Vietnamese Bride Shocked in China! Finds China Poorer Than Vietnam, Many Fleeing
Summary
TLDRThe video script delves into the complexities of Vietnamese women marrying into China, often driven by economic disparity and gender imbalance. It highlights the stark contrast between expectations and reality, with language barriers, cultural differences, and challenging living conditions leading to many women choosing to leave. The script also touches on the darker side of human trafficking and marriage scams, where some women are coerced into marriages or flee after defrauding their husbands. The gender imbalance in China, a consequence of the one-child policy, exacerbates the issue, creating a demand for brides and a market for illegal matchmaking services.
Takeaways
- π Vietnamese women often marry into China with dreams of a better life, but many face harsh realities that lead to their departure.
- π Language barriers, particularly the difficulty of learning Mandarin and dealing with local dialects, are significant challenges for Vietnamese brides in China.
- π Many Vietnamese women find themselves living in remote areas of China, which are less comfortable than their hometowns, contributing to their decision to leave.
- π½ Cultural differences, including eating habits, can be a source of discomfort for Vietnamese brides adjusting to life in China.
- π The gap between the online portrayal of China and the real-life experiences of Vietnamese brides often results in disappointment and a desire to return home.
- πΈ Some Vietnamese women are trafficked or scammed into marriages in China, which can be a traumatic experience leading to their eventual escape.
- π° Economic pressures, including the high costs associated with marrying a foreign bride, can lead to financial strain and contribute to the decision to leave.
- π‘ The living conditions in rural China can be a shock for Vietnamese brides who expected a more urban and prosperous lifestyle.
- π¨βπ©βπ§βπ¦ Some Vietnamese brides choose to leave even after having children, indicating the severity of the challenges they face in their new environment.
- π The gender imbalance in China, a result of the one-child policy, has created a demand for foreign brides, including Vietnamese women, to marry Chinese men.
Q & A
What are some of the challenges Vietnamese women face after marrying into China?
-Vietnamese women often face challenges such as significant cultural and lifestyle differences, language barriers including learning Mandarin and dealing with local dialects, and living in remote areas with harsh living conditions.
Why do some Vietnamese women choose to leave China after marriage?
-Some Vietnamese women leave due to the stark contrast between their expectations and the reality of life in China, including economic pressures, living conditions, and the absence of the better life they had hoped for.
How does the language barrier impact Vietnamese women in China?
-The language barrier makes it difficult for Vietnamese women to communicate and build relationships, as Mandarin is a challenging language to learn and there are various local dialects to contend with.
What role does the economic disparity between China and Vietnam play in the decision of Vietnamese women to marry Chinese men?
-The perception of China's more developed economy compared to Vietnam's leads some Vietnamese women to see marrying into China as an opportunity for a better life and more opportunities.
How do cultural differences in eating habits affect Vietnamese women in China?
-Vietnamese women often find Chinese food, which uses many seasonings, to be quite different from their own lighter cuisine that focuses on natural flavors, leading to discomfort and a sense of homesickness.
What are some of the illegal activities that some Vietnamese women fall victim to in China?
-Some Vietnamese women are trafficked into China against their will or become involved in marriage scams, where they marry and then flee with the family's money, causing emotional and financial distress to their husbands and families.
What is the impact of China's one-child policy on the gender imbalance and the demand for Vietnamese brides?
-China's one-child policy has led to a gender imbalance with more men than women, creating a demand for Vietnamese brides among older Chinese men who struggle to find wives.
How does the high cost of marrying a local bride in China affect the decision to marry Vietnamese women?
-The high cost of marrying a local bride, which can include expenses for housing and a car, leads some Chinese men from poorer backgrounds to seek Vietnamese brides as an alternative.
What are the social implications of the gender imbalance in China?
-The gender imbalance in China has led to a marriage squeeze, where a significant number of men, particularly in rural areas, struggle to find wives, leading to social issues such as fewer marriages and higher divorce rates.
How does the Chinese government's approach to social control relate to the ongoing issue of human trafficking and bride selling?
-Despite China's extensive social control measures, human trafficking and bride selling persist due to a focus on suppressing certain groups and corruption within law enforcement, which often turns a blind eye to these crimes.
What measures are being taken to address the issue of Vietnamese women leaving after marrying into China?
-While specific measures are not detailed in the script, the broader issue of gender imbalance and the social implications are recognized as urgent, suggesting a need for policy changes and social interventions.
Outlines
π Cultural and Linguistic Challenges for Vietnamese Brides in China
The paragraph discusses the difficulties Vietnamese women face after marrying into Chinese families. These women often dream of a better life in China, but reality differs significantly from their expectations. Language barriers, particularly the challenge of learning Mandarin and various local dialects, make communication and relationship-building difficult. Additionally, many find themselves living in remote areas with harsh living conditions, which contrasts with their hometowns' comfort. The disparity between online portrayals of China and real-life experiences leads to disappointment, prompting many to leave. Economic pressures and the desire for better opportunities are reasons for marrying Chinese men, but cultural differences, language barriers, and unfamiliar living environments create significant challenges.
π Exploitation and the Plight of Trafficked Vietnamese Brides
This section delves into the tragic stories of Vietnamese women who are trafficked into China and forced into marriages. They are often lured with false job offers and then married off to older, poorer men, sometimes with disabilities. These women experience immense suffering and feel trapped in a living hell. When given the chance, many choose to escape this life. The paragraph also highlights cases of marriage fraud where women collude with intermediaries to target desperate families, marry them, and then flee with their money. This leaves the families not only financially devastated but also emotionally scarred. The narrative includes a personal account of women who married into rural China for a better life, only to find conditions harsher than expected, leading to their decision to leave.
π The Gender Imbalance and Its Social Impact in China
The paragraph explores the consequences of China's one-child policy, which led to a significant gender imbalance with more men than women. This has created a demand for Vietnamese brides among Chinese men, especially in rural areas. The policy's long-term effects have resulted in a 'marriage squeeze,' where many men are unable to find wives. The situation is exacerbated by high bride prices and the preference for male children in some regions. The government's focus on social control and suppression of certain groups has led to lax enforcement against human trafficking, allowing this illegal market to thrive. The paragraph also discusses the economic and social development leading to fewer marriages and higher divorce rates, with a particular focus on the difficulties faced by older rural men in finding spouses.
πΌ Economic Hardships and Marriage Challenges in Rural China
This final paragraph addresses the economic challenges faced by rural residents in China, particularly the high costs associated with marriage. The national average disposable income for rural residents is significantly lower than the bride price and the costs of housing and other marriage-related expenses. Many young men are unable to afford these costs, leading to a large number of unmarried men in rural areas. The paragraph emphasizes the economic factors contributing to the marriage crisis and the social implications of this trend.
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Keywords
π‘Cultural Differences
π‘Language Barrier
π‘Economic Pressure
π‘Human Trafficking
π‘Gender Imbalance
π‘Marriage Scams
π‘Remote Rural Areas
π‘Bride Price
π‘Social Control
π‘Corruption
π‘Psychological Distress
Highlights
Vietnamese girls often marry into China with high expectations but face significant challenges.
Language barriers, particularly learning Mandarin and local dialects, are a major hurdle for Vietnamese women in China.
Cultural differences in lifestyle and communication contribute to the difficulties faced by Vietnamese women in China.
Economic pressures and harsh living conditions in remote areas of China lead to disappointment for Vietnamese brides.
The stark contrast between online portrayals of China and the real-life experiences of Vietnamese brides causes disillusionment.
The trend of Vietnamese women marrying Chinese men has been a response to gender imbalances in both countries.
Some Vietnamese women are trafficked into China against their will, leading to forced marriages and potential escape attempts.
Marriage scams involving Vietnamese brides and intermediaries target desperate families, causing financial and emotional harm.
Cultural differences in food habits, with Vietnamese food being lighter compared to the seasoning-heavy Chinese cuisine, can be a point of contention.
The gender imbalance in China, exacerbated by the one-child policy, has led to a demand for foreign brides.
The high cost of marrying a local bride in China pushes some men to seek cheaper options, such as Vietnamese brides.
The phenomenon of Vietnamese brides leaving China has been linked to psychological distress caused by unmet expectations.
Instances of mistreatment and poor treatment by Chinese husbands contribute to the decision of Vietnamese brides to leave.
Human trafficking and bride selling form a lucrative illegal market, involving corrupt officials and organized crime.
The Chinese government's focus on social control and suppression of certain groups has led to a lack of enforcement against human trafficking.
The gender imbalance has resulted in over 30 million Chinese men unable to find wives, leading to a 'marriage squeeze'.
The high bride price and economic requirements for marriage in China make it difficult for rural men to afford local brides.
The issue of marriage difficulties for older rural men in China is becoming more severe, with significant percentages reporting challenges in finding spouses.
Transcripts
why do Vietnamese girls leave after
marrying into China well you see
Vietnamese girls dream of marrying into
China but once they get here they find
that things often don't go as planned
the difference in lifestyle are just too
big Chinese is recognized as one of the
hardest languages in the world to Lear
and for these Vietnamese women learning
Mandarin and Chinese characters is their
biggest challenge on top of that dealing
with the various local dialects making
things even
harder it's top them to communicate and
build relationships also many Vietnamese
girls end up living in remote mous areas
of China like yanel or Chan they find
these places to be even less comfortable
than their hometowns this reality is a
harsh blow to them whether it's the
economic pressure or the living
conditions the difference between what
they saw about China online and what
they experienced in real life is massive
this becomes the main reason they choose
to
leave since the 1980s there have been
many Vietnamese women who have chosen to
marry Chinese men this trend has helped
ease the problem of Chinese men
struggling to find wives there are a few
reasons behind this China has more men
than women while Vietnam has more women
than men also China's economy is more
developed compared to Vietnam's some
Vietnamese women see marrying into China
as a chance for a better life and more
opportunities however things don't
always turn out as they hope some
Vietnamese women return to their home
country just months or years after
moving to China cultural differences
language barriers and different living
environments are big challenges for them
these along with economic pressure often
lead to disappointment and pain
prompting many to leave the women in the
video also mentioned differences in
eating habits their tastes are quite
different from those in China while
Chinese food uses many seasoning
Vietnamese food is lighter and focuses
on natural flavor many Vietnamese women
believe that marrying to foreign family
would mean better living conditions but
after arriving in China realized the
reality was not what they had imagined
this is another reason why some choose
to leave another issue is that some
Vietnamese Brides were trafficked into
China against their will others are
involved in marriage scams they partner
with intermediaries to Target families
desperate for marriage after agreeing on
a price they quickly marry into the
family then they find ways to take the
family's money once they've nearly
drained their finances they flee into
the dead of night sometimes they even
leave their children behind then they
target another family this is
heartbreaking especially for families
that are already struggling they hope to
avoid High Bride prices and housing
costs but end up losing both money and
family a woman shared her experience
from around 2010 or 2011 many Vietnamese
women married into remote rural areas in
China hoping for a better life but they
found that life didn't improve much in
some cases it was even harder many
Vietnamese Brides choose to leave after
having children while some left before
giving birth she mentioned that in her
hometown at least 200 Vietnamese women
were married into the area now only a
few remain in one Village there were
about 20 Vietnamese Brides but now only
two or three are left transportation in
these areas is poor the Vietnamese women
saved up for plane ticket and left in
these places men spent their life
savings around 50,000 to 60,000 yen to
bring a bride home these men are often
older and not wealthy the language
barrier adds to the problem leading many
Vietnamese Brides to leave this is a
complex social issue she recalled a
particularly sad story two Chinese men
spent hundreds of thousands of yen to
marry two Vietnamese Brides after losing
200 yen for travel expenses they had to
walk home it took 3 to 4 hours to cover
the 15 kilm she watched as the two
Vietnamese Brides cried it was truly
heartbreaking there are several reasons
why these Vietnamese Brides choose to
leave number one the huge gap between
reality and expectation has caused them
significant psychological distress some
Vietnamese women who married into China
had never been there before they didn't
know what life in China was actually
like they had heard that China was
wealthier than Vietnam and thought
marrying a Chinese man would bring them
a better life but in reality it was
different many were sent to remote rural
areas in China the living conditions
were nothing like the bustling cities
they had imagined there women hoped for
a better life but found that things
weren't much different from the poverty
they had left behind this led to a huge
psychological gap for them they felt it
was better to return to their home
country than to continue living this way
number two some Vietnamese women find
that their husbands do not treat them
well after marrying into China leading
to an unhappy life some Vietnamese women
willingly married into China hoping for
happiness love and a stable life but
they often face coldness and
mistreatment from their husband and
in-laws living in a foreign Place made
them feel lonely and helpless this made
their lives unhappy and reduced their
sense of well-being in the end many
choose to leave China and go back to
their Homeland number three they were
trafficked and sold into China some
Vietnamese women were not willing Brides
They were forced into these marriages
they came from poor remote villages in
Vietnam and fell into traps by
fraudsters these criminals lured them
into China's remote areas with false job
offers
once there they are married off to older
poor and sometimes physically disabled
or mentally challenged rural men for
these women married to China felt like
falling into a living hell their lives
were full of suffering when they had the
chance they often choose to escape to
free themselves from this hopeless life
Chinese media reported on a man from Dau
County in Hub province in early April
2023 he paid around 77,000 Yen which is
around $10,600
through an arranged introduction to
marry a Vietnamese woman his family was
hopeful that this marriage would finally
bring stability and happiness however
just 7 days after the wedding the bride
suddenly left without a word dalwood
county is a mous region in northeastern
H it has seen many cases of marriage
fraud involving Vietnamese bries in
recent years on February 16 2016 several
villages in Mayan Township and jingal
town fujan Province saw a mass
disappearance of Vietnam bries more than
a dozen Brides went missing most of them
do speak Mandarin some had been married
for about 6 months while others for less
than a month they disappeared using
excuses like going out to buy clothes
groceries or use a restroom their phones
went unanswered husband found out they
had all vanished around the same time
some of these Vietnamese Brides were
even pregnant many villagers said that
they were introduced to their Vietnamese
Brides By An intermediary from Tongan
Shaman this intermediary had also come
from Vietnam and had lived in toan for
more than 10 years after the Vietnamese
Brides disappeared the intermediary's
phone was also unreachable in jingal
town Central's Village a 29-year-old man
named Fang sha Jun was one of the
husbands of a missing Vietnamese bride
he said he married a woman named Nan
till Yen from Vietnam he paid a bride
price of 50,000 yen he brought her home
without a wedding ceremony or marriage
certificate he said my my wife couldn't
speak the hwen dialect but could speak
Mandarin I saw her ID card but it was in
Vietnamese so I couldn't understand it I
only know she was born in 1990 I don't
know exactly where in Vietnam she was
from she was diligent at home and there
were no signs she planned to leave
Reports say that most of these husbands
came from poor families they couldn't
afford that 100,000 Yen needed to marry
a local bride so they choose to marry
Vietnamese women in recent years cases
of Vietnamese Brides running away have
become frequent
this is especially true in cases
involving black market marriage agencies
these pose a significant risk often
leaving families with both financial and
emotional losses the fantasy of
Vietnamese Brides as gentle hardworking
and not requiring a bride price has made
marrying Vietnamese women a popular
Trend in 2011 the Gangi public Security
Department released data showing that
over 40,000 undocumented Vietnamese
Brides were found in GUI alone in other
provinces the number of Vietnamese
Brides were estimated to be over 65,000
this means that at that time there were
more than 100,000 Vietnamese bride in
China in broader areas like GUI
advertisements are even posted on
utility polls they say things like get
married in 3 months guaranteed or only
200,000 Yen if you don't trust these
Street ads there are professional
matchmaking websites like Vietnam Cupid
that offers similar Services the staff
at these websites often use words like
obedient and well behaved to describe
these Brides They sure clients
confidently saying saying we charge
3,000 yen to arrange a meeting in hoim
Min City if the couple decides to get
married we charge an extra 36,000 yen to
organize a wedding including wedding
photos the bride files for divorce or
runs away within 2 months we will help
you find another partner meanwhile
remote villages in Vietnam are facing a
crisis many young girls are disappearing
according to a BBC report a 56-year-old
woman named doe lives in a small
Vietnamese village with only 50 people
she has a terminal illness her daughter
me went missing two years ago me was
helping out at a market store when she
was followed by two men and then
vanished locals believe me was taken to
China and sold as a wife Do's only wish
now is to see her daughter before she
dies since me's disappearance her
sister-in-law has been living in fear
she forbids the women in her family from
leaving the village alone she herself
only goes to the market with her husband
every day she worries that human
trafficking will one day affect her own
daughter commentator Tang Jing Yen says
that there are deeper reasons behind the
trafficking of Vietnamese women he
believes that China's long-standing one
child policy forced many women to
undergo abortions in rural areas where
strong male labor is preferred this led
to a gender imbalance now there are more
men than women which has created demand
for Vietnamese brants among older
Chinese men tting also points out that
China has an unprecedented level of
social control with surveillance cameras
everywhere yet large scale crimes like
human trafficking continues with little
enforcement he argues that the real
reason is the government's priorities
China's control system focused mainly on
suppressing religious groups human
rights activists and descendants
spending vast resources on this when it
comes to issues that affect people's
daily lives the police often turn a
Blind Eye in many places the line
between the police and criminal gains is
blurred corruption is widespread the
lucrative business of human trafficking
and brid selling has attracted many
corrupt police officers organizing crime
groups and other criminals many
government officials are involved
forming a massive Network that keeps
this illegal Market thriving the problem
of Chinese men struggling to find wives
is widespread vice president Yen Shing
of the China population Association says
China's 40 ayear long gender imbalance
at Birth has led to many young men being
forced into singlehood over 30 million
Chinese men cannot find a wife Yen notes
that the lack of marriageable women for
millions of Chinese men is a reality the
high male to female birth ratio has
caused a mismatch in the population of
marriageable age men and women this has
led to social issues including a
marriage squeeze fewer marriages the
higher divorce rates he stresses that
addressing the gender imbalance in
society is urgent in normal
circumstances for every 100 girls born
there are 103 to 107 boys this is the
normal racial worldwide since the 1980s
China's one child policy has led to a
steady increase in the number of boys
being born compared to girls in China's
thirdd Nation senses in 1982 the ratio
reached 108.5 above the normal upper
limit of 107 since then the ratio has
continued to rise peaking at
121.2 in 2004 the 2010 census showed a
ratio of 118 far beyond the normal range
of 103 to 107 a preference of boys is
deeply ingrained in some parts of
China's Society under these conditions a
negative impact of the one child policy
has led to a gender imbalance in the
population in a 2011 report by the into
times the number of newborn boys in
China exceeded the number of girls by
20% the 2010 senses show that China's
male population exceeded the female
population by 34 million this is roughly
equal to the entire male population of
France yening points out that the high
male to female birth ratio over the past
40 years has led to 34 to 35 million
more males than females this imbalance
has left many men forced into singlehood
Chinese State media have reported that
in some rural areas the cost of marrying
a bride can reach 1 million yen worse
still even if a family spends that much
they may still struggle to find a bride
a man from chy said that among his
relatives there are seven or eight
marriageable men who cannot find a wife
the oldest is 37 or 38 years old some
cannot find wives because their families
do not own property in the country other
are seen as unpeeling because they have
not received much education a man from
northern JSU also said that finding a
wife in rural areas is very difficult if
the parents are not business people or
government employees and if the family
is not well off the young man face an
uphill battle matchmakers do not even
bother with families that have two sons
Vice director Wang pan of China's
national Health and Family Planning
Commission has warned that the gender
imbalance is a serious hidden threat to
China's population and social stability
he explained that the long-term High
maleo female birth ratio has led to a
lot of social problems which are now
becoming more visible the most direct
impact is the marriageable squeeze in
simple terms this means that a segment
of the population finds it hard to get
married or remains single in March this
year the China rural Research Institute
at Central China Normal University
released a report on the marriage
difficulties faced by older rural men
the report showed that this problem has
become more severe in recent years in a
survey of 119 sample Villages 51
Villages or 43% reported significant
difficulties for older men in finding a
spouse the problem was most severe in
the central region with 50% followed by
the West at 40% and the east at 39%
associate professor ding changfa of
Economics at shman University told
Phenix TV that China's seventh census
shows 35 million unmarried men in rural
areas the difficulty in finding a spouse
for older rural men is due to economic
and social development many young men
and women from rural areas move to big
cities for work women often stay in
cities after marriage leaving fewer
women in rural areas not only that in
some rural areas a bride price can can
be extremely high this includes cost for
a house and a car adding up to 500,000
to 600,000 Yen or even more last year
the national average disposable income
for Rural residents was just over 20,000
yen many young men cannot afford to buy
because they lack the funds
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