"Compliments" Starring Social Norm - Learning and Understanding Social Skills

Summary

This video explains the concept of compliments and their role in social norms. It distinguishes between personal and general compliments, highlighting when and how they should be given. The video also discusses the importance of being genuine, the difference between private and public compliments, and how to avoid over-complimenting. It emphasizes the value of compliments in making others feel good while adhering to social expectations. Viewers are encouraged to give compliments thoughtfully and in a way that aligns with social norms, fostering positive interactions.

Takeaways

• 😀 A social norm is the accepted, expected behavior of people within a social group.
• 😀 Compliments are statements of praise or admiration, aimed at making others feel good or providing positive feedback.
• 😀 Compliments can be personal (about appearance or abilities) or general (about non-personal qualities).
• 😀 Personal private compliments are typically reserved for close relationships or professionals, like family or a doctor.
• 😀 Personal public compliments should avoid being too personal in order to prevent embarrassment for the person receiving them.
• 😀 A general compliment can be given to anyone, using words like 'great,' 'wonderful,' or 'fantastic,' and can be private or public.
• 😀 Compliments should be genuine, honest, and occasional to avoid coming across as insincere or manipulative.
• 😀 Showering someone with compliments too often can be annoying and is usually not well received unless it's in response to an achievement.
• 😀 Saying 'thank you' is also a form of compliment, showing appreciation for someone's help or actions.
• 😀 When unsure if a compliment follows social norms, seek advice from trusted adults like parents or teachers to guide your behavior.
• 😀 Following social norms when giving compliments helps set a good example for others and makes people feel appreciated.

Q & A

What is a social norm?

A social norm is the accepted and expected behavior of people within a social group.

What is the purpose of giving a compliment?

The main goal of a compliment is to make someone feel good or to give positive feedback.

What is the difference between personal and general compliments?

Personal compliments are about someone's appearance or characteristics and are usually given in private, while general compliments are non-personal and can be given to anyone in either private or public settings.

When is it appropriate to give a personal private compliment?

Personal private compliments are appropriate when they are between family, close friends, or professionals like a doctor or hairstylist. They should not be given by strangers.

Why is it inappropriate for a stranger to give a personal compliment?

A personal compliment from a stranger can make the recipient feel self-conscious and is generally not expected in a social norm context.

What is an example of a personal public compliment?

An example would be a compliment like 'This turkey looks almost as wonderful as you,' given in front of others. While it's meant to be positive, it might be too personal for public settings.

What are some examples of general compliments?

Examples of general compliments include phrases like 'That was a great presentation' or 'You look amazing.' These compliments are non-personal and can be given to anyone.

How can giving too many compliments be perceived?

Giving too many compliments, known as 'showering with compliments,' can seem insincere and annoying to the person receiving them.

When is it appropriate to shower someone with compliments?

Showering someone with compliments is acceptable when they are being recognized for an achievement, and the person would expect such praise, feeling proud and appreciated.

Why is saying 'thank you' also considered a compliment?

Saying 'thank you' is a way to show appreciation and praise someone for something they've done, making it a form of compliment.