Attractive Men Avoid Saying This to Women
Summary
TLDRDans cette vidéo, découvrez les erreurs courantes que les hommes commettent lorsqu'ils parlent à des femmes qu'ils sont attirés par et comment devenir plus attirant en changeant votre approche. En analysant des clips de Craig Ferguson, vous apprendrez à créer des pics émotionnels et à avoir des conversations amusantes plutôt que d'échanger simplement des informations. Les conseils incluent de répondre aux questions par des réponses drôles avant de donner la réponse sérieuse, de faire preuve de positivité tout en teintant la conversation de légèreté, et d'introduire le sujet de la sexualité de manière non intrusive. Le tout est illustré par des exemples concrets, pour vous aider à briller dans les interactions et à attirer l'attention des femmes.
Takeaways
- 😄 Évitez de considérer la conversation uniquement comme un échange d'informations; concentrez-vous plutôt sur le plaisir et la création de pics émotionnels.
- 😂 Utilisez des réponses amusantes et drôles aux questions pour faire rire avant de donner la réponse sérieuse, cela permet de se démarquer et de rendre la conversation plus attrayante.
- 🤔 Répondez de manière ludique aux réponses de l'autre personne pour transformer un échange banal en conversation flirtaillante.
- 🚫 Évitez d'être trop enthousiaste à tout propos, cela peut sembler prévisible et peut donner l'impression d'être faux ou désespéré.
- 🤝 Apprenez à utiliser le 'push-pull', un mélange de positivité et de taquineries amusantes, pour créer une dynamique de conversation engageante.
- 💃 Utilisez des phrases clichées habituellement utilisées par les femmes pour les hommes pour taquiner de manière ludique et renverser les rôles.
- 👀 Soyez attentif à l'environnement et au niveau de la conversation pour déterminer si introduire le sujet du sexe est approprié et ne semble pas déplacé.
- 😉 Introduisez le sujet du sexe de manière subtile en utilisant des interprétations malicieuses, cela permet à l'autre personne de décider de poursuivre ou de changer de sujet.
- 👍 Soyez non-jugemental et à l'aise avec le sujet de la sexualité, cela permet aux femmes de se sentir en sécurité et de s'exprimer librement.
- 🌟 Créez un environnement où les femmes se sentent à l'aise d'être coquettes et sexuelles, cela favorise la chimie entre les personnes.
- 📚 Pour renforcer ces compétences, il est possible de suivre un programme structuré comme 'Charisma University' qui guide les participants jour par jour pour développer des habitudes naturelles de confiance et de charisme.
Q & A
Quels sont les erreurs courantes que les hommes commettent lorsqu'ils parlent à des femmes qu'ils sont attirés par?
-Les hommes commettent souvent l'erreur de considérer la conversation uniquement comme un échange d'informations et de ne pas se concentrer sur le divertissement et la création de pics émotionnels. Ils répondent souvent de manière prévisible et ennuyeuse aux questions de petites conversations telles que 'D'où venez-vous ?' ou 'Que faites-vous ?'.
Comment peut-on devenir plus attirant en conversation selon le script?
-Pour devenir plus attirant, il faut arrêter de penser à la conversation comme un simple échange d'informations et se concentrer sur le divertissement et la création de pics émotionnels. On peut répondre aux questions par des réponses amusantes et drôles avant de donner la réponse sérieuse, et répondre de manière ludique aux réponses des autres.
Quel exemple de Craig Ferguson est donné pour montrer comment répondre de manière amusante à une question?
-Craig Ferguson donne un exemple où quelqu'un lui demande ce qu'est un wombat, et au lieu de répondre sérieusement, il fait une blague en disant 'Un ladybug' avant de donner la réponse réelle.
Quelle est une autre façon de transformer le small talk ennuyeux en une conversation flirtaillante?
-On peut transformer le small talk en une conversation flirtaillante en répondant de manière ludique aux réponses de l'autre personne. Par exemple, si elle dit être avocate, on pourrait répondre par un jeu de mots comme 'C'est pareil qu'un avocat, sauf que vous sautez des avions, n'est-ce pas?'
Pourquoi est-il important d'éviter d'être constamment excité par tout ce que dit la personne avec qui on flirte?
-Si on réagit de manière excessivement positive à tout ce qu'elle dit, cela peut être décevant et prévisible, ce qui peut sembler faux ou désespéré. Il est préférable de mélanger la positivité avec un peu de taquinerie ludique pour créer une interaction plus dynamique.
Quel est l'effet de la 'push pull' technique mentionnée dans le script?
-La technique 'push pull' consiste à alterner des compliments avec de la taquinerie ludique, ce qui permet de créer un équilibre et d'éviter de devenir prévisible. Cela permet également de créer une interaction plus amusante et engageante.
Comment Craig Ferguson utilise-t-il l'humour et la taquinerie pour créer une connexion avec ses interlocutrices?
-Craig Ferguson utilise l'humour et la taquinerie en disant des phrases clichées habituellement prononcées par les femmes aux hommes, ce qui crée un rôle-jeu spontané et permet à tous les deux de rire, renforçant ainsi la connexion.
Quelle est une autre stratégie que Craig Ferguson utilise pour introduire le sujet du sexe dans une conversation sans paraître étrange?
-Craig introduit le sujet du sexe dans une conversation en étant ouvert et à l'aise avec le sujet, en utilisant des malentendus ludiques et en étant non jugé, ce qui permet aux femmes de se sentir en sécurité et de s'exprimer plus librement.
Quel est le programme 'Charisma University' mentionné dans le script et comment peut-il aider?
-Charisma University est un programme étape par étape de 30 jours qui guide les participants à développer des habitudes de confiance et de charisme naturelles. Il permet de transformer les connaissances en habitudes inconscientes et de rayonner de confiance et de charisme sans y penser.
Quels sont les témoignages des participants du programme 'Charisma University'?
-Les témoignages des participants incluent des améliorations dans la vie sociale et la carrière, une augmentation de l'estime de soi, et la création de relations étonnantes. Certains ont également rapporté que leur vie a changé radicalement après avoir suivi le programme.
Comment le programme 'Charisma University' garantit-il un changement de vie?
-Le programme 'Charisma University' offre une garantie de changement de vie, ce qui signifie que les participants peuvent suivre le cours en entier et, s'ils ne le jugent pas valable, ils peuvent obtenir un remboursement complet directement depuis le programme.
Outlines
😀 Erreurs courantes des hommes en conversation avec les femmes
Dans le premier paragraphe, le script aborde les erreurs fréquentes commises par les hommes lorsqu'ils parlent à des femmes qu'ils sont attirés par, et comment devenir plus attirant en changeant son approche. Le script suggère d'arrêter de considérer la conversation comme un simple échange d'informations et de se concentrer sur le plaisir et la création de points d'émotions. Deux méthodes sont présentées pour y parvenir : répondre aux questions par des réponses amusantes avant de donner la réponse sérieuse, et de répondre de manière ludique aux réponses des femmes. L'exemple de Craig Ferguson, animatrice de télévision, est utilisé pour illustrer ces techniques, en montrant comment il crée des réponses inattendues et amusantes pour captiver l'attention et la réaction positive des femmes.
😉 Introduire le flirt et la séduction dans la conversation
Le deuxième paragraphe explore comment introduire le flirt et la séduction dans la conversation de manière subtile et sans paraître déplacé. Il insiste sur l'importance de la réaction positive et du ton de la voix pour apaiser les interlocutrices. Le script met en avant la technique du 'push pull', qui consiste à alternater des compliments et des taquineries pour créer une dynamique de rire et d'attraction. Des exemples de cette technique sont donnés, montrant comment Craig Ferguson utilise des phrases clichées habituellement prononcées par les femmes pour créer un rôle renversé et amusant. L'objectif est de ne pas devenir prévisible et de donner l'impression de suivre une interaction normale tout en étant attirant et alléchant.
😇 Créer un environnement sûr pour le flirt et la sexualité
Dans le troisième paragraphe, le script se concentre sur la création d'un environnement où les femmes se sentent en sécurité pour être coquettes et sexuelles. Il est question de la manière dont Craig Ferguson introduit le sujet du sexe dans la conversation de manière détendue et sans paraître étrange. L'accent est mis sur la non-jugementalité de Craig, qui ne stigmatise pas les préférences sexuelles des femmes. Des exemples de malentendus joyeux sont donnés pour montrer comment tester l'eau et introduire le sujet du sexe de manière légère. Le script encourage à calibrer l'approche en fonction de l'autre personne, du contexte et du cours de la conversation, pour éviter de devenir effrayant ou inconfortable.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Conversation
💡Attraction
💡Emotional Spikes
💡Small Talk
💡Playful Teasing
💡Push Pull
💡Non-judgmental
💡Charisma
💡Flirty Conversation
💡Misinterpretation
Highlights
Stop thinking of conversation as an exchange of information and focus on having fun and creating emotional spikes.
Answer her questions with fun, funny answers before giving your real answer to make the conversation less predictable.
Use humor to stand out in the first few minutes of conversation, which can often be predictable.
Shift boring small talk into a fun, flirty conversation by responding playfully to her answers.
Avoid being overly excited about everything she says to prevent seeming predictable or fake.
Employ the 'push-pull' technique by mixing strong positivity with playful teasing.
Use cliché phrases normally said by women to men as a form of spontaneous role play during flirting.
Create an environment where women feel safe being flirty and sexual by being comfortable with the topic.
Introduce sex into the conversation without seeming creepy by being non-judgmental and using playful misinterpretation.
Test the topic of sex with playful misinterpretation to see if the other person is comfortable with it.
Craigslist's charisma includes being comfortable with discussing sex, making it seem like a normal topic.
Charisma University is a 30-day program designed to help build habits for more attractive conversation.
The program includes testimonials from members who have seen life-changing improvements in their social and dating lives.
Charisma University offers a full refund guarantee if the course does not meet expectations.
The video provides a set of options to learn and model to become more attractive in conversation.
Building new habits can be hard, especially when speaking with someone who makes you nervous.
Transcripts
in today's video we'll go through common
mistakes men make when talking to women
they're attracted to and what you can do
instead to stop being boring and
immediately be more attractive we'll do
this by breaking down some clips of
craig ferguson so that you can get
reactions like this when you're flirting
you're like so cute i forgot how much i
loved you
i love it y'all you see it's all coming
back to you let's keep talking about sex
while craig has clear advantages like
being a famous tv host a lot of what he
does can be done by anybody the first
habit to learn if you want to be more
attractive is to stop thinking of
conversation purely as an exchange of
information instead focus on having fun
and creating emotional spikes there are
two easy ways you can do this the first
is by answering her questions with fun
funny answers before you give your real
answer here's a quick example from craig
just so you can see how stupidly easy
this is to do you know what a wombat is
right a wombat a one bet yeah is that a
ladybug
especially when you're meeting someone
for the first time the first few minutes
of conversation can be predictable what
do you do where are you from things like
that the majority of men give
straightforward boring answers so you
can set yourself apart by making her
laugh for instance watch how craig
handles the predictable where are you
from conversation i'm from
scotland jersey
here's one more example notice this time
how craig starts giving a real answer
but then thinks better of it and
switches to a joke but charlotte knows
and how did you find it i liked well i
get off the airplane and there it was
but then
if you make someone laugh by saying
something playful and unexpected they'll
instantly like you more it really is as
simple as giving a funny obviously fake
answer before giving your real one a
good tip when flirting is to answer
someone's first small talk question
playfully and at least 25 of the small
talk questions after that this isn't
always necessary to build attraction but
it's especially helpful if you aren't
sure how to answer those basic where are
you from what do you do questions in an
interesting way you can also shift
boring small talk into a fun flirty
conversation by responding playfully to
her answers are you a lawyer then no i'm
a paralegal
well that's the same as a lawyer except
you jump out of airplanes right
what kind of doctor is your sister
internal medicine internal medicine so
all her work is done indoors
most men don't respond playfully like
this when they're talking to someone
they're attracted to in fact most men
make a second common mistake here being
unbelievably excited about everything
she says listen to these next clips for
some examples of this have you ever been
here i haven't i have not either um so
i'm a full-time student mechanical
engineering exciting oh that's awesome i
was a dancer and danced in college more
for fun yeah yeah yeah i was a writer
for a magazine here
that guy seems like a super nice guy but
unfortunately just responding positively
is often not enough to build attraction
that isn't to say that showing
excitement is bad in fact in our first
craig video we covered how he often
interacts in a positive high energy way
but when you react to everything she
says with an overly positive response it
can be a turn off you risk becoming
predictable and depending on your
delivery you can seem fake or desperate
what sets craig apart and what can set
you apart is something called push pull
where you mix that strong positivity
with some playful teasing that makes you
both laugh for example watch how craig
bounces between compliments and teases
with alice eve at different parts of
their conversations i'm becoming weird i
think as a result of being an actor it's
a weird
i was just a girl before
you've never been just a girl
have you ever been to germany
i'm buying this offer the car off a
german person that doesn't qualify you
as having visited
you can even do this in the same
sentence bouncing quickly between teases
and compliments
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again immediately i love your dress by
the way it's very it's you can see
through bits it's a little
tableclothy thing
why are you keep doing that to me you're
freaking me out i'm putting spells on
you yeah you've already done that
you did that when you did the knee
that's right you see me move back like
that yeah yeah crawling away no no
distance is hurting me no it's listen it
has to be
this doesn't mean you have to rush to
chase every compliment with the tease
just keep it in mind so you don't become
too one-dimensional if you aren't sure
exactly how to playfully tease someone
while flirting you can steal an easy
style of teasing from craig say cliche
phrases that are normally only said by
women to men this type of spontaneous
role play can make you both laugh and
jokingly reframe that she's the one
hitting on you so show me what you got
no you can't put me on the spot like
that say show me what you got you gotta
walk up to a little bit buy me dinner
don't just run in and must my hair come
on jeff
i like your snake cup thanks a lot yeah
it's awesome isn't it do you have do you
like hey now
dinner first
i just wanted to see it you want to see
my fruit basket
i just wanted to hear you say that fruit
basket i mean you don't rush straight
for the fruit basket there has to be
conversation first
if all you do is follow the advice
already in this video you will have more
women who find you attractive but
there's one more thing craig does in
conversation to create chemistry this is
optional but it's a huge part of what
makes craig attractive create an
environment where women feel safe being
flirty and sexual as a great example of
this watch this next clip with mma
fighter gina carano she's only been
talking to craig for five minutes and
you can see even she's surprised at what
she's willing to say honest it's real
it's kind of like you can't really hide
you know
anything in the cage it's just real
you're you know two people going at it
yeah it's uh it's kind of like sex and
i'm just kidding
hey whatever way
you get the job done gina is clearly
embarrassed by the joke but she was
willing to go there because craig goes
there first and craig is great at
introducing sex into the conversation
without it seeming creepy one reason it
doesn't seem creepy is his obvious
comfort with the topic notice in these
next two clips how his tone and body
language convey that to him talking
about sex isn't a big deal is that weird
kissing a girl because you're a
heterosexual i am yeah not really
like if i had to kiss a dude because i'm
heterosexual i'd be like oh this is kind
of yeah awesome no i mean
the zebra situation or the zebra these
check it out oh yeah yeah
no no
no no no don't don't near peeling
are you into s m i'm not really that's a
good segue i'm just saying
something very important here is how
non-judgmental craig is he doesn't shame
women for their sexuality or kinks now
because introducing sex into the
conversation does run the risk of
seeming creepy you need to calibrate to
the other person you're setting and how
the conversation has gone so far a great
way to test out the topic is with
playful misinterpretation you jokingly
misinterpret that they are the ones that
started talking about sex for a quick
example of this listen to craig talk
about scotland with michelle monaghan
it's so beautiful there yes it is yeah
yeah
every time i think about it that's true
and we were i know oh my gosh well i was
there during summer too so it
goes on all night long
[Applause]
you can even playfully misinterpret
someone was being sexual just by pausing
and giving them a funny look do you
identify with downstairs people don't
have your servants or upstairs who are
rather terribly botched uh
i don't watch it
but i've been both upstairs and
downstairs
i'm going to answer the question now all
right
do you cream
one thing you'll notice craig rarely
makes a joke about them having sex
together his playful misinterpretations
just introduce the topic of sex lightly
while also making her laugh then she can
decide to simply laugh and move on to a
new topic or double down on the joke and
take it further it's valentine's day so
you can squirt whatever you want no you
can
no you can cream berries no
anything goes no no no
no i'll have to ask for that no don't
ask for it it's very very painful but it
might like a little pain
well we're we're out of time
so fast yeah no actually i mean not
we're not fast not fast it's okay don't
be embarrassed i was excited
again this isn't to say you have to do
this it's simply a habit that craig has
that works for him ultimately this video
is a set of options for you as you learn
to be more attractive in conversation
model craig in whichever way seems most
fun to you until you've built the habit
of dropping your filter having fun and
finding people you genuinely enjoy
flirting with and being around now that
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