4 Signs Your Desires For Someone is From ALLAH and Not From YOURSELF | ISLAM

Summary

This video explores how to differentiate between desires that come from Allah and those driven by the nafs (self). It highlights four signs that your feelings for someone might be a mercy from Allah: 1) The desire strengthens your connection to Allah, 2) Timing is delayed for your protection, 3) You become more cautious and protective of your values, and 4) Despite attempts to remove the feeling, it leads to spiritual growth. The video encourages viewers to seek Allah’s guidance in their emotions, as desires may lead to personal transformation even if they don’t result in a relationship.

Takeaways

• 😀 Desire can be a test, a sign, or a mercy from Allah, and it's important to discern where the feeling is coming from.
• 😀 When feelings lead you closer to Allah, bringing you to prayer, Dua, and self-reflection, it could be a sign that they are guided by Allah.
• 😀 Desires that bring you closer to Allah inspire caution, responsibility, and a desire for purity, rather than recklessness or sin.
• 😀 Sometimes, Allah delays what you desire, not to confuse you, but to protect and prepare you, and to make sure you're ready for it spiritually.
• 😀 Trusting in Allah's timing means knowing that what’s meant for you will not miss you, and what’s not meant for you cannot reach you.
• 😀 If a desire makes you more aware of your values and limits, it could be a sign that it's leading to spiritual growth rather than emotional distraction.
• 😀 True desire from Allah humbles you and makes you cautious about crossing boundaries, and you care more about protecting your soul than impressing others.
• 😀 Even if you ask Allah to remove the feeling and it stays, it might be refining you, helping you grow spiritually, and purifying your heart.
• 😀 The feeling of love or attraction doesn’t necessarily have to end with the desired person being part of your life; the journey toward becoming closer to Allah is the true goal.
• 😀 A sincere desire to make things halal, or to remove feelings completely if they aren’t beneficial, shows true taqwa and a strong connection to Allah's will.

Q & A

What is the main focus of the video script?

The video focuses on recognizing the difference between feelings of love and attraction that are from Allah and those stemming from personal desires (nafs). It explores signs that could indicate if feelings for someone are a divine plan or a distraction from the nafs.

How can one distinguish if their feelings are from Allah or from their nafs?

One of the key signs is how the desire affects one's connection to Allah. If the feelings draw you closer to Allah, make you more responsible in your faith, and inspire more sincere prayers, they could be a mercy from Allah. In contrast, desires driven by the nafs tend to pull one further away from Allah.

What role does timing play in the process of determining if feelings are from Allah?

If feelings for someone are from Allah, the timing often slows down rather than rushing. This delay can be seen as a protective measure, giving space to build maturity and strength in faith before proceeding. Allah’s timing is meant to guide and prepare you, not confuse you.

What happens when someone starts fearing the loss of their values for someone?

When a person starts feeling the need to set stricter boundaries or make extra prayers to protect themselves from falling into sin for someone, it may be a sign that the feelings are not just emotional but also spiritual. This shift towards greater caution and self-awareness could indicate that the feelings are from Allah, shaping the person’s connection to Him.

What does it mean if a person’s feelings persist despite efforts to remove them?

If the feelings persist despite attempts to remove them, and the person experiences personal growth, increased faith, and deeper prayers, it may be a sign that these feelings are part of a divine plan. Allah might be using this desire to purify and guide the individual, refining their character and drawing them closer to Him.

How does the concept of ‘love’ differ when it’s guided by faith?

Love guided by faith is not about chasing fleeting emotions or desires. It focuses on becoming a better person, seeking Allah’s guidance, and striving for a halal relationship. The individual’s connection to Allah becomes more important than the desire to impress or win the affection of others.

What should someone do if they’re unsure whether their feelings are from Allah or from their nafs?

The script advises making dua (prayer) to ask Allah for clarity. If the feelings lead to more positive changes in the person's faith and character, it may be a sign that they are from Allah. It’s important to trust in Allah’s guidance and wait patiently for clarity.

What does it mean to have ‘tawakkul’ in a situation where one has feelings for someone?

Tawakkul, or trust in Allah, means surrendering the outcome to Allah while acting in a way that aligns with His will. If feelings for someone are from Allah, a person will trust that if it’s meant to be, it will happen in the right way and at the right time. Tawakkul removes the rush and panic associated with trying to force outcomes.

What impact does the presence of these feelings have on a person’s spiritual journey?

The presence of these feelings, when guided by Allah, can serve as a reminder to reconnect with Allah. They may lead to a stronger commitment to prayer, repentance for past mistakes, and a desire to purify one’s heart and intentions. Ultimately, these feelings can help the individual grow spiritually and align more closely with Allah’s will.

Why is it important to reflect on feelings of love or attraction in the context of Islam?

In Islam, emotions and desires are a part of being human, but it’s essential to evaluate them in the context of faith. Reflecting on these feelings ensures that they do not lead to actions that contradict Islamic teachings. By aligning emotions with the remembrance of Allah, individuals can ensure their desires lead them to spiritual growth rather than away from it.