How To Make Her HORNY (Stimulate Her THIS WAY)

Arica Angelo
20 Jul 202411:03

Summary

TLDRDating and relationship expert Erica Angelo discusses the psychology behind female arousal. She emphasizes that for women, feeling safe and secure is key to becoming 'horny.' Erica suggests that men who exhibit ambition, drive, and leadership qualities can mentally prepare women for sexual excitement. She also highlights the importance of men maintaining their routines and not being overly obliging, as this can signal strength and safety, which are primal desires for women. The video encourages men to 'man up' to help women surrender and tap into their pleasure.

Takeaways

  • πŸ˜€ The speaker, Erica Angelo, is a dating and relationship expert with 16 years of experience, who discusses topics that matter in relationships and sex life in a practical and humorous way.
  • πŸŽ‰ The speaker finds confirmation in the form of fireworks, suggesting that discussing sexual topics is appropriate and exciting.
  • 🚹🚺 Understanding that men and women operate differently in terms of sexual arousal is crucial for a healthy relationship.
  • πŸ’ͺ Masculine traits such as ambition, drive, and goal-oriented behavior are attractive to women and can mentally prepare them for sexual excitement.
  • πŸ‘€ Visual stimuli like lingerie or physical features might not be as effective for women as they are for men; emotional and psychological safety is more important.
  • πŸ›‘οΈ Feeling safe with a partner is fundamental for women to feel horny, as it taps into primal instincts of protection and provision.
  • πŸ’­ The speaker emphasizes that women need to feel that a man can lead and take charge, which is a turn-on and signals safety and strength.
  • πŸ’– It's important for men to maintain their routines and habits, demonstrating to women that they are in control of their lives, which can lead to increased respect and attraction.
  • 🚫 The speaker advises against being overly obliging or giving in to all of a woman's demands, as this can diminish attraction and respect.
  • πŸ’¬ The speaker challenges the 'nice guy' stereotype, suggesting that being assertive and taking charge can increase a woman's sexual interest.
  • πŸ”— The script concludes with a call to action for men to 'man up' and take charge in order to elicit a sexual response from women, emphasizing the importance of respect and leadership in attraction.

Q & A

  • What is the main topic discussed in the script?

    -The main topic discussed in the script is how to make women feel 'horny' or sexually attracted, focusing on the psychological and emotional aspects that contribute to this feeling.

  • Who is Erica Angelo and what is her expertise?

    -Erica Angelo is a dating and relationship expert with 16 years of experience. She is also a television host, speaker, and author, known for discussing topics that matter in people's sex lives and relationships in a practical, real, funny, and classy way.

  • What does Erica suggest are the key traits that make women feel attracted to men?

    -Erica suggests that men who are tapped into their masculinity, show leadership, drive, ambition, and are goal-focused, are key traits that make women feel attracted.

  • Why does Erica mention the importance of a man's ambition and drive?

    -Erica mentions the importance of a man's ambition and drive because these traits signal to women that the man can provide, protect, and ensure safety, which are primal needs that can lead to a woman feeling sexually attracted.

  • What does Erica mean when she says 'it's not about you, it's about her' in the context of sexual attraction?

    -Erica means that for a woman to feel sexually attracted, the focus should be on her needs and desires in the moment, rather than the man's own needs. This involves understanding and meeting her emotional and psychological needs first.

  • Why is it important for a man to demonstrate leadership outside the bedroom, according to Erica?

    -Erica states that demonstrating leadership outside the bedroom is important because it signals to a woman that the man can provide safety and security, which are primal needs that can lead to her feeling sexually attracted to him.

  • What does Erica suggest is the role of a man's confidence in a relationship?

    -Erica suggests that a man's confidence is crucial as it allows a woman to surrender and feel safe, which is a foundational aspect of sexual attraction. She also offers a guide to help men boost their confidence in the bedroom.

  • Why does Erica emphasize the importance of a man maintaining his boundaries and routines?

    -Erica emphasizes the importance of maintaining boundaries and routines because it shows a woman that the man is in control of his life, which can lead to her respecting and trusting him, and subsequently feeling sexually attracted.

  • What does Erica mean by 'man up' in the context of the script?

    -Erica uses the phrase 'man up' to encourage men to take charge, lead, and demonstrate strength in their relationships, as these actions can make women feel safe and respected, leading to sexual attraction.

  • How does Erica suggest men can improve their chances of making women feel attracted to them?

    -Erica suggests that men can improve their chances by focusing on their personal development, maintaining their routines, demonstrating leadership, and ensuring they are providing a sense of safety and security to the woman.

Outlines

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πŸ’¬ Understanding Female Arousal

Erica Angelo, a dating and relationship expert with 16 years of experience, addresses the topic of female arousal in a conversational, humorous, and classy manner. She emphasizes that understanding the differences in how men and women become aroused is crucial for a fulfilling sex life. Erica explains that women are often aroused by a man's ambition, drive, and goal-oriented behavior, which subconsciously signals safety and the ability to provide. She stresses the importance of a man showing up as a masculine leader to mentally prepare a woman for sexual excitement. Furthermore, she advises men to focus on the woman's pleasure during intimacy, as this will naturally lead to mutual satisfaction.

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🚹 Leading and Safety in Relationships

Erica continues to discuss the importance of a man taking the lead and making a woman feel safe as a precursor to arousal. She explains that when a woman feels secure, she can tap into her sexual energy. Erica suggests that men should demonstrate their leadership through actions such as initiating dates, being clear about their intentions, and maintaining their routines and personal boundaries. She also addresses the 'nice guy' stereotype, cautioning against being overly obliging and emphasizing the need for men to maintain their strength and confidence. Erica offers a free guide to boost confidence in the bedroom for those who struggle with it, available in the video's description or comments.

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πŸ’ͺ Respect and Surrender in Intimacy

In the final paragraph, Erica Angelo stresses the need for men to respect themselves and honor their boundaries to earn a woman's respect and, consequently, her arousal. She argues that a woman needs to respect a man to feel truly 'horny' for him. Erica encourages men to 'man up' to facilitate a woman's ability to surrender and enjoy intimacy. She also invites viewers to engage with her content, subscribe to her channel, and seek out additional support through her videos. Erica concludes by expressing her love for her audience and looking forward to connecting in future videos.

Mindmap

Keywords

πŸ’‘Horny

In the context of the video, 'horny' refers to a state of sexual arousal or desire. The speaker discusses how certain behaviors and characteristics in men can stimulate this feeling in women. For example, the speaker says, 'it really turns us on,' indicating that certain masculine traits are linked to sexual attraction.

πŸ’‘Masculinity

The term 'masculinity' is used to describe traditional male characteristics such as strength, ambition, and leadership. The video suggests that these traits are attractive to women because they signal safety and the ability to provide, which are primal desires. The speaker mentions, 'guys who are really tapped into their masculinity' as a way to make women 'horny.'

πŸ’‘Leadership

Leadership is presented as a key masculine trait that can make women feel attracted. The speaker emphasizes that taking charge and demonstrating direction in life can mentally prepare women to be sexually excited. An example from the script is, 'it's that ambition, it's the drive, it's being goal-focused'.

πŸ’‘Safety

Safety is a recurring theme in the video, indicating that women are more likely to feel sexually attracted when they feel secure and protected. The speaker explains that a man who demonstrates he can provide and protect signals safety, which is a turn-on. As the speaker says, 'what does that tell our subconscious that back in caveman day you make us safe.'

πŸ’‘Ambition

Ambition is highlighted as an attractive quality in men that can make women 'horny.' It is tied to the idea of a man being goal-oriented and having a clear direction in life, which is seen as a sign of potential for providing and protecting. The speaker uses phrases like 'it's the drive' and 'being goal-focused' to illustrate this point.

πŸ’‘Feminine

Femininity, in contrast to masculinity, is discussed as a state that women can enter when they feel safe and secure, allowing them to be more open to sexual attraction. The speaker suggests that men can help women feel feminine by leading and taking charge, which in turn makes women more inclined to feel sexual desire. An example is, 'if you can lead and make us feel feminine we're more inclined to feel horny for you.'

πŸ’‘Surrender

Surrender in this context means the act of letting go and allowing oneself to be vulnerable, which is linked to sexual attraction. The speaker argues that women need to feel they can surrender to a man, trusting him to lead and protect them, in order to feel horny. The phrase 'horniness equates to being able to surrender' captures this concept.

πŸ’‘Confidence

Confidence is portrayed as a crucial aspect of masculinity that can lead to sexual attraction. The speaker advises men to boost their confidence, especially in the bedroom, as it can enhance their appeal. The speaker encourages men to 'man up' and take charge, which is seen as a confident action that can lead to women feeling safe and aroused.

πŸ’‘Respect

Respect is discussed as a two-way street; women are more likely to feel attracted to men they respect, and men need to respect themselves to command respect from women. The speaker implies that a man who respects himself and maintains his boundaries is more likely to be respected and desired by women. The script mentions, 'you got to start respecting yourself'.

πŸ’‘Pleasure

Pleasure is mentioned in relation to sexual satisfaction and the idea that both men and women should focus on each other's pleasure during intimate moments. The speaker suggests that when men lead and make women feel safe, women can fully engage and surrender to the experience, leading to mutual pleasure. The phrase 'surrender her pleasure to you' illustrates this concept.

Highlights

The importance of understanding the differences in how men and women become aroused.

The role of a man's ambition, drive, and goal focus in attracting women.

How a woman's subconscious perceives a man's leadership qualities as a sign of safety and security.

The necessity for women to feel safe and secure to tap into their sexual energy.

The concept that women are more attracted to men who maintain their routines and do not give in to every desire.

The idea that leading and taking charge outside the bedroom translates to confidence in the bedroom.

How a man's confidence and leadership can lead to a woman's willingness to surrender and be sexually excited.

The advice for men to 'man up' to elicit a woman's sexual attraction.

The suggestion that men should not be people pleasers to the extent that it diminishes their attractiveness.

The correlation between a man's ability to lead and a woman's respect for him, which can enhance sexual desire.

The emphasis on the need for men to respect themselves by honoring their boundaries and routines.

The advice for men to guide and lead women, which can make them feel more inclined to be sexually attracted.

The importance of men maintaining their masculinity to make women feel feminine and, consequently, more horny.

The suggestion that men should not break their plans for women to maintain their attractiveness.

The advice for men to stay in charge and not become overly acquiescent to women's desires to maintain sexual attraction.

The offer of a free guide to boost confidence in the bedroom for men who struggle with this aspect.

The final call to action for men to focus and take action to improve their sexual relationships with women.

Transcripts

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how to make her horny how to make us

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horny is this a perverted topic am I

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taking these topics too far well let's

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let's just have a freaking conversation

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about that I'm Erica Angelo dating and

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relationship expert for 16 years now I

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think you guys come to me because you

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know I talk about the things that really

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matter to you in your sex life in your

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relationship but from a very practical

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real way and because I make it funny but

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I also make it classy and so I'm going

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to do my best at doing that and just

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when I'm questioning myself am I going

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too far with these topics I hear

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fireworks going off outside so I love

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Fireworks so that's my confirmation

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we're on the right topic how do you make

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women horny dating relationship expert

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16 years television host speaker TV host

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author all those things all right so to

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make us horny do I make you horny baby

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yeah Austin Powers if you didn't catch

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that

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reference this happens you're going to

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be shocked it happens before the bedroom

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that's right that's right that's right

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that's right that means that the way

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that you operate is different than the

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way she operates and I know that's

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frustrating and I know it's annoying and

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I wish women I know you wish women were

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just exactly like you because it would

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make your life so much easier but let's

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be honest You' be bored as hell if we

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were built the same way as you this

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creates a chase this makes it exciting

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for you we're built differently I'm

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going to show you how we are built

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differently but to make it easier for

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you when you understand how we're built

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and what we desire and what actually

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makes us horny baby yeah when you

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understand all of that it does take a

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lot of the guest work out so it's my job

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to not gatekeep any of this information

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from you guys but to be really honest

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and be really transparent with you so

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that you can have amazing sexual

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experiences so that you can enjoy the

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pleasure and the Bliss that you

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rightfully deserve it's a god-given

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right so how do you make us horny it's

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actually by the way that you show up as

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a man guys who are really tapped into

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their masculinity

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leadership Drive ambition very goal

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focused makes us wet down there it

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really turns us on it makes us horny

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baby yeah and I know for you it's

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different you see us in lingerie you see

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tits you see ass and you're like boing

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ready to go doesn't work that way for us

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it's all here first because what does

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that tell our subconscious that back in

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caveman day you make us safe he can

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provide he can keep me safe it's still

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wired that same way as much as we would

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like to think we're so evolved like I

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don't even need that I can pay my own

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bills that's [Β __Β ] it still comes

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down to the mere fact that we want to

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make sure that a man feels safe for us

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that he is powerful that he can protect

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us he can provide for us he can do those

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things for us and so but you're like how

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do I demonstrate that to her and it's

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what I just said earlier it's that

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ambition it's the drive it's being goal

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focused all those things start mentally

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preparing us to to be sexually excited

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about you

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oddly enough all those things provide

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excitement for us I know it's completely

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different from you but if you can just

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understand if you can do this you will

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save yourself so much frustration that

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when it comes to making love to a woman

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it's not about you it's about her in

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that moment and then as you give to her

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you get the Bliss and it's the same

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thing for her it's like if she goes in

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myopically only focused on her it's

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going to kill the sex for you as well

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both people have to think of the other

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person so if you can just step out of

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yourself listen to what I'm saying

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actually take what I'm saying and apply

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it it'll make things so much easier for

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you you'll actually enjoy way more sex

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way more bliss than you think you

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actually deserve but it's there for the

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taking so when you lead with that kind

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of like all right here's my goals this

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is what I'm focused on this is what I'm

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doing my fitness this is what I'm doing

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with my personal development this is

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what I'm doing my career this is what

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I'm I'm doing my finances all of those

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things signal safety for us and when we

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feel safe in our bodies trust me guys

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this will save you so much time so much

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time when we feel safe in our bodies

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guess what we can tap into our [Β __Β ]

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Energy we can tap into our vagina when

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our survival instincts are met and we're

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like okay man can provide safety man can

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provide man can make us feel secure when

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we have all all those Primal things in

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place we get to come back to our bodies

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but if a woman doesn't feel safe with

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you it disconnects us we're stuck in our

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head thinking how do I protect myself

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how do I survive how do I pay my bills

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how do I create a future for myself and

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oh yeah and there's this guy here no no

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no you want to set yourself accordingly

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that she can trust you and that actually

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makes us feel safe so that we can be

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horny for you and you're constantly

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demonstrating that you're demonstrating

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that through everything that you do by

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arranging dates by going up and asking

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for her phone number by grabbing her

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hand by telling her the things that you

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want to do to her body it's you taking

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lead it's that it's that Force energy

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and I'm not talking about going against

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a person's will or their permission but

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it's taking things by force it's being

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the leader I don't mean taking her body

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by force although there may be those

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times where we want you to take charge

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I'm just saying in the beginning phases

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it's it's you are guiding you are

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leading her she can surrender she can be

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in her feminine a woman is very

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difficult for us to be truly horny when

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we're in our masculine if you can lead

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and make us feel feminine we're more

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inclined to feel horny for you what does

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that also mean it means for you nice

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guys that you don't give her everything

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that she wants that you're not so

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obliging that you don't break all your

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plans I know this all sounds like a lot

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of psychology and not enough

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physicalness but this is where it

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actually starts and if you know anything

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about women then you understand that

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this is where it begins so it's you

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staying charge so let's say you have

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habits that you do you have hobbies that

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you do you have friends that you see you

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have a routine you keep all of that

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intact and no matter how much she tries

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to break that down I want to go see the

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concert at this time sorry but I have

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plans with my buddy as much as she gets

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pissed off when you stand your ground

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when you remain the man that actually

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turns us on it makes us really horny why

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because we can trust in your strength

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and that translates to the bedroom it's

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like oh if he's leading guiding things

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outside of the bedroom I know this dude

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is 100% going to be the boss in the

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bedroom listen if you're that guy you

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struggle with confidence then please get

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that free download that I offer it's a

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in the bedroom you need more confidence

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in the bedroom get that free guide it's

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in the comment section it's in the

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description but she needs to feel that

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confidence in every area of your life

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why because remember horniness equates

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to being able to surrender say it with

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me horniness equates to being able to

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surrender the more we can surrender to

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you the hornier we get but I tell you

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this test it if you're the nice guy if

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you're the guy and your life is in chaos

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and you wonder why your woman can't get

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horny with you it's because she doesn't

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respect you as crazy it is I get married

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guys always commenting my wife doesn't

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want to have sex with me I can tell you

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why she doesn't want to have sex with

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you because she lost respect for you you

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start getting back in the driver's seat

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you start being the man you start taking

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charge again and running your home and

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being the head of your house and then

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all of a sudden she's going to start

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respecting you but men you guys too much

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acquest to what the woman wants you just

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go okay I I I I'm going to take the easy

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way out I'm going to be the people

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pleaser I'm just going to do whatever

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she wants happy wife happy life yeah but

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happy wife doesn't necessarily mean that

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your dick gets sucked in the middle of

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the night I know that sounds crude I

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know it sounds rude but it's the actual

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truth and it probably relates to your

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experience and it's the same thing for

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you single guys if you're constantly

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running around just trying to make women

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happy and they don't feel that powerful

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energy from you then they're never ever

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going to feel horny so yeah it starts

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here for us it's a primal thing of

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feeling safe with you and it's

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constantly seeing you lead and take

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charge I want to grain that into your

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mind because this is what actually makes

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us horny for you there's so much more

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that I could say but I really want to

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stick to this point because this is the

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foundational point if you don't have

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this anything I say else I say is not

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going to matter in the comment section I

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want to hear from you if you've paid

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attention this far I want to hear you

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say man up because that's what you have

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to do you have to man up for a woman to

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surrender her pleasure to you to be able

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to feel horny for you you my dear have

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to man up and if you need help with

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confidence go get that guide but guys

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listen you have what it takes sometimes

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you just need a woman being super honest

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with you who cuts through all the

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[Β __Β ] all the jargon all the woke

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idealism that's not even true about how

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women feel about men to cut through all

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that [Β __Β ] and just say listen we

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need you to be a man if we're going to

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ever tap into our pleasure for you that

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is so important we've got to respect you

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so you got to start respecting Yourself

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by honoring your boundaries sticking to

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your routines and letting your yes be

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yes and your no be no guiding us leading

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us and then when you get us to the

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bedroom yes we can surrender we can give

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you our pleasure yes we can get crazy

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horny for you because you're the man

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who's in control you're in charge make

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sure you subscribe to my channel like

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this video and listen if you need more

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support I've got a whole bunch of videos

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here for you to watch but you're not

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alone in this journey but it will

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require two things focus and action and

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that's why I give you so much content to

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empower you to do that I love you a see

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you in my next video you take care

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