How To Text Girls πŸ“² (Full Bumble Text Game Breakdown)

Coach Kyle
16 Mar 202310:40

Summary

TLDRIn this detailed script breakdown, viewers learn the art of engaging and flirty texting from the first message on Bumble to securing a date. The coach shares tips on using the Vault for effective openers, responding to tests, and keeping the conversation light-hearted. The key is to subtly hint at future meetups based on shared interests, like running, and gradually move the conversation forward to exchanging numbers and setting up the date. The script also highlights the importance of teasing, push-pull dynamics, and recycling jokes to maintain a lively interaction, all while using the Quip app for instant response suggestions and coaching.

Takeaways

  • πŸ˜€ The video discusses a detailed breakdown of a text conversation from a dating app, focusing on maintaining a flirty tone and progressing the interaction.
  • πŸ“² The conversation begins with the girl initiating a message on Bumble, which is significant as women on the app typically start the conversation.
  • πŸ”“ The use of a line from 'The Vault' in Quip, a compilation of effective openers and text game lines, is highlighted as a key strategy for engaging responses.
  • πŸ’¬ The importance of responding cleverly to tests or playful jabs is emphasized, as it can put the girl on the spot and keep the conversation dynamic.
  • ⏳ Patience is advised when waiting for a response; avoid double texting immediately and maintain confidence without appearing desperate.
  • πŸ’‘ The concept of 'seeding' is introduced, where hints about future meetups or shared activities are subtly introduced in the conversation.
  • πŸƒβ€β™‚οΈ The script uses the example of running as a shared interest to create a potential meetup opportunity, illustrating how to naturally progress towards a date.
  • 🎭 The technique of 'push-pull' is mentioned, where light teasing is followed by compliments to create emotional spikes in the interaction.
  • πŸ“ The speaker shares personal anecdotes and writing habits as a way to add unique personal touches to the conversation, making it more engaging.
  • 🍷 The script suggests using the question about wine preferences as a smooth transition towards suggesting a date.
  • πŸ“ž The finale of the conversation includes a direct ask for the girl's number, demonstrating a straightforward approach to securing a date.

Q & A

  • What is the initial message from the girl on Bumble and why is it considered a positive response?

    -The girl's initial message is 'well, you're hella cute ain't ya', which is considered positive because it's more engaging than the typical 'hey' or emoji responses. It shows she took the time to craft a personalized message, indicating interest.

  • What is the 'Vault' mentioned in the script and how is it used in the conversation?

    -The 'Vault' is a compilation of openers, flirty lines, connection-building lines, and closing sequences used in text conversations. It is updated monthly with effective lines and is used to craft witty responses in the conversation, such as the reply to the girl's initial message.

  • Why is it not recommended to double text on the same day or the next day when there's no response?

    -Double texting can come off as desperate or pushy. It's better to wait for two to three days before sending another message, which could be a playful nudge or a new line from the Vault, to maintain interest without appearing needy.

  • How does the script suggest responding if a girl doesn't reply to a message about her New Year's Day?

    -The script suggests using humor and playing along with the idea, such as saying 'oh it was that good huh', to keep the conversation light and engaging without directly addressing the lack of response.

  • What is the significance of providing personal input in a message even if it's not super flirty?

    -Personal input gives the other person something to respond to and helps to build a connection. It offers insight into your life and keeps the conversation unique and interesting, rather than sticking to standard greetings or questions.

  • Why does the script mention thinking one to two messages ahead in a conversation?

    -Thinking ahead allows you to anticipate the girl's likely response and plan where to take the conversation next. This strategy helps to maintain a natural flow and keeps the interaction engaging and dynamic.

  • What is the purpose of teasing and how can it be used effectively in a conversation?

    -Teasing is used to create emotional spikes in the conversation, adding humor and playfulness. It can be used effectively by poking fun at shared jokes or concepts and later turning them into push-pull techniques to create attraction.

  • How does the script suggest moving the conversation forward towards setting up a date?

    -The script suggests embedding hints about meeting up in the conversation, such as mentioning activities you both enjoy and suggesting doing them together. This approach moves the conversation forward in small increments, leading to a more formal date proposal.

  • What is the strategy behind asking about the girl's New Year's resolutions and mentioning your own?

    -This strategy allows both parties to share personal goals and interests, deepening the connection. It also provides opportunities for further conversation and potential shared activities, like the example of splitting a bottle of wine.

  • How does the script describe the process of getting a girl's phone number and setting up a date?

    -The script describes a gradual process of building rapport, teasing, and hinting at future meetups. Once there's mutual interest, it suggests directly asking for the number with a light-hearted message, followed by arranging a specific date and activity.

  • What is the 'Quip' app and how can it assist with text game and online dating?

    -The 'Quip' app is a mobile application that offers coaching on text game, online dating, and social media mastery. It includes features like instant responses, weekly coaching calls, and the ability to analyze and improve text interactions and dating profiles.

Outlines

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πŸ˜„ Flirty Texting Sequence on Bumble

This paragraph details a conversation breakdown from a dating app, Bumble, where a girl initiates with a compliment. The speaker discusses using lines from 'the Vault' in Quip, a compilation of effective openers and flirty lines, to respond to her. The conversation includes playful banter, tests, and responses, with advice on not getting insecure if there's no immediate reply. It highlights the importance of being witty, personal, and thinking ahead in the messaging sequence to keep the interaction engaging and to eventually set up a date.

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πŸƒβ€β™‚οΈ Building Connection Through Shared Interests

The second paragraph focuses on continuing the conversation by finding common ground and shared interests. It describes using humor and wordplay to maintain a light-hearted interaction, while also seeding the idea of a future meetup based on mutual activities like running. The speaker emphasizes the value of subtly hinting at meeting up and using instant responses to move the conversation forward, including asking about preferences like wine to set up a potential date. The paragraph also touches on the importance of demonstrating higher value through shared interests without bragging.

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πŸ“² Advancing the Conversation to a Date

In the final paragraph, the speaker discusses advancing the conversation to a date by using the right questions and statements to create interest and attraction. It includes the strategy of baby-stepping the interaction forward, such as suggesting to split a bottle of wine, and using the instant response feature of Quip to analyze and improve messaging. The paragraph concludes with a call to action for viewers to download the Quip app for further coaching on text game, online dating, and social media mastery, offering live calls and personalized feedback to enhance dating success.

Mindmap

Keywords

πŸ’‘Bumble

Bumble is a dating app where women have to initiate the conversation first. It is central to the video's theme as the platform where the interaction between the man and the woman takes place. The script mentions Bumble as the starting point of the text exchange, emphasizing the app's role in modern dating.

πŸ’‘Vault

The Vault is referred to as a compilation of openers, flirty lines, and text game strategies. It is a key concept in the video as it represents the resource the man uses to craft his responses. An example from the script is the man using a line from the Vault to respond to the woman's opening message.

πŸ’‘Flirty

Flirty is an adjective describing a playful and light-hearted manner of interaction often used in romantic or dating contexts. In the video, the man aims to keep the conversation flirty, as shown by his use of witty responses and playful teasing, which is a core part of the text game strategy he is demonstrating.

πŸ’‘Text Game

Text game refers to the art of engaging and attractive texting, often used in the context of dating. The video is focused on demonstrating effective text game by showing how to respond to messages in a way that builds rapport and leads to getting a date. The man uses various lines and strategies from the Vault to maintain a flirtatious and engaging text conversation.

πŸ’‘Callback Humor

Callback humor is a technique where a joke or a concept is brought up again later in the conversation. The video script illustrates this with the man reusing the 'hella dull' joke in different forms throughout the text exchange, which adds a layer of familiarity and playfulness to their interaction.

πŸ’‘Seeding

Seeding in the context of the video refers to subtly hinting at future actions or meetings. The man seeds the idea of a future meetup by discussing shared interests like running and suggesting they could do it together, which is a strategy to move the conversation towards an actual date.

πŸ’‘Dot Dot Dot (...

The use of 'dot dot dot' (ellipsis) is a texting strategy mentioned in the video to create intrigue or a pause in the conversation. The man uses it after not receiving a response from the woman, as a way to prompt a reply without appearing desperate or pushy.

πŸ’‘Push-Pull

Push-pull is a technique used in text game where one teases or 'pushes' away slightly, then 'pulls' back to create tension and interest. The video describes using playful teasing about the woman's interests and then complimenting her, as a way to keep the interaction engaging.

πŸ’‘Instant Response

Instant Response is a feature of the Quip app that provides users with immediate message suggestions. In the video, the man uses the Instant Response feature to craft replies that keep the conversation going and move it towards setting up a date.

πŸ’‘Emotional Spikes

Emotional spikes refer to moments in a conversation that evoke strong emotions, either positive or negative, to create interest. The video discusses creating emotional spikes through teasing and humor, which helps to maintain a lively and engaging text conversation.

πŸ’‘Baby Steps

Baby steps in the video refer to gradually moving the conversation forward without rushing. The man uses baby steps to hint at meeting up, discussing shared interests, and eventually suggesting they split a bottle of wine, which is a subtle way of proposing a date.

Highlights

The transcript details a text breakdown from the first match on Bumble to getting a girl's phone number and setting up a date.

The girl initiates the conversation with a positive message, which is uncommon on Bumble where most women start with a simple greeting.

The use of a line from the Vault in Quip, a compilation of effective text game lines, to respond to the girl's message.

A clever response to a test by saying 'I bet you use that line on all the cute guys', turning the situation around on the girl.

The importance of not double texting on the same day or immediately the next day if there's no response.

Using a playful approach to inquire about the girl's New Year's Day without being pushy or insecure.

The strategy of thinking one to two messages ahead to guide the conversation and keep it engaging.

The concept of seeding a future meetup by hinting at shared activities or interests during the conversation.

Using humor and personal input in messages to stand out from standard greetings and encourage response.

The technique of teasing and pushing the conversation to create emotional spikes and maintain interest.

The idea of turning teasing into push-pull dynamics to create a playful and attractive interaction.

The use of instant response features in Quip to craft messages that keep the conversation light and flirty.

The gradual progression from small talk to a date proposal without abrupt transitions.

The simplicity of asking about wine preferences as a lead into setting up a date.

The importance of reciprocating and responding positively to keep the conversation flowing and lead to a successful date setup.

The final step of exchanging numbers in a casual and playful manner, ensuring a smooth transition to a date.

The promotion of Quip's mobile app as a tool for learning text game, online dating, and social media mastery.

Transcripts

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let's jump into a text breakdown showing

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you guys everything that happened from

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the moment we matched with the girl on

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Bumble what that entire Tech sequence

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looked like how to keep it flirty how to

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move the interaction forward all the way

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to getting the phone number with the

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girl and setting up the date so it

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starts out with the girl actually

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messaging us on Bumble she says well

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you're hella cute ain't ya which is a

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really positive response if you guys

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aren't familiar with Bumble the girl has

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the message first majority of the women

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on this app are just gonna use like a

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wave Emoji or just say hey or hey what's

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up or hey how are you which is

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ironically kind of funny because like

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those same messages if a guy sends that

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stuff like the girl's not gonna respond

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but in this case the girl actually

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starts out very positive he went in and

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used a line taken right from the Vault

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inside of Quip if you guys aren't

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familiar with the Vault it's a

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compilation of all the different openers

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all the different flirty lines you could

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use connection building lines closing

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sequences all of that is a massive

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compilation of a list and we update that

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list every month with the newest and

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like most effective text game lines okay

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so this line was taken directly from

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there he says I bet you use that line on

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all the cute guys winky face which is

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such a good line because this is

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literally the exact kind of test I guess

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witty response that a girl would give to

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a dude if he was using a pickup line on

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her at the bar I like this line because

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you're pretty much giving the girl and

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putting it back on her I think it's

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really clever so she says yeah I do

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actually just easier in it and then he

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says smooth how's your New Year's day

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treating you no response okay whenever

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the girl gives you no response I don't

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recommend you double text like that same

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day probably even the next day I like to

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do two to maybe three days and here's

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the thing you don't need to like get

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insecure in your head or hey why aren't

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you responding you don't get butt hurt

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you don't get insecure you don't ask her

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why she's not responding you can just

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either hit her with a dot dot dot

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question mark Or you could use one of

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the lines that are in the vault or in

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this instance he plays around with the

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idea asking her about her New Year's Day

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so he said oh it was that good huh so

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she says yeah was good sorry it's been a

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busy busy start to the new year year did

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you celebrate well says no worry I did

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New Year's day was spent on the sofa

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watching films with all my Christmas

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chocolate lol this message isn't like

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amazing but it is a little bit different

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than like normal standard hey how's your

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day going oh it's good you so even if

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you're not coming in with something

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super flirty make sure you have

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something that's unique that gives a

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little bit of insight into your life

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some kind of personal input that gives

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the girl something that she could

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respond to you always want to be

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thinking one to two messages ahead hey

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if I send this message what is the girl

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most likely going to respond with and

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then where can I take that messaging

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sequence too so you're trying to think

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one two three steps ahead she says

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sounds delightful and sounds like my day

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today TBH he says sounds great and then

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he takes another line Straight From the

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Vault give me the basics then any

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tattoos Kids Fun Kinks crazy Hobbies she

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says yeah man three kids full sleeve

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girls will typically do this if you ask

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these kind of questions which is still

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okay it's not a bad thing that she does

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that it does make things like different

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and it's it's a little joking and fun so

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it's not necessarily a bad thing but I

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have noticed that girls will have a

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tendency of saying like yeah two baby

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daddies just got out of jail blah blah

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blah blah and then you could typically

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go like oh sounds like wifey material

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and you could like make some comments

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from there so she says joking nothing

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too exciting I'm actually hella dull TBH

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you says hella Dole that's gonna have to

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be your name in my contacts LOL and that

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was an instant response that he used

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from inside of Quip as well I guess it's

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just like a little tease that you're

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gonna have her name saved in your phone

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is that which is also kind of seeding

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that we're gonna save for a number in

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our phones which definitely isn't a bad

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thing but then he says no kids six tats

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Kinks I'll keep to myself which is cool

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that's why you mentioned that part in

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the previous question because typically

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the girls won't even acknowledge that

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part it's kind of like snuck in there in

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the messaging and then when she doesn't

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responding you put it back on you you

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could use that phrase right there to

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like subtly keep it a little sexual

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without overdoing it and I play guitar

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read write gym and run she says it's a

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good name don't don't you think oh what

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are the six sounds delightful what do

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you write no kids no tats I'm not

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decisive enough LOL and I run play

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hockey gym she's clearly investing bit

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of painting crochet a lot no judgment

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please oh whenever it goes there's like

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no judgment please that's definitely an

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easy way to start subtly making a joke

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about it or teasing about it oh and

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drink way too much but that's going to

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improve and reduce this year and when I

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say cheese and joke it doesn't

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necessarily need to be in the next

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message it can be but you could keep

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that in the back of your mind for later

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on in the conversation when maybe you

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get her on the phone or when you're out

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on the date with her I'm always thinking

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about little things I could tease and

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poke fun at and you can recycle those

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Concepts later on in the conversation to

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continuously be re-spiking the

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interaction and just having bursts of

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emotional spikes and teasing sprinkled

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throughout and then when you do tease

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the girl you can turn those into push

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pulls like if you say that she's like a

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little nerd or she's like a dork or

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she's like a little homebody later on

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you could use those things right like oh

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you're so nerdy but you're locally like

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a door you're so cute for being a

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crocheter I would never expect you did

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that anything like that right so I like

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to do cheeses and jokes to kind of give

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bursts of emotional spikes and then

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later on you could use those as callback

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humor but then you could also start

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turning those into push pulls using the

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t's along with your cute butt or you do

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this but you're cute or but you're

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adorable he says suits you LOL my fave

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is the one on the back of my arm a

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woman's face with a rose coming out of

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the top I write music and short stories

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you run I've been looking for a running

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partner maybe I'll call you hella fun

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slash Grandma okay so again this is an

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ongoing joke from the previous messages

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talking about I'll save your name as

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hella dull oh he said hella full again

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that's what I'm talking about you can

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just keep recycling the same joke and

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sometimes you can twist the word play on

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it like in this instance it went from

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hella dull to hella full the other thing

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I like that he did is the idea of

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seeding a future Meetup based on the

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activity that we were talking about so

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you guys were talking about an activity

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instead of just saying oh that's cool

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you do that I like to do that too he

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said oh you run I've been looking for a

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running partner maybe I'll call you

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maybe I'll call you hella full slash

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Grandma winky face so still teasing the

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girl with the Callback joke with the

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seeding the future Meetup so she says

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sounds interesting out of her head

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talking about the tattoo yeah a little

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broke my wrist a few weeks ago and I

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know it was my wrist but I've haven't

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done a lot recently so trying to get

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back into it all yeah I prefer super

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mature but I'll take Grandma okay at

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this point he comes back into the

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instant response feature and then we

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crafted him this message yeah probs

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easier if I just show you on our date

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great way to move it forward again

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hinting at the idea that we're gonna

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meet up in baby steps you don't just

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need boring Small Talk Small Talk small

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talk and then it's like anyway let me

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ask you on a date it's like small talk

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but embedded into the small talk is

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hinting at the idea that we could do

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some of this stuff together or I'm going

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to show you one of these things when we

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meet up okay so great message and then

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it's good I can ease you back into it

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hinting at the fact that she's grandma

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and talking about run and stuff she says

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oh I see how far do you normally go you

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look proper Speedy like you look really

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Speedy I tend to do between 20 to 30k a

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week you she said oh my God nowhere near

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that much I mean that's typically

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attractive if it grows into a certain

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activity and you can indicate to her in

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a non-try hard bragging way that like

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you're Superior then hurt in that

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activity it definitely creates some

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level of attraction it's a demonstration

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of higher value essentially she also

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said it's been a while though I've taken

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the new year new me seriously this year

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he said oh yeah what are your

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resolutions this year and then also in

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the instant response feature we had to

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baby step the interaction forward more

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so again do you like wine by the way

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probably the most simple easiest closing

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sequence that you could start to

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initiate when things are going good it's

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really as simple as do you like one you

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like wine by the way and then you move

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into like red or white or you could just

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kind of baby step from there she says

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well we'll get fit obviously and not get

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blackout drunk what are yours yes I do

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red is my fave though he says I want to

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get back into writing used to write

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short stories but have to let it slip

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this past year good choice We should

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split a bottle sometime soon okay so you

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can see again it's just ever so slightly

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moving it forward it's do you like wine

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she says yes do you like the color great

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we should split a bottle sometime soon

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not what are you doing tonight it's like

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we should split about sometime soon if

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she agrees to that then we start to

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narrow it in from there and then there

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will be a number exchange so she says oh

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about what maybe we should he says all

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sorts most recent one was about a

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homeless man I got chatting to at train

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stop what's that face for LOL that's the

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face I pull out after my half of the

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bottle and then at this point it's going

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well enough and the girls reciprocating

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responding positively you don't need to

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keep like going in like these Titans at

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some point you can just realize okay

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like she's on board with this whole

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thing the interaction's been flirty like

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she agreed to do this at which point it

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just says LOL shoot me your number and

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we'll sort it out okay really simple so

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she sends the number with a little gun

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emoji and said oh wait no actually yes

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what wrong number she said yeah I

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thought it was but it's correct he says

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as long as you answer and not some 30

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year old bald man lol message so that's

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a great interaction to go from the first

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message from the first moment we matched

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with the girl messaging us keeping

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things super fun and flirty while still

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getting to know you and remember it's

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not just small talk Small Talk Small

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Talk ask the girl out it's like get to

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know you talk while hinting at the idea

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that we could possibly do one of these

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things or I'll show you how to do this

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thing or you're into that thing damn

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I've been looking for someone to do that

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with whether it's like speaking a new

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language going out for drinks in this

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case it was running I did another

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breakdown where it was swimming right so

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no matter what the activity is it's just

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the concept of hinting at the idea that

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we could probably do this sometime soon

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and then when the girl agrees we start

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to move it forward in small increments

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okay so that's that breakdown I hope you

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guys enjoyed this I hope you guys

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learned something from this if you

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enjoyed this content if you want to

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live weekly coaching calls with me and

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there's also the instant response

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feature so you can upload screenshots of

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your text interactions of your dating

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profiles will analyze your screenshots

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