Wake up! She "loves you" ONLY because you help her
Summary
TLDRThe video script shares the story of a man who supported a woman financially and emotionally for years, only to be left heartbroken when she repeatedly left him and showed uncertainty about their relationship. The speaker offers advice to men, emphasizing that true love involves patience, commitment, and mutual respect. He warns against staying in relationships where the woman is only interested in material success or repeatedly breaks up during tough times. The message is clear: recognize the red flags and know your worth.
Takeaways
- 😢 A man's selfless support for a girl he loved included paying her tuition, even at the cost of his own education.
- 🚫 The girl only agreed to date him after he started making money, which is seen as a red flag indicating her interest might be more financial than personal.
- 💔 Despite being in an on-and-off relationship for six years, the girl has shown multiple signs of not being fully committed, including breaking up over arguments and expressing uncertainty about her feelings.
- 🤔 The man sought advice after the girl's hesitant response to a marriage proposal, which is a clear sign that she may not see a future with him.
- 🔺 Key advice for men is that a woman who genuinely loves you will not abandon you at the first sign of trouble but will work through issues together.
- ❤️ True love involves patience, understanding, and a long-term vision of a shared future, without hesitation or second thoughts.
- 💍 Most women in love would be thrilled by a marriage proposal, and hesitation can indicate a lack of commitment or being 'on the fence' about the relationship.
- 🤑 If a woman only shows interest when you are successful, it may suggest she is more attracted to your success than to you as a person, which is a sign of a gold digger.
- 💔 A pattern of multiple breakups indicates emotional immaturity and a lack of commitment, which is not conducive to a healthy, long-term relationship.
- 🤝 Helping someone should not be tied to expectations of a relationship or marriage; true kindness is given without strings attached.
- 📵 The man was advised to cut ties with the girl as she does not truly love him and has been using him for her own benefit.
Q & A
What was the main issue the man in the story faced?
-The man faced an unrequited love situation where he had supported a girl financially and emotionally for years, even sacrificing his own education, but she did not genuinely love him back and was only interested in him when he became successful.
How did the man support the girl financially?
-He helped her pay for her tuition when her parents couldn't, even though he himself was a student and eventually had to drop out of school because he couldn't afford to support both of them.
What was the first red flag that the man noticed in his relationship with the girl?
-The first red flag was that she only agreed to date him after he started making money from a couple of side hustles, indicating that her interest in him was tied to his financial status.
Why did the girl leave the man for another guy after she finished school?
-The script does not provide a specific reason for her leaving, but it implies that her feelings for the man were not genuine and that she may have been more interested in his financial support than in him as a person.
How did the man react when the girl left him for another guy?
-He begged and pleaded for her to return to him, which she eventually did when he relocated to a foreign country.
What did the girl's response to the man's marriage proposal reveal about her feelings towards him?
-Her response revealed that she did not genuinely love him and was hesitant about marrying him, suggesting that she was not fully invested in the relationship.
What advice was given to the man regarding his relationship with the girl?
-The advice given was to cut off ties with the girl immediately, as she was not truly in love with him and was likely using him for his financial support.
What are the key signs that a woman genuinely loves a man, according to the script?
-A woman who genuinely loves a man will not run off or break up at the first sign of trouble, will engage in conversations to solve issues, and will see a future with him, being invested in the long-term success of the relationship.
What does the script suggest about a woman who hesitates at a marriage proposal?
-The script suggests that if a woman hesitates at a marriage proposal, it indicates uncertainty about her feelings and commitment level, and it could be a sign that she is not fully invested in the relationship.
What is the implication of a woman only showing interest in a man when he is successful?
-The implication is that the woman may be more interested in the man's success and what she can gain from it rather than genuinely caring for the man as a person.
What is the message conveyed about expecting a relationship in return for help?
-The message is that expecting a relationship in return for help is emotionally manipulative and defeatist. True kindness and help should come without expecting anything in return, and a person's gratitude for help does not obligate them to reciprocate romantic feelings or commitments.
What should a man do if he finds himself in a similar situation as the man in the story?
-The man should recognize the signs of an unrequited relationship, understand his self-worth, and consider ending the relationship if it is clear that the other person is not genuinely invested in him.
Outlines
💔 Unrequited Love and Sacrifice
The first paragraph narrates a heartbreaking tale of a man who has been in love with a girl for years, supporting her financially and emotionally. Despite his selfless acts, including dropping out of school to support her education, the girl only agrees to date him when he starts earning money. Their relationship is fraught with issues, including her leaving him for another man and her reluctance to commit to marriage. The man's story is a cautionary tale about the pitfalls of one-sided love and the importance of recognizing when a relationship is not healthy.
🔍 Signs of a One-Sided Relationship
The second paragraph delves into the signs that indicate an unbalanced and potentially unhealthy relationship. It emphasizes that a woman who truly loves a man will not abandon him during tough times but will work through issues together. The speaker also points out that hesitation at a marriage proposal is a red flag, suggesting uncertainty about the relationship's future. Furthermore, the paragraph warns against entering a relationship with someone who only shows interest when the man is successful, as this may indicate they are more interested in material success than in the person. The speaker advises the man in the story to end the relationship, as the woman does not truly love him and is using him for her own benefit.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Support
💡Sacrifice
💡Red flag
💡True love
💡Commitment
💡Gold digger
💡Emotional resilience
💡Manipulation
💡Self-worth
💡Emotional maturity
Highlights
A man sacrificed his education to support a girl he loved, even paying her tuition when her parents couldn't.
The girl wasn't initially interested in him but agreed to date him only after he started making money.
After finishing school, the girl left him for another guy despite his continued efforts to win her back.
Despite moving to a foreign country, the man struggled to get her to join him and faced uncertainty about her feelings.
The girl frequently broke up with him during arguments, only to return when things improved.
When asked about marriage, the girl responded that he shouldn't help her just because he wants to marry her.
The speaker advises that genuine love involves patience and working through disagreements together.
A woman who hesitates at a marriage proposal likely isn't fully committed and may be keeping her options open.
If a woman only dates a man after he becomes successful, she's more interested in his success than his character.
Frequent breakups during the relationship indicate a lack of emotional maturity and commitment.
Believing a woman owes a relationship or marriage because of help provided is emotionally manipulative.
True kindness should come without expecting anything in return, and gratitude doesn't obligate romantic reciprocation.
The man was advised to recognize he was in a one-sided relationship and to cut ties with the woman.
The woman never truly loved him, and continuing the relationship would likely result in future heartbreak.
Viewers are encouraged to share their own stories in the comments and reflect on similar experiences.
Transcripts
so yesterday I sat down for 30 minutes
listening to a man who was close to
tears tell me his story about how
basically um he had supported this girl
he's always loved for years now the guy
had supported her in every humanly way
possible he helped her pay a tuition
through school when her parents couldn't
even though he was a student himself and
eventually he had to drop out of school
because the money he had could not
support them both you heard me right he
literally sacrificed his schooling for
this girl now because he was also ahead
of her in school he could at the time
teach her a couple of subjects he
admitted to me that she wasn't into him
from the very beginning but he was
hopeful that she would come around it
took a while over time though he started
a couple of side hustles started to make
money and only then did she agree to
date him first red flag if you ask me
now shortly after she finished school
she left him for another guy for over a
year he begged pleaded that she return
to him which she did when he finally
reach located to a foreign country ever
since then he had been trying to get her
to join him in this foreign country to
no avail and he keeps trying as we speak
now during this time though she would
make comments about how she was not
truly sure about how she felt about him
and how he loves her more than she does
and stuff like that at this point they'
hadd been dating for close to 6 years on
and off she would break up with him each
time they had an argument though or
would raise his voice you know when he
didn't understand something only to come
back later when things got better now
the story is long and I don't want to
bore you but what brought him eventually
to speak to me was the fact that he had
asked her
if when he was successful in bringing
her over would she marry him to which
she answered well if he wants to help
her he shouldn't be helping her just
because he wants to marry her he should
help her because he likes her
enough now you might be listening to
this story and thinking what the hell is
going on or maybe you're just listening
to it because you love to watch this
channel bet yet maybe you see yourself
in this guy whatever the case may be
I'll be more than happy to share what I
told him with you before I do that
though it's imperative that I drum this
message home for all the guys who keep
making this mistake or these mistakes
when it comes to love you might be one
of them hear this number one when a
woman genuinely loves you she'll not run
off or I.E break up with you at the
first sign of trouble she'll reason with
you she'll engage you to ensure that the
right conversations are being had to try
and solve the situation and avoid future
misunder understandings or mistakes if
she doesn't do this it's a red flag
women who love you won't bail at the
first sign of trouble they'll stick
around and try and solve the issues true
love involves patience it involves
understanding and a willingness to give
each other the benefit of the doubt when
things aren't going well a woman who
genuinely loves you sees a future with
you and and is invested in the long-term
success of the relationship she'll work
through the disagreements you know with
whatever Vision you guys have of a
shared future understanding that
overcoming these challenges together
strengthens what you have keep that in
mind number
two a lot of women will jump at anything
that sounds like a marriage proposal
most women when they're truly in love
and see a future with you will be
thrilled at the idea of getting married
to you there won't be any hesitation
because they're certain about their
feelings and their future with you if
she's not jumping at that chance it's a
red flag when a woman hesitates at a
marriage proposal even says something as
simple as I'll think about it she's not
confident that you're the one this
uncertainty for me speaks volumes about
her true feelings and commitment level
if she's hesitant she's likely keeping
her options open she's not fully
invested in the relationship and might
be waiting for someone better okay true
love remember this guys it eliminates
doubt true love eliminates doubt when a
woman generally loves you she won't have
second thoughts about spending her life
with you if she is if she's having
second thoughts it means she's enjoying
the relationship for now but will not
stick with you when it comes to the Long
Haul number three if she decides or she
only decides to come and date you and
she sees that life has been kind to you
when in the past she wouldn't give you
light of day don't accept to go into a
relationship with her a woman who will
not date you while you're down doesn't
deserve you when you're up if she only
decides to date you when she sees that
life has been kind to you look you don't
want to accept that relationship because
it's clear that she's only interested
now that you're successful she's more
attracted to what you have than who you
are if she didn't want anything to do
with you while you're struggling it
means she's not loyal to you as a person
she's loyal to your success and that's
not the kind of partner that you need
let's call it what it is if she's only
showing up when you're doing well she's
most likely a gold digger she's in it
for the perks not the person her sudden
interest now that you're successful says
a lot about her character it's not about
love or Genuine connection it's about
what she can gain listen you need
someone who will value character over
cash recognize your self worth you're
not just your success you're the same
person you were when you were down and
you deserve someone who appreciates all
of you not just the shiny exterior and
when suddenly you struck gold number
four a woman who breaks up with you
multiple times for whatever reason
during the lifespan of your relationship
cannot and should not be taken seriously
every time she's left you should be an
extra reason why she's not the one you
should settle for and it doesn't really
matter whose fault it was you see love
brings a certain level of emotional
resilience a woman who's quick to break
up with you at every argument might lack
that emo maturity or commitment that you
need to keep her around for the Long
Haul bottom line is that she's immature
and she's showing clear evidence that
she cannot handle future ups and downs
don't be surprised if if this woman
leaves you at the first sign of trouble
even if you're married number five never
think that a woman you help owes you a
relationship or marriage believing that
she owes you a relationship or marriage
because you help her is completely
defeatist true kindness and help should
come without expecting anything in
return and guys hear me when I say this
for starters each person has the right
to decide who they want to be within a
relationship independent of whether
you've helped them or not a woman's
gratitude for help doesn't obligate her
to reciprocate romantic feelings or
commitments and a lot of guys get this
wrong expecting a relationship in return
for help is emotionally
manipulative you will never be able to
know for sure if she's truly with you
because she loves you or it's because of
the help that you offered her in the
past don't ignore the signs because of
love I would rather you break up the
relationship now when it's easier that
when you get married and have so many
ties with each other is going to be more
difficult and you will pay through the
nose okay all right so what advice did I
end up giving this guy I'm sure it's
pretty evident I mean after listening to
everything that I've said it's clear I
let him know that he's been in a
relationship by himself all this while
he's been used by the lady and this is
not a relationship for him if he still
has ties to her he needs to cut her off
right away I told him she doesn't truly
love him and probably never will and
unfortunately for him he's missed all
the signs that prove that this girl was
never for real if he made the mistake of
letting her join him abroad it will just
be a matter of time before she leaves
him for that guy she truly wants once
she meets him he's better off without
her listen I'd like you to share your
story is in the comments Below have you
ever found yourself in such a situation
and if you have what happened and how
did you deal with it thanks for watching
the video my name is Jessica os I'll
definitely be catching you in the next
one
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