what women actually find attractive

Summary

This video script explores the misconceptions men have about what women find attractive. It emphasizes the importance of storytelling in the 'female gaze' and acknowledges the variance in women's preferences. The script corrects the 'black pill' notion of needing to be tall, rich, and fit, highlighting that women value personality traits like confidence and charisma over looks. It also discusses the dynamic nature of attraction and the importance of finding a niche rather than trying to appeal to everyone. The video concludes by advising men to focus on being authentic and embodying positive qualities rather than changing themselves to fit unrealistic standards.

Takeaways

• 🔍 The biggest mistake men make when trying to become more attractive to women is approaching it from the male perspective rather than the female perspective.
• 📚 Women are often attracted to a variety of traits, and their preferences can vary widely. It's not just about looks; it's about the story you present.
• 🎨 The female gaze is story-driven. Women appreciate creativity and the stories men tell through their appearance and behavior.
• 👀 Looks do matter, but women have a wide range of preferences. Idealized standards like Cristiano Ronaldo or Chris Hemsworth represent only a fraction of what women find attractive.
• 💡 The black pill antidote: Women value much more than physical appearance. Humor, voice, charisma, and other traits play a significant role in attraction.
• 📈 The female gaze is dynamic. Physical attraction can grow as women get to know a man's personality and other traits.
• 🔺 Height, income, and status are relative. Women often prefer men who are slightly taller and earn slightly more, but these preferences are relative rather than absolute.
• 🏆 Focus on niche maxing rather than wide appeal. Men should thrive in areas they are passionate about and find partners with similar interests.
• 🚫 Women don't like nice guys who come off as weak or desperate. Confidence, social skills, and standing up for oneself are attractive traits.
• 💪 Traits behind being a bad boy, like confidence and leadership, are what make them attractive, not the bad behavior itself. Men should focus on developing these underlying qualities.

Q & A

What is the main mistake men make when trying to become more attractive to women according to the script?

Men often try to become more attractive through the perspective of the male gaze instead of the female gaze, attempting to reduce attraction to a scientific formula rather than understanding the variance and complexity of what women find attractive.

Why is the term 'female gaze' used in the script to describe how women perceive attractiveness?

The term 'female gaze' is used to highlight the idea that women's perception of attractiveness is story-driven and nuanced, focusing on more than just physical appearance, similar to how they engage with romance novels and art.

What does the script suggest about the importance of storytelling in women's perception of attractiveness?

The script suggests that storytelling is crucial in women's perception of attractiveness because it allows them to connect with a person's personality, style, and body language, which all contribute to the narrative a person presents when they interact with the world.

What are some physical features that women might find attractive according to the script?

Women might find features such as a nice jawline, slight facial hair, height, a lean physique, darker features, and a mix of masculine and feminine traits attractive, as exemplified by public figures like Cristiano Ronaldo or Michelle from the film '365 Days'.

How does the script address the idea that women have a type but are not limited to it?

The script acknowledges that while women may have a preference or 'type,' this does not mean they are automatically rejecting others who do not fit this type. It emphasizes the importance of individual preferences and the reality that attraction can vary greatly.

What does the script refer to as the 'black pill' antidote?

The 'black pill' antidote refers to the realization that women do not view male attractiveness purely in terms of physical attributes. It encourages men to understand that women are attracted to a combination of physical, emotional, and social qualities.

How does the script explain the dynamic nature of the female gaze regarding physical attraction?

The script explains that physical attraction can grow over time as a woman gets to know a man better. Initially, a man might fall into the 'all right' category, but as she learns more about him, he can either become less attractive or elevate to being 'so hot'.

What is the script's stance on the importance of relative measures like height, income, and status in women's perception of attractiveness?

The script suggests that these measures are important but should be understood in a relative sense. Women generally prefer a man who is slightly taller, earns a bit more, and has a similar status, rather than absolute measures like being six feet tall or earning six figures.

How does the script differentiate between 'wide appeal' and 'niche maxing' in terms of attractiveness?

The script differentiates by stating that while some traits have universal appeal, trying to appeal to everyone is not feasible. Instead, it's more effective to find a niche and excel in it, attracting those who share similar interests or passions.

What misconception does the script address about 'nice guys' and why women might not be attracted to them?

The script addresses the misconception that being overly nice or submissive is attractive to women. It suggests that women are more attracted to men who set boundaries, are confident, and stand up for themselves, which are traits often associated with 'bad boys'.

How does the script explain the appeal of wealth in terms of male attractiveness?

The script explains that it's not the wealth itself that makes a man attractive, but rather the qualities that often accompany wealth, such as hard work, determination, leadership, and courage.

Outlines

00:00

🤔 Misconceptions About Male Attractiveness

The paragraph discusses the common mistake men make in trying to become more attractive to women by viewing it from a male perspective instead of understanding the 'female gaze.' It emphasizes that women's attraction is not solely based on physical attributes but also on the story a man presents through his appearance, behavior, and body language. The script points out that while looks do matter, there is a significant variance in what women find attractive, including a mix of masculine and feminine features. It also addresses the 'black pill' mindset, which can lead to insecurity, and instead encourages men to recognize that attractiveness is multifaceted and not just physical.

05:01

🌟 The Dynamic Nature of Female Attraction

This paragraph explores the dynamic nature of female attraction, explaining that initial physical attraction can grow as a woman gets to know a man better. It clarifies that the female gaze is not strictly about physical appearance but also considers personality traits, humor, voice, charisma, and other non-physical aspects. The script challenges the idea that women want a man who is simply tall, rich, and fit, suggesting that these are relative terms and that most women are attracted to men who are slightly taller and earn a bit more than them. It also discusses the concept of 'wide appeal' versus finding a niche, suggesting that men should focus on their unique qualities rather than trying to appeal to everyone.

Keywords

💡Male Gaze

The 'Male Gaze' refers to viewing women and the world from a masculine, heterosexual perspective, often objectifying women. In the video, this concept highlights how men often try to attract women based on what they think looks good to other men rather than what appeals to women.

💡Female Gaze

The 'Female Gaze' focuses on how women perceive attractiveness, emphasizing emotional connection, storytelling, and personality traits over purely physical attributes. The video discusses how women find attraction in characteristics that go beyond just looks, such as charisma and shared interests.

💡Variance in Attraction

This concept emphasizes the wide range of qualities that different women find attractive. The video explains that while some women might be into traditionally masculine traits, others might prefer softer, more artistic qualities, as seen in the varying appeal of figures like BTS members versus traditional masculine icons.

💡Storytelling

Storytelling is the idea that how a man presents himself—through his dress, behavior, and communication—can create a compelling narrative that attracts women. The video underscores that women are drawn to the stories men tell about themselves, whether through their actions or words.

💡Physical Attraction

While physical appearance does play a role, the video points out that it is just one aspect of attraction for women. Traits like a lean physique, jawline, and certain facial features are mentioned, but the emphasis is on the diversity of what women might find attractive.

💡Dynamic Attraction

Dynamic Attraction refers to how women's attraction to men can change and grow over time based on personality and behavior. The video explains that women might not be initially attracted to a man but can become attracted as they get to know him better.

💡Relative Attractiveness

Relative Attractiveness suggests that traits like height and income are often considered in relation to the woman herself. The video explains that women generally want a man who is slightly taller and earns a bit more than they do, emphasizing compatibility over absolute measures.

💡Niche Appeal

Niche Appeal highlights the importance of finding and thriving in specific areas of interest rather than trying to appeal to everyone. The video advises men to focus on attracting women who share similar hobbies and passions, such as fitness enthusiasts for gym-goers.

💡Bad Boy Traits

Traits associated with 'Bad Boys' like confidence, assertiveness, and independence are discussed as attractive qualities. The video explains that these traits symbolize strength and self-assurance, which many women find appealing.

💡Self-Worth and Validation

This concept explores how men often seek validation through female attention, equating self-worth with their ability to attract beautiful women. The video suggests that men should focus on authentic self-improvement rather than changing themselves just to attract women.

Highlights

Males often try to become attractive from a male perspective rather than understanding the female gaze.

Women are attracted to a wide variance of male physical types, including tall, muscular, and those with feminine features.

The female gaze is story-driven, similar to the popularity of romance novels among women.

A man's appearance and body language tell a story that women pick up on.

Women are attracted to handsome features but also show a wide preference for different types.

The ideal male attractiveness varies greatly and includes a mix of masculine and feminine traits.

Men often feel insecure about their height, wealth, and fitness, which are not the only factors women consider.

Women view attractiveness as more than just physical; they consider humor, voice, charisma, and other non-physical traits.

Physical attraction can grow over time as women get to know a man better.

Men often misinterpret women's preferences for height, income, and status as absolute measures rather than relative ones.

Men should focus on finding their niche rather than trying to appeal to everyone.

Traits like confidence, social skills, and standing up for oneself are attractive, not necessarily wealth or physical appearance.

Being a 'nice guy' is often seen as a sign of weakness, whereas 'bad boys' represent confidence and assertiveness.

Men should not change their personalities to appeal to women but rather understand what women find attractive.

The video aims to provide a fuller picture of what women look for in men through the female gaze.

Transcripts

the biggest mistake guys make when

trying to become more attractive to

women is that they often do it through

the perspective of the male Gaye instead

of the female gays now this got me

thinking how can women be so into tall

jacked masculine guys but at the same

time loads of women are attracted to

members of BTS and how are sometimes

attractive women together with men who

look just about average so here's what I

realized what women are attracted to has

a huge variance and the biggest mistake

we make as guys is to try to cut it down

to science when it's anything but that

in this video we're going to teach you

the difference between what guys think

women want versus what women actually

find attractive part one the female gaze

at its core is story driven there's a

reason why the bestselling books every

year are romance novels and their

biggest consumers are women it's the

same reason why artists and musicians

throughout history Have Been Loved by

women they use their creativity to tell

a story you also tell a story every time

you walk out of a door as a guy you just

don't realize it the way you

dress freaking out your choice of hair

what do you think is the best hairstyle

guy can have fluffy middle part high

fade you have a mullet it's good like

long and out of the face the longer hair

just like wavy the way you walk the way

you hold eye contact you love designs so

you're basically a match made in heaven

right guys interest yeah in your body

language these all tell a story and

women pick up on them part two looks do

matter women obviously are attracted to

or prefer a handsome guy a nice jawline

slight facial hair height a lean

physique darker features and a mix of

masculine and feminine features if you

wanted to create a guy that is

attractive to the most amount of women

worldwide he'd probably look something

like Cristiano Ronaldo or michell

from the film 365 days but even when it

comes down to looks there's a huge

variance in types women have preferences

when it comes to a guy's ethnicity they

have preferences when it comes to a

man's body type make a guy a bit more

feminine and you have Zay Malik make him

more masculine and you have Chris

Hemsworth but remember these are just

ideals as a guy yourself you might like

tall blondes but that doesn't mean that

you'll say no to short brunettes so just

like women have a type that doesn't mean

that they are automatically rejecting

everything else part three the black

pill antidote for some reason when God

discover women's desire to have a man

who's tall rich and fit it makes them

feel insecure about themselves and

hopeless if you spend an hour in any

busy downtown square and observe couples

through your male gaze here's what

you'll notice average guys with average

girls and average guys with beautiful

girls this is because through the female

gaze women don't view male

attractiveness as a purely physical

equation as men we put so much effort

into improving our physical

attractiveness and it's it's the only

thing we compare when we see a couple

now don't get me wrong women crave a guy

with a Vaper just like us men are

attracted to women with an hourglass

body at the end of the day the first

thing a woman sees when she first meets

you is your face right your humor voice

smell Charisma skills your love language

and so many other aspects still

determine how attractive you are through

the female gaze women are attracted to

so much more than just looks part four

the female fale gaze is dynamic let me

explain if a girl is not attracted to a

guy at First Sight the physical

attraction can still grow a ton once she

knows more about you the majority of men

fall into the yah he's all right

category as the girl gets to know him he

can either fumble it into you I would

never or Elevate into he's so hot this

is a bit hard to understand as a guy

because when we see a beautiful girl at

first we fall in love instantly part

five relative versus absolute let's talk

about the three things that absolutely

belong to the female gays height income

and Status we've all heard the phrase

six figures six feet and a six-pack all

of these things are attractive but most

guys still get it wrong when girls say

they want a taller Guy this is a

relative statement it means that they

want a man who's taller than them and

the same goes for income and Status

statistically most couples have this one

thing in common the man is only a few

inches taller than the woman and the man

makes only a bit more money status is a

bit harder to calculate but we can

assume that this is probably true as

well and let's be honest most guys lie

about their height which has given rise

to false expectations of what 6 feet

actually looks like so as long as you're

a few inches taller and make slightly

more money than the woman you want to

attract you're going to be all right

part six wide appeal versus Niche maxing

a lot of men's content on improving

attractiveness can sometimes spread the

feeling that you need to appeal to as

many people as possible some traits are

Universal such as having good skin and

an aesthetic body but trying to appeal

to as many girls as possible is pretty

much impossible instead find your Niche

and thrive in that area if you're a gym

guy and you're into bodybuilding you're

most likely going to attract Fitness

girls who share the same passions as you

looking at human psychology most people

end up together with people who are in

their relative class and ethnic group

the same thing works here girls will

find a guy who has similar Hobbies or

interests far more attractive than a guy

who doesn't part seven women don't like

nice guys girls don't like nice guys

because it shows their weakness and

desperate feelings to win her attention

naturally women want something they

can't have over something they can

easily get so not giving a girl too much

attention is not necessarily a bad bad

thing that's why women like bad boys not

because they are criminals or dangerous

but because they represent certain

traits that are attractive they're

typically confident social and stand up

for themselves and the people around

them girls like a guy who sets

boundaries and doesn't let people run

over him being a submissive pushover and

a people pleaser is perhaps the most

unattractive trait a man can have and a

bad boy represents the exact opposite of

this

the traits behind being a bad boy make a

girl attracted to them and the same goes

for being rich it's not the actual money

factor that makes a rich guy attractive

but rather the qualities behind

acquiring wealth hard work determination

leadership and courage a lot of men are

defining their self-worth with the

validation of being able to get

attention from a beautiful girl they are

trying to compete with impossible

standards or standards that they can

never reach and as these men are

learning how to become more attractive

to women they come across videos that

teach them to change their personalities

and who they are just to appeal to a

girl by making this video I hope that

you have gained a fuller picture of what

women are actually looking for through

the female Gaye thanks for watching