Wake up! She "loves you" ONLY because you help her

Summary

The video script shares the story of a man who supported a woman financially and emotionally for years, only to be left heartbroken when she repeatedly left him and showed uncertainty about their relationship. The speaker offers advice to men, emphasizing that true love involves patience, commitment, and mutual respect. He warns against staying in relationships where the woman is only interested in material success or repeatedly breaks up during tough times. The message is clear: recognize the red flags and know your worth.

Takeaways

• 😢 A man's selfless support for a girl he loved included paying her tuition, even at the cost of his own education.
• 🚫 The girl only agreed to date him after he started making money, which is seen as a red flag indicating her interest might be more financial than personal.
• 💔 Despite being in an on-and-off relationship for six years, the girl has shown multiple signs of not being fully committed, including breaking up over arguments and expressing uncertainty about her feelings.
• 🤔 The man sought advice after the girl's hesitant response to a marriage proposal, which is a clear sign that she may not see a future with him.
• 🔺 Key advice for men is that a woman who genuinely loves you will not abandon you at the first sign of trouble but will work through issues together.
• ❤️ True love involves patience, understanding, and a long-term vision of a shared future, without hesitation or second thoughts.
• 💍 Most women in love would be thrilled by a marriage proposal, and hesitation can indicate a lack of commitment or being 'on the fence' about the relationship.
• 🤑 If a woman only shows interest when you are successful, it may suggest she is more attracted to your success than to you as a person, which is a sign of a gold digger.
• 💔 A pattern of multiple breakups indicates emotional immaturity and a lack of commitment, which is not conducive to a healthy, long-term relationship.
• 🤝 Helping someone should not be tied to expectations of a relationship or marriage; true kindness is given without strings attached.
• 📵 The man was advised to cut ties with the girl as she does not truly love him and has been using him for her own benefit.

Q & A

What was the main issue the man in the story faced?

The man faced an unrequited love situation where he had supported a girl financially and emotionally for years, even sacrificing his own education, but she did not genuinely love him back and was only interested in him when he became successful.

How did the man support the girl financially?

He helped her pay for her tuition when her parents couldn't, even though he himself was a student and eventually had to drop out of school because he couldn't afford to support both of them.

What was the first red flag that the man noticed in his relationship with the girl?

The first red flag was that she only agreed to date him after he started making money from a couple of side hustles, indicating that her interest in him was tied to his financial status.

Why did the girl leave the man for another guy after she finished school?

The script does not provide a specific reason for her leaving, but it implies that her feelings for the man were not genuine and that she may have been more interested in his financial support than in him as a person.

How did the man react when the girl left him for another guy?

He begged and pleaded for her to return to him, which she eventually did when he relocated to a foreign country.

What did the girl's response to the man's marriage proposal reveal about her feelings towards him?

Her response revealed that she did not genuinely love him and was hesitant about marrying him, suggesting that she was not fully invested in the relationship.

What advice was given to the man regarding his relationship with the girl?

The advice given was to cut off ties with the girl immediately, as she was not truly in love with him and was likely using him for his financial support.

What are the key signs that a woman genuinely loves a man, according to the script?

A woman who genuinely loves a man will not run off or break up at the first sign of trouble, will engage in conversations to solve issues, and will see a future with him, being invested in the long-term success of the relationship.

What does the script suggest about a woman who hesitates at a marriage proposal?

The script suggests that if a woman hesitates at a marriage proposal, it indicates uncertainty about her feelings and commitment level, and it could be a sign that she is not fully invested in the relationship.

What is the implication of a woman only showing interest in a man when he is successful?

The implication is that the woman may be more interested in the man's success and what she can gain from it rather than genuinely caring for the man as a person.

What is the message conveyed about expecting a relationship in return for help?

The message is that expecting a relationship in return for help is emotionally manipulative and defeatist. True kindness and help should come without expecting anything in return, and a person's gratitude for help does not obligate them to reciprocate romantic feelings or commitments.

What should a man do if he finds himself in a similar situation as the man in the story?

The man should recognize the signs of an unrequited relationship, understand his self-worth, and consider ending the relationship if it is clear that the other person is not genuinely invested in him.

Outlines

00:00

💔 Unrequited Love and Sacrifice

The first paragraph narrates a heartbreaking tale of a man who has been in love with a girl for years, supporting her financially and emotionally. Despite his selfless acts, including dropping out of school to support her education, the girl only agrees to date him when he starts earning money. Their relationship is fraught with issues, including her leaving him for another man and her reluctance to commit to marriage. The man's story is a cautionary tale about the pitfalls of one-sided love and the importance of recognizing when a relationship is not healthy.

05:02

🔍 Signs of a One-Sided Relationship

The second paragraph delves into the signs that indicate an unbalanced and potentially unhealthy relationship. It emphasizes that a woman who truly loves a man will not abandon him during tough times but will work through issues together. The speaker also points out that hesitation at a marriage proposal is a red flag, suggesting uncertainty about the relationship's future. Furthermore, the paragraph warns against entering a relationship with someone who only shows interest when the man is successful, as this may indicate they are more interested in material success than in the person. The speaker advises the man in the story to end the relationship, as the woman does not truly love him and is using him for her own benefit.

Keywords

💡Support

Support in this context refers to the emotional, financial, and educational assistance the man provided to the woman he loved. He helped her pay for tuition and sacrificed his own education to ensure she could continue hers, demonstrating a deep level of commitment and care.

💡Sacrifice

Sacrifice here means giving up something valuable or important for the sake of another person. The man sacrificed his own schooling and financial stability to support the woman, highlighting the extent of his dedication and love.

💡Red flag

A red flag is a warning sign indicating potential trouble or danger in a relationship. The video mentions several red flags, such as the woman only agreeing to date the man once he started making money and her hesitation to commit to marriage, which suggest her lack of genuine affection and commitment.

💡True love

True love is described as involving patience, understanding, and a willingness to work through problems together. The video emphasizes that a woman who genuinely loves a man will not leave at the first sign of trouble and will be invested in the long-term success of the relationship.

💡Commitment

Commitment in this context refers to being dedicated to maintaining and nurturing the relationship through good times and bad. The woman's repeated breakups with the man indicate a lack of commitment, which is contrasted with the expectations of true love.

💡Gold digger

A gold digger is someone who is primarily interested in a partner's wealth and material benefits rather than genuine affection. The video suggests that the woman may be a gold digger because she only showed interest in the man after he became successful.

💡Emotional resilience

Emotional resilience refers to the ability to handle emotional challenges and bounce back from difficult situations. The video implies that true love involves emotional resilience, as partners work through disagreements and challenges together rather than breaking up.

💡Manipulation

Manipulation involves influencing someone to do something by unfair means. The video warns against emotionally manipulative behavior, such as expecting a relationship in return for help, which can undermine genuine affection and trust.

💡Self-worth

Self-worth is the sense of one's own value or worth as a person. The video advises men to recognize their self-worth and not settle for a partner who does not genuinely appreciate them, especially if the partner's interest is conditional on their success.

💡Emotional maturity

Emotional maturity is the ability to manage emotions effectively and maintain healthy relationships. The video suggests that a partner who frequently breaks up over arguments may lack emotional maturity, which is crucial for a stable, long-term relationship.

Highlights

A man sacrificed his education to support a girl he loved, even paying her tuition when her parents couldn't.

The girl wasn't initially interested in him but agreed to date him only after he started making money.

After finishing school, the girl left him for another guy despite his continued efforts to win her back.

Despite moving to a foreign country, the man struggled to get her to join him and faced uncertainty about her feelings.

The girl frequently broke up with him during arguments, only to return when things improved.

When asked about marriage, the girl responded that he shouldn't help her just because he wants to marry her.

The speaker advises that genuine love involves patience and working through disagreements together.

A woman who hesitates at a marriage proposal likely isn't fully committed and may be keeping her options open.

If a woman only dates a man after he becomes successful, she's more interested in his success than his character.

Frequent breakups during the relationship indicate a lack of emotional maturity and commitment.

Believing a woman owes a relationship or marriage because of help provided is emotionally manipulative.

True kindness should come without expecting anything in return, and gratitude doesn't obligate romantic reciprocation.

The man was advised to recognize he was in a one-sided relationship and to cut ties with the woman.

The woman never truly loved him, and continuing the relationship would likely result in future heartbreak.

Viewers are encouraged to share their own stories in the comments and reflect on similar experiences.

Transcripts

so yesterday I sat down for 30 minutes

listening to a man who was close to

tears tell me his story about how

basically um he had supported this girl

he's always loved for years now the guy

had supported her in every humanly way

possible he helped her pay a tuition

through school when her parents couldn't

even though he was a student himself and

eventually he had to drop out of school

because the money he had could not

support them both you heard me right he

literally sacrificed his schooling for

this girl now because he was also ahead

of her in school he could at the time

teach her a couple of subjects he

admitted to me that she wasn't into him

from the very beginning but he was

hopeful that she would come around it

took a while over time though he started

a couple of side hustles started to make

money and only then did she agree to

date him first red flag if you ask me

now shortly after she finished school

she left him for another guy for over a

year he begged pleaded that she return

to him which she did when he finally

reach located to a foreign country ever

since then he had been trying to get her

to join him in this foreign country to

no avail and he keeps trying as we speak

now during this time though she would

make comments about how she was not

truly sure about how she felt about him

and how he loves her more than she does

and stuff like that at this point they'

hadd been dating for close to 6 years on

and off she would break up with him each

time they had an argument though or

would raise his voice you know when he

didn't understand something only to come

back later when things got better now

the story is long and I don't want to

bore you but what brought him eventually

to speak to me was the fact that he had

asked her

if when he was successful in bringing

her over would she marry him to which

she answered well if he wants to help

her he shouldn't be helping her just

because he wants to marry her he should

help her because he likes her

enough now you might be listening to

this story and thinking what the hell is

going on or maybe you're just listening

to it because you love to watch this

channel bet yet maybe you see yourself

in this guy whatever the case may be

I'll be more than happy to share what I

told him with you before I do that

though it's imperative that I drum this

message home for all the guys who keep

making this mistake or these mistakes

when it comes to love you might be one

of them hear this number one when a

woman genuinely loves you she'll not run

off or I.E break up with you at the

first sign of trouble she'll reason with

you she'll engage you to ensure that the

right conversations are being had to try

and solve the situation and avoid future

misunder understandings or mistakes if

she doesn't do this it's a red flag

women who love you won't bail at the

first sign of trouble they'll stick

around and try and solve the issues true

love involves patience it involves

understanding and a willingness to give

each other the benefit of the doubt when

things aren't going well a woman who

genuinely loves you sees a future with

you and and is invested in the long-term

success of the relationship she'll work

through the disagreements you know with

whatever Vision you guys have of a

shared future understanding that

overcoming these challenges together

strengthens what you have keep that in

mind number

two a lot of women will jump at anything

that sounds like a marriage proposal

most women when they're truly in love

and see a future with you will be

thrilled at the idea of getting married

to you there won't be any hesitation

because they're certain about their

feelings and their future with you if

she's not jumping at that chance it's a

red flag when a woman hesitates at a

marriage proposal even says something as

simple as I'll think about it she's not

confident that you're the one this

uncertainty for me speaks volumes about

her true feelings and commitment level

if she's hesitant she's likely keeping

her options open she's not fully

invested in the relationship and might

be waiting for someone better okay true

love remember this guys it eliminates

doubt true love eliminates doubt when a

woman generally loves you she won't have

second thoughts about spending her life

with you if she is if she's having

second thoughts it means she's enjoying

the relationship for now but will not

stick with you when it comes to the Long

Haul number three if she decides or she

only decides to come and date you and

she sees that life has been kind to you

when in the past she wouldn't give you

light of day don't accept to go into a

relationship with her a woman who will

not date you while you're down doesn't

deserve you when you're up if she only

decides to date you when she sees that

life has been kind to you look you don't

want to accept that relationship because

it's clear that she's only interested

now that you're successful she's more

attracted to what you have than who you

are if she didn't want anything to do

with you while you're struggling it

means she's not loyal to you as a person

she's loyal to your success and that's

not the kind of partner that you need

let's call it what it is if she's only

showing up when you're doing well she's

most likely a gold digger she's in it

for the perks not the person her sudden

interest now that you're successful says

a lot about her character it's not about

love or Genuine connection it's about

what she can gain listen you need

someone who will value character over

cash recognize your self worth you're

not just your success you're the same

person you were when you were down and

you deserve someone who appreciates all

of you not just the shiny exterior and

when suddenly you struck gold number

four a woman who breaks up with you

multiple times for whatever reason

during the lifespan of your relationship

cannot and should not be taken seriously

every time she's left you should be an

extra reason why she's not the one you

should settle for and it doesn't really

matter whose fault it was you see love

brings a certain level of emotional

resilience a woman who's quick to break

up with you at every argument might lack

that emo maturity or commitment that you

need to keep her around for the Long

Haul bottom line is that she's immature

and she's showing clear evidence that

she cannot handle future ups and downs

don't be surprised if if this woman

leaves you at the first sign of trouble

even if you're married number five never

think that a woman you help owes you a

relationship or marriage believing that

she owes you a relationship or marriage

because you help her is completely

defeatist true kindness and help should

come without expecting anything in

return and guys hear me when I say this

for starters each person has the right

to decide who they want to be within a

relationship independent of whether

you've helped them or not a woman's

gratitude for help doesn't obligate her

to reciprocate romantic feelings or

commitments and a lot of guys get this

wrong expecting a relationship in return

for help is emotionally

manipulative you will never be able to

know for sure if she's truly with you

because she loves you or it's because of

the help that you offered her in the

past don't ignore the signs because of

love I would rather you break up the

relationship now when it's easier that

when you get married and have so many

ties with each other is going to be more

difficult and you will pay through the

nose okay all right so what advice did I

end up giving this guy I'm sure it's

pretty evident I mean after listening to

everything that I've said it's clear I

let him know that he's been in a

relationship by himself all this while

he's been used by the lady and this is

not a relationship for him if he still

has ties to her he needs to cut her off

right away I told him she doesn't truly

love him and probably never will and

unfortunately for him he's missed all

the signs that prove that this girl was

never for real if he made the mistake of

letting her join him abroad it will just

be a matter of time before she leaves

him for that guy she truly wants once

she meets him he's better off without

her listen I'd like you to share your

story is in the comments Below have you

ever found yourself in such a situation

and if you have what happened and how

did you deal with it thanks for watching

the video my name is Jessica os I'll

definitely be catching you in the next

one