Terapi Konseling Person Centered

Summary

Max is struggling with the emotional toll of his volatile relationship with his wife, Angelina, whose temper has worsened over time, impacting their children, especially their sensitive daughter, Jackie. Max is torn between wanting to protect his family and the growing frustration of living in an unpredictable and tense home environment. Although he has considered leaving to protect the children, he is committed to finding a solution that preserves the family dynamic. With a focus on the children’s well-being, Max seeks guidance on how to restore peace and balance in his home and to better manage the stress caused by these ongoing conflicts.

Takeaways

• 😀 Max is facing significant difficulties in his marriage with his wife, Angelina, primarily due to her volatile anger and emotional outbursts.
• 😀 Max feels uncomfortable discussing personal issues with a stranger, but recognizes the need for external help due to the seriousness of the situation.
• 😀 The emotional strain is affecting Max's ability to focus at work and his overall well-being, as he constantly worries about the situation at home.
• 😀 Max is deeply concerned about the impact of the family conflict on their two children, Johnny (9) and Jackie (7), especially his sensitive daughter Jackie.
• 😀 Max’s wife, Angelina, has become more explosive in her anger, which has recently escalated to the point of significantly affecting the children.
• 😀 Max is trying to balance his desire to solve the problems within the marriage while seeking external help to manage the situation.
• 😀 Max’s relationship with Angelina has deteriorated over time, and he is particularly worried about the volatile nature of her anger, which has intensified.
• 😀 The children have witnessed episodes of anger and conflict at home, leading to emotional distress, particularly for Jackie, who is sensitive to these events.
• 😀 Max has considered leaving the relationship to ensure peace for the children, particularly fearing that if he stays, the conflict will continue to negatively affect them.
• 😀 Despite considering separation, Max’s preference is to restore harmony within the family, as he values family stability and wants to avoid fracturing the children's lives.

Q & A

What is Max's primary concern regarding his relationship with his wife, Angelina?

Max's primary concern is the increasing volatility and anger in his relationship with Angelina, particularly because it is affecting their children, especially their daughter, Jackie.

Why does Max feel uncomfortable discussing his problems with a counselor?

Max feels uncomfortable because he is used to solving problems within the family and has always believed in resolving issues on his own. Discussing personal matters with a stranger is unfamiliar and awkward for him.

How has Angelina's behavior changed over time, according to Max?

Angelina has become more explosive and unable to control her anger. While she would previously recognize her outbursts and apologize, now the situation has become much more volatile and difficult to manage.

What impact is Angelina's anger having on the children?

Max is particularly concerned about how the volatility is affecting Jackie, who is sensitive and struggling to cope with the situation. Johnny seems to be handling it better outwardly, but Max is unsure about the deeper impact on him.

What was the specific incident Max shared about Angelina's anger?

Max described an incident where he was late returning home from work after picking up dry cleaning. Instead of asking about his delay, Angelina erupted in anger and verbally abused him in front of their children, which deeply upset Max, especially as Jackie seemed affected by the situation.

How does Max feel about the possibility of leaving the relationship?

Max has considered leaving, believing it might bring peace to the children and reduce the conflict at home. However, he feels conflicted because it would have a significant impact on the children's stability and he would prefer to work on resolving the issues instead.

What role do the children play in Max's thoughts about the relationship?

Max is deeply concerned about the well-being of his children. He wants to ensure they grow up in a stable environment, and this concern motivates him to stay in the relationship despite the difficulties, though he worries about the long-term impact on them.

How does Max handle the stress at work due to his relationship issues?

Max finds himself distracted at work, often thinking about how to resolve the issues at home. His focus at work is affected, as he is preoccupied with the volatile situation with Angelina and its impact on his children.

What did the counselor suggest might help Max feel more comfortable discussing his situation?

The counselor reassured Max that it's common to feel uncomfortable at first when discussing personal issues with a stranger, but that many others have found relief after talking and that he might become more comfortable as the conversation progresses.

What does Max hope to achieve by working with the counselor?

Max hopes to restore harmony in his family, resolve the issues with Angelina, and create a peaceful and stable environment for his children. He is looking for guidance on how to improve the relationship and address the volatility.