do that you should never take
it upon yourself to organize any social
Gatherings at your house you should
never bother organizing a trip after all
you're the one who should be invited to
these things you aren't the one who
should be organizing them because your
time is worth way more than that because
remember you're spending all your time
working right don't these people realize
that you've got all of this work that
you have to do and that you can't be the
one to organize stuff so you should
absolutely let your friendships Fade
Away over time so that you die miserable
and alone Point number five is that you
should really really stick to your
comfort zone and you should completely
avoid any kind of change or growth at
all costs cuz really you know you just
really want to be yourself and being
yourself means you should just accept
every part of you and you should never
try and grow you should never step
outside of your comfort zone because if
you do that things will feel a little
bit uncomfortable and you really just
want to focus on maximizing comt and you
can convince yourself that the more you
maximize Comfort the happier you'll be
and by doing that you will absolutely
guarantee a life of regret also if you
want a life filled with regret you
should absolutely not Buy and read my
book Feelgood productivity Feelgood
productivity why the freak would you
want productivity that feels good that's
all Bs you want grindy productivity you
want discipline productivity gosh we
should like take a sharpie and cross all
that out really it should be titled
disciplined productivity how to do more
this is going to be some of those like
gen Z shitty books that just talks about
like following your passion and actually
enjoying yourself enjoyment is for
losers feeling good is for losers not
for a high Achievers like you so you
should absolutely avoid this book at all
costs all right Point number six is that
you should absolutely avoid taking care
of your health you should put zero
investment of time or energy or money or
effort into taking care of your health
along the way you should probably eat
really really unhealthy things you
should never exercise you should never
go to the gym you should always be
sitting all the time you should probably
smoke as well because all of those
things feel really good in the moment in
fact while you're there you can sit on
the sofa you can hook up a catheter to
your your urethra and you can use that
as a way of not having to get up to use
the toilet you can sit in front of the
computer you can scroll social media as
much as you possibly like and all that
is going to absolutely guarantee that
you regret your life when you're older
all right Point number seven is that you
should always prioritize instant
gratification always prioritize the
things that feel good in the moment
because what's the point of doing
something that you know will be good for
you over the long term when you could do
that thing that feels so good in the
short term you might as well have that
extra drink you might as well spend that
extra hour scrolling social media and if
you do that you're also going to
guarantee a life filled with regret all
right Point number eight is that you
should never apologize and you should
never forgive anyone if someone has
wronged you then you should hold a
grudge forever because after all if you
apologize to them or if you forgave them
that would mean that you're a really
weak person and you don't really want to
be a weak person you want to be the sort
of person that regrets your life Point
number nine is don't let yourself be
happy because you know if you look at
these top five regrets of the dying the
fifth one on the list is I wish I had
let myself be happier so make sure you
don't let yourself be happy make sure
you appreciate that being happy in the
moment is actually just a recipe for
mediocrity and you're not the sort of
person who's mediocre you're the sort of
person who really really cares about
their work you want to be ambitious you
don't want to allow yourself to be happy
cuz you're so worried that if you allow
yourself to be happy it's going to take
all of your drive it's going to remove
your Edge and you're going to end up
being like all of those masses of people
out there who are really happy but who
are not achieving anything at all while
we're there actually make sure you set
rules for yourself make sure you create
boundaries and rules that make it really
hard to enjoy your life you know make
sure that like the rules you set for
yourself to be happy are that all sorts
of things have to happen in order for
you to be happy the weather has to be
amazing and on top of that you must have
done your 3-hour morning routine and on
top of that you must have had a friend
reach out to you to spontaneously give
you some positive affirmation and on top
of that you must have never had an
argument or had a bad day at work
ideally not even had to work at all make
sure to have an enormously long
checklist of things that have to be true
for you to be happy such that it becomes
almost impossible to experience any
happiness because those things are never
going to happen all than one day and
finally Point number 10 to guarantee a
life filled with regret make sure to
have no intention at all when designing
your life cuz why would you bother right
why would you bother doing kind of
reflection about what a good life means
to you why would you ever bother
watching an alial video about journaling
prompts or how to figure out what to do
with your life or thinking about what
you really value why would you bother
with that kind of stuff you should just
be like a pebble floating around in the
waves you should just go with the flow
you should just go with whatever Society
is telling you to do you should just go
with whatever your life circumstances
and your background and upbringing were
you should never have any intentionality
when it comes to designing your life
intentionality is for losers after all
you know those people who waste their
time thinking about what a good life
means to them or reading pH phos ophy or
journaling about this sort of stuff
they're all just wasting that time
that's that's time that they could have
spent working instead and you after all
are a worker you really appreciate
ambition and success and material
possessions why on Earth would you be
intentional about designing your life
and if you really want to guarantee a
life filled with regret you should
absolutely not watch this three-part
series because in that three-part series
I break down what to do when you're
feeling lost how to figure out what you
value how to turn it into goals for
living an intentional and effective life
that's not filled with regret so if you
really want to guarantee a life filled
with regret you should never ever ever
watch that playlist of three videos see
you
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