How to Slow Down and Rest - Maudy Ayunda’s Booklist
Summary
TLDRIn 'The Things You Can Only See When You Slow Down', Haemin Sunim encourages reflection on the busyness of life, suggesting it's a state of mind. He advises letting go of past and future worries to find peace in the present. The book also challenges the search for the 'right moment', embracing uncertainty for growth. Lastly, it promotes finding joy in ordinary moments by being fully present, leading to a calmer, more confident life.
Takeaways
- 🧘♂️ You are not your feelings: Our life experiences are shaped by our thoughts and perceptions, not by external circumstances.
- 🌟 When your mind rests, the world rests: By achieving mental calm, we can perceive the world as a peaceful place.
- 🔄 Let go of past and future worries: We cannot change the past or predict the future, so focusing on the present is essential for reducing stress.
- 🚫 Don't suppress negative feelings: Acknowledge them without judgment to allow them to naturally dissipate.
- 🌈 There's no perfect moment: Uncertainty is inherent in life, so embracing it can lead to growth and new experiences.
- 💪 Courage to act despite uncertainty: Taking action with awareness can lead to less regret, even if outcomes aren't as expected.
- 🌱 Find joy in the ordinary: Happiness can be found in everyday activities when we are fully present and engaged.
- 🌻 Be fully present in each moment: Engage wholeheartedly in whatever you're doing to enhance a sense of ownership and fulfillment.
- 🌟 The book's core lesson is to be more present: By being present, we can achieve calmness and confidence, reducing anxiety and stress.
- 📚 Engage with the book's insights: Share your favorite insights from the book and participate in the community for a chance to receive a special gift.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the book 'The Things You Can Only See When You Slow Down'?
-The main theme of the book is to encourage readers to slow down and reflect on their lives, recognizing that much of the perceived busyness and noise comes from within our own minds rather than the external world.
What does the quote 'When your mind rests, the world rests' imply?
-This quote suggests that our perception of the world is heavily influenced by our mental state. If we are at peace internally, we will experience the world as calmer and less chaotic.
How does the book suggest we deal with negative feelings like stress or anxiety?
-The book advises letting go of thoughts about the past and future, allowing feelings to flow without coercion or judgment, and recognizing that we are not defined by our feelings.
What is the significance of the insight 'Don't wait for the right moment'?
-This insight emphasizes that there is no perfect moment in life due to inherent uncertainty. It encourages taking action despite the fear of uncertainty, as it allows for growth and learning from the experience.
How does the book define happiness in the context of ordinary life?
-Happiness is defined as finding joy in the mundane aspects of daily life, such as commuting or doing household chores, by being fully present and engaged in the moment.
What is the role of uncertainty according to the book?
-Uncertainty is portrayed as a positive force that provides space for adventure and exploration, facilitating personal growth and learning.
How can we apply the concept of being present to our daily activities?
-We can apply being present by fully engaging in whatever we are doing, whether it's a conversation or a task, and owning our actions without being distracted by past regrets or future worries.
What is the author's view on making big life decisions?
-The author believes that even when we feel doubt, we should trust our ability to make decisions. It's better to act and learn from the outcome than to miss out on experiences due to indecision.
How does the book propose we find joy in the ordinary?
-The book suggests that we can find joy in ordinary moments by being fully present and appreciating the simple pleasures in our daily routines.
What is the key takeaway from the book for the speaker?
-The key takeaway for the speaker is the importance of being more present in life, which leads to a calmer and more confident state of being, free from the usual anxieties and stresses.
What is the incentive for viewers to leave comments on the video?
-The incentive is that the speaker will give a copy of the book with a special message to the person who leaves the most exciting comment.
Outlines
🧘♂️ Mindfulness and the Perception of Time
In the first paragraph, the speaker introduces the book 'The Things You Can Only See When You Slow Down' by Haemin Sunim, a Zen Buddhism teacher. The book encourages readers to reflect on whether the world is truly busy or if it's our minds that create this perception. The author suggests that our life experiences are heavily influenced by our thoughts and emotions. If we are stressed or anxious, it's often because we are focused on the past or the future, which we cannot control. The book advises letting go of these thoughts and living in the present moment. It also emphasizes that we are not defined by our feelings and should acknowledge them without judgment to allow them to pass. The speaker shares insights on not waiting for the perfect moment, as uncertainty is a part of life, and encourages embracing the present moment to reduce anxiety and stress.
🌟 Finding Joy in the Mundane
The second paragraph continues the discussion on living in the present and finding joy in everyday activities. The speaker emphasizes the importance of being fully present in each moment, whether it's during a conversation or performing routine tasks. The book suggests that happiness can be found in ordinary moments when we are fully engaged. The speaker shares their personal takeaway from the book, which is the importance of being present in life. They feel calmer and more confident when they focus on the present, rather than being overwhelmed by stress and anxiety. The speaker concludes by inviting listeners to suggest books for review and promises to give away a copy of the book with a special message to the most exciting commenters. They remind viewers to subscribe, like, comment, and turn on notifications for future content.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Overwhelmed
💡Mindfulness
💡Zen Buddhism
💡Reflection
💡Feelings
💡Stress
💡Uncertainty
💡Present Moment
💡Ordinary
💡Happiness
💡Decision-making
Highlights
The author invites us to reflect on whether it's the world that's busy or our minds.
The famous quote: 'When your mind rests, the world rests.'
Our life experience is dependent on our thoughts and perceptions.
If our minds are calm, the world we experience will be calm.
We tend to feel stressed or panicked when thinking about the future or past.
The book suggests letting go of thoughts about the past and future.
Acknowledge the existence of negative feelings without judgment.
Remember that you are not your feelings.
There's no such thing as the right moment in life due to inherent uncertainty.
Uncertainty provides space for adventure and exploration.
Courage to surrender and act without regrets.
Believe in our ability to make decisions despite doubts.
The quote: 'If we wait for 100% certainty, then it is often too late.'
Life is made of all moments, including ordinary ones.
Happiness comes from finding joy in ordinary activities.
To find joy, be fully present in the moment.
Own your actions and be present in everything you do.
The book teaches the importance of being more present in life.
Being present leads to calmness and confidence.
The author encourages readers to find joy in everything.
Transcripts
Curious people, have you ever felt overwhelmed or rushed?
as if we're chasing something that actually
we're not even sure what it is
or maybe you feel that time is passing so quickly
that sometimes it's so difficult to even take a breathe.
In this Booklist, I will dissect the book
The Things You Can Only See When You Slow Down by Haemin Sunim,
a Zen Buddhism teacher and writer who is often nicknamed "The Healing Mentor".
In this book, the author invites us to take a step back and reflect.
Is it the world that's busy or is it my mind?
Is this really a busy and noisy world?
Or is it actually just in our minds?
Let's discuss it.
First insight.
You are not your feelings.
There is one very famous quote in this book.
"When your mind rests, the world rests."
When our minds rest, our world rests too.
What does that mean?
This means that our experience, our life in this world,
is very dependent on what is in our minds.
If our thoughts and perceptions are negative or stressful,
then the world will also become busy and noisy.
But if our minds are filled with calmness,
the world we experience will be like that.
So, according to this book,
if we feel stressed or panicked,
we are usually
thinking about the future or the past.
Bad experiences in the past, or fear of the future.
Maybe there are regrets,
or we are afraid that failure will occur.
However, if you think about it,
we can't control or change the past and future.
So, why worry?
The only thing we can control is what happens in the present.
At this moment.
So, if we are anxious or stressed,
this book invites us to let go of thoughts about the past and future
and let our feelings just flow.
Later,
these negative feelings will disappear by themselves,
without coercion and without judgment.
For example, if we feel angry.
Don't hold back, don't pretend it doesn't exist.
We just need to be aware,
just acknowledge the existence of the feeling of anger.
That way, the feelings will disappear more easily
and will not define you.
Just remember you are not your feelings.
2nd Insight:
Don't wait for the right moment.
Well, this one might be a little hard to hear.
There's no such thing as the right moment in life
because uncertainty is part of life, right?
So even though we feel like we are really prepared,
we are already organized.
Of course, we will always encounter things that we cannot predict
or perhaps what could be called blind spots.
Well, but the author emphasizes that we shouldn't see this as
a negative thing.
Because it's not.
In fact, uncertainty gives us space for
adventure and exploration of our lives
which is actually a process of learning and growing.
So when we have the courage to surrender
and do something,
we won't easily regret it
because even if the results don't match our hopes,
at least we have full awareness
of the decision we made.
This happens very often when we want to make big life decisions.
When we want to pull the trigger,
we often feel
doubt.
Well, the author emphasizes that
when there is a small voice
that says "Ah, Can I? Can I?"
sometimes we have to fight it
and make a decision
because we have to remember that
even at that stage
we have already gone through the process, you know.
So believe in our ability to make a decision.
Don't let us lose experience
just because we doubt.
There's a quote in the book
"If we wait for a 100% certainty, then it is often too late"
3rd Insight:
Find joy in the ordinary
Curious People have you ever heard the quote:
"Life is made of all moments."
This book also applies the same concept.
In fact, there are more ordinary hours in our lives
than extraordinary ones.
We definitely spend more time
doing ordinary things
such as commuting to the office,
working, tidying up, brushing our teeth.
Well,
we can truly get happiness
if we can enjoy daily activities like that.
The author said,
happiness is when
we find pleasure
in ordinary things.
Finding a moment of joy in those ordinary hours.
The method is quite simple.
We just need to be fully present in the moment
and let ourselves be there completely.
When someone is talking with you,
contribute wholeheartedly.
Be there.
When we do that,
we have a sense of ownership.
Great sense of ownership,
through everything we do.
Come on, let's be the kind of people that find joy in everything.
Own your actions and be present
And now, so what?
There are lots of wisdoms in this book
but the one thing that stands out the most for me
is that I feel this book taught me to be more
present in my life.
Because if I'm in this moment,
when I'm more present,
I feel like I'm a calmer,
confident person, and not carried away by feelings of anxiety or stress that I usually feel.
Okay, Thanks for listening, Curious people.
If you want me to read a book and share with you my favorite insights.
Please give book recommendations in the comments below.
Also, for the most exciting comments,
I will give you
this book with a special message from me.
So, don't forget to subscribe, like, comment and turn on notifications.
Bye~
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