The Nice Guys Biggest Mistake

Hasan Bukhari
14 Jun 202412:00

Summary

TLDRIn this video, the speaker addresses the issue of 'nice guys' who tend to supplicate to women, placing them on a pedestal and valuing them more than themselves. This behavior can be off-putting and lead to failed relationships. The speaker suggests that constant compliments and attention can create pressure, preventing women from being authentic. To create attraction, the speaker recommends incorporating teasing, which adds sexual tension and shows that the man is attracted without idealizing the woman. Techniques like 'push-pull' are introduced to balance compliments with light-hearted teasing, promoting a more relaxed and genuine interaction.

Takeaways

  • 😀 Supplication is a key issue for nice guys: They tend to overly prioritize women’s needs, diminishing their own value.
  • 🤔 Women may initially be attracted to nice guys, but this behavior can turn them off over time due to the pressure it creates.
  • 💡 Excessive compliments and attention can make women feel the need to act perfectly, which is unrealistic and undesirable.
  • 🎭 Teasing helps create attraction by removing excessive attention and showing confidence, allowing for more authentic interaction.
  • 💬 Push-pull technique is effective: Compliment followed by a playful tease to balance the interaction and reduce pressure.
  • ⚖️ Too much spotlight on the woman creates an imbalance; teasing shifts the focus and relieves the tension.
  • ⏳ Taking time to respond in conversations signals confidence and prevents overwhelming attention on the woman.
  • 🗣️ Speaking in a calm, measured tone instead of using overly enthusiastic or high-pitched responses helps reduce supplication.
  • 🛑 Avoid listing accomplishments or trying too hard to impress; this comes across as needy and unattractive.
  • 🤝 Teasing is a skill nice guys need to practice gradually to build confidence and improve their social interactions.

Q & A

  • What is the main issue with 'nice guys' as described in the script?

    -The main issue with 'nice guys' is that they are overly supplicating towards women, constantly putting them on a pedestal, and not valuing themselves as much as they value the woman. This behavior can be off-putting and create an imbalance in the relationship.

  • Why does the script suggest that being too nice can lead to women losing interest?

    -Being too nice can lead to women losing interest because it creates an expectation for them to be perfect all the time, which is not a natural or comfortable state for anyone to be in. It also puts too much focus and pressure on them, which can make them want to back away.

  • What is the definition of a 'nice guy' in the context of the script?

    -In the context of the script, a 'nice guy' is someone who supplicates to a woman, bending over backwards to please her, and not valuing their own worth as much as they value hers, especially in the early stages of meeting someone.

  • Why is teasing suggested as a solution to create attraction in the script?

    -Teasing is suggested as a solution because it balances the attention given to the woman, showing that you are attracted to her but not overly idealizing her. It creates a more relaxed and authentic interaction, which is more attractive.

  • What is the 'push-pull' technique mentioned in the script and how does it work?

    -The 'push-pull' technique is a method of communication that involves giving a compliment (the pull) followed by a tease (the push), or vice versa. It balances positive and negative elements in a conversation, keeping the interaction engaging and preventing the focus from becoming too intense.

  • How does responding too quickly in a conversation contribute to the 'nice guy' problem?

    -Responding too quickly can contribute to the 'nice guy' problem by signaling that the man is overly eager and attentive, which can make the woman feel pressured and uncomfortable. It also shows a lack of confidence and self-assuredness.

  • What is the importance of not using high tonality pitches when interacting with women, as per the script?

    -Using high tonality pitches can be a sign of supplicating behavior, making it seem like the man is trying too hard to please the woman. It's important to maintain a balanced tone to show confidence and genuine interest.

  • Why is it suggested that 'nice guys' should not list all their accomplishments when talking to women?

    -Listing all accomplishments can come across as trying to prove oneself to the woman, which is unattractive. It's better to be more casual and not overly eager to impress, as it can undermine the natural flow of a conversation.

  • What is the role of confidence in teasing and how does the script suggest one should approach it?

    -Confidence plays a crucial role in teasing because it ensures the tease is taken in the right spirit and not as an insult. The script suggests practicing teasing in a confident manner to get better at it and make it a natural part of interactions.

  • How can 'nice guys' improve their dating life according to the script?

    -According to the script, 'nice guys' can improve their dating life by learning to tease, not responding too quickly, maintaining a balanced tone, and not trying to prove themselves through excessive self-promotion.

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