I “accidentally” figured out how to create tremendous woman attraction

Summary

This video script delves into the psychology of attraction and dating dynamics from a masculine perspective. The speaker reflects on personal experiences, including an interaction with a woman where a comment on sexual compatibility dramatically changed the dynamic. He introduces the concept of 'dread game,' where a bit of unpredictability and emotional detachment increases perceived value and attraction. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of playfulness, self-value, and keeping an element of mystery in interactions, suggesting that men should approach dating with confidence and control rather than compliance.

Takeaways

• 😀 The concept of 'sexual incompatibility' can have a profound impact on perceived attraction in relationships.
• 😀 Dread game theory suggests that a perceived challenge or uncertainty in attraction can heighten desire, particularly when one person appears unsure or reluctant.
• 😀 The idea of 'you want her but don't need her' is a key principle for maintaining perceived value and attraction in relationships.
• 😀 Men should focus on becoming less compliant and more competitive in their approach to courting, avoiding mediocrity in relationships.
• 😀 Masculine energy, linked to competitive Endocrinology, plays a crucial role in determining attraction and relationship dynamics.
• 😀 A common pitfall in relationships is showing too much emotional dependence or validation-seeking behavior, which can lead to a loss of attraction.
• 😀 Introducing playful, whimsical, and mysterious elements to interactions can enhance attraction and maintain intrigue.
• 😀 Social interactions should be framed in a way that suggests high value and makes your time appear limited, signaling demand and importance.
• 😀 Asking for contact information in a playful and indirect manner creates an element of mystery, leading to higher perceived value.
• 😀 Leaving some distance and not immediately following up can fuel the imagination and create intrigue, making the other person wonder about your level of interest.
• 😀 Interactions should be fun and unpredictable, breaking patterns and expectations to keep the other person intrigued and attracted.

Q & A

What is 'dread game' and how does it relate to the speaker's experience with attraction?

'Dread game' refers to a concept where men, by expressing uncertainty about their attraction to women, create a sense of intrigue and challenge. The speaker relates it to a past relationship where expressing sexual incompatibility led to a dramatic change in the woman’s behavior, making her more willing to engage in intimacy.

How does the speaker describe the role of masculinity in courting relationships?

The speaker suggests that true masculinity involves maintaining control and frame within a relationship. A man should convey that he wants a woman but doesn't necessarily need her, ensuring that he is not seen as compliant or desperate for validation, which in turn increases attraction.

What is the 'masculine gene expression' mentioned in the script?

The 'masculine gene expression' refers to the natural behavioral traits men develop, such as competitiveness and a desire to avoid mediocrity in relationships. This hormonal influence shapes their temperament, leading them to pursue relationships that align with their values and enhance their sense of masculinity.

Why does the speaker believe that honesty can be detrimental in relationships?

The speaker argues that being overly honest and forthcoming can make men appear boring and predictable, diminishing their value in the eyes of women. Instead, maintaining a sense of mystery and not revealing too much information too soon is seen as more attractive.

What does the speaker mean by 'you have to be the instigator of attraction'?

The speaker emphasizes that in courting, men should take an active role in creating attraction. They should initiate social interactions and express their intentions, but in a playful, lighthearted manner that doesn't appear too strong or desperate.

How does the speaker recommend handling initial interactions with women?

In initial interactions, the speaker suggests being playful and lighthearted, making the conversation fun and charged with romantic overtones. For example, they might ask unconventional questions like 'Do you eat food?' and add humor or whimsy to keep things playful and unpredictable.

What is the significance of not immediately contacting someone after getting their number?

By waiting before contacting a woman, the speaker believes it creates an element of intrigue and curiosity. The woman might begin to wonder why the man hasn't reached out, leading her to invest more mental energy into the potential relationship, thus increasing attraction.

How does the speaker view the traditional view of relationships (e.g., the Disney approach)?

The speaker criticizes the conventional, idealized view of relationships, suggesting that it is unrealistic. They believe that real relationships need an element of play, risk, and potential loss to make them exciting and fulfilling, contrasting it with the Disney-like fantasy of ideal love.

What role does unpredictability play in the speaker’s approach to relationships?

Unpredictability is key to building attraction. The speaker suggests breaking the usual patterns in conversations and actions, as being perceived as unpredictable keeps the woman intrigued and invested, rather than becoming too predictable and boring.

How does the speaker define 'high value' in the context of dating?

In the context of dating, 'high value' refers to a person who has a busy, fulfilling life with commitments and social engagements. The speaker believes that showing you are in demand and that your time is valuable conveys high value, which in turn increases attraction from women.