How Men Secretly Judge a Woman’s Value -

Summary

The video script delves into the psychology of attraction and dating, highlighting how one's emotional reactions, boundaries, and personal history can impact how they are perceived by others. It emphasizes the importance of self-worth, setting boundaries, and the non-verbal cues that reveal a person's past and psychological state. The speaker also discusses the influence of one's social circle and treatment of others on their perceived value, offering insights into self-improvement and assertiveness in relationships.

Takeaways

• 😣 Emotional reactions can reveal a person's history of being used or taken for granted in relationships.
• 🏁 Speeding up the pace of a relationship can signal weakness and a history of being on the receiving end of one-sided relationships.
• 🚫 Lack of boundaries is often perceived as a sign of low self-worth and can invite disrespect from others.
• 👀 A person's past can be discerned through their psychological defenses, such as eye contact and habits.
• 🔍 Sexual habits can be telling about a person's character and past, often without their conscious awareness.
• 🤔 Non-verbal cues like nervousness, fast speech, and closed body language can indicate anxiety and a history of being in weak positions.
• 💭 Boundaries are crucial to prevent continuous disrespect and to demonstrate inner strength.
• 💼 How you dress can affect how others perceive and treat you professionally.
• 🗣 Oversharing personal information too quickly can be seen as a lack of emotional stability and common sense.
• 🗣️ Speaking ill of friends or exes can lead others to believe that you may do the same about them in the future.
• 👥 Observing how friends and others treat you can reveal aspects of your personality and self-worth.
• 💬 The way you talk about others and how you are treated by them can influence how new acquaintances perceive you.

Q & A

What does the speaker suggest is revealed when someone is quick to chase or show interest without receiving any feedback?

The speaker suggests that when someone quickly chases or shows interest without receiving feedback, it indicates that the person has been used to or accustomed to chasing unconditionally, and it may show they have been the weak one in most of their relationships.

According to the speaker, what does it mean when a person's value is determined by what they tolerate from others?

The speaker implies that a person's value is determined by what they tolerate from others in the sense that if they tolerate being taken advantage of or given up on easily, it communicates to others that they have low self-value.

What does the speaker mean by 'blood bombing' and how does it communicate weakness to others?

The term 'blood bombing' is not explicitly defined in the script, but it seems to refer to overly aggressive or intense behavior in trying to attract someone's attention. The speaker suggests that such behavior communicates weakness because it shows a lack of control over one's emotions and a desperate need for attention.

Why does the speaker say that having no boundaries indicates low personal worth?

The speaker argues that having no boundaries indicates low personal worth because it implies that one is willing to accept any kind of treatment from others, suggesting a lack of self-respect and an openness to being taken advantage of.

How can a person's past be seen through their psychological defenses, according to the speaker?

The speaker suggests that a person's past can be seen through their psychological defenses, such as their eye contact, habits, and tolerance levels. These non-verbal cues can reveal their history and their past experiences in relationships.

What does the speaker mean by 'your sexual habits say a lot about you'?

The speaker implies that the way a person approaches and engages in sexual activities can reveal a lot about their character, habits, and possibly their past experiences. It may indicate whether they have been in unhealthy or unusual relationships.

Why does the speaker believe that oversharing can be a sign of low emotional stability?

The speaker believes that oversharing can be a sign of low emotional stability because it may indicate a lack of self-awareness and an inability to discern what is appropriate to share, especially in new relationships or with people they have just met.

What does the speaker suggest is the impact of how you talk about your friends and exes on how others perceive you?

The speaker suggests that if you speak negatively or gossip about your friends and exes, others may perceive you as someone who cannot be trusted, as they may assume that you would do the same to them.

How does the speaker explain the importance of how others treat you in revealing your character?

The speaker explains that observing how others treat you can reveal a lot about your character because it may show if you tolerate disrespect or mistreatment, which can indicate a lack of self-worth or boundaries.

What advice does the speaker give regarding the importance of treating oneself with love and respect?

The speaker advises that treating oneself with love and respect involves keeping one's word, following through on commitments, and not tolerating disrespect from others. This sets a standard for how others should treat you.

Why does the speaker say that people judge you on your past, particularly your sexual history?

The speaker states that people judge you on your past, especially your sexual history, because it can indicate your values, experiences, and behaviors in relationships. This judgment can be significant and sometimes unforgivable, depending on the person's values.

Outlines

00:00

📈 The Impact of Wanting to Speed Things Up

This paragraph discusses how the desire to rush things, such as emotionally investing too quickly, shows a lack of emotional control and low self-worth. It emphasizes the importance of maintaining boundaries and not giving yourself up easily, as it communicates weakness and low value to others.

05:01

🧠 The Importance of Personal Boundaries and Psychological Defenses

This paragraph highlights how a person's history and psychological defenses reflect their self-worth. It explains that having no boundaries indicates low value and discusses how non-verbal cues, like eye contact and body language, reveal a person's past and emotional state.

10:02

👗 The Psychological Effects of Personal Presentation

This section discusses the significance of how you dress and present yourself, and how it affects others' perceptions of you. It also touches on the importance of controlling what you share with others, as oversharing can indicate emotional instability and lack of common sense.

15:03

🗣️ The Consequences of Gossiping and How Friends Treat You

This paragraph covers the negative impact of gossiping about friends and exes, as it makes others think you might do the same to them. It also discusses how observing how others treat you and how you treat others, especially those in service roles, reveals aspects of your character.

💼 The Role of Self-Respect and Handling Disrespect

This section emphasizes the need for self-respect and not tolerating disrespect from others. It explains how people will treat you based on how you allow them to treat you and the importance of maintaining personal boundaries and standards.

🔍 Judging Based on Personal History and Sexual Behavior

This paragraph delves into how people judge others based on their sexual history and past behaviors. It discusses the stigma associated with promiscuity and how conservative views on sexual behavior can impact relationships and judgments.

📚 Introduction to Mindful Attraction University

This section introduces the Mindful Attraction University and the courses offered by Professor Alex. It outlines the various courses available, the benefits of purchasing them, and the different pricing options for both basic and premium bundles.

🎓 Purchasing Options and Course Benefits

This paragraph explains the purchasing options for the courses at Mindful Attraction University. It details the benefits of buying the entire bundle versus individual courses, the non-refund policy for bundles, and encourages potential buyers to try a single course before committing to the full package.

Keywords

💡Emotional Control

Emotional control refers to the ability to manage one's emotions effectively, especially in response to others' actions. In the video's context, it is suggested that lacking control over one's emotions can signal to others that you are easily influenced or have been used in the past. The speaker uses the example of someone who 'speeds things up' or 'blood bombs' as showing a lack of emotional control, which can be perceived as a sign of weakness.

💡Unconditional Chasing

Unconditional chasing is the act of pursuing someone without expecting anything in return or without receiving any feedback. The video discusses how this behavior can indicate a history of being the 'weak one' in relationships, as it suggests a person who is used to giving without receiving, which can be seen as a sign of low self-worth.

💡Psychological Defenses

Psychological defenses are mental mechanisms that protect a person from anxiety or psychological conflict. The script implies that the absence of such boundaries can reveal a person's low self-worth, as it suggests an inability to protect oneself from being taken advantage of or disrespected.

💡Sexual Habits

Sexual habits refer to the patterns of behavior and preferences exhibited during sexual activities. The video mentions that these habits can reveal a lot about a person's character and past, even if they are not consciously aware of it. It suggests that unusual sexual habits might be a sign of being 'used to it,' indicating a pattern of behavior that has been normalized but could be seen as strange by others.

💡Non-Verbal Cues

Non-verbal cues are the unspoken signals a person sends through body language, eye contact, and facial expressions. The script explains that these cues can indicate anxiety or a history of being in a 'weak position,' as they can communicate a person's internal state without the need for words. Examples from the script include speaking fast, having a closed body language, and avoiding eye contact.

💡Aggressive Energy

Aggressive energy, in the context of the video, refers to the assertiveness and drive that a person exhibits, especially when standing up for themselves or pursuing their goals. The speaker argues that suppressing this energy can prevent others from seeing the full range of one's personality and can be perceived as a lack of strength or value.

💡Professionalism

Professionalism is the quality of conducting oneself in a professional manner, which includes dressing appropriately for the context. The video script suggests that dressing unprofessionally can lead others to treat you as less professional, indicating that appearances have a psychological impact on how people perceive and interact with you.

💡Oversharing

Oversharing is the act of revealing too much personal information, often too soon in a relationship or social interaction. The script warns against this behavior, as it can be seen as a sign of low emotional stability or common sense, potentially causing others to judge the person negatively or pull away.

💡Treating Others

Treating others refers to how a person interacts with people around them, including friends, service staff, and acquaintances. The video emphasizes that how one treats others, especially those perceived as being in a lower position, can reflect on their character and can influence how they are treated in return.

💡Self-Worth

Self-worth is an individual's perception of their own value or worthiness. The script discusses how a person's self-worth is often communicated through their boundaries, reactions to disrespect, and their willingness to stand up for themselves. It suggests that a lack of self-worth can lead to being taken advantage of or disrespected by others.

💡Judgment

Judgment, in this context, is the process of forming an opinion or evaluation about someone based on their behavior, history, or the way they are treated by others. The video script highlights that people often judge others based on subtle cues and behaviors, which can impact how they are perceived and interacted with in social settings.

Highlights

The importance of not showing desperation or weakness in relationships, as it can indicate a history of being taken advantage of.

The impact of psychological defenses and boundaries on how others perceive your value and respect you.

How a person's past and value can be discerned through their eye contact, habits, and tolerance levels.

The revelation of personal history and habits, particularly sexual habits, which can unconsciously communicate a lot about a person.

Transcripts

the first one is wanting to speed things

up um this is honestly this will show

any person that you have no control of

your emotions this will show any person

that you have been used to or accustomed

to chasing unconditionally anytime

somebody you run into somebody who

chases you without getting any feedback

on your part or without even matching

your energy tells you that this person

has been in in in one side of

relationships tells you that this person

has been the weak one in most of their

relationships um and a lot of people

when they see that they sort of say if

somebody took advantage of you somebody

took you for granted if you gave

yourself up that easily when I mean

giving yourself up people we don't talk

about sex that's not it we're talking

about emotionally when you give yourself

up so easily and where you're reactive

to them where everything that does

affects you then you're pretty much

communicating to them that other people

have done that and that you are of low

value

right because you your value is worth

what you tolerate from people okay so I

wed to speed things up blood bombing all

that kind of stuff communicates weakness

to people right and the next one is your

history okay your history is seen

through your psychological defenses if

you have no B boundaries that just shows

you you have low Worth right because a

in a a country without boundaries is

pretty worthless right um people without

boundaries have low value in general

because it means that you could do

anything to me and I'm still going to be

there

so like how how is that any sign of

having any personal Worth right and your

past also like I said earlier is seen

through your face in other words you

could see a person's past by their eye

contact by their Habits by what they

tolerate from you and also by their

sexual habits okay um your sexual habits

say a lot about you and you may not even

know it

and the thing is is that a lot of people

who have weird sex habits they don't

know that it's weird because they're

used to it like they habituate to it so

someone like somebody someone who has a

smelly apartment you enter it you're

like yo it smells and they're like no it

don't like oh it doesn't smell because

you're used to it right and that's a

beauty about this is that most people

will reveal these things without even

knowing it right so that's one thing

right psychological defenses sex habits

um non-verbal cues I mean in your face

you're always walking around with a

nervous look you speak fast you respond

fast your body language is closed down

like you don't make eye contact all of

that shows that you have anxiety and

that most likely you've been on the weak

a weak position when people see that and

honestly it most people see that and

they say okay this person is gullible

like this person could be taken

advantage of there's a certain weakness

a a certain sensation of not having bone

like a brittleness to people when they

do when they show their history through

the non-verbal cues

right and that's why you got to have

boundaries because if you don't have

boundaries it just means that people

people continually attack you and you

don't do nothing about it right somebody

disrespects you they know they

disrespected you then they come up to

you did you do something else and a part

of them says is is are they going to

bring it up and when you don't it's like

a part of them just like looks at you

and and just like feels disappointed

because you know we want to feel like

the person that we're with has has Inner

Strength see they want someone who has a

willingness to fight back pretty much

right like to sense some strength in you

like you're willing to to to get angry

per se where when people can notice when

you're hesitant when you're trying when

you're hesitant to speak up or when you

hesitant to stand up for yourself all of

those things are sensed right and people

will test You by trying to see like what

are you willing to accept from people or

when someone disrespects you whether or

not you're willing to call out you know

and the only way for you to call it out

is to use some of your aggressive energy

and a lot of people just don't are not

comfortable using their aggressive

energy because it they feel like it

comes across as as toxic and stuff like

that but the truth is is that aggressive

energy is who you are right like people

grow and people move up in life that's

an aggressive energy as children

children have aggressive energy where

they like to explore their environment

and if you don't let them do that they

get angry right so it's like aggression

is part of who you are and suppressing

that is suppressing a big part of who

you are and you suppress it by not

speaking up and and then you and you and

you sort of don't allow people to see

the full ranges of your personality

because that's who you are and you just

don't want to show it because it might

look too aggressive you know not for all

the Bronx people out there who love

using this aggression this is not for

you right you got to then show so some

you know don't stab people

right and this also goes in your retire

at work right if you dress

unprofessionally people are not going to

treat you professionally how you dress

is so psychological and it affects

people psychologically that you have to

understand this like you CH cannot dress

like any any other way and expect people

to respect you in a certain way if you

want to dress in a way that earns makes

people see you as a smart person well

you got to [ __ ] dress that way right

because people judge you on your pars

the next one is what you share let me

say something the self is always coming

through okay if somebody has bad traits

about them a lot of times they're going

to find a way to sabotage themselves and

verbally say

it but generally some people are are

unaware of how insane some many things

that they

do right they they they get habituated

to it um and so they sh they overshare

they like telling like oversharing to me

is a is is it's a bad it's a sign of a

bad thing oversharing and sharing too

fast right remember the one story of the

girl whose sister who I think was it was

it her sister tried to kill her and and

they were still cool I'm like it's

[ __ ] crazy

girl right so it's kind of there's some

things you just cannot share when you

first meet people and it just it just

it's it's it's a reflection of of your

common sense and your emotional

stability right because some things you

bring shame right some things you just

cannot share with people and a lot of

people they just don't have that filter

and people judge you based on that you

know like when I was when I was a

younger man people didn't want hang want

to hang out with me that much because I

was unfiltered you know so people judged

me on that and they they judged that I

was a mean person that I was you know

not the not the nicest nicest person

well it was because I just couldn't

control my my my tongue I talk too much

and I always said things that offended

and so as much of a good person you are

they will judge you based on your

appearance and how you talk and how you

talk to them now the next one is how you

talk about your friends and your exes if

you talk bad or gossip in front of

people about your exes and about your

friends what people are going to say is

that if they if you're talking bad about

them you're going to talk bad about me

eventually and and a lot of people would

just slowly or subtly pull away a really

interesting one is how your friends

treat you and how other people treat you

you know what's funny is one thing for

me to see how you treat me and how I

treat you but I've had some of the most

fascinating like discoveries about some

people's Nature by just observing how

others treat them like for example like

you could be confident around me but

then when you with your friends you

could sort of sense that they may not

listen to everything you say and so I

I'll observe you and and I'll notice how

your friends ignore you they treat you

with disrespect they cancel on you and

you'll tell me stories of how your

friends treat you and how you're

tolerating that and how you can't see

the difference between your real friends

and friends who are just there out of

convenience and that's why they mistreat

you that way um it's it's it's it kind

of it really does reveal to you a a a

different part of the person personality

because for example I have friends right

and I have really cool guy friends but

then when you put them around women they

get really weird right and so that's how

some people judge you they judge you

based on how how other people judge you

and treat you and if they notice that

people don't respect you they're going

to look down on you a little bit you

know what I'm saying and it also comes

down to how you treat yourself as well

if they so it's but it's very

interesting how that works man that's

why

like for

example a woman might think like I'm

cool but if she sees me with my in in

school for example let's just for

example and nobody likes me and and they

I'll I'll try to butt in the

conversation when she's around me and

they won't even acknowledge me a girl

will see that I'm like yo what the [ __ ]

have you done to be so ignored like

those things matter and especially for

especially women they'll judge you even

harsher on that than a man would I don't

mind dating the loser chick of the group

honestly I I don't give a [ __ ] you know

what I'm saying but but how you treat

how other people treat how other people

treat you it says so much and also how

you treat people

who who are who are under you like for

example I've never been mean to

waitresses I've never been mean but

there was there was this one time where

in in Mexico there was no alcohol being

served because of the election and I

went to a restaurant and I'm like okay

let's go to the restaurant and get a

beer I went to the restaurant and I told

her I was like look I could tell these

people are going to take a [ __ ] long

time and I'm like let's just go

somewhere she was like no stay I'm like

listen listen to me they're going to

take 10 minutes to give me my beer I am

telling you they're not going to she was

like stop being mean to them I'm not I'm

not being mean I'm just being honest

they take my

order they they go back write it down

and then for five minutes they're doing

everything but just bring me the

freaking beer just what's so difficult

about that you're literally on my way

here just have to be in your hand it's

been 5 minutes and I'm looking at her

I'm like she's like why you being an

[ __ ] I'm not not I'm not being an

[ __ ] to be an [ __ ] like I told you

we should we should have just ordered on

the phone and now we're here and I'm and

I and I wait I'm like hey lady um I just

want my beer like what's taking so long

and she's like that you're a [ __ ]

[ __ ] to waitresses I'm like is that

really what it is to be an [ __ ] cuz

then I completely

understand 10 minutes and I timed it and

and she was like and I was like look and

she was like you [ __ ] timed it I'm

like yeah timed it you know the the my

biggest pet peeve in Mexico is is

honestly un when things take

unnecessarily a long time to do oh my

God all right let's continue with the

video but yeah man oh my [ __ ] God we

just seen part of his character it's

horrible I look I'm a nice Tipper okay I

tip people who but that one thing the

whole on like for example you go places

you order something this it's funny the

smaller the thing you order the longer

it takes

all right yeah let's continue with the

video the next one is how you treat

others and how others treat you

okay you have to learn how to treat

yourself with more love and

respect that means you got to keep your

word that means you got to do the things

that you're going to say you're going to

do and above all never tell people what

you're going to do because it decreases

the likelihood of you achieving that but

some people

let other people just completely

disrespect them and they don't do

nothing about it and so people will see

that and it'll be and people will un

people will unconsciously disrespect you

more right and so then people will

disrespect you more you're going to

disrespect yourself more and the circle

continues people can have a good good

ability to sense how to treat you

because you sort of tell people how to

treat you right and you don't have to

verbally tell people how to treat you

all you have to do is have an internal

willingness to just walk away if they

start treating you treating you a

certain way what will happen is that

naturally your behavior will literally

change because what matters most and

it's not what you want but is the things

that you will not accept from people

that changes your behavior a lot more

than that than than the

opposite and the next thing is your past

right your history sex history

okay um you're that part people really

really really judge you on that and it's

pretty unforgivable for for some people

um if they don't like promiscuous people

and you tell them that they're going to

judge you on that um if you tell them

that you you used to do this any sex

work or even this or that anything

related to that people judge you on that

people want you to be more conservative

than liberal about that kind of stuff

and with the world with the way the

world works today you know you can't

like people judge you less on that but

it's still wired to PE for people to

judge you it's like guys as guys we

don't understand that women do judge

guys who sleep with a a lot of women

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