How youth sports coaching needs to change | Finnley Pratt | TEDxSaintAndrewsSchool
Summary
TLDRThe script narrates a young athlete's journey with a bullying coach, detailing the emotional turmoil and loss of passion for the sport of softball. It emphasizes the importance of coaches fostering a supportive environment to maintain athletes' love for the game. The speaker shares personal experiences and cites research to argue for the need to value coaches based on their character, not just their ability to win. The narrative concludes with a call to action to hold coaches accountable and support young athletes in their sports endeavors.
Takeaways
- 😀 Young athletes can experience intense anxiety when joining a new team, especially when coaches are intimidating.
- 🤔 Aggressive or backhanded comments from coaches can confuse players, blurring the line between passion and anger.
- 😥 Over time, harsh treatment from coaches can diminish a player's love for the sport, leading to anxiety before practices.
- 🏅 Coaches should be valued for their character, not just for their ability to bring success to a team.
- 🙌 A supportive team and love for the game can sometimes compensate for a toxic coach but may not be enough in the long run.
- 📉 Bullying coaches can negatively impact players' confidence and performance, pushing them to seek praise rather than improvement.
- 🧠 Athletes often self-criticize, making supportive coaching essential for both their skill development and mental well-being.
- ❤️ A good coach uplifts, inspires, and shapes players into better people on and off the field.
- 🛑 The sports culture's focus on winning can discourage kids from continuing to play when coaches don't provide reasons to stay.
- 🌟 Players' love for the game can be destroyed by toxic coaching, making it crucial for coaches to invest in the personal growth of their athletes.
Q & A
What was the speaker's initial reaction to the new coach?
-The speaker was initially confused as to why they felt so nervous around the new coach, despite hearing only positive things about them during tryouts.
How did the coach's behavior affect the speaker's teammates?
-The coach's aggressive backhanded compliments towards the other girls made the speaker question what was wrong with their performance.
What emotions did the speaker experience during practice?
-The speaker experienced dread and anxiety before going to practices due to the coach's unpredictable emotions and ridiculing comments.
How did the team dynamics change over time?
-As time went on, the speaker grew closer to the girls on the team, which helped to mitigate the negative feelings associated with the coach's behavior.
What was the impact of the coach's attitude on the speaker's love for the game?
-The coach's attitude began to overshadow the speaker's love for the game, leading to a questioning of whether they wanted to continue playing.
What is the difference between a 'bully coach' and a coach who pushes you to be your best?
-A bully coach belittles players, which is different from a coach who pushes you to be your best and provides constructive criticism.
How does being singled out and belittled affect a player's confidence and behavior?
-According to an article by Mike Edgar, being singled out and belittled can cause a player's confidence to fall and they may start craving praise rather than focusing on good performance.
What is the importance of a coach's role in developing others?
-Coaching and developing others is considered one of the top three most important leadership positions, as per research done by the corn fairy Institute.
Why do some athletes stop playing sports at a young age?
-A study by The Washington Post found that 70% of kids decide to stop playing competitive travel sports by the age of 13, often due to a lack of support for playing for fun and not being given a reason to stay.
How can a coach positively influence a player's development?
-A good coach molds, inspires, creates, and influences the player to become a better person on and off the field, not just in terms of their sport.
What are some of the long-term effects a coach can have on an athlete's mental health?
-The speaker recalls messages and lessons from their coach that were unrelated to the sport, which were memorable due to the way they were delivered and have had a lasting impact on their mental health.
How did the speaker's feelings towards their sport change over time?
-The speaker's feelings towards softball shifted from associating it with fun and happiness to associating it with belittlement, fear, and a chore.
What is the significance of a player's identity in relation to their sport?
-Falling out of love with a sport can take away a player's identity, causing them to struggle with their self-image and the sport they once loved.
Outlines
🥎 The Impact of a Bully Coach on a Young Athlete's Experience
The first paragraph introduces a young athlete's journey with a new softball team. The athlete experiences heightened anxiety due to the coach's aggressive and backhanded comments. Despite initial excitement, the coach's behavior casts a shadow over the team's morale. As the season progresses, the athlete forms bonds with teammates, but the coach's unpredictable and ridiculing comments erode the athlete's love for the game. The narrative highlights the psychological impact of a bully coach on young athletes and questions the idolization of coaches based solely on their ability to bring success to a team, advocating for a focus on character as well.
🏆 The Power of Positive Coaching and Its Lasting Effects
The second paragraph delves into the long-term effects of coaching styles on athletes. It emphasizes the importance of positive coaching, contrasting it with the negative experiences of the athlete under a bully coach. The paragraph discusses societal pressures and cultural expectations that can lead athletes to quit sports, particularly the focus on winning over enjoyment. It also touches on the idea that coaches who prioritize player development over their own reputation can have a profound impact on an athlete's life. The narrative shares personal experiences of the speaker, including a move to a new coach that led to a toxic relationship, ultimately causing the athlete to lose love for the sport. The paragraph concludes with a call to action to hold coaches accountable for their actions to support young athletes in maintaining their passion for sports.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Nerves
💡Coach's Attitude
💡Backhanded Compliments
💡Passion vs. Anger
💡Anxiety
💡Character
💡Bully Coach
💡Love of the Game
💡Mental Health
💡Accountability
💡Supportive Coaching
Highlights
The speaker describes the anxiety of a 13-year-old on the first day of practice with a new team.
Mention of the coach's aggressive backhanded compliments that create confusion and unease.
The realization that the coach's behavior seemed more out of anger than passion.
The development of closer relationships with teammates, which helps mitigate the negative feelings towards practice.
The coach's attitude begins to overshadow the speaker's love for the game of softball.
Parents' common responses to children wanting to quit sports due to a negative experience.
The call to idolize coaches for their character, not just their ability to bring success to a team.
The importance of recognizing the emotional journey when learning a new skill or sport.
The negative impact of a bully coach on players' confidence and their desire for praise.
The high regard society places on coaching as a leadership position and the responsibility that comes with it.
The speaker's personal experience with a bully coach and the emotional turmoil it caused.
The idea that coaches should uplift and support athletes, not just focus on skill development.
The lasting impact of a coach's messages and how they are delivered, with emotions playing a key role.
The statistic that 70% of kids quit competitive sports by age 13, with cultural pressures being a factor.
The speaker's personal decision to quit competitive softball due to a toxic coaching relationship.
The loss of identity and the struggle to maintain a connection with a sport once loved.
A call to action to hold coaches accountable and to promote positive coaching for the love of the game.
The conclusion of the speaker's competitive softball journey and the hope for positive change in coaching.
Transcripts
[Music]
[Applause]
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it's the first day of practice with your
new team and excited nerves have
replaced the blood flowing through your
13-year-old body as you stand in the
Outfield waiting for a ball to fall into
the pocket of your
glove the nerves you experience as you
step up to bat in front of new people
are natural but since everyone at
tryouts had nothing but amazing things
to say about the coach you're confused
as to why your nerves are an all-time
high it's just fielding and hitting you
could do this in your
sleep you go through the first practice
and it's all right but the coach's
aggressive backhanded compliments
towards the other girls skills as they
go through the drills takes you back
what was wrong with what they were doing
you're used to having passionate and
hard coaches who will push you to your
best ability but her actions didn't seem
like passion
they seemed like
anger as the days of practice in
occasional tournaments over the weekend
turn into weeks and then months you
start to grow closer with the girls on
your team this along with your love for
the game helps make up for the feeling
of dread and anxiety you get before
going to practices anxiety for the
unveiling of your coach's unknown
emotion of the day and the ridiculing
comments that would be made about your
performance as softball tournaments take
hold of your summer your coaches
attitude starts to take hold of your
love for the game do you even want to
play
anymore parents frequently respond to
finding out their kid doesn't want to
play a sport anymore with maybe if you'd
practice more you would have enjoyed it
or just hold out for a few more months
and then see how you feel in reality the
kid doesn't want a few more months
because they've been feeling this way
four
months now maybe you've been lucky
enough to have a coach who changed not
only your performance but also increased
Your Love of the Game
but what about the coaches who have
ruined the Love of the Game for kids we
need to stop idolizing coaches purely
because they bring success to a team and
instead start idolizing them for their
character so kids can continue to love
the
game by a show of hands how many of you
have played a sport
before all right so a decent amount okay
and now how many of you have had to
learn or improve on a new or specific
scale for the sport you work or are
playing or maybe if you don't play a
sport perhaps it was for the school work
or theater project you're involved
in all right okay so about everyone in
the room can relate in some way so even
if you don't play a sport you're all
familiar with the idea of learning or
strengthening a new skill awesome great
we're already off to a really good start
now I want you to remember your emotions
while learning this new skill was there
frustration because you didn't get the
skill right the first time hope
hopefulness because you knew you could
eventually do the skill excitement
because you were just so eager to learn
something new or was it fear you don't
want your coach or boss to yell at you
for an imperfect attempt at something
completely new to you an article by Mike
Edgar from sport Psychology today claims
when players are singled out and
belittled by their coaches not only do
their confidence levels fall but they
also begin to Crave praise rather than a
good
performance so if the emotion Was Fear
you like myself and many others who play
sports may have experienced a bully
coach for clarification a bully coach is
not to be confused with a coach who
pushes you to be your best and gives you
constructive
criticism according to research done by
the corn fairy Institute which is an
innovation Center focused on
Illuminating key trends and drivers of
human performance most people hold
coaching and developing others as one of
the top three most important leadership
positions so if developing others is
held to such a high standard why do we
just expect players to endure this
treatment of bully
coaching as an athlete I am my biggest
critic and nine times out of 10 if I
make a mistake I already know what I did
wrong and will work to fix my error in
the next rep athletes are the first to
get down on themselves when they make
mistakes which is why for peak
development of their skills their Love
of the Game and their character coaches
need to be the ones who uplift and
become their supporters for a good coach
never just coaches they mold Inspire
create and influence the player to
become a better person on and off the
field to athletes coaches become one of
the most present people in their lives
and because of this there are a lot of
effects both good and bad that they can
have on the player specifically
mentally I can still remember messages
and lessons my coach has taught me
completely unrelated to my sport such as
how there's no such thing as perfect
just almost perfect and to stop saying
sorry after every little thing you do
wrong but what made these messages and
lessons so memorable that 6 years later
I would still remember them it was the
way they were delivered Linda Flanigan
in her article for the Atlantic backs
this idea by explaining when a coach is
giving a message to a player If the
message carries emotions such as anger
sadness or even excitement the player
will pay more attention to its delivery
rather than the actual
message The Washington Post also did a
study and published an article about why
70% of kids decide to stop playing
competitive travel Sports by the age of
13 as someone who stopped playing
competitive softball around 15 years old
I was interested in two of the things
that they mentioned because they related
to a few of the thoughts that I had
myself before
quitting the first was how our culture
no longer supports older kids playing
for the fun of it and the second was the
idea that most kids leave Sports because
no one has given them a reason to
stay if our culture in athletics isn't
supporting kids playing for fun and
instead is so focused on winning or else
you're not good then why would coaches
go completely against the sports culture
and chance their reputation being
ruined how many coaches are there who
truly care more about developing their
players than their reputation in winning
streak in an article by Julie Julie
Davis colen on the power of positive
coaching she says we do more for those
who appreciate us and invest in us
simply because we feel better about it
before I even moved to Florida I no
longer wanted to invest my time into
practicing because I didn't feel any
investment coming back and if I didn't
feel any investment coming back when I
was putting in the work how would that
change if I wasn't putting in the work
with my confidence and my abilities
already low from not feeling trusted by
my coaches back in New Hampshire I moved
to Florida where my new coach made me
feel like I was in a toxic relationship
with the way she went back and forth
between making me love and hate her it
was confusing when I would be on the
verge of not being able to breathe
because of my asthma and she would tell
me to stop being a baby and that I
obviously needed the running only to act
like my best friend and say that we
should go to lunch a few minutes later
or when she would belittle my skills by
saying if you can't hit a Target then
you should just quit while it was
pouring rain and the ball was wet this
wasn't the game of softball 8-year-old
me used to love doing anything remotely
related to softball felt like a chore
and I knew deep down that I couldn't
sacrifice my mental health trying to
convince myself myself I still loved a
game I had lost love for a long time
ago I no longer Associated the sport of
softball with fun practices a form of
socialization and a sport that made me
happy I now Associated the game with
belittlement fear before going to
practices and something I no longer
wanted to put time
into one of the hard things about
falling out of love with a sport is that
it takes away a player's identity you're
stuck between ignore them and just push
through or trying to keep your identity
by saying I play X
Sport I have no idea where I'd be in my
softball career today if IID felt more
supported by my coaches and it's
something I think about all the time
would my love for the sport have come
back would I have played in high school
would I be in the commitment process
like 8-year-old me had dreamed of for me
my competitive softball Journey has
ended but for others their Journeys and
their sports are just beginning let's be
the ones who hold coaches accountable
for their actions so we can guide them
to be better and create the change that
gives other young athletes the ability
to continue loving their game thank you
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