6 Magnetic Texts She CAN'T Resist (send these tonight)

Patrick James
12 Feb 201811:30

Summary

TLDRPatrick James offers dating advice in this episode, focusing on six magnetic texts that women supposedly cannot resist. He emphasizes texting as a supplement to in-person interactions, suggesting playful qualifications to start conversations and using ellipses to avoid appearing needy. James also advises transitioning texts to in-person meetings, using humor and challenges to maintain interest. His tips include last-second conditions in invites and sending excitement-building messages before planned dates. He promotes his free book, '107 Proven Ways to Get the Girl,' for more insights.

Takeaways

  • 😀 Patrick James offers dating advice on magnetic texts that women cannot resist.
  • 🌞 He suggests wearing a jacket for the video but mentions the heat in Arizona, showing a casual and relatable start to the video.
  • 📝 The first text tip is to qualify the woman by asking playful questions, positioning oneself as a 'buyer' in the interaction.
  • 💬 The second text tip is using '...' (dot dot dot) as a minimal-effort follow-up when a response is delayed, avoiding the appearance of neediness.
  • 🍹 The third text tip is to transition the conversation to meeting in person, suggesting a drink to make the interaction more engaging.
  • 📖 Patrick mentions his book '107 Proven Ways to Get the Girl,' which he's giving away for free, promoting additional resources for viewers.
  • 😉 The fourth text tip is to respond to teasing or challenges with humor, like asking if a line 'normally works on most guys,' showcasing quick wit.
  • 🤔 The fifth text tip involves adding a playful condition to an invite, like 'only if you promise to keep your hands to yourself,' adding an element of challenge.
  • 📅 The sixth text tip is to send a reminder and excitement builder on the day of the planned meet-up, like 'Get pumped for tonight!' to ensure attendance.
  • 🎉 The final text also creates curiosity by mentioning a surprise, leveraging the fear of missing out (FOMO) to encourage the woman to show up.
  • 👍 The video concludes with a call to action for viewers to like the video and claim a free copy of Patrick's book for more dating advice.

Q & A

  • What is the main topic of Patrick James' video?

    -The main topic of Patrick James' video is about six magnetic texts that women supposedly cannot resist in the context of dating.

  • Why does Patrick James mention his jacket at the beginning of the video?

    -Patrick James mentions his jacket to add a personal touch and to show that he is in Arizona, where it is hot, which adds a bit of humor and relatability to the video.

  • What is the purpose of sending the first text according to Patrick James?

    -The purpose of sending the first text is to start a conversation by qualifying the woman in a playful way, which positions the sender as the 'buyer' in the interaction.

  • What does Patrick James suggest to do when a woman doesn't respond to a text in a timely manner?

    -Patrick James suggests sending a series of dots (...) as a minimal effort double text to prompt a response without appearing needy or validation-seeking.

  • Why should one not become a 'texting buddy' according to the video?

    -Becoming a 'texting buddy' means only flirting and talking over text without meeting in person, which can lead to a lack of urgency for the woman to meet up, thus hindering real-life interaction.

  • What is the recommended approach to transition a text conversation to a face-to-face meeting?

    -The recommended approach is to send a text suggesting that the conversation topic would be better discussed over a drink or multiple drinks, which serves as an invitation to meet up.

  • What is the significance of the phrase 'does that line normally work on most guys' in the script?

    -This phrase is used as a witty response to a woman who teases, tests, or challenges the sender via text, implying that the sender is not easily swayed by such tactics.

  • What is the 'last-second condition' in the context of inviting a woman out as mentioned in the video?

    -The 'last-second condition' is a playful qualification or challenge added to an invitation to make it more engaging and to frame the sender as the 'buyer' in the interaction.

  • Why is it important to send a text on the day of the planned hangout according to Patrick James?

    -Sending a text on the day of the planned hangout solidifies the plans, creates excitement, and ensures that the woman does not assume the plans have been canceled or forgotten.

  • What book does Patrick James offer for free and where can it be claimed?

    -Patrick James offers a book titled '107 Proven Ways to Get the Girl' for free, which can be claimed by visiting the website 'how to get the girl now.com'.

  • What does Patrick James suggest to create an open loop and curiosity in the woman's mind before a planned hangout?

    -Patrick James suggests sending a text saying 'Get pumped for tonight! By the way, I've got a surprise in store for us,' which creates an open loop and sparks curiosity and FOMO (fear of missing out).

Outlines

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📱 Magnetic Texting Strategies

Patrick James introduces his video with the aim of discussing six magnetic texts that women find irresistible. He emphasizes the importance of using texts as a supplement to in-person interactions, not as a primary means of communication. The first text strategy involves qualifying the woman with playful standards, such as preferences for pets or drinks, to initiate a conversation and establish oneself as the 'chooser'. James also warns against excessive texting, like double or triple texting, which can come off as needy and unattractive.

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💬 Effective Texting Techniques

In the second paragraph, Patrick James continues with his advice on magnetic texting, suggesting the use of an ellipsis (...) as a minimal-effort double text when necessary, to maintain the upper hand in the conversation. He then recommends transitioning text conversations to in-person meetings by inviting the woman for a drink or similar social activity, emphasizing the importance of not becoming a 'texting buddy'. James also mentions his book, '107 Proven Ways to Get the Girl', offering it for free to viewers.

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😉 Banter and Last-Minute Invites

The third paragraph delves into responding to teasing or challenges with witty banter, such as questioning the effectiveness of a woman's line on other men. Patrick stresses the importance of a quick response to maintain the playful and charged atmosphere. He also introduces the 'last-second condition' for invites, adding a playful challenge to the invitation to make it more enticing and to establish oneself as the 'chooser'. This approach is designed to improve the response rate to social invitations.

📆 Confirming Plans and Creating Excitement

In the final paragraph, Patrick James discusses the importance of confirming plans on the day of the scheduled meet-up to prevent flakiness and ensure the woman's attendance. He suggests sending a text that builds excitement and curiosity, such as mentioning a surprise, to create a sense of FOMO (fear of missing out). This strategy is aimed at solidifying plans and increasing the likelihood of a successful meet-up.

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Keywords

💡Magnetic Texts

Magnetic texts refer to messages that are compelling and attractive, designed to draw in the recipient's interest and attention. In the video's context, these are texts that the speaker believes women find irresistible and are part of dating advice. An example from the script is the playful text asking the recipient to meet certain qualifications, such as liking dogs or tequila, which is meant to start a conversation and frame the sender as a 'buyer' in the interaction.

💡Qualification

In the dating advice video, qualification is used to describe the process of setting standards or preferences for potential partners. It's a way of screening or indicating what the sender is looking for in a woman, which can be playful or serious. The script uses the example of starting a conversation by asking the recipient to meet certain playful qualifications, like not being a cat person, to initiate interaction and establish a frame of selection.

💡Double Texting

Double texting is the act of sending more than one message to someone without receiving a response to the first. The video advises against this behavior, as it can come off as needy or desperate. However, it suggests that if one must double text, using an ellipsis (...) is a minimal-effort way to imply an open conversation without seeming too eager, as it shows an expectation of a response without being overly demanding.

💡Texting Buddy

A texting buddy is someone with whom a person exchanges messages regularly but without the intention or expectation of meeting in person. In the video, the speaker warns against becoming a texting buddy, as it can lead to a situation where the woman gets validation from the interaction but lacks the incentive to meet up. The goal should be to transition from text to in-person meetings to avoid this scenario.

💡Banter

Banter in the context of the video refers to playful and witty exchanges, often used to create a fun and flirtatious atmosphere in text conversations. The speaker emphasizes the effectiveness of banter in text messages and provides an example of responding to teasing or challenges with a quick-witted comeback, such as 'Does that line normally work on most guys?', to maintain sexual tension and attraction.

💡Last-Second Condition

The last-second condition is a technique mentioned in the video where an additional challenge or qualification is added at the end of an invitation to meet up. This is meant to add excitement and a sense of exclusivity to the invitation, making the recipient feel special and intrigued. An example from the script is inviting someone to drinks 'but only if you promise to keep your hands to yourself', which adds a playful challenge to the invitation.

💡FOMO

FOMO stands for 'Fear Of Missing Out', a term used to describe the anxiety or fear that one might miss out on an enjoyable experience or event that others are participating in. In the video, the speaker suggests creating a sense of FOMO by hinting at a surprise, which can motivate the recipient to show up for the planned meeting to avoid missing out on something potentially exciting.

💡Quick-Witted

Being quick-witted means having the ability to think and respond quickly, especially in a humorous or clever way. In the context of the video, quick-wittedness is portrayed as an attractive trait in text conversations, where a fast and clever response to teasing or challenges can elevate the interaction and demonstrate intelligence and humor.

💡Playful

Playful in the video refers to the light-hearted and fun approach the speaker recommends when crafting text messages. It's about making the interaction enjoyable and engaging without being too serious or intense. Examples of playful texts from the script include asking the recipient to meet certain quirky qualifications or ending an invitation with an unexpected number of drinks suggested.

💡Buyer's Frame

The buyer's frame is a concept where the sender of the message positions themselves as the one doing the selecting or choosing, rather than the one being pursued. In the video, the speaker suggests using qualifications and challenges in texts to frame oneself as the buyer, which can make the sender appear more desirable and less available, thus increasing their attractiveness.

Highlights

Patrick James introduces six magnetic texts that women cannot resist in the context of dating advice.

The importance of texting as a supplement to in-person interactions is emphasized to avoid becoming just a 'texting buddy'.

The first text involves qualifying the woman with playful standards, such as liking dogs or tequila, to start a conversation.

Using a series of dots (...) as a minimal-effort double text to continue a conversation when necessary.

The significance of transitioning text conversations to in-person meetings to avoid becoming a texting buddy.

The third text suggests discussing topics over drinks, a playful way to transition to a face-to-face meeting.

Patrick promotes his book '107 Proven Ways to Get the Girl' available for free to viewers.

The fourth text is a witty response to being teased, tested, or challenged in text conversations.

The importance of a quick response in text banter to appear quick-witted and create attraction.

The fifth text involves adding a playful challenge or condition to an invite to meet up.

The concept of the 'last-second condition' to create excitement and a sense of urgency in invites.

The sixth text is about sending a reminder and creating anticipation on the day of the planned meet up.

The use of creating an open loop with a surprise to pique curiosity and ensure the woman's attendance.

The potential of sparking FOMO (fear of missing out) with the mention of a surprise.

The final magnetic text is about solidifying plans and creating excitement for the meet up.

Patrick concludes with a call to action for viewers to like the video and get his free book.

Transcripts

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what's going on man Patrick James here

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for another episode of bra dating advice

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today we're gonna be talking about six

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magnetic texts that women cannot resist

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let's get into it I'm gonna be honest

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man I just put on this jacket for the

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video but uh it's kind of hot in here

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cuz I live in Arizona so funny let's

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take this [ __ ] off alright let's get

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into it

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here's the thing you can steal and send

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these texts as soon as tonight all of

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them I picked these six texts to be in

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various different situations now that

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said the only reason you should ever be

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texting a girl is as a supplement to

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singer in person right you can't see her

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now you just text her so that you're

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making her anxious to see you in the

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near future in person face to face and

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once you understand that now you're

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ready to learn the first text the first

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text is simply please tell meet you and

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then insert any qualification you want

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so what are your standards for women

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what do you like in women and use that

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as your qualification here but try to

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make it somewhat playful so for example

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I might start a conversation by saying

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to a girl please tell me you're not a

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cat person please tell me you like

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tequila please tell me you have a dog

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and that those are just mine because I

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like tequila and I like dogs and let's

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be honest if you're a cat person you

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probably don't have a soul anyways so

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that's the great text to start the

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conversation and start leading the

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interaction as well as framing yourself

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as the buyer here because once you start

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qualifying her and she starts qualifying

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to you what she's actually doing is

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she's selling herself to you so

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qualifying girls is a great thing to do

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and doing this via text is a great

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playful way to start the conversation

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let's get into the second text all right

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the second text is something that is

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haunted men since the dawn of time we're

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happy since the dawn of text messaging

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starting with men and women all you have

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to do is sender a dot dot dot the next

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time she doesn't respond to you in a

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timely fashion now here's the thing it's

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not really ever acceptable to be double

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texting or

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triple texting a girl purely just to get

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her to respond to you because oftentimes

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if you're double texting a girl meaning

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that if you sent her a text like hey

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which I should never send that text

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anyways but for example if you sent her

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hey

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and she doesn't respond and you send her

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what's up and she doesn't respond and

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then you say are you there and she

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doesn't respond you seem needy and you

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seem validation seeking and you seem

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like someone who doesn't really have a

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lot of options with women and it just

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repels woman so first off don't ever be

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sending hey what's up or are you there

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first off but second off if you send

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something like an invite to a girl and

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she hasn't responded for a couple of

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hours or you send a text and it's like

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middle of the conversation and she

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doesn't respond but you kind of wanted

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to continue the conversation the only

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time it's acceptable to double texture

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is if you send her a dot dot dot now why

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do I recommend the sex if you must

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double text a girl well what because it

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takes minimal effort for you to send it

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right because if you're double texting

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girl it implies that you're putting more

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effort into this conversation than she

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is but if you have to do it make it as

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minimal effort as possible so dot dot

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dot is very easy it's not even a

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complete word it's not even a complete

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sentence but it completely gets across

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what you want her to do right dot dot

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dot implies that this is an open loop

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you expect a response and a person who

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expects a response is not needy he's

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more like just the King on his throne

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who says I expect you to respond to me

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because I'm the [ __ ] man and you

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obviously would want to get a piece of

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it so does the dot is a great way to

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double text a girl if you must to

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continue the conversation especially if

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it's an invite and you need to know soon

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therefore you can you know fill in her

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spot if she can't make it and you can

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ask some other girl all right so that's

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the second text that's magnetic that

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attracts women that women cannot resist

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so the third text that you should send

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to women is this this sounds like a

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great combo to have over a drink or

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seven or this sounds like a conversation

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better discuss over a drink or 12 write

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something along those lines now why is

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this

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good several things first off if you are

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texting women and you're going back and

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forth with each other if you continually

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text her and you never transition the

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conversation to meeting up with her then

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you will quickly become her texting

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buddy and what is the sexting buddy a

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texting buddy is some guy who women

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texts just for the purposes of

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validating her phone literally you are a

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ping tor phone that makes her get a

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little dopamine hit in her head but

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because she already gets that validation

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from you over this thing she doesn't

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have the urge to meet you up meet up

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with you in person you've just become a

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way to validate her throughout the day

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so a texting buddy is a guy who always

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flirts with her and talks to her over

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texts but never actually sees her a

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person or sleeps of their and let me ask

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you a question do you want to see a girl

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in person make out with or hook up with

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her and sleep with her or do you want to

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be you're texting buddy and maybe flirt

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with her or text would never see her to

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me it's a no-brainer

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you obviously want to see your in person

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so if you can tell that this

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conversation is going nowhere

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just transition the conversation to

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meeting up in person by sending this

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text by saying this sounds like a topic

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better discuss over a drink or 7:00 or

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this sounds like a conversation better

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had over four shots of tequila now why

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do I end it with like a playful multiple

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drink type thing well one because if you

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say let's have this over a drink or two

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right that's a common phrase that

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doesn't really stand out but if you say

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this is better over a drink or seven or

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better over a drink or 12 it interrupts

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her pattern because it was an ending

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that she didn't expect so that's just a

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playful thing that I like to do over

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text now before we get into the fourth

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text I do want to talk about my book 107

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proven ways to get to girl I printed 500

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of copies of these and I'm giving them

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away for free and if you want to claim

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your copy of 107 proven ways to get the

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girl completely for free all you have to

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do is go to how to get the girl now calm

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now let's get into the fourth magnetic

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text that women cannot resist before

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something that's perfect to send a girl

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anytime she teases you test you or

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challenges you via text it actually

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talked about this in my last video where

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I talked about what to do if a girl

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teases you but here's the thing

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a lot of the banter tactics you know

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push-pull teasing challenging a lot of

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that stuff really does work over text in

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fact it works even better over text

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because it's isolated and it's

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contextual and it doesn't really have

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you know your body language your vocal

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tonality that also has to go into it you

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just have to get the words right over

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text so anytime a girl teases you test

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you or challenges you via text message

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conversation all you have to do is

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respond with does that line normally

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work on most guys here's the only caveat

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to this text if you waited thirty

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minutes to an hour or just a long time

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to respond to her text then it kind of

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loses its effect why is this because the

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key to being witty and the key to

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playful fun highly charged sexual

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tension bill banter is simply having a

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quick response you've heard the term

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quick-witted well all you have to do is

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have a quick response that is kind of

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just puts her on the back of our heels

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right so when the girl challenges you

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test you or teases you over text

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immediately respond what does that line

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normally work on most guys because the

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quicker you can respond

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the quicker witted you seem which is a

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highly attractive trick now let's get

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into the fifth text this is something

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that I call the last second condition so

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all it is is it it's an invite that you

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send to a girl anytime you want to get a

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girl out with you or hang out with a

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girl you send her an invite obviously

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but you can spruce up that invite with a

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little bit of what I like to call a

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bad-boy edge and all it is is as a

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challenge or a last-second condition at

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the end of the invites so for example if

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I wanted to invite a girl out with me to

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drinks tonight at 7:30 I could say hey

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I'm going to get drinks at XYZ bar at

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7:30 tonight you should come

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dot dot dot but only if insert any

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qualification now we talked about

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qualifications in the first test but

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this one is tailored around the invite

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and it's a last-second condition because

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you only want her to come if she can

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meet this playful qualification so hey

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come out to drinks with me tonight at

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7:30 but only if you promise to keep

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your hands to yourself right or but only

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if you promise you can keep up but only

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if you promise to bring bucket loads of

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fun energy but only if you promise to

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wear that black dress that you know I

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love right something like that is a

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great way to spruce up the invite and a

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challenge is ER right it's almost like a

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takeaway but also when asking her to

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hang out so it's a very great way to

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frame yourself as the buyer and it's

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kind of playful it's kind of challenging

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and I guarantee it's gonna start getting

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a lot better responses if you've

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struggled with inviting girls out with

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you up to this point in time so that's

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the fifth text now let's get into the

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sixth and final magnetic text for this

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video and this is a text that I want you

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to start sending a girl if you plan to

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meet up with her but several days in

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advance so for example if you guys may

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plans on Monday to hang out a Wednesday

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or if you may plans on Tuesday to hang

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out on Friday in that situation you have

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to text her on the day the same day that

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you plan to hang out with her right even

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though you made the plans on Monday for

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Wednesday you still have to text her on

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Wednesday just to solidify those plans

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just to let her know that hey we still

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have plans tonight and by the way you

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should get excited so if that is the

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text get pumped for tonight exclamation

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point I've got a surprise for us in

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store so like I said if you don't text

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her that same day that you plan to hang

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out with her then she's gonna wonder

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wait do we still have plans should I

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make other plans and if she doesn't hear

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from you and if you just don't send her

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this text at all then she's going to

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assume that you either forgot or that

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you made other plans

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so she's likely gonna flake on you so

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send her the text get pumped for tonight

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exclamation point by the way I've got a

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surprise in store for us and all this

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does is it creates an open loop so even

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if she was planning on changing the

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plans on you last second even if she was

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planning on maybe canceling on you now

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because you've created an open loop by

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the way I've got a surprise in store for

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us that open loop is enough to get her

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curious to want to actually see you out

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that night

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so it's just another added thing that

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you can do to get her excited for the

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night but also to actually ensure that

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she'll show up because you created

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curiosity you created an open loop and

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you almost sparks FOMO in a way Bobo if

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you don't know is fear of missing out

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she doesn't want to miss out on the

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surprise people love surprises

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so that's the sixth and final magnetic

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text that women cannot resist if you

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like this video all I ask is that you

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give me a thumbs up and like I said if

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you want to grab my book 107 proven ways

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to get the girl completely for free just

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go to how to get the girl now calm to

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claim your free copy today on that note

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I will see you later my man peace out

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