40 Reasons Why Life Gets Better After 40
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses 40 reasons why life improves after turning 40, highlighting increased confidence, comfort in personal style, better understanding of reality, and greater control over one's life as key aspects of this stage. It emphasizes the value of experience, self-awareness, and the ability to embrace one's true self without the need for external validation. The narrative also touches on the importance of financial wisdom, the appreciation of deeper relationships, and the acceptance of aging, all of which contribute to a more fulfilling life in the fourth decade and beyond.
Takeaways
- π Embrace corny jokes and confidence in your 40s, as it reflects a more comfortable stage in life.
- π Develop your own unique fashion style, unapologetically embracing items like Costco pants and fanny packs.
- π Stick to classic dance moves from your youth, owning the fact that you don't need to follow every new trend.
- π§ββοΈ Find comfort in being yourself, less concerned with others' opinions, and more in tune with your own decisions and values.
- π Gain a better grip on reality, understanding what is achievable and what remains a dream, without giving up on aspirations.
- π€·ββοΈ Realize that everyone is 'winging it' in life, including those in positions of authority and responsibility.
- π Have greater clarity about life, built from a decade of experiences that help you understand yourself better.
- π Take greater control over your life, unafraid to say no and make bold decisions, knowing that closed doors are not the end.
- π° Know your worth and value, having accomplished much and no longer needing to prove yourself in the same way.
- π Understand that life is longer than you thought, and it's never too late to reinvent yourself or pursue new goals.
- π¨βπ©βπ§βπ¦ Develop a deeper appreciation for your parents, realizing that no one has life completely figured out, including them.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video?
-The main theme of the video is to discuss the reasons why life gets better after turning 40, highlighting the personal and social advantages that come with aging.
How does the speaker feel about making corny jokes as one gets older?
-The speaker believes that with age, one can make corny jokes and get away with it, as societal expectations become more relaxed.
What does the speaker suggest about personal fashion in middle age?
-The speaker suggests that in middle age, individuals become more confident with their own fashion, embracing a personal style that may not necessarily follow current trends.
Why does the speaker feel more comfortable being themselves in their 40s?
-The speaker feels more comfortable being themselves in their 40s because they have become less concerned with what others think and more focused on making decisions that align with their own values and desires.
How does the speaker describe the shift in perspective regarding life goals as one ages?
-The speaker describes that as one ages, they develop a better grip on reality and a clearer understanding of what is realistic and what is not, leading to a more grounded approach to setting life goals.
What realization does the speaker have about everyone 'winging it' in life?
-The speaker realizes that everyone is essentially 'winging it' in life, meaning that no one has life completely figured out, which can be a comforting thought.
How does the speaker's understanding of time change as they enter their 40s?
-The speaker becomes more aware of the preciousness of time and the importance of focusing on what truly matters, such as health, relationships, and financial stability.
What does the speaker suggest about the quality of friendships in middle age?
-The speaker suggests that in middle age, people tend to have fewer but better friends, choosing to spend time with those who are truly supportive and understanding.
How does the speaker describe the relationship with their parents in their 40s?
-The speaker describes feeling closer to their parents in their 40s, as they now understand the challenges their parents faced and empathize with the decisions they made.
What advice does the speaker give regarding financial planning for aging parents?
-The speaker advises having conversations about financial planning with aging parents sooner rather than later and highlights the importance of being well-prepared for the challenges that come with aging.
Outlines
π Embracing Life After 40: Confidence and Comfort
This paragraph discusses the benefits of reaching the age of 40, highlighting increased confidence in making corny jokes, embracing personal style, and not caring about up-to-date dance moves. It emphasizes the comfort in being oneself, making decisions without concern for others' opinions, and having a better grip on reality. The speaker shares personal experiences and the realization that everyone is 'winging it' in life, leading to a greater sense of self-acceptance and understanding of what is truly important.
π¨βπ©βπ§βπ¦ Relating to Parents and Planning for Aging
The speaker reflects on the relationship with parents, realizing that they, like the speaker now, didn't have all the answers. This realization brings empathy and understanding towards one's own parents. The paragraph also addresses the importance of planning for aging, especially in the context of Asian families, and the challenges that come with it. The speaker introduces a free resource by Brookdale Senior Living, a webinar titled 'The Hidden Cost of Aging,' which aims to help seniors and their families better prepare for the financial aspects of aging.
π€« Finding Peace in Silence and Stillness
The speaker shares how the perception of silence and stillness changes as one ages. In youth, these elements may cause restlessness, but by the age of 40, they are embraced due to the hectic nature of middle-aged life. The paragraph also touches on the acceptance of not knowing current popular music and the newfound respect received from others due to age. Additionally, the speaker promotes a one-page PDF companion guide for the video, offering a condensed version of the content discussed.
π‘ Learning from Failures and Valuing Experience
This paragraph emphasizes the value of life experiences and the wisdom gained from failures. The speaker reflects on past mistakes and how they have led to personal growth. The paragraph also discusses the importance of financial literacy and how making money mistakes in the past can lead to smarter financial decisions in the future. The speaker shares personal anecdotes of financial missteps and the lessons learned, highlighting the importance of being financially savvy as one ages.
π Boldness and Success in Middle Age
The speaker discusses the misconception that successful entrepreneurs are typically young, citing data that the average age of successful startup founders is actually higher. The paragraph also mentions the average age of Nobel Prize recipients, emphasizing that significant achievements often come from years of dedicated work and experience. The speaker concludes by expressing gratitude for the life experiences that have shaped them, including the hardships and joys.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Confidence
π‘Reality
π‘Self-Acceptance
π‘Empathy
π‘Financial Planning
π‘Lifelong Learning
π‘Value and Worth
π‘Time Management
π‘Friendships
π‘Reflection
π‘Financial Stability
Highlights
Life improves after 40 due to the ability to make and get away with corny jokes.
Confidence in personal fashion and embracing middle-aged style is a benefit of reaching 40.
Middle-aged individuals often revert to old dance moves, embracing their roots rather than following current trends.
Comfort in being oneself and making decisions without caring about others' opinions is a trait that comes with age.
A better grip on reality and understanding what is realistic and what is not comes with reaching one's 40s.
Realizing that everyone is winging it and no one has life completely figured out is a comforting realization in middle age.
Greater clarity about life and a clearer picture of who you are comes with age and experience.
Control over one's life increases as one becomes more bold in decision-making after facing many closed doors.
Understanding one's worth and value, and knowing one's strengths and weaknesses, is a result of life experiences after 40.
Life is longer than previously thought, and it's never too late to reinvent oneself in one's 40s.
Appreciation for parents and understanding their decisions comes with reaching middle age.
The realization that parents may not have had all the answers is a humbling experience in one's 40s.
Finding peace in silence and stillness is a newfound comfort as one ages.
Not knowing current top hits is a sign of aging, but it brings a sense of contentment rather than discomfort.
Respect and recognition due to age brings a sense of accomplishment and maturity.
Being approached for advice by younger individuals is a sign of the wisdom that comes with age.
Emotions are regulated better in middle age, leading to a more balanced response to life's provocations.
Fewer but better friends are a result of life experiences and a clearer understanding of who to surround oneself with.
Long-lasting relationships and friendships carry more depth and meaning as they endure many ups and downs.
Accomplishments in both personal and professional life bring a sense of pride and motivation for the future.
Learning from failures and reflecting on them is a valuable part of life after 40.
Smarter financial decisions and a bigger bank account are benefits of aging and learning from past mistakes.
Accepting one's body and appreciating the wisdom that comes with age is a positive aspect of reaching 40.
The importance of good jeans matters less when one realizes that a fit and healthy body is within one's control.
Taking care of one's body and valuing sleep becomes more important with age.
Starting a successful business is more common in middle age due to experience, network, and maturity.
Winning a Nobel Prize is often a result of decades of dedication and compounding knowledge, typically achieved later in life.
Gratitude for life's experiences, both positive and negative, increases with age.
Transcripts
this video is sponsored by Brookdale and
the great full life web series we'll
discuss it more in detail later in the
video yes I'm a bit biased given I'm in
my 40s but for all of you who are in a
similar life stage as me I want to share
with you 40 simple reasons why I think
life really gets better after 40 number
one reason why life gets better after 40
you can now make ridiculously corny
jokes and the best part you can get away
with it why couldn't the bicycle stand
up it was too
tired number two reason in the line of
being confident with corny jokes you're
confident with your own fashion you can
rock your own style in the past three
decades you tried them all the super
cool trendy fashion the polished I have
it all figured out fashion the relaxed I
don't care fashion and now you really
don't care you buy your pants from
Costco you wear t-shirts that you got
for free from your latest work
conference and you show up to pick up
your kids from school wearing a fanny
pack you rock your own style middle-aged
style number three to go along with your
middle-aged fashion you can rock your
own dance move or to be honest you don't
know any up-to-date dance moves that are
popular these days or have any desire to
learn so you revert back to what you
know the Running Man the Humpty Dance
the Cabbage Patch makes it pretty
obvious that you grew up in the '90s and
your kids are embarrassed to be seen
with you but by the time you reach your
40s you really do not care what really
matters is that you're having fun and
being true to yourself number four in
general you're just more comfortable
being yourself when you were younger you
spent so much of your energy caring so
much about what other people thought
about you you gave other people power by
allowing them to dictate your life but
now in your 40s you're a lot more
comfortable being yourself you feel a
lot more comfortable in your skin you
make decisions without caring so much
about what other people think you work
things without thinking about what other
people would say you say things that are
true to yourself not what others want to
hear from you when I turned 40 I was
like huh I accept myself more now it was
much more comforting number five reason
why life gets better after 40 you have a
better grip of reality not like we were
out of touch with reality before but
it's it's true that when many of us were
young we were driven by over-the-top
dreams and goals climbing Mount Everest
flying out to space as an astronaut
becoming a tech billionaire I'm not
saying we should discount our dreams and
goals because what is life if we don't
have our goals and dreams it's just that
by the time we reach our 40s we realize
what is realistic and what is not
anymore what is possible on planet Earth
and what is a fantasy climbing Mount
Everest is cool but maybe I should start
with climbing the local park flying out
to space would have been awesome but I'm
content with flying to Cincinnati Tech
Bonaire I'm fine with being financially
comfortable in a better grip on reality
helps with the next reason why life gets
better after 40 number six you now
realize everyone is winging it you had a
growing suspicion in your 20s and 30s
but now you can confirm it you're now
the one making executive decisions at
work you're right now the so called
important reports that everyone reads
and you attend parent teacher conference
because you're a responsible adult but
you see it even more clearly now
everyone is winging it because you are
winging it no one has life figured out
and that feels great to know number
seven you have greater clarity about
life when you're in the fourth decade of
your life you have experienced a lot
definitely not everything compared to
someone in their eighth decade of life
but you've at least experienced enough
to help you better understand more about
yourself you've been in love and Out of
Love you've been accepted and you've
been rejected you've worked with some
amazing people and some crazy ones you
found success and you found just as many
failures or probably more so now you
have a more clear picture about who you
are and what you want out of life going
forward and that is gold number eight
you have a greater control over your
life when you were young you were afraid
to say no you thought closed doors were
permanent but now after having faced
many closed doors you realize they're
not a big deal at all often they a
blessing in disguise thus you make
decisions more boldly you take greater
control of your life because it is your
life I believe the second half of one's
life is meant to be better than the
first half the first half is finding out
how you do it and the second half is
enjoying it number nine you know your
worth and value you've accomplished
things now you can confidently say yes I
can do that I'm good at that I am an
expert as opposed to I think I can I can
try you know what you're good at and
what you're not good at anymore you know
your value in the marketplace number 10
you understand that life is longer than
you thought and that is great news I
used to think that everything in one's
life was settled by the time you turned
30 your career your family situation
your finances thus anything after that
was too late but it is never too late
when you're in your 40s you realize that
life is a long journey people are
Reinventing themselves all the time so
why not you number 11 you realize that
your parents had no idea what they were
doing you remember when your parents
were at your age as a kid you thought
they knew it all you believed everything
they said as the truth but now that
you're in your 40s you realize that your
parents had no idea what they're doing
because you have no idea what you're
doing the truth is that no one really
knows what they're doing no matter how
confident they might look on the surface
we're all living this one life for the
first time number 12 because you realize
you have a lot more in common with your
parents than you thought you have a lot
more empathy towards your parents all
those decisions that they made to make
your life miserable you understand it
now because you're making the same ones
you make your kids life miserable well
maybe not you but I sure do that
punishment you thought was so targeted
at you you realize they were not
targeted at you at all because you do
the same thing with your kids all the
time make up stuff on the Fly and that
makes you feel a lot closer to your
parents living long enough to appreciate
your parents and long enough to have
your children appreciate you and talking
about feeling a lot closer to your
parents if you're in your 40s there's a
good chance you started thinking a lot
about your aging parents about their
health their financial future and just
their overall well-being Asian comes
with its own set of challenges and we
want to be well prepared thus it's
important that we have conversations
about planning for the future with our
Asian parents sooner than later but are
you struggling with how to best approach
your parents I sure do despite having
made a whole video about how to talk to
our agian parents about money there's
still so much that I don't know
additionally it can be so awkward I mean
what can be more Awkward than bringing
up money with your parents right
especially if you didn't grow up talking
about it but not having a conversation
can be detrimental tool not only for
your parents but for you as well which
is I'm excited to talk to you about a
free resource being made available by
Brookdale Senior Living who I'm
partnering with for today's video on
March 28th they'll be hosting a webinar
titled the hidden cost of Aging where
they'll dive deep into topics like
unexpected cost of Aging Rising medical
cost for seniors and different ways to
better financially plan it's part of the
Great full life a webcast series that
provides free resources to help seniors
keep an abundant mindset in this season
of life I'm a firm believer that you can
never have too much information and in
this case being better informed about
the hidden cause of Aging will only help
you in your conversation with your
parents so sign up for the free webcast
that is happening this week on March
28th I'll have the link to sign up in
the description below all right with
that said let's get back to the video
number 13 reason why life gets better
after 40 you find peace and silence and
Stillness when you were younger silence
and Stillness made you feel Restless you
felt the need to always be moving always
be doing something now you don't get
awkward by silence and Stillness you
actually embra R it because you don't
get enough of it in your hectic and busy
middle-aged life number 14 you don't
know any songs in the top 10 you tune in
to spotify's top hits and you can't
recognize any of them and weirdly you're
totally fine with that you rather enjoy
the Stillness and the silence number 15
reason why life gets better after 40
people don't look down at you because of
your age anymore it's the other way now
they call you sir or ma'am a few years
ago I was at my nephew's High School
graduation I wasn't sure when his name
was going to be called so I started
studying the program to see if I could
figure it out out a student sitting next
to me saw how confused I looked so when
my nephew was about to be called up he
kindly said sir I think your son's name
is about to be called up I don't know if
I should have been thankful or offended
thankfully the mature part of me got
there first and thank the student which
leads to the next reason why life gets
better after 40 but before we get there
a quick reminder to download your free
onepage pdf companion guide for this
video it lists everything I'm covering
here and a simple to digest onepage
format unless you have a ridiculously
good memory 40 things is a lot to
remember so if you like a free copy this
PDF please go to the link I'll have in
the description below number 16 people
come to you for advice maybe it has to
do with your age or not regardless in
your 40s there's a greater chance that
people young people will ask you for
advice about relationships career money
and life in general hopefully you have
wise words to share with them number 17
in the theme of giving advice now you
can say phrases like back in the ' 80s
or back in the '90s make you feel old it
could also make you sound wise number 18
you're no longer intimidated when you
run into people in uniform police
officers when I was 19 years old and I
got pulled over by the police I was a
nervous wreck I thought I was going to
get arrested these days when I run into
a police officer I'm shocked at how
young they look they look like they just
graduated high school and I'm impressed
how well many of them carry themselves
big Applause number 19 you're now more
aware than ever how precious time is it
felt like yesterday I was just
graduating college as a 21-year-old
where did the time go I'm sure I'll feel
the same way 20 years from now time is
the most precious resource we have on
Earth and this realization really
hammers home when we're in our 40s
number 20 in the line of understanding
how precious time is in your 40s you
really understand what is truly
important your health mental and
emotional well-being close relationships
and financial stability everything else
is just icing on the cake number 21 you
own your weekends when you were younger
your weekends were filled with
activities most often activities filled
by other people brunch hereare hiking
there dinner out Saturday nights social
life was important no activity over the
weekend made you feel like a Los but now
you love your weekend alone or with just
your immediate family it's your weekend
and you completely own it no one else
number 22 reason why life gets better
after 40 you get invited to less
weddings probably because you keep
busting out your 90s dance move every
time you get invited but the funny thing
is you kind of like the fact that you
have your weekends back number 23 the
theme of less wedding invitations no
more Bachelor and Bachelor a parties
another awesome number 24 you regulate
your emotions better now that you're in
your 4S you don't have $5 reactions to
Nickel provocations the truth is that
when we were younger we had a harder
time regulating our emotions we all
remember the high emotional highs of our
young years they can be exciting and
accelerating but we also have to deal
with the flip side the low emotional
lows I'm sure many of us who have aged
past the high trauma years would rather
not relive them if we could I sure don't
number 25 you don't get fooled easily
anymore when we were younger it was hard
to discern between true opportunities
from two good to be true I took
infomercials at face value what for $499
99 I can get the whole knife set and if
I order in the next 20 minutes they'll
throw in a free Tupperware I must drop
everything I'm doing and order now
before the deal ends in our 40s we don't
get fool that easily anymore or I hope
not number 26 reason why life gets
better after 40 you have fewer but
better friends by the time you're in
your 40s you've had all type of friends
friends from childhood friends from work
friends because your kids go to the same
school well with all that experience you
now know what type of friends you best
get along with and more importantly what
type of friends you want in your life
lives thus you're a lot choosier when it
comes to who you want to spend time with
friends that are will to listen not just
talk and you're a lot happier because of
them number 27 in the spirit of better
friends you have better deeper
relationships especially with people
closest to you a friendship that lasts
several decades is a lot more meaningful
a marriage that lasts 10 20 or even 30
years is filled with so much depth my
marriage with my wife in my 40s is so
much richer than when we were in our 20s
it hasn't been easy but having endured
many ups and downs both painful and
joyful moments we've got to know each
other even better now we've shared our
best and worst parts to each other and
we become better for it number 28 you
have many accomplishments you can be
proud of by the time you reach your 40s
you've done a lot both in your personal
as well as your professional life you've
built your career you've executed key
projects some of you have even grown
families of your own all things that you
can look back on with a proud sense of
accomplishment things that motivate you
to do more in the future but do you know
what's more important than
accomplishments number 29 reason why
life gets better after 40 to go along
with your accomplishment ments you have
tons of failures you can reflect on
possibly more than your accomplishments
if you're in your 40s you know you have
tons of failures that you can reflect on
I know I sure do I remember my
embarrassing failures way more than I do
my accomplishments the Gunnery
certification I failed to qualify for
when I was a brand new second Lieutenant
the error in my financial projection
that our CEO caught when I was
presenting at the executive meeting as a
finance manager the YouTube video where
I said the dumbest thing and only
noticed it after it was uploaded and a
bunch of people commented on it talk
about failing in public but I've learned
so much from all these failures and I'm
thankful for them another thing that
failure has taught me money number 30
you are smarter with money if you're
like me you made tons of money mistakes
when you're younger bought things you
shouldn't have borrow too much money
invested in things you had no business
investing in but through them all you
learn harsh lessons thus today you are
smarter with your money watching
Financial tortoise when you could be
watching any other better personal
finance channels on YouTube see you're
already smarter with your money number
31 because you're smarter with your
money in your 40s compared to when
you're younger you now have a bigger
bank account number 32 you have
Financial Resources to pursue some of
life's Pleasures if you learn money
lessons and got Smarter with money you
now have a bigger bank account and in
turn more financial resources thus while
your 20s and 30s felt like you were
grinding away your 40s now feel like you
have some breathing room you have
resources that you can apply towards
some of life's Pleasures you may not be
able to get to everything on your bucket
list but even small Pleasures make a big
difference number 33 you have learned to
accept your body you might have more
wrinkles your your skin might not be as
tight as they were when you were 19 but
it is your body and you love it gravity
and wrinkles are fine with me they're a
small price to pay for the new wisdom
inside my head and heart number 34 good
jeans matter less now you know that a
fit and a healthy body is something that
is within your control not something
that some people are blessed with and
some are not you remember that kid from
high school with a naturally perfect
body chisel dabs and wavy flowing hair
they were blessed with amazing jeans the
guy hardly worked out yet he looked like
a GQ model she ate whatever she wanted
yet she looked great all the time well
by the time we get to our 40s no amount
of good jeans can hide bad
self-maintenance number 35 in the line
of good jeans mattering less now if
you're in your 40s or in a good physical
shape you're very proud of it because
you've truly earned it beautiful young
people are accidents of nature but
beautiful old people are works of art if
you have toned abbs and a lean body in
your 40s you had to put in a tremendous
amount of work you really watch what you
ate you manage your schedule
meticulously and regularly exercise and
not just any type of exercise you push
your body but not so hard to injure
yourself because you aren't as flexible
as you once were if you're able to do
that on a regular basis I truly applaud
you number 36 because you take
tremendous effort to take care of your
body you come to love sleep again poor
sleep is a culprit to so many of our
mental emotional health problems so gift
your body a restful night or a
delightful afternoon nap more regularly
now number 37 reason why life gets
better after 40 you have less hair to
comb well not me obviously but maybe you
do remember there is a silver lining to
everything number 38 you feel Bolder in
your 40s according to a 2018 study of
data sets from the US sensus Bureau 42
is the magic age of successful startup
Founders it's not the early 20s like the
media makes us to believe Mark
Zuckerberg Bill Gates and Steve Jobs
these successful entrepreneurs who all
started their companies in their late
teens and early 20s are now reflective
of the average successful entrepreneur
on average they're actually older
middle-aged this is because middle-aged
Founders have experience Network
maturity and many other traits that
makes them feel Bolder compared to when
they were much younger number 39 reason
why life gets better after 40 you feel
smarter did you know that the average
age of Nobel Prize recipients is 44
years old the age at which most winners
have received ultimate recognition are
61 and 63 it's not won by Young Geniuses
but by individuals who have dedicated
Decades of their life to respective
studies and the compounding of that
study reached breakthroughs later in
their lives knowledge takes time and
most often we get to reap the benefits
once we're past our 40s number 40 you're
more thankful you've experienced pains
failures Joys and celebrations you know
that life is hard so if you made it this
far you are thankful thank you guys for
watching the theme of turning 40 if you
want to learn some realizations I had
after turning 40 please check out my
video here until next time all the
best
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