How To Confidently Ask Her Out: Catholic Dating
Summary
TLDRThis video offers a comprehensive guide for Catholic men on how to ask a woman out without being sleazy. It shares personal experiences and emphasizes the importance of creativity in the invitation, planning the date to show leadership, and being 'husband material' by presenting oneself as a man worthy of a loving wife and family. The speaker stresses the significance of self-improvement, including physical fitness and spiritual life, to attract a suitable partner. The video concludes with advice on maintaining confidence and the role of prayer, particularly the rosary, in discerning a future spouse.
Takeaways
- 😀 Be confident in asking a woman out; it's a natural step towards potential family life.
- 📱 Use creativity in asking someone out, like making a playful bet, to make the interaction memorable.
- 👫 Plan the date yourself as a man, showing leadership and consideration for the woman's interests.
- 💡 Be ready to be flexible with your plans, but have a clear idea of the date's structure to avoid awkwardness.
- 💪 Prioritize self-improvement, including physical fitness and personal grooming, to be 'husband material'.
- 🏠 Ensure your life is in order, addressing any personal issues, before seeking a relationship.
- 🙏 Pray and seek spiritual guidance, such as daily rosary, to discern your path in finding a life partner.
- 👕 Pay attention to your appearance and presentation to attract the right partner.
- 🚫 Avoid putting undue pressure on the woman when asking her out, keeping the atmosphere light and enjoyable.
- 🔍 Be open to rejection and see it as a part of the process in finding the right person.
Q & A
How did the speaker meet his wife?
-The speaker met his wife at a party, and they were reintroduced later in August.
What strategy did the speaker use to ask his wife out on a date?
-The speaker used a game of Connect 4 and proposed a wager where if he won, he would take her on a date, and if she won, he would owe her a cup of coffee.
What was the outcome of the Connect 4 game and the speaker's plan?
-The speaker intentionally played poorly and lost the game, which led to his wife picking him up for a picnic date at the base of a mountain.
Why does the speaker emphasize creativity when asking a woman out?
-Creativity makes the invitation memorable and stands out more than an expensive dinner, reducing the feeling of pressure on the woman.
What role does the man have in planning the date according to the speaker?
-The man should be the leader and decision-maker, planning the date from start to finish without asking the woman what she wants to do.
Why is it important for the man to plan the date according to the speaker?
-Planning the date demonstrates confidence, leadership, and the ability to provide and protect, which are attractive qualities to women.
What does the speaker suggest about the man's physical fitness and health?
-The speaker suggests that a man should be healthy and fit, as it indicates the ability to protect and provide for a family in the long term.
How does the speaker relate physical fitness to attracting a quality spouse?
-The speaker believes that the quality of the man, including his physical fitness, determines the quality of the woman he can attract.
What is the speaker's advice on handling rejection when asking women out?
-The speaker advises to be okay with rejection, seeing it as a natural part of the process and not the end of the world, as there are many other potential partners.
What role does prayer play in the speaker's approach to dating and discerning marriage?
-Prayer, specifically the rosary, plays a significant role as it provides the speaker with confidence and certainty in discerning his marriage.
Outlines
😄 The Art of Asking a Woman Out
The speaker shares his personal experience and advice on how to ask a Catholic woman out on a date in a non-sleazy manner. He emphasizes the importance of being a potential husband and father and encourages viewers to learn from his and his friends' experiences. The speaker recounts a story of how he asked his wife out by making a playful bet over a game of Connect 4, which led to a memorable first date. He suggests that creativity and a memorable approach are more effective than an expensive dinner, and recommends planning a date that is casual, fun, and allows for a natural end to the evening.
💪 Becoming Husband Material
The speaker stresses the importance of self-improvement before seeking a partner. He advises men to be worthy of a loving wife and children by avoiding internet filth, presenting oneself well, and maintaining inner peace. He uses the analogy of buying a car to highlight the importance of physical fitness and health, suggesting that a man's quality can determine the quality of the woman he attracts. The speaker encourages men to take responsibility for their shortcomings, improve their health, and maintain a well-groomed appearance to attract the right partner. He also touches on the spiritual aspect, suggesting that praying the rosary can bring clarity and confidence in discerning a potential spouse.
🙏 Practical Tips for Dating and Prayer
The speaker offers practical advice for Catholic men on dating, including getting one's life in order, being creative in asking a woman out, and planning a thoughtful date. He also emphasizes the importance of prayer, particularly the rosary, in discerning a spouse. The speaker shares his personal experience of a short courtship leading to engagement, attributing it to his devotion to prayer. He concludes by encouraging viewers to be confident in rejection, as not every date will lead to marriage, and to seek spiritual guidance through prayer for a successful dating experience.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Catholic
💡Creativity
💡Planning
💡Husband Material
💡Physical Fitness
💡Confidence
💡Rejection
💡Prayer
💡Game Pigeon Strategy
💡Public Place
Highlights
The importance of not being sleazy when asking a Catholic woman out and the significance of this in future roles as a husband and father.
A complete guide on how to ask a woman on a date, including personal experiences and common mistakes to avoid.
The story of how the speaker was asked out by his wife, using a game as a creative way to initiate a date.
The speaker's suggestion to be creative and memorable when asking a woman out, rather than relying on expensive gestures.
The advice for men to take the lead in planning the date and not to ask the woman what she wants to do.
The importance of planning a date that aligns with the woman's interests and habits.
The significance of being 'husband material' and being worthy of a loving wife and children.
The impact of physical fitness on attractiveness and the ability to protect and provide for a family.
The speaker's personal commitment to health and fitness for long-term family engagement.
The necessity of being well-groomed and carrying oneself well to attract the right partner.
The advice on being confident in who you are and what you offer, and being okay with rejection.
The speaker's recommendation to pray the rosary daily for discernment in finding a spouse.
The speaker's personal experience of a short dating period before engagement due to devotion to prayer.
Three key strategies for finding a good Catholic wife as outlined by the speaker.
Transcripts
wanting to know how to ask a Catholic
woman out is not Sleazy and it's not
something you should be ashamed about if
you're going to be a husband and a
father someday you have to eventually
ask a girl on a date so in this video
I'm going to walk you through a complete
guide on how to do that I'm going to
share with you some of my own
experiences some of my friends
experiences and some of the mistakes
I've made along the way so that you can
learn from them so that you can ask a
pretty girl on a date hopefully it goes
well and hope hopefully down the road
you become a husband and God willing a
father so the first thing I want to
share with you is how I asked my wife
out slash how she kind of turned the
tables so my wife and I met at a party
but we were reintroduced in August and
we started to hang out I started to
realize wow this girl is incredible
she's smart she's funny she's lovely I
should ask her on a date so I had her
number and I was texting her back and
forth casually and we started playing on
game pigeon whatever that stupid app is
called we started playing Connect 4 and
we were in the middle of a game and this
is what I decided to do I called her and
I said Hey listen so I want to make a
bet I want to make a wager on this game
and the wager is if I win then I get to
take you out on a date and if you win
then I owe you a cup of coffee and I
have to buy you a cup of coffee so I
phrased it so it was a win win win for
me but the trouble is my wife who is um
very boisterous very extroverted very
creative and clever and wonderful she
said
no she said no if you win you can take
me on a date deal but if I win you have
to be ready at your door at 400 p.m.
with your boots on so I said all right
game on let's go and I played the worst
game of Connect 4 that I think I've ever
played
uh Jessica actually thought that I threw
the game on purpose because I wanted to
see what she was going to do but I
didn't I just played terribly apparently
but it was all part of the plan so I
lost this game of Connect 4 and my wife
comes well my date that night not yet my
wife but my wife comes and picks me up
and we go and we have a picnic at the
base of a mountain and she kind of
surprised me with that and she took care
of the food and she took care of
everything and it was wonderful and it
was a very us and it was a very
beautiful first date and we laugh about
it all the time now it's a great memory
but if you are a guy and you want to ask
a woman on a date the first thing is
that creativity a little bit of
creativity goes a lot further than an
expensive steak dinner or something like
that do something memorable something
that's going to stand out and if you
want to steal a play from my playbook
you can use the game pigeon strategy I
think it's clever I think it's cute I
think it's a way to ask somebody out on
a date that doesn't feel oppressive like
will you please go on a date with me
because my life depends on it and our
future children like you don't want to
put so much pressure on the person you
just want to have a good time casually
Be Clever be smart be funny so a little
bit of thought goes a lot further than a
lot of money or an expensive date okay
so that's tip number one is find a way
to be a little bit creative and a little
bit memorable and if you don't feel like
you're a creative person you don't feel
like you're doing anything special just
Google it look up things that other
people have done and then put your own
twist on it because just by you doing it
and you doing it your way it's going to
be unique and it's going to be
individual so that's the first thing is
be creative the second thing is you're
the man you plan the date do not say so
what do you want to do on our date don't
do that don't do that what are you
communicating to the woman if you do
that you're communicating I'm insecure I
don't know how to plan things I don't
know how to do this I don't know I don't
know what do you want to do no if you're
the man you need to be the leader you
need to be the decision maker you need
to be in the driver's seat and she needs
to ride shotgun you plan the date and
even a date that's not super crazy
you're not going to ride roller coasters
or go cliff jumping or something like
that even a date that's pretty normal
like get coffee and then get ice cream
afterwards and then say good night and
see how it goes
something like that is good so long as
it's planned and orchestrated and you
don't need to be so rigid that it's like
oh we have to be done with our coffee at
10:00 a.m. and then we're going to go to
this thing and we're going to be there
till 10:37 and then we're no just be
ready to be flexible but have a plan and
have a plan that Accords with something
that your date is going to want to do if
your date doesn't drink coffee don't
take her to a coffee shop if your date
is a vegetarian don't take her to a
state house try to anticipate something
that she is going to enjoy based on the
hobbies and the habits and the person
that you know that she is counter
example of this is somebody I know asked
out a friend of mine on a date and
picked her up and had something planned
they went and spent some time together
but then after that was done he was
basically asking what do you want to do
now don't do that plan the date and have
a natural end built in so that you can
split ways if things aren't going the
way that you want them to and you don't
have to just awkwardly be in freef Fall
until things kind of grind to a halt the
next thing I'll say and this is probably
the most important thing in this entire
video and if you don't do this then
you're not ready to ask women out anyway
and you need to put a pause on that
until you get this right the next thing
is be husband material be someone who's
worthy of having a lovely wife and
lovely children be some somebody who's
not addicted to filth on the internet be
somebody who carries themselves well who
walks into a room and has a presence
about them be somebody who's at peace
with themselves and who has their
interior life straightened out be
somebody who has their house in order
naturally and supernaturally listen if
you were going to buy a car I understand
that dating is not like buying a car but
if you were going to buy a car would you
want a car that would last for 50,000
mil or would you want the car that's
going to last for 300,000 mil obviously
all things being equal you would want
the car that's going to last longer the
car that's going to be more reliable
your physical fitness is just like that
listen it's not vain it's not vapid to
look at somebody's Health whenever
you're determining if you should date
them or not if somebody's already 40 lbs
overweight guys listen if you're 40 lbs
overweight your chances for diabetes
your chances to end up in a wheelchair
your chances for Alzheimer's all
Skyrocket the reason that women are
attracted to healthy men attractive men
is because biologically women are
designed to seek out a man who's going
to be able to protect them and provide
for them and if you can't even take care
of yourself you'll never be able to take
care of a woman and children so you have
to get your house in order naturally and
supernaturally which means if you're
overweight get on a diet hit the gym
because listen if you are and I'm not
trying to sound crash or crude or
anything like that but listen the
quality of the man determines the
quality of the woman that he can attract
so if you want to have a beautiful
spouse who has their spiritual life in
order who is physically attractive who
presents themselves well if you want to
have those things in a wife then you
need to represent them as a man it
starts with you take responsibility for
your shortcomings and fix them step up
to the plate and over overcome them
because those are the challenges that
you are called to win that's it Satan
wants you to be fat Satan wants you to
be lazy Satan wants you to be dumb and
spend all day scrolling through Tik Tok
or YouTube That's what Satan wants
overcome that and when you start to
pursue virtue your body is going to fall
in line and you're going to be able to
take control of those urges say no to
the donuts say no to all that junk food
and start eating well because that is
going to allow you to be in it for the
long run one of the reasons that I take
care of myself and like to work out it's
not because of a vanity metric it's not
because of I like being strong it's
simply because 50 years from now I want
to be able to God willing play with my
grandchildren and my great-grandchildren
I want to be able to get down on my
hands and knees on the floor and play
trucks with my 2-year-old great-grandson
right that's what I want I'm in this for
the long run and so is my wife and so
physical fitness is something that's
very important to us also you want to be
the type of man that your wife can brag
about you want to be the type of man who
walks into a room and other women are
like dang where did you find him he's
awesome it's not a vanity metric you
just want to be somebody who your wife
is proud of somebody who your children
can look up to and in order to do that
you have to carry yourself well which
means you need to take care of your
appearance you need to be well- groomed
you need to be showered you need to
brush your teeth you need to wear
clothes that aren't making you look like
a slob or something like this you need
to stand up straight with your shoulders
back you need to do all of that and
you're going to be able to attract the
type of woman that you want to attract
so listen if you are in a state where
you are not meeting those basic
fundamental requirements then don't ask
women out yet you're not ready get your
health in order get your spiritual life
in order get your house in order set
things straight there first and then
asking women out is going to be easy
it's going to be simple because you're
going to be confident in who you are and
what you have to offer and if you offer
it and it gets rejected blessed be God
move on she's not the one every single
woman you've ever gone on a date with
and every single woman you ever will go
on a date with is not your wife except
for one so be okay with being rejected
it's not the end of the world there are
millions of other women out there and
thousands of other Catholic women and
probably hundreds of other Catholic
women who you know or could know very
easily who are in your age bracket and
eligible so this is what you need to do
if you're a Catholic man one get your
house in order if you're not confident
talking to women it's probably because
you're hiding something there's
something in your own soul something in
your body something in your finances
there's something that's not ready to
take on a woman and that's why you're
not confident that's number one number
two is spend 20 minutes it doesn't have
to be 6 hours spend 20 minutes thinking
of a way that you can add a little bit
of spice a little bit of creativity into
your proposal asking the woman out and
then thirdly take another 20 30 minutes
and plan a date from start to finish
have it be a couple hours so you have
enough time to really discuss with them
and really get to know them have it be
in a public place and have it have some
sort of a natural end if you're going to
go on a hike when the hike ends
naturally that's the end of the day
those are the three things that you need
to do if you want to start to ask women
out successfully and the most important
thing you can do if you want to discern
marriage well is pray the rosary daily
my wife and I only dated for 6 weeks
before we got engaged and the reason for
that is is because of my devotion to the
rosary Mary promised signal Graces and
she gave them to us I was 100% confident
very very early on after the second date
basically that this was the woman who I
was going to marry and that this is what
God had planned for my life if you want
that kind of confidence you want that
kind of certainty you have to pray five
Decades of the Rosary every single day
your wife will thank you and if you want
to know my three easiest strategies for
finding a good Catholic wife then check
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