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Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the struggle with consistency in building a healthy lifestyle and the importance of understanding human behavior to create lasting change. It explores the concept of linking pain and pleasure to form new habits, using personal examples like associating running with emotional relief. The speaker also touches on the power of visualization in achieving goals, the impact of procrastination, and the need for consistency in all aspects of life. The script concludes with a call to take control of one's life by mastering the use of pain and pleasure.
Takeaways
- 🏃♂️ The importance of consistency in building a healthy lifestyle rather than relying on fleeting motivation.
- 🔗 Understanding the human behavior principle that people often do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure.
- 👟 Creating positive associations through activities like running can lead to a lasting change in behavior.
- 🎵 The power of music in creating emotional relief and associating it with a positive activity like running.
- 🍪 Changing eating habits involves linking pain to overeating and pleasure to eating smaller portions.
- 🎓 Visualization as a tool for success, as the brain doesn't distinguish between imagination and reality.
- 🧠 The concept of 'neural association' and how it can be used to change behavior towards healthier choices.
- 📚 The recommendation of a class on the power of habit by productivity expert Thomas Frank on Skillshare.
- 🤔 The strategy of focusing on the pain of not taking action to combat procrastination.
- 🚫 The need to avoid perfectionism and instead aim for consistency in achieving goals.
- 💪 The message that mistakes are part of the process, and the importance of forgiving oneself and trying again.
Q & A
What is the main challenge the speaker is facing in their journey towards a healthier lifestyle?
-The main challenge the speaker is facing is inconsistency in maintaining a healthy lifestyle due to cravings and the difficulty of getting back on track after falling off.
What does the speaker suggest as a solution to the problem of inconsistency in building a healthy lifestyle?
-The speaker suggests understanding the fundamentals of human behavior and creating lasting change by linking pain and pleasure to certain behaviors.
According to the script, what is a key principle in human behavior that can be leveraged for change?
-A key principle is that humans will often do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure, and by changing what is linked to pain and pleasure, one can change their behavior.
What is the two-step process the speaker outlines to change one's behavior?
-The two-step process involves first getting oneself to feel a certain way strongly and then linking that feeling to something else, creating a new association.
How does the speaker explain the concept of 'what gets fired together gets wired together' in relation to their running habit?
-The speaker explains it by sharing their experience of associating the emotional relief from crying with running, creating a positive neural association that makes them want to run whenever they feel a certain way.
What role does music play in the speaker's running routine and how does it influence their behavior?
-Music plays a significant role as the speaker listens to a specific song on repeat while running, which over time creates a strong association between the song and the act of running, prompting them to run whenever they hear it.
What technique does the speaker recommend for dealing with overeating and creating a healthier eating habit?
-The speaker recommends visualizing oneself in the body they are most confident in and consciously making a connection between not finishing everything on their plate and achieving their goal.
How does the speaker describe the power of visualization and its effect on the brain?
-The speaker describes visualization as a powerful tool because the brain doesn't know the difference between imagination and reality, thus building neural networks as if the visualized experience had already occurred.
What is the course mentioned by the speaker and where can it be found?
-The course mentioned is about the power of habit taught by productivity expert Thomas Frank on Skillshare, an online learning platform.
What advice does the speaker give for dealing with procrastination on a school project?
-The speaker advises to visualize the pain of not taking action, such as the consequences of not completing the project on time, and to link pleasure to the initial task of the project to make it more enjoyable.
What is the final message the speaker conveys about consistency and its relation to success in various aspects of life?
-The final message is that consistency, not perfection, is key to success in wealth, relationships, health, and other aspirations, and that one should learn to forgive themselves and try again when they fall off track.
Outlines
🏃♂️ Overcoming Inconsistency in Healthy Lifestyle Habits
The speaker discusses their struggle with maintaining a healthy lifestyle and the inconsistency that often leads to setbacks. They highlight the importance of understanding human behavior and how associating pain and pleasure with certain activities can lead to lasting change. The speaker shares their personal experience with running, where they linked emotional relief to the activity, creating a positive neural association that made them love running. They also touch on the concept of visualization as a powerful tool for success, citing a Harvard study that shows the brain's inability to distinguish between imagination and reality, thus building neural networks through visualization.
🎓 Tackling Procrastination and Cultivating Consistency
In this paragraph, the speaker addresses the issue of procrastination and how it can be overcome by changing one's associations with pain and pleasure. They suggest focusing on the potential pain of not taking action rather than the immediate discomfort of starting a task. The speaker provides a vivid example of the negative consequences of procrastination, such as poor grades and missed opportunities, and encourages viewers to visualize these outcomes to motivate action. They also discuss the importance of consistency in achieving life goals, emphasizing that success comes from winning the majority of the time, not from perfection. The speaker concludes by encouraging self-forgiveness and the use of pain and pleasure as tools for personal growth and control.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Motivation
💡Lifestyle Change
💡Cravings
💡Pain and Pleasure
💡Association
💡Neural Association
💡Visualization
💡Habit Formation
💡Skillshare
💡Procrastination
💡Consistency
Highlights
The importance of motivation for maintaining a healthy lifestyle and overcoming the challenges of cravings and inconsistency.
The realization that motivation is fleeting and understanding human behavior can lead to lasting change.
The concept that humans are more driven to avoid pain than to gain pleasure, which can be leveraged for behavioral change.
The method of creating associations between pain and pleasure to change behavior, with two key steps: feeling strongly and linking it to something else.
The personal story of linking emotional relief with running, leading to a love for the activity.
The explanation of how neural associations are formed and the impact of music on creating a positive association with running.
The strategy of linking the act of not overeating with feelings of happiness and confidence in one's body.
The power of visualization in creating and strengthening neural associations, supported by a Harvard study on piano players.
The promotion of the class 'The Power of Habit' by Thomas Frank on Skillshare for further understanding of human behavior.
The description of Skillshare as an online learning platform with a wide range of classes, compared to Netflix.
The offer of a three-month premium membership on Skillshare and the affordability of the service.
The discussion on procrastination and the method to overcome it by visualizing the pain of not taking action.
The practical example of linking the pain of poor academic performance to the consequences it may have on future opportunities.
The advice on starting small with tasks to avoid overwhelming the brain and forming negative associations.
The technique of shifting focus from the pleasure of immediate gratification to the long-term pain of negative consequences.
The personal account of the emotional impact of realizing the consequences of overeating and the importance of self-forgiveness.
The final message on the value of consistency over perfection and the power of learning from mistakes.
Transcripts
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this is disappointing how do I motivate
myself ever since my high school self
realized I couldn't maintain the luxury
of a child's metabolism forever I
decided I wanted to get more fit and
quit junk food today is March 15 okay so
today is March 15 and I'm really taking
a strive to change my lifestyle I went
to the dermatologist today and it was
like a Foster's freeze next door and all
of my friends keep saying how good it
wasn't I was so close to getting some
bows like no I need to stay within this
I need to be strong but the problem of
inconsistency unraveled with each
attempt to build a healthy lifestyle
oftentimes I given the cravings and not
get back on track for a while because it
was difficult to even get back into that
health routine I frequently blamed my
lack of motivation for this but
motivation is fleeting
you can't solely depend on that to be
consistent understanding the basic
fundamentals of what drives human
behavior can help you utilize them to
create lasting change
you
everything we do in life is driven by
the need to avoid pain or the desire to
gain pleasure study after study shows
that humans will often do more to avoid
pain than to gain pleasure if you want
to change your behavior change what you
link pain and pleasure to one or two
simple associations can change your
entire life so how do you do that step 1
get yourself to feel a certain way and
feel it strongly step 2 while you feel
it link it to something else
this explains why I love running now let
me show you and I'm just like bursted
into tears I didn't even plan on that
but it's just cuz lick and I just can't
do that I just feel like going to
workout because I feel really like sad
right now like I just want to let it out
and I feel like running might help me
with that when I started running I
didn't keep track of time I just ran
with the music and I had a specific song
on repeat I felt a strong emotional
relief because quite some time had
passed since I cried as I felt this
relief I ran what gets fired together it
gets wired together I could have just
say cookies and as I felt relief I would
have created a positive association with
cookies and relief but instead I ran I
had just created a positive neural
Association which explains why I have
loved running ever since
and because I listen to that specific
song every time I hear that song I feel
this physical urge in my body to go
running my brain begins making a mental
movie of me losing myself in relief and
freedom as I run when you take something
challenging and make it an enjoyable
experience this massively increases your
chances to do it again in the future
that's because now your brain isn't
resisting it it wants to do it
you
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now you know that in order to lose
weight you can't overeat I had a strong
feeling of pleasure linked to overeating
and pain linked to eating smaller
portions so you have food in front of
you separate a portion of it that you
won't be push the food away and
immediately create a mental state of
happy feelings by visualizing yourself
in the body you are most confident in
and consciously make the connection
between not finishing everything on your
plate and achieving your goal repeat
this process over and over to strengthen
the neuro Association visualization is a
powerful cheat code to success there was
a study done in 2009 at Harvard where
they brought in piano players to play
the piano and they studied what parts of
their brains lit up and when they had
them just imagine themselves playing the
piano the same parts of the brains lit
up numerous studies have shown that the
brain doesn't know the difference
between imagination and reality so when
you're visualizing something you're
actually building neural networks as if
that image or experience had already
occurred which is why you can get in
such a strong emotional state if you
want to dive more into human behavior
I'm taking this really great class about
the power of habit taught by
productivity expert Thomas Frank on
Skillshare if you don't know what
Skillshare is think Netflix for online
classes they have thousands of classes
ranging from productivity in business to
design and music I thought chances if
you're watching this video you also like
learning techniques to improve your
quality of life so I'll have the class
linked below the class covers topics
that set you up for success such as
effective goal planning addressing your
fears and how to deal with failure make
2020 a year where you explore those
skills you've always wanted to deepen
your understanding of and get lost in
creativity and skill shares online
classes they are short classes so it
will fit into your busy routine I will
also have a code for you guys that can
get you to three months of premium
membership on Skillshare and after that
it is $10 a month which is very
affordable compared to in-person classes
and workshops so definitely go check
that out if it sounds interesting to you
I know I should get started on this but
I'd do anything to be somewhere else
other than here doing this
procrastination is understandable
because you link pain to this school
project you can change your pain and
pleasure associations but we're gonna
try something a little different
let's review two basic principles humans
will often do more to avoid pain than to
gain pleasure whatever you focus on
becomes your reality so when we're in
the moment of whether or not to get
started on this project a lot of us ask
ourselves what will be the pain if I
take action but you need to ask yourself
what will be the pain if I don't do it
focus and visualize this picture in your
head you may end up pulling an
all-nighter the night before the project
is due but then you realize you did the
project wrong you text your friend at
midnight for help but he's already gone
to bed you try to figure it out at
midnight stressed knowing you have to
turn this project in in seven hours two
hours later you have a better
understanding but then you realize
you're missing an important piece to the
project and you have to go to the store
there's no way you're getting a good
grade on this can you imagine what this
would do to your grades you have to have
a talk with your not-so-nice teacher
explaining why you did so poorly
suddenly your mom's not letting you go
out with your friends anymore
your crush at school finally asks you
out to the school dance but nope you
can't go because you're grounded so he
asks another girl if you're in high
school this could impact your whole
grade which could affect your plans for
college imagine your counselor saying
well honey you can definitely try to
apply for this college but this grade in
this specific class is gonna hurt your
chances of admission into this school
this all could have been avoided if you
had just gotten started you can also
link pleasure to doing this school
project with the method shared earlier
step 1 get yourself to feel really good
and feel it strongly this is kind of
silly but maybe you think about your
crush you'll get in a joyous state and
then complete the initial task of your
project don't take on too much in the
beginning because you don't want your
brain to view this project as a very
painful thing tell yourself it's just
the initial task that's easy and as you
begin completing the first step while
feeling really good your brain will
begin to build this positive
you need to repeat this in order to
strengthen the narrow Association
otherwise you can lose it
let's take food as another example when
we're in the moment of whether or not to
eat the whole package of cookies the
times you probably gave in were the
times you focused on how delicious it
would taste but you need to shift your
focus and focus on the pain where will
you be in six months if you continue to
overeat in one year vividly visualize
yourself in one year if you continue
this behavior imagine it so deeply you
truly believe that's what's going to
happen one day you put on a swimsuit and
look in the mirror and you don't
recognize her anymore
this doesn't fit the way it used to you
don't smile the way you used to all the
battles you've lost with food are
completely visible in the mirror
disappointment isn't even the word I can
begin to describe how I felt in this
moment we rarely talk about the painful
rugged confusing road we took to get
here but I will share with you the full
story behind this in the globe diary
episodes throughout the next few weeks
[Music]
[Applause]
everything that has value in life comes
from consistency success wealth
relationships health and all other
aspirations but consistency doesn't mean
perfection consistency is winning
majority of the time so for the time as
you fall learn to get back on track and
get used to it because there will be
times when you make mistakes and that's
okay the secret is to learn to forgive
yourself and try again
learn to use pain and pleasure instead
of having pain and pleasure use you if
you don't do that then life controls you
this month choices are next month's
results
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