WOMAN reveals her 2 BIGGEST TURN offs that MODERN men display when SPEAKING to women (ruins desire)

Summary

In this video, the speaker reveals two major turn-offs for women: high-energy behavior and immaturity. He explains that women are drawn to men who are calm, grounded, and confident in their communication. Speaking too fast or acting overly enthusiastic can make men seem nervous, while trying too hard to be funny or goofy signals immaturity. The key to attracting women lies in embracing a slower, more deliberate speech pattern and maintaining a masculine, self-assured presence. The speaker emphasizes that attraction is driven by energy and emotional connection rather than just words or appearance.

Takeaways

• 😀 Slow down your speech by 20% to appear more grounded and confident. This will make you more attractive by showing that you are calm and collected.
• 😀 Women view the world through words, feelings, and energy. Understanding this is key to attracting them, as they respond more to emotional energy than physical traits.
• 😀 High energy, fast speech, and over-qualifying yourself can make you seem insecure or overly nervous, which is unattractive.
• 😀 Immaturity, like trying to be goofy or overly funny, lowers respect and attraction. Women want a man who is grounded and mature.
• 😀 Verbal cadence (how you speak) matters more than what you actually say. Women are more attracted to your energy and tone than the content of your words.
• 😀 Avoid making weird noises or changing your vocal tone too much. These behaviors come off as trying too hard and are seen as unattractive.
• 😀 The more serious and calm you are, the more likely women will find you attractive. Trying too hard to be funny can have the opposite effect.
• 😀 Attraction is driven by masculine-feminine polarity. Women are drawn to the contrast between your grounded, serious energy and their own feminine energy.
• 😀 Avoid adopting feminine communication styles to please women. Embrace your masculine energy and speak directly to maintain attraction.
• 😀 The key to building attraction is not in trying to impress, but in being authentic and comfortable in your own skin. Women respect confidence and maturity over attempts to entertain.

Q & A

What is the main problem men face in understanding attraction?

The main problem men face is not understanding that women perceive attraction through words, feelings, and energy, whereas men typically see the world through a physical lens. This leads to misinterpretations of what women find attractive.

What does the script mean by 'high energy' being a turn-off for women?

'High energy' refers to men speaking too quickly, over-qualifying themselves, or acting overly enthusiastic in conversation. Women perceive this as nervousness or insecurity, which diminishes attraction.

How can men avoid coming across as overly energetic in their conversations?

Men can avoid coming across as overly energetic by slowing down their speech by about 20%. This helps to convey calmness, confidence, and a grounded demeanor, which women find more attractive.

Why is verbal cadence important when speaking to women?

Verbal cadence is crucial because the way you speak conveys your energy and emotional state. A calm, controlled tone suggests masculinity and confidence, whereas a rapid or erratic tone can suggest nervousness or a lack of control.

What does the script say about immaturity in behavior and its impact on attraction?

Immaturity, such as making goofy noises, speaking in a high-pitched voice, or trying too hard to be funny, is a major turn-off. Women often view this as a sign of insecurity or a lack of maturity, which reduces attraction.

What is the recommended way to handle humor in interactions with women?

Instead of trying too hard to be funny, men should focus on being calm, composed, and confident. Women are more likely to laugh and feel attracted when the humor comes naturally, without effort.

How does 'masculine frame' influence attraction?

A masculine frame refers to a stable, grounded, and confident presence. It creates a sense of mystery and respect, which makes women more likely to feel attraction. This frame also facilitates the masculine-feminine polarity, which is essential for chemistry.

What is the effect of being too 'try-hard' in terms of attraction?

Being too 'try-hard' by acting goofy or overly playful can make a man seem insecure or lacking in self-respect. This behavior often causes a drop in the woman's respect and attraction, making her view him less favorably.

Why should men avoid speaking in a feminine tone or aligning their speech with women?

Aligning speech with a feminine tone can destroy the natural polarity between masculine and feminine energy, which is necessary for attraction. Maintaining a more direct and grounded communication style helps preserve this dynamic and enhances attraction.

What are the two main turn-offs women have according to the video script?

The two main turn-offs are: 1) Overly high energy or being hyper in speech, and 2) Immaturity in behavior, such as trying too hard to be funny or acting like a goofball.