Do women respect men who chase them?

Summary

In this video, the speaker explores the concept of 'chasing' women, explaining the difference between respectful pursuit and over-pursuit. He emphasizes that men should confidently pursue what they want without being apologetic or overly anxious, as confidence and a strong frame command respect. The speaker discusses how to approach women, invite them confidently, and avoid behaviors like excessive texting or pleading, which diminish respect. He highlights that approaching a woman is not about 'chasing' but about genuine curiosity, and provides tips for building confidence in dating and social interactions.

Takeaways

• 😀 Pursuing a woman doesn’t necessarily mean 'chasing.' It’s about being confident and taking initiative in a respectful way.
• 😀 Overpursuing or begging for attention, such as texting multiple times without a response, is seen as chasing and can lead to losing respect.
• 😀 Women generally respect men who take the first step and approach them confidently without showing desperation or anxiety.
• 😀 If you're not actively pursuing women and relying solely on content consumption, you're limiting your potential dating life.
• 😀 Confidence, strong non-verbal communication, and phrasing play a significant role in whether your approach is seen as respectful or desperate.
• 😀 Chasing from a place of curiosity is different from chasing from desperation. It's about exploring the possibility of a connection rather than forcing one.
• 😀 It’s important to recognize low interest signals, like lack of response or flaking, and to avoid continuously texting or overpursuing in those situations.
• 😀 A strong frame (confidence, calmness, and respect) commands respect. A weak or anxious frame reduces respect.
• 😀 Women respect men who are not afraid to approach them with confidence, even if the man is not conventionally attractive.
• 😀 Women are more likely to respect men who interact with them casually and confidently, rather than relying on over-the-top gestures or excessive flattery.
• 😀 Developing confidence in your approach and conversations with women takes practice, but it’s essential for creating lasting attraction and respect.

Q & A

What is the difference between 'chasing' and 'pursuing' a woman?

Chasing refers to over-pursuing or being too needy, such as repeatedly texting after no response, while pursuing is confidently and genuinely going after what you want, without breaking character or appearing desperate.

Why does the speaker suggest that men should 'go after what they want'?

The speaker argues that men should take initiative in pursuing women because passivity limits opportunities. If men don’t actively pursue what they want, they risk staying stuck with limited options and may not attract high-quality women.

What role does confidence play in attracting women, according to the speaker?

Confidence is crucial because women respect a strong frame. Men who approach women confidently, without showing signs of anxiety or desperation, stand out and are more likely to gain respect.

How does the phrasing of a conversation impact whether a man is perceived as 'chasing'?

The way a man phrases his invitation or conversation can make him seem desperate or respectful. Phrases that sound apologetic or uncertain may appear like chasing, whereas confident, casual invitations don't convey desperation.

What is an example of a poor way to invite a woman out?

An example of a poor invitation would be: 'I really hope you could come sometime, if you're not too busy.' This sounds apologetic, uncertain, and weak, which can make the man appear as though he is begging.

What is meant by 'breaking character' in the context of dating?

'Breaking character' refers to when a man acts in a way that undermines his own values, confidence, or self-respect. For example, repeatedly texting a woman who isn’t responding is a form of breaking character, as it shows desperation.

Why does the speaker think it's important to avoid 'over-pursuing'?

Over-pursuing, such as repeatedly texting after a woman cancels plans or doesn’t respond, can be seen as needy and disrespectful. It shows a lack of confidence and self-respect, which reduces the man’s attractiveness.

How can men approach women without appearing to chase them?

Men can approach women by being confident, calm, and respectful, treating the interaction casually. By maintaining a low-pressure demeanor, a man can express interest without seeming desperate or overbearing.

What happens when a man approaches a woman with a weak frame?

When a man approaches a woman with a weak frame—showing anxiety, desperation, or uncertainty—he loses respect. Women tend to respect strong, confident men who maintain composure during interactions.

What does the speaker mean by 'chasing from a frame of curiosity'?

'Chasing from a frame of curiosity' means approaching a woman without desperation, simply because you are curious and interested in her. It’s an open, nonchalant approach that doesn’t place unnecessary pressure on the woman.