What Do Women REALLY Want in a Man? (12 PROVEN Traits!)
Summary
TLDRThis video script delves into the intrinsic traits women find attractive in men, beyond superficial desires. It emphasizes the importance of authenticity, emotional security, and self-assuredness. The speaker outlines 12 key characteristics, including the ability to stand up for oneself and others, congruency between words and actions, and having a strong sense of self that doesn't compromise for the sake of pleasing a partner. The script also highlights the significance of a man's independence and having a life purpose that transcends the relationship, suggesting that these qualities foster trust and respect.
Takeaways
- πͺ Women are attracted to men who can stand up to them, as it shows strength and the ability to stand up for them.
- π« A man who can say 'no' is trustworthy because it demonstrates that his 'yes' is genuine and not manipulative.
- π€ Authenticity is key; women want men who are sincere, with words and actions that align.
- π Congruency between what a man says and does builds trust and emotional safety in a relationship.
- π‘οΈ Security in oneself is attractive; men shouldn't compromise their values or standards just to please a woman.
- π¬ Men should clearly ask for what they want without making demands that compromise their own or her values.
- ποΈ Leadership is important; women need men who can lead the relationship, making decisions that ensure safety and trust.
- β Clarification over assumptions; men should avoid mind reading and instead ask for clarification to avoid misunderstandings.
- π§ Women appreciate men with their own opinions and who don't always agree with them, ensuring that communication is honest and real.
- π₯ Women are drawn to men who desire them but don't need them, showing that they bring value to the relationship rather than being a necessity.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video script?
-The main topic of the video script is to discuss the 12 traits that women find attractive in men, focusing on underlying qualities rather than superficial aspects.
What is the first trait mentioned in the video that women look for in a man?
-The first trait mentioned is that women want a man who can stand up to them, which implies strength and the ability to stand up for them when needed.
Why is the ability to say 'no' to a woman important according to the script?
-The ability to say 'no' is important because it prevents a man from being a 'Mr. Nice Guy' who passively-aggressively manipulates through niceness, and ensures that his 'yeses' are authentic.
What does the script suggest about being authentic and sincere in a relationship?
-Being authentic and sincere means sometimes agreeing and sometimes disagreeing with a woman, which helps build trust as it shows that what a man is saying is true.
What is the difference between being consistent and congruent as per the video script?
-Consistency refers to emotional maturity, while congruency means that a man's words match his actions, ensuring trust in his commitments.
Why is it important for a man to be secure within himself according to the script?
-It is important for a man to be secure within himself so that he doesn't compromise his values or identity to please a woman, maintaining his strength and self-respect.
What does the script suggest about a man asking for what he wants without compromising his values?
-The script suggests that a man should be able to ask for what he wants without making demands that go against a woman's beliefs, standing firm on issues important to him.
What role does leading the relationship play in the script's discussion of attractive traits?
-Leading the relationship, including making decisions, is part of being an attractive man because it shows that he can guide the relationship and make her feel safe.
Why should a man avoid making assumptions according to the script?
-A man should avoid making assumptions because it can lead to misunderstandings; instead, he should ask for clarification to ensure clear communication.
What does the script say about a man having his own opinions and not always agreeing with a woman?
-The script states that having one's own opinions and not always agreeing with a woman is important for trust, as it shows that a man's words are genuine and not just to please.
How does the script describe the concept of 'alpha masculinity' and its importance?
-The script describes 'alpha masculinity' as being strong, a leader, and secure within oneself without being a jerk. It's important for a man to display these qualities for a woman to feel he is a 'keeper'.
What is the significance of a man not needing a woman according to the video script?
-The significance is that a man who doesn't need a woman will be more attractive because he is not desperate or needy, and he values her for who she is, not out of necessity.
What does the script suggest about having a greater purpose or passion in life for a man?
-The script suggests that having a greater purpose or passion in life is essential for a man to avoid making a woman or relationship his sole focus, which can lead to being needy or overbearing.
How does the script relate the concept of 'always being willing to walk away' to a man's strength?
-The script relates 'always being willing to walk away' to a man's strength by stating that if a woman knows a man is willing to leave if the relationship becomes unsatisfactory, it shows his self-respect and strength.
What is the final message of the script regarding self-improvement and the 'wake up to love program'?
-The final message is that self-improvement is crucial, and the 'wake up to love program' can help men develop the discussed traits, enhancing their self-worth and relationships.
Outlines
πΉ Traits Women Find Attractive
The paragraph discusses 12 traits that women find attractive in men, which are not just materialistic or superficial but are rooted in deeper psychological needs. The speaker emphasizes that women are not just after money or physical attributes but are more responsive to qualities like a man who can stand up to them, assertiveness, authenticity, and congruence between words and actions. The speaker also highlights the importance of emotional security, self-assuredness, and the ability to lead in a relationship as key traits that women look for.
π£οΈ Communication and Independence in Relationships
This paragraph focuses on the importance of clear communication and independence in relationships. It stresses the need for men to ask for clarification instead of assuming or mind-reading, which is a common mistake. It also underlines the value of having one's own opinions and the ability to express them without always needing to agree with the woman. The speaker points out that women are attracted to men who don't need them emotionally, which reflects a sense of strength and self-sufficiency. Additionally, the paragraph touches on the concept of alpha masculinity, differentiating between being a strong, secure man and being a selfish or aggressive person.
πͺ Developing Personal Strength and Purpose
The final paragraph emphasizes the importance of having a greater purpose or passion in life that surpasses the importance of a romantic relationship. It suggests that men should not make a woman their sole purpose, as this can lead to neediness and an unhealthy dynamic. The speaker encourages men to find their own path, whether it be through self-development, family, career, or other meaningful pursuits. The paragraph concludes with a call to action for men to participate in the speaker's 'Wake Up to Love' program to enhance these qualities and improve their overall approach to relationships.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Authenticity
π‘Congruency
π‘Security
π‘Leadership
π‘Assertiveness
π‘Clarification
π‘Independence
π‘Alpha Masculinity
π‘Purpose
π‘Loyalty
π‘Vulnerability
Highlights
Women are attracted to men who can stand up to them, as it demonstrates strength and the ability to protect.
Men should be able to say no to a woman, establishing trust in their authenticity.
Authenticity and sincerity are key, meaning men should agree or disagree based on their true feelings.
Emotional safety for women comes from trusting a man's words and actions.
Congruency between words and actions is essential for trust in a relationship.
Men should be secure within themselves and not compromise their identity to please a woman.
Asking for what you want without compromising personal values is important in a relationship.
Women need a man who can lead the relationship and make decisions.
Men should ask for clarification instead of making assumptions, which women are prone to do.
Having one's own opinions and not always agreeing with a woman builds trust in a man's truthfulness.
Women respond to men who don't need them, showing independence and strength.
Alpha masculinity is attractive to women, but it should not come across as being a jerk.
Men should be willing to walk away from a relationship if it becomes unhealthy.
Having a greater purpose or passion in life that is bigger than the relationship is crucial.
Loyalty should be earned over time through effort and proof, not given automatically.
The Wake Up to Love program can help men develop these attractive traits.
Transcripts
Hey guys, what do women really want in a man?
Not what do we tell you we want
what do we think we want,
but what do we actually respond to?
What is it that turns us on?
What is attractive to us?
Well, in this video Iβm going to give you 12 traits
that any man can develop
all the hypergamy type things that women want
but here are the underlying root traits
that women actually look for
that shows up in things like money, success,
and all that stuff that you probably think.
That's what you probably wrote in the comments
before even watching the video.
She wants money, she wants a big ***
bank account, etc, etc.
Well, some of that stuff
you can work on and some of it can't.
So, let's focus on what you can work on
that women do find attractive.
Number one, she wants a man
who can stand up to her.
I think it's Robert Glover he's an author
I may be misquoting I don't know
if it's him or somebody else that said
if you can't stand up to a woman
you can't stand up for a woman.
So, you have to be able to stand up to her
so she can trust that you can stand up for her.
I'm going to go through feminism
and work and women in another video,
but for now just keep that
in the back of your psyche.
Number two, along those lines
is a man who can actually say no to her.
So, I did another video recently
and you probably want to check that out
but this is really important.
Because a man who can say no
is not going to be a Mr. Nice guy
who's passively aggressively
manipulating her by being nice
and agreeing with her to try
and get what he wants.
If you can say no to a woman
then she will trust
that your yeses are authentic.
Three, authentic.
So, three is being authentic
being sincere this means
that sometimes you'll agree
and sometimes you won't agree with her
so she can actually trust that
what you're telling her is true.
What does a woman need to feel safe?
she needs to be able to feel safe emotionally,
which means she needs to be able
to trust your words and actions.
Four is congruent.
So, not to be confused with consistent
so consistency she wants some consistency
in terms of emotional maturity
but she also wants some
spontaneity in terms of action
and activities in the relationship.
But what I mean by congruency is that
what you speak of,
what you say matches up with your actions.
So, if you say that you just want to go out
and spend a night with the guys
but you stay home with her
because she was all cranky about that.
That's incongruent you want to do something
but you're folding like a paper napkin
because it upset her a little bit, not cool.
And as well if you say certain things
but then act in ways that disprove those words
then again she can't trust you.
She can't trust you
that you're strong enough within yourself
to know that you can accept, handle,
and deal with the consequences
of your commitments,
your commitments to yourself.
Which brings us to number five,
you are secure within yourself
and don't need to
compromise yourself to please her.
Now, this doesn't mean that you never please her
of course, you do especially in the bedroom.
But you need to be able to say no again
and not adjust your standards
of who you are just because she might be
asking for something.
Often times it's a shit test anyway.
So, if you're not sure about that
then watch my playlist on said topic
basically you don't apologize for who you are.
Number six, again, along the same lines
is that you ask for what you want
you don't make demands necessarily
if it goes against her beliefs or value systems.
But you don't compromise your own standards
or your own value system.
So, if there's a disagreement
or if there's some area of conflict
you're not going to fold
just because you want to please her.
If it's something that important to you,
you'll stand firm even if it means losing her.
She needs you to be her rock, her rock.
Along those lines is number seven
is that she needs you to be able
to lead the relationship
and part of that includes making decisions.
So, you're not always going to make decisions
that she's happy with
you may have to actually make compromises
that's what happens in relationships
even in the courting stage.
But she needs to know that
you can lead the relationship.
She doesn't necessarily
want to be completely submissive
actually most women nowadays
will bark at that word.
But she needs you to lead
and she needs to trust
that you can lead in a way
that makes her feel safe.
She doesn't want to be your mommy.
Eight, women need a man
who will ask for clarification
and not make assumptions.
Who are notorious for making assumptions
and mind reading?
Women are bad but true.
So, don't be a woman
oh! Iβm going to get in trouble for that one.
Politically incorrect don't make assumptions
ask clarify and then go from there.
Don't be a mind reader that's not
that's just being weak and passive
and sometimes passive aggressive.
Nine, women want and need a man
who has their own opinions
and doesn't always agree with them.
So, again if you can trust
that you don't have to always agree
then she can trust that
what you're saying is true and real.
Even if...
And especially if what you're saying
is something she's not going to like
because you're going to have to deal with
her not liking that and whatever reaction
that creates in her.
Hopefully she'll be mature about it
but if she's not then you're going to deal with that.
Okay, next one, this one's a biggie actually
and even though you know
it's not romantic to think
that this isn't true it actually is.
Women respond best,
want men who don't need them.
So, you want her you desire her
but you don't need her
your life is going to be just fine without her.
If you can do this if you can feel this
where you know that
she's a benefit in your world
but she's not a necessity.
She'll feel this from you
and she'll trust that you're there
because you want to be.
Not because you need to be,
not because you don't have better options,
not because you just can't
do it without her or any woman.
You're not weak and needy.
So, women need men
with this kind of strength,
which brings me to the next one,
which is alpha masculinity.
And I've done a video
I think I've done a video on alpha masculinity
how to be vulnerable while
still being alpha and masculine
but essentially
what you need to know about this
is that she wants you to be strong.
She wants you to be a man,
she wants you to be a leader,
she wants you to be alpha,
she doesn't want you to be an a hole.
So, unless she is emotionally damaged
that's the only
those are the only category of women
who are going out with
the real bad boys players and jerks.
They're not worth getting
because they're just going to be high maintenance
and if you're even decent to them
they're going to ditch you
because their...
What's... Their equilibrium is chaos.
they can't be with someone
who is actually good to them or for them.
So, if you need to be a
complete jerk to be with a girl
then she's probably
not going to be a keeper.
Watch my video on if she's a keeper.
But here's the thing
before I go to the next traits.
A lot of nice guys, watch my video on nice guys
think that they have to be a jerk
or they have to be a player or a bad boy.
Because women do respond to the qualities
in bad boys and players and jerks
not all the qualities
but the qualities that are on this list.
If you go back to the beginning
and listen to this list again
then those people bad boys, players, jerks
will also have all of these qualities.
But the intention behind them
isn't about self-security
it's about selfishness.
So, players, jerks, and bad boys are selfish
whereas, a solid
good-hearted strong alpha man
just is secure within himself
he doesn't need to be a jerk
to be able to display all of these qualities.
Okay, let's get through the rest of the qualities
don't ditch on me now.
Which brings me to,
which I kind of already mentioned
always be willing to walk away.
She needs to know that you're there
because you want to be, not because you need to be,
not because you need her
but because you value her
and she brings value to the table.
So, if she knows and you know within yourself
you don't even have to express it
especially if you display these other traits.
That if you know that you're always
willing to walk away from the deal
if the deal starts to be become a crappy deal
she will feel that.
And she will never test you much
once she knows that for sure
once you've put her in her place
when she needs to be put in her place
for any test she does provide.
Then she wont be constantly wondering
and testing you to see
if you've got that strength.
Because she'll know deep inside
that if she really screws up
you're going to walk
that's it no questions asked.
Which brings me to
the essence of how to do that
is by having a greater purpose
and or passion in your life
that is bigger than her
or even the relationship.
So, a man needs to have a purpose
if you don't have a purpose in life
then you're going to feel like you're lost,
floundering.
And you're going to make a woman your purpose
and that's not good
because that's when you get
dangerously close to being needy
and putting her on a pedestal.
And if you put her on a pedestal
she will look down on you.
So, you need to be able to find your purpose
and of course a great way
to develop all of these traits
is of course by taking my wake up to love program.
Because even though these things
are innately within you
life has given you experiences
that may have maybe shaken
your foundation a little.
And you may not have all of these qualities.
So, if you don't have all of these qualities
and you want to up your game for yourself
if not for her mostly for yourself
then you should look into
my wake up to love program.
And if there's any guys here
who've actually taken it please do
you know, write a positive comment
I guess you could write a negative comment
but if you found value
make a comment, thank you.
So, your purpose in life
might be just self-development
it might be family
like if you do have a family
well, that's bigger than just her.
It could be saving the world
it could be your you know,
business that you're developing
whatever it is it needs to be something
that makes something in your life more important
than just her and the relationship.
That's not to say that the relationship
and the woman of your dreams
or if you're in a relationship
that she's not a priority.
But that actually comes with time, effort,
consistency, loyalty basically proofs.
So, you're not going to give a woman
your complete loyalty at the very beginning
when you're just courting or dating
like she's got to earn that.
Don't let her tell you that
she should just get it automatically
that comes with effort and proof.
So, which of these qualities
do you need to work on?
Write in the comments below.
Subscribe, I'll see you next time bye.
(Music)
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