why I prefer being a Failure
Summary
TLDRDiana partage sa lutte avec l'échec et la pression sociale de réussir, exprimant son malaise face à l'idée de ne pas se réaliser. Elle explore comment les attentes des parents et de la société façonnent nos quêtes de reconnaissance et d'amour, et comment elle a trouvé la paix en se libérant de la nécessité d'être ou de faire quelque chose pour être aimée. Diana encourage à apprécier les choses simples de la vie et à reconnaître que l'on est déjà accomplis et entiers, sans avoir besoin d'atteindre des objectifs extérieurs pour être considérés comme réussis.
Takeaways
- 😔 Diana a 28 ans et se considère comme un échec, ayant échoué dans tous les projets qu'elle a entrepris.
- 💡 Elle exprime le désir de réussir et d'atteindre le statut de succès dans la société, souvent défini par l'accumulation de richesse et de statut.
- 😨 Diana reconnaît avoir peur de l'échec et que cette peur a causé beaucoup de souffrance, l'empêchant de se réaliser.
- 👶 Elle se souvient d'être aimée sans condition par ses parents lorsqu'elle était bébé, mais cette无条件 love (amour inconditionnel) a changé au fur et à mesure qu'elle grandissait.
- 🧐 Les attentes des parents et de la société ont façonné ses objectifs, la poussant à chercher l'amour et l'approbation en dehors d'elle-même.
- 🤔 Diana questionne l'idée sociale que nous devons être quelqu'un ou faire quelque chose de significatif pour être aimés et appréciés.
- 💡 Elle découvre que la paix intérieure est trouvée en abandonnant l'idée de devoir être une certaine façon ou atteindre des objectifs spécifiques.
- 🌞 Elle réalise que les meilleures choses de la vie sont gratuites et accessibles, mais nous avons tendance à poursuivre des choses difficiles à atteindre.
- 🏖 Diana souligne que nous prenons souvent pour acquis la capacité de vivre et d'aimer, négligeant l'importance de profiter de chaque instant.
- 💖 Elle insiste sur l'idée que la vie est un cadeau en soi et que nous sommes tous remplis et accomplis dès la naissance, sans besoin d'ajouter quoi que ce soit.
- 🤷♀️ En fin de compte, Diana a choisi de se considérer comme étant au-delà des étiquettes et des définitions sociales, se reconnaissant simplement comme une partie de la vie.
Q & A
Quel est le sentiment principal exprimé par Diana dans son discours?
-Diana exprime un sentiment de déception envers elle-même pour avoir échoué dans plusieurs projets, mais aussi une libération en se libérant des attentes sociales et de la pression de réussir.
Pourquoi Diana considère-t-elle avoir échoué dans la vie?
-Elle se sent avoir échoué car elle n'a pas réussi à réaliser les projets qu'elle a entrepris, n'a pas de travail actuel, ne gagne pas d'argent et n'a pas de vie sociale riche.
Quelle est la pression que Diana ressent en raison de la société?
-Elle ressent une pression de réussir et d'avoir de l'argent, de construire de grandes entreprises, ce qui est considéré comme un signe de réussite dans la société.
Quel est le changement de perspective que Diana a eu après avoir échoué dans ses projets?
-Après avoir échoué, elle a réalisé qu'elle ne doit pas nécessairement être quelqu'un ou accomplir quelque chose pour être aimée et se sentir accomplie.
Quelle est la source de la peur de Diana envers l'échec?
-La peur de Diana vient de l'idée de ne pas se réaliser, de ne pas accomplir de choses et de ne pas construire une entreprise ou devenir quelqu'un d'important.
Comment Diana décrit-elle l'amour inconditionnel des parents pour leurs enfants?
-Elle décrit l'amour inconditionnel des parents comme étant pur, joyeux et aimant les enfants simplement pour qui ils sont, sans aucune attente ou condition.
Quel est le message que Diana veut transmettre sur la nature de la vie?
-Elle veut transmettre que la vie est un cadeau en soi, qu'il est important de s'en réjouir et de l'apprécier telle quelle, sans se précipiter pour atteindre des objectifs qui ne sont pas essentiels.
Quelle est la libération que Diana ressent lorsqu'elle se libère des attentes sociales?
-Elle ressent une libération en se libérant des attentes sociales et de la pression de devenir quelqu'un ou d'accomplir quelque chose, ce qui lui permet de se sentir à l'aise avec qui elle est réellement.
Quelle est la conclusion que Diana tire sur la nature de la satisfaction et de l'accomplissement?
-Elle conclut que la satisfaction et l'accomplissement viennent de l'intérieur et ne dépendent pas des objectifs extérieurs ou des réussites matérielles.
Quel conseil Diana donnerait-elle à ceux qui se sentent pressés de réussir?
-Elle conseille de se libérer des attentes sociales, de s'apprécier pour qui on est réellement et de se concentrer sur l'appréciation de la vie telle qu'elle est, plutôt que de se précipiter pour des objectifs qui ne sont pas essentiels.
Outlines
😔 La Quête de Succès et l'Échec
Diana partage son expérience personnelle de l'échec dans divers projets de sa vie, soulignant son absence d'emploi et de vie sociale. Elle exprime sa peur de l'échec et son désir de réussite matérielle, conformément aux normes sociales. Elle remet en question l'origine de la pression de réussir et de devenir quelqu'un, remontant à l'enfance et aux attentes des parents. Diana révèle comment elle a finalement trouvé la paix en abandonnant l'idée de devoir prouver quelque chose ou être quelqu'un, reconnaissant que l'amour et l'acceptation ne doivent pas être méritées.
🌿 La Valeur de la Vie et le Bonheur Gratuit
Dans ce paragraphe, Diana évoque la simplicité du bonheur et la beauté de la vie telle qu'elle est, sans avoir besoin de poursuivre des objectifs ou des accomplissements. Elle critique notre tendance à négliger les choses simples et accessibles au quotidien, comme l'air et le soleil, au profit de choses plus difficiles à atteindre. Elle souligne l'importance de reconnaître et d'apprécier le cadeau de la vie, y compris les interactions humaines et les expériences naturelles, plutôt que de se précipiter après des satisfactions éphémères et artificielles.
🧘♀️ L'Auto-Acceptation et la Spiritualité
Diana aborde le concept d'auto-acceptation et de spiritualité, expliquant comment elle a surmonté la douleur causée par les étiquettes de beauté, d'intelligence et de talent. Elle décrit son processus d'acceptation de soi en tant qu'être humain sans nécessité d'être 'quelqu'un' ou d'atteindre des objectifs. En fin de compte, elle encourage à embrasser l'idée que l'on est déjà complet et accompli, et que la paix intérieure est trouvée en se débarrassant des désirs et des attentes sociales.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Échec
💡Réussite
💡Peur
💡Auto-réalisation
💡Aimant
💡Espoirs
💡Libération
💡Accomplissement
💡Pureté
💡Esprit
💡Vie
💡Libre arbitre
Highlights
Diana shares her personal struggles with failure and lack of success in various projects.
She currently has no job, no income, and a limited social life.
Diana reflects on her past intelligence and creativity, and her desire to achieve success.
Society often equates success with earning money and building big companies.
Diana had a huge fear of failing and not accomplishing things, causing her great pain.
She contemplates the idea of self-realization and the fear of dying without achieving anything.
Diana questions the societal expectations and the need to be someone or do something significant.
She reflects on how parents' expectations shape children's understanding of love and self-worth.
Diana believes that the need to earn love and approval starts with our parents and continues into adulthood.
She suggests that unconditional love and acceptance are not taught, leading to a constant need to prove ourselves.
Diana questions the necessity of pursuing big companies, wealth, and societal success.
After failing in external accomplishments, Diana found peace by giving up the need to be a certain way.
She realized that she doesn't need to be anyone or do anything to be loved and accepted.
Diana emphasizes the liberation that comes from accepting oneself as enough, regardless of achievements.
She highlights the simple joys in life that are often overlooked, such as nature and human connection.
Diana points out that the best things in life are free and accessible, yet we often seek what is harder to achieve.
She encourages embracing the present moment and the gift of life, rather than constantly chasing after more.
Diana shares her newfound perspective of being 'nothing' and 'everything', beyond societal labels and expectations.
She concludes by emphasizing the importance of self-love and acceptance, and the interconnectedness of all beings.
Transcripts
hi I am Diana I am 28 years old and I'm
a
failure I failed at multiple projects in
my life in fact I failed at every single
project that I ever started now I
currently have no job I don't make any
money I don't have much social life
going on but it wasn't always like this
of course I was always smart creative so
I must accomplish some amazing things in
life like I don't know or at least earn
lots of money like because this is
this is actually something considered as
success in our society earning lots of
money building big companies so I
settled myself somewhere there I had a
huge fear around the idea of failing the
idea of like failing not accomplishing
certain things was giving me so much
pain it was like the the biggest fear of
my life to not self-realize myself for
many
years like for me the the biggest the
biggest thing is it was like What if I
will die and I will just not
self-realize myself what if I will not
just accomplish anything you know what
if I will not build this company or
business or become someone at least who
is this someone what are you trying to
be
why is this not enough where are you
right now where this idea that we need
to be someone that we need to do
something with our life that we need to
become someone even came in the first
place first when when we are born we are
just like pure joy and love and parents
just like loving us as just for the way
we are we are just cute little baby and
just like every giggle every smile every
cute sound and they're like oh this is
so cute and they just like loving us
unconditionally but later on we stopped
developing parents kind of putting on
our certain expectations what we should
be we should be maybe smart or good-look
whatever parents want to be thems they
kind of put this expectations what they
expecting from thems to be they putting
this these expectations on their
children and we learn how to earn This
Love from our parents and we trying to
be good for them if your parents want
you to be like a football player or
smart you just go for these activities
just for sake to earn that kind of
parents love they don't learns what is
unconditional love and they don't teach
us that love doesn't need to be
earned and I think this is where it's
actually starting we try to earn love
from our parents and after we sail in
the world and try to to earn love there
from our bosses from people from
subscribers from our partners we believe
we need to be someone or something for
us to be loved but what if we just would
feel love loved and love unconditionally
all the time for who we
are would we go would we would we go for
these huge companies would we build
these companies would we build this like
insanely High building do do we need to
actually earn that much
money now since I am completely failed
in all outside
accomplishments I finally can say that I
found something that I wasn't I was
always looking
for that kind of pieace inside I was
only able to find is when I just gave up
all this crap about myself that I
thought I need to be a certain way I
need to prove something I need to be
something I need to be
someone no I don't need to be
anyone and uh just realizing this that I
don't need to be anyone I can be stupid
I can be ugly I can be jobless I don't
have to earn money I don't have to be
anyone I don't have to do anything in
order for me to be loved in order for me
to be enough in order for me just to
leave this life and enjoy I like I don't
have to do any of this and just
realizing this just giving me such a
huge
Liberation we all know that's the best
things to experience is for free like
the sunshine the wind the sea the swim
the kiss the
touch just like you know that kind of
bliss when you sit in the
nature and it just feels so good just to
be we know that these things are for
free the air is for free water in in the
most of the places is also almost for
free the best things is very accessible
to us but somehow we are always running
after things that not as accessible for
us somehow we always want to be
somewhere where it's hard to be achieved
we are always try to prove ourself in
the areas that we have to kind of earn
that hasn't been like gifted to us and
just by like simple simple
being breae
brething
feeling just like being here it's just
something that we have
naturally and we abandon this completely
because why does it matter it's just
it's always here you know it's like
living in this place by the beach and
never going to the Sea because sea is
always there why do we need to go for a
swim there it's just always there we can
go any day so that's why we never go
and you know and when we go for vacation
somewhere where is there Beach or sea
and we don't have it where we try to we
try to experience as much of swimming as
possible because we know once we leave
the the sea will not be there anymore
and just the idea that it will not be
there for us it's not going to be
accessible we try to grab more of
it but with life is the
same this being healthy be able to
breathe experiencing sunshine on your
skin he's not always going to be here
for
us we know this but we kind of like
H we will we will have time to enjoy
ourselves we will have time to enjoy to
to to enjoy life to enjoy love to enjoy
relationship to enjoy sunshine to just
be just run enjoy your physical healthy
body that can do things we will have
time that yeah no l no no you will not
it's just the times go so much
faster which is also scares me but I
feel it's like it's another topic that I
want to I want to contemplate on maybe
in the next
video the life is a gift itself and I
know why it sound
very old and you probably heard it many
times but you heard it so many times
just because it's true the life is a
gift itself just to to sit here just
like to talk to connect with other
people to experience this
love it's just it's such a gift
itself and we just ignoring this we did
we prefer to not notice it while always
running after illusionary
imaginary source of satisfaction that we
believe will fulfill us finally no
nothing will fulfill you nothing is
outside is fulfill will fulfill you ever
you are already fulfilled as you are you
were born fulfilled you were born
complete you were born
accomplished you don't need to
accomplish
anything you can just be as you
are and once you allow yourself this
idea this concept to enter your
life it's just all settles down and
you're like
oh of course after you go to the next
stage where you kind of lose all your
desires and goals and you're like okay
I'm enough I don't need to do
anything and you become a failure like I
did and you just become
loser and when people ask me people ask
me when when we meet first time like ah
hi I'm di like how are you la la la and
they asking me what do you do I say
nothing and I feel there's like error
happening in people's mind when I tell
them this because like what do you mean
nothing you you're supposed to do
something you're supposed to trying to
achieve something it's just not
considered as cool before I get used to
considering myself
intellectual and I was never going to
spiritual concept because it's like
spirituality itself somehow is
considered as opposite of like intellect
because spirituality based on belief
belief in something like woo woo like
instead of Science and and once I start
considering myself as someone who is
stupid just life became so much easier
for me you know I don't need to grab for
for the label of being intellectual for
the label of being smart for the label
of being talented Rich creative I just
started considering myself as such maybe
not as talented not as beautiful not as
smart not as like creative the labels of
being smart talented beautiful and
creative was giving me so much pain so I
decided to give it up and say okay I'm
nothing I'm none of
it I'm none of
it I'm something beyond all of this like
there is not even I am there it's just
life there and I'm just part of this
life
itself I'm not smart I'm not stupid I'm
not beautiful I'm not
ugly I am just like I
am that's
it there is nothing else I need to be I
am already everything and the same time
nothing I am nothing and I am
everything I
am yeah
You
Are I Am you are we
are and that's
it thank you for being
here I love you namaste
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