Camino del NO al SÍ - William Ury
Summary
TLDREl orador comparte una parábola de camellos para ilustrar cómo abordar negociaciones difíciles, sugiriendo que a veces se necesita un 'camello adicional' para resolver conflictos. Luego, explora la idea de la 'tercera parte' en conflictos, que son las comunidades circundantes que pueden influir positivamente. Utiliza la historia de Abraham y su mensaje de unidad y hospitalidad como un posible antídoto contra el terrorismo y la intolerancia religiosa. Propone la 'Sendero de Abraham', una ruta que sigue los pasos de Abraham a través del Medio Oriente, como un medio para promover la paz y el entendimiento entre diferentes culturas, también generando un impacto económico positivo en las comunidades locales.
Takeaways
- 🐫 La historia de los 17 camellos ilustra cómo resolver negociaciones difíciles al encontrar una solución creativa que beneficia a todos los involucrados.
- 👦 La parábola de los hermanos y la mujer sabia resalta la importancia de adoptar una perspectiva fresca y colaborativa para resolver conflictos.
- 🌏 El orador compara la humanidad con una gran familia, destacando la necesidad de encontrar formas de manejar nuestras diferencias y conflictos en un mundo interconectado.
- 🕊️ El secreto de la paz es actuar como la 'tercera parte' en los conflictos, es decir, la comunidad que rodea el conflicto y puede desempeñar un papel constructivo.
- 💡 La 'tercera parte' puede ayudar recordando a las partes en conflicto lo que realmente está en juego y fomentando el diálogo en lugar de la confrontación.
- 🌍 La historia del Camino de Abraham se presenta como un ejemplo práctico de cómo la 'tercera parte' puede influir positivamente en la resolución de conflictos a través de la caminata y la hospitalidad.
- 👣 La caminata en los pasos de Abraham es una forma de vivir y experimentar la historia, lo que puede ser un poderoso catalizador para la unidad y la comprensión.
- 📚 La importancia de las historias en la vida humana es subrayada, dado que transmiten conocimientos y dan significado a nuestras vidas.
- 🕌 El Camino de Abraham se está convirtiendo en una realidad, con miles de personas caminando partes del camino y disfrutando de la hospitalidad en el Medio Oriente.
- 💸 El Camino de Abraham tiene un impacto económico positivo, ya que al atraer a los visitantes, puede mejorar la vida de las comunidades locales y promover el turismo.
- 🌳 La metáfora del bellote y el árbol de roble representa el potencial de crecimiento y desarrollo del Camino de Abraham, sugiriendo que, con tiempo y esfuerzo, puede transformarse en algo grande y poderoso.
Q & A
¿Cuál es la historia favorita del narrador sobre negociación y cómo se relaciona con las negociaciones difíciles?
-La historia favorita del narrador es sobre un hombre del Medio Oriente que dejó 17 camellos a sus tres hijos, asignándoles diferentes porciones que no podían dividir fácilmente. Esta historia se relaciona con las negociaciones difíciles porque ilustra cómo una solución aparentemente imposible (17 camellos) puede ser resuelta con una perspectiva fresca (agregar un camello más), similar a cómo se enfrentan a conflictos en la vida real.
¿Qué rol desempeña la comunidad circundante en la resolución de conflictos según el narrador?
-Según el narrador, la comunidad circundante, o el 'tercer lado', puede desempeñar un papel constructivo en la resolución de conflictos. Pueden recordar a las partes lo que realmente está en juego y ayudarles a mantener la perspectiva, evitando que se pierdan en la reacción emocional.
¿Cómo describe el narrador la historia de la comunidad de los Bushmen y cómo resuelven las diferencias?
-El narrador describe que cuando las tensiones aumentan en la comunidad de los Bushmen, alguien oculta las flechas venenosas y la comunidad se reúne en círculo para hablar. Pueden hablar durante días hasta encontrar una resolución o una reconciliación. Si las tensiones siguen altas, envían a alguien a visitar parientes para un período de enfriamiento.
¿Qué es el 'tercer lado' de un conflicto según el concepto del narrador?
-El 'tercer lado' de un conflicto, según el narrador, es la comunidad circundante, incluyendo amigos, aliados, familiares y vecinos. Estos individuos pueden influir positivamente en la resolución de conflictos al recordarle a las partes lo que realmente está en juego y ayudarles a mantener la perspectiva.
¿Cómo se relaciona la historia de Abraham con el concepto de 'tercer lado'?
-La historia de Abraham se relaciona con el 'tercer lado' porque él representa la unidad y la hospitalidad, valores que el narrador sugiere que pueden ser la base para la resolución de conflictos y la promoción de la paz. Abraham puede ser visto como el 'tercer lado' simbólico que recuerda a las personas que forman parte de algo más grande.
¿Qué es la 'Vía de Abraham' y cómo se relaciona con la idea del 'tercer lado'?
-La 'Vía de Abraham' es una ruta inspirada en las huellas de Abraham, que atraviesa varios países del Medio Oriente. Se relaciona con la idea del 'tercer lado' porque promueve la hospitalidad y el contacto entre diferentes culturas, lo que puede ayudar a cambiar la narrativa de hostilidad a hospitalidad y de terrorismo a turismo.
¿Cómo el narrador sugiere que la historia de Abraham podría ser un antídoto al terrorismo y a la intolerancia religiosa?
-El narrador sugiere que la historia de Abraham, que promueve la hospitalidad y el trato de los extraños con respeto, puede ser un antídoto al terrorismo y a la intolerancia religiosa al fomentar la comprensión y el entendimiento entre las personas de diferentes orígenes y creencias.
¿Qué impacto económico tiene la 'Vía de Abraham' según el narrador?
-Según el narrador, la 'Vía de Abraham' tiene un impacto económico positivo, ya que al atraer a personas de diferentes lugares para caminar la ruta, estas personas gastan dinero en las comunidades locales, lo que puede ayudar a mejorar la vida de los habitantes y promover el desarrollo económico.
¿Cómo el narrador describe su experiencia personal durante las negociaciones entre Rusia y Chechenia?
-El narrador describe una experiencia en la que, durante las negociaciones, el vicepresidente de Chechenia acusó a los rusos de cometer crímenes de guerra y criticó a los estadounidenses por sus acciones en Puerto Rico. El narrador, recordando la importancia de mantener la perspectiva, agradeció las críticas y redirigió la conversación hacia la resolución del conflicto en Chechenia.
¿Qué es el 'tercer lado' y cómo cada individuo puede contribuir a él según el narrador?
-El 'tercer lado' es la comunidad circundante que puede influir positivamente en la resolución de conflictos. Cada individuo puede contribuir al 'tercer lado' tomando pequeñas acciones, como iniciar conversaciones con personas de diferentes orígenes y culturas, escuchándolas y aprendiendo de ellas.
¿Cómo concluye el narrador sobre la posibilidad de transformar conflictos en todo el mundo?
-El narrador concluye que en los últimos 35 años, mientras trabajó en conflictos peligrosos y difíciles en todo el mundo, nunca ha visto un conflicto que no pudiera ser transformado. Depende de la acción del 'tercer lado', es decir, de cada individuo, para contribuir a la paz y a la transformación de los conflictos.
Outlines
🔍 La sabiduría de la mujer sabia y la resolución de conflictos
El primer párrafo relata una anécdota de Oriente Medio sobre un hombre que deja 17 camellos a sus tres hijos, causando un conflicto porque la herencia no se divide equitativamente entre ellos. La situación se complica hasta que consultan a una mujer sabia, quien les ofrece su camello, facilitando así una solución justa y equitativa para todos los hermanos. Este cuento simboliza la resolución de conflictos difíciles, sugiriendo que a veces se necesita un enfoque externo y fresco para encontrar soluciones creativas. Además, el narrador compara la historia con los conflictos mundiales y cómo la humanidad, como una gran familia, puede superar sus diferencias y conflictos a través de la comunicación y la comunidad.
🌟 El papel del 'tercer lado' en la resolución de conflictos
El segundo párrafo profundiza en la idea del 'tercer lado' en la resolución de conflictos, que representa a la comunidad que rodea a las partes en conflicto y puede influir positivamente en la situación. El narrador comparte su experiencia como facilitador en conversaciones difíciles entre líderes de Rusia y Chechenia, demostrando cómo mantener la perspectiva y el enfoque en la resolución del conflicto es crucial. Luego, explora la posibilidad de aplicar esta idea al conflicto del Medio Oriente, sugiriendo que la historia y la narrativa tienen un papel fundamental en la comprensión y resolución de conflictos, y plantea la historia de Abraham como un posible 'tercer lado' que promueve la unidad y la hospitalidad.
🚶♂️ La senda de Abraham: un camino hacia la hospitalidad y la paz
El tercer párrafo describe un proyecto inspirado en la vida de Abraham, que busca promover la paz y la hospitalidad a través de la creación de una ruta que sigue sus pasos a través de varios países del Medio Oriente. El narrador comparte su experiencia al recorrer esta ruta, donde se encontró con la hospitalidad inesperada de las comunidades locales. Destaca cómo este proyecto no solo tiene un impacto psicológico y social, sino que también tiene beneficios económicos, ya que los visitantes generan ingresos para las comunidades locales. Además, el narrador sugiere que este tipo de iniciativas pueden ser un punto de partida para cambiar la narrativa de hostilidad a hospitalidad y de terrorismo a turismo.
🌳 La transformación de conflictos a través del 'tercer lado'
El cuarto y último párrafo concluye con una reflexión sobre la posibilidad de transformar cualquier conflicto, basándose en la experiencia del narrador en conflictos a lo largo del mundo. Se enfatiza la creencia de que, con la participación activa del 'tercer lado', cada individuo puede contribuir a la paz mundial. El narrador invita a la audiencia a considerar unirse al 'tercer lado', comenzando con pequeños actos de diálogo y entendimiento entre personas de diferentes orígenes. Finalmente, comparte un acorn, un símbolo de potencial y crecimiento, para ilustrar la esperanza de que la senda de Abraham y el 'tercer lado' pueden evolucionar y tener un impacto significativo en la resolución de conflictos y la promoción de la paz.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Negociación
💡Cámara de enfoque
💡Tercera parte
💡Conflicto
💡Abraham
💡Hospitalidad
💡Camino de Abraham
💡Transformación
💡Identidad común
💡Economía común
Highlights
A man left 17 camels to his three sons, creating a negotiation challenge as the number doesn't divide evenly.
The sons consulted a wise old woman who offered her camel to resolve the division issue.
With 18 camels, the sons were able to divide them according to their shares, leaving one camel to give back to the wise woman.
The story illustrates the importance of stepping back and finding creative solutions in negotiations.
The speaker sees humanity as one family, connected through communication, yet riddled with conflicts.
The speaker has spent decades mediating conflicts around the world, seeking the secret to peace.
The secret to peace is the 'third side', the surrounding community that can play a constructive role in conflict resolution.
The 'third side' helps by reminding parties of what's at stake and encouraging dialogue over conflict.
The speaker shares a personal negotiation experience where he used the 'third side' perspective to redirect a conversation.
The Middle East conflict is presented as an example where the 'third side' could potentially play a significant role.
Abraham's story is suggested as a 'third side' narrative that promotes unity, respect, and hospitality.
The concept of the Abraham Path is introduced as a way to experience and spread the story of Abraham.
The Abraham Path has been walked by thousands, fostering connections and understanding among different communities.
The path has economic benefits, providing income to local communities through tourism and hospitality.
The speaker envisions the Abraham Path as a game changer, potentially transforming the Middle East through unity and tourism.
The speaker concludes by encouraging everyone to take the 'third side', contributing to peace through small acts of understanding and connection.
Transcripts
well the subject of difficult
negotiation reminds me of one of my
favorite stories from the Middle East of
a man who left to his three sons 17
camels and to the first son he left half
the camels to the second son he left a
third of the camels and to the youngest
son he left a ninth of the camels well
three son's got into a negotiation 17
doesn't divide by two it doesn't divide
by three it doesn't divide by nine
brotherly temper started to get strained
finally in desperation they went and
they consulted a wise old woman the wise
old woman thought about their problem
for a long time and finally she came
back and said well I don't know if I can
help you but at least if you want you
can have my camel so then they had 18
camels the first son took his half half
of 18 is nine the second son took his
third a third of 18 is is six the
youngest son took his ninth a ninth of
18 is two you get 17 they had one camel
left over they gave it back to the wise
old
woman now if you think about that story
for a moment I think it resembles a lot
of the difficult negotiations we get
involved in they start off like 17
camels no way to resolve it somehow what
we need to do is step back from those
situations like that wise old woman look
at the situation through fresh eyes and
come up with an 18
camel now finding that 18th camel in the
world's conflict has been my life
passion I basically see Humanity a bit
like those three brothers we're all one
family we know that scientifically
thanks to the communications Revolution
all the tribes on the planet all 15,000
tribes are in touch with each
other and it's a big family reunion and
yet like many family reunions it's not
all peace and light there's a lot of
conflict
and the question is how do we deal with
our differences how do we deal with our
deepest differences given the human
propensity for conflict and the human
genius at devising weapons of enormous
destruction that's the question as I've
spent the last better part of three
decades almost four traveling the world
trying to work getting involved in
conflicts ranging from Yugoslavia to the
Middle East to Chia to Venezuela
some of the most difficult conflicts on
the face of the planet I've been asking
myself that question and I think I've
found in some ways what is the secret to
peace it's actually surprisingly simple
it's not easy but it's simple it's not
even new it's maybe our one of our most
ancient human heritages the secret to
peace is us it's us who act as a
surrounding Community around any
conflict who can play a constructive
role let me give you just a story an
example about 20 years ago I was in
South Africa working with the parties in
that conflict and I had an extra month
so I spent some time living with several
groups of s Bushmen I was curious about
them about the way in which they resolve
conflict because after all they're
within living memory they were hunters
and gatherers living pretty much like
our ancestors live for maybe 99% of the
human story and all the men have these
poison arrows that they use for hunting
absolutely fatal so how do they deal
with their differences well what I
learned is whenever tempers rise in
those communities someone goes and hides
the poison arrows out in the bush and
then everyone sits around in a circle
like this and they sit and they talk and
they talk it may take two days 3 days
four days but they don't rest until they
find a resolution or better yet a
Reconciliation and if tempers are still
too high then they send someone off to
visit some relatives there's a cooling
off period Well that system is I think
probably the system that kept us alive
to this point given our human
tendencies that system I call the third
side because if you think about it
normally when we think of conflict when
we describe it there's always two sides
you know it's Arabs versus Israelis
labor versus management husband versus
wife Republicans versus Democrats but
what we don't often see is that there's
always a third side and the third side
of the conflict is us it's the
surrounding Community it's the friends
the Allies the family members the
neighbors and we can play an incredibly
constructive role perhaps the most
fundamental way in which the third side
can help is to remind the parties of
what's really at stake you know for the
sake of the kids for the sake of the
family for the sake of the community for
the sake of the future let's stop
fighting for a moment and start talking
because the thing is when we're involved
in conflict it's very easy to lose
perspective it's very easy to react
human beings were reaction machines and
as the saying goes when angry you will
make the best speech you will ever
regret and so the third side reminds us
of that the third side helps us go to
the balcony which is a metaphor for a
place of perspective where we can keep
our eyes on the prize let me tell you a
little story from my own negotiating
experience some years ago I was involved
as a facilitator in some very tough
talks between the leaders of Russia and
the leaders of
chia there was a war going on as you
know and we met in the heg in the peace
Palace in the same room where the
Yugoslav war crimes tribunal was taking
place and the talks got off to a rather
Rocky start when the vice president of
chcha began by pointing at the Russians
and said you should stay right here in
your seats because you're going to be on
trial for war crimes and then he went on
and then he turned to me and said you're
an American look at what you Americans
are doing in Puerto Rico and my mind
started racing Puerto Rico what do I
know about Puerto Rico I started
reacting but then I tried to remember to
go to the balcony and then when he
paused and everyone looked at me for a
response from a balcony perspective I
was able to thank him for his remarks
and say I appreciate your criticism of
my country and I take it as a sign that
we're among friends and can speak
candidly to one another and what we're
here to do is not to talk about Puerto
Rico or the past we're here to do just
to see if we can figure out a way to
stop the suffering and the Bloodshed in
Cheta the conversation got back on track
that's the role of the third side is to
help the parties go to the
balcony now let me take you for a moment
to what's widely regarded as the world's
most difficult conflict and the most
impossible conflict is the Middle East
question is where's the third side there
how could we possibly go to the balcony
now I don't pretend to have an answer to
the Middle East conflict but I think
I've got a first step literally a first
step something that any one of us could
do as third ciders let me just ask you
one question first how many of you in
the last years have ever found yourself
worrying about the Middle East and
wondering what anyone could do just just
out of curiosity how many of you okay so
the great majority of us and here it's
so far away why do we pay so much
attention to this conflict is it the
number of deaths there are 100 times
more people who die in a conflict in
Africa than in the Middle East no it's
because of the story because we feel
personally involved in that story
whether we're Christians Muslims or Jews
religious or non-religious we feel we
have a personal stake in it stories
matter as an anthropologist I know that
stories are what we use to transmit
knowledge to give meaning to our lives
that's what we tell here at Ted we tell
stories
stories are the key and so my question
is
is yes let's try and resolve the
politics there in the Middle East but
let's also take a look at the story
let's try to get at the root of what
it's all about let's see if we can apply
the third side to it what would that
mean what is the story there now as
anthropologists we know that every
culture has an origin
story what's the origin story of the
Middle East in a phrase It's 4,000 years
ago a man and his family walked across
the Middle East and the world has never
been the same since that man of course
was
Abraham and what he stood for was Unity
the unity of the family he's the father
of us all but it's not just what he
stood for it's what his message was his
basic message was Unity too the
interconnectedness of it all the unity
of it all and his Basic Value was
respect was kindness towards strangers
that's what he's known for is
Hospitality so in that sense he's the
symbolic third side of the Middle East
he's the one who reminds us that we're
all part of a greater hole now how would
you now think about that for a
moment we today we Face the scourge of
terrorism what is Terrorism terrorism is
basically taking an innocent stranger
and treating them as an enemy whom you
kill in order to create fear what's the
opposite of terrorism it's taking an
innocent stranger and treating them as a
friend whom you welcome into your home
in order to sew and create understanding
or respect or
love so what if then you took the story
of Abraham which is a third Side Story
what if that could be actually an ant
because Abraham stands for
Hospitality what if that could be an
antidote to terrorism what if that could
be a vaccine against religious
intolerance how would you bring that
story to life now it's not enough just
to tell a story that's powerful but
people need to experience the story they
need to be able to live the story how
would you do that and that was my
thinking of how would you do that and
that's what comes to the first step here
because the simple way to do that is you
go for a walk you go for a walk in the
footsteps of Abraham you retrace the
footsteps of Abraham him because walking
has a real power you know as an
anthropologist walking is what made us
human walking it's funny when you walk
you walk side by side in the same common
Direction now if I were to come to you
face to face and come this close to you
you would
feel
threatened but if I walk shoulder Tosh
shoulder even touching shoulders it's no
problem who fights while they walk
that's why negotiations often when the
things get tough people go for walks in
the woods so the idea came to me of what
about inspiring a path a route think the
silk route think the Appalachian Trail
that followed in the footsteps of
Abraham people said that's crazy you
can't you can't retrace the footsteps of
Abraham it's too insecure you can't
across all these borders it goes across
10 different countries in the Middle
East because it unites them all and so
we studied the idea at Harvard we did
our due diligence and then a few years
ago a group of us about 25 of us from 10
different countries decided to see if we
could retrace the footsteps of Abraham
going from his additional birthplace in
the city of Ura in southern turkey
northern
Mesopotamia and we then took a bus and
took some walks and went to haran where
in the Bible he sets off on his journey
then we crossed the border into Syria
went to Aleppo which turns out is named
after Abraham we went to Damascus which
has a long history associated with
Abraham we then came to Northern Jordan
to Jerusalem which is all about Abraham
to Bethlehem and finally to the place
where he's buried in Hebron so
effectively we went from womb to tomb we
showed it could be done it was an
amazing journey let me ask you a
question how many of you have had the
experience of being in a strange
neighborhood or Strange
Land and a total stranger Perfect
Stranger comes up to you and shows you
some kindness maybe invites you into
their home gives you a drink gives you a
coffee gives you a meal how many of you
have ever had that
experience that's the essence of of the
Abraham path that's what you discover as
you go into these villages in the Middle
East where you expect hostility and you
get the most amazing Hospitality all
associated with Abraham in the name of
father ibraim let me let me offer you
some food so what we discovered is that
Abraham is not just a figure out of a
book for those people he's alive is a
living presence and to make a long story
short in the last couple of years now
thousands of people have begun to walk
parts of the path of Abraham in the
Middle East enjoying the hospitality of
the people there they begun to walk in
Israel in Palestine in Jordan in Turkey
in Syria it's an amazing experience men
women young people old people more women
than men actually interestingly for
those who can't walk
uh who are unable to get there right now
people started to organize walks in
cities in their own communities in
Cincinnati for instance they organized a
walk from a church to a mosque to a
synagogue and then all had an abrahamic
meal together it was Abraham path day in
s Paulo Brazil it's become an annual
event for thousands of people to run in
a virtual Abraham path run uniting the
different communities the media love it
they really adore it they lavish
attention on it uh because it's Visual
and it spreads the idea aide this idea
of Abraham and a Hospitality of kindness
towards
strangers and uh just a couple weeks ago
there was an NPR story on it uh last
month there was a piece in the in the
guardian uh in the Manchester Guardian
uh about it two two whole pages uh and
they quoted a quoted a villager who said
this walk connects us to the world was
he said it was like a light that went on
in our lives it brought us hope
and so that's what it's about but it's
not just about psychology it's about
economics because as people walk they
spend money and this woman right here
ummad is a woman who lives on the path
in Northern Jordan uh she's desperately
poor she's partially blind her husband
uh can't work she's got seven kids but
one she can do is cook and so she's
begun to cook for some groups of Walkers
who come through the village and have a
meal in her home they sit on the floor
she doesn't even have a tablecloth she
makes the most delicious food that's
fresh from the herbs in the surrounding
Countryside and so more and more walkers
have come and lately she's begun to earn
an income to support her family and so
she told our our team there she said you
have made me
visible in a village where people were
once ashamed to look at
me that's the potential of the Abraham
path there are literally hundreds of
those kind of communities across the
middle east across the
path the potential is basically to
change the game and to change the game
you have to change the frame the way we
see things to change the frame from
hostility to hospitality from terrorism
to tourism and in that sense the Abraham
path is a game changer let me just show
you one thing I have a Little Acorn here
that I picked up while I was walking on
on the path earlier this year now the
acorn is associated with the oak tree of
course grows into an oak tree which is
associated with Abraham the path right
now is like an acorn it's still in its
early phase what would the oak tree look
like well I think back to my childhood a
good part of which I spent after being
born here in Chicago I I spent in Europe
if you had been in the ruins of say
London in 1945 or Berlin and you had
said 60 years from now this is going to
be the most peaceful prosperous part of
the planet people would have thought you
were certifiably insane but they did it
thanks to a common identity Europe and a
common economy so my question is if it
could be done in Europe why not in the
Middle East why not thanks to a common
identity which is the story of Abraham
and thanks to a common economy that
would be based in good part on
tourism so let me conclude then
by saying that in the last 35 years as
I've worked in some of the most
dangerous difficult and intractable
conflicts around the planet I have yet
to see one conflict that I felt could
not be
transformed it's not easy of course but
it's possible it was done in South
Africa it was done in Northern Ireland
it could be done anywhere it simply
depends on us it depends on us taking
the third side so let me invite you to
consider taking the third side even as a
very small step we're about to take a
break in a moment just go up to someone
who's from a different culture a
different country a different ethnicity
some difference and engage them in a
conversation listen to them that's a
third side act that's walking Abraham's
path after a TED Talk why not a Ted
walk so let me just leave you with three
things one is the secret to peace is the
third side the third side is US each of
us with a single
step can take the world can bring the
world a step closer to
peace there's an old African proverb
that goes when spiderwebs unite they can
halt even the lion if we're able to
unite our third side webs of peace
we can even halt the lion of War thank
you very
much
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