I’m 50-year-old Japanese man. I made a big mistake how to raise our precious daughter.
Summary
TLDRA 50-year-old Japanese man discusses the challenges of raising his 4-year-old daughter, who exhibits shyness in kindergarten performances. He contemplates whether he has spoiled her by providing too many toys and reflects on her sometimes cold attitude towards friends. The man also announces his new YouTube channel for learning Japanese and offers business consultation services in Japan. He shares his thoughts while enjoying a favorite, affordable sandwich.
Takeaways
- 👨👧 The speaker is a 50-year-old Japanese middle-aged man with a 4-year-old daughter, indicating a 46-year age gap.
- 👨👧👦 He acknowledges that he is not alone in having a significant age difference with his child and has received comments from others in similar situations.
- 📚 The daughter is in her second year of kindergarten and has shown 'poor performance' in activities involving parents and kids, possibly due to shyness.
- 🎥 The speaker has launched a new YouTube channel to teach Japanese language basics and invites viewers to learn with him.
- 🎓 The speaker discusses common kindergarten activities worldwide, including performances by children in front of parents.
- 🤔 The daughter's shyness is a recurring issue during performances, contrasting with her behavior during practices.
- 🇯🇵 In Japan, children born in April are considered the oldest in their school year, which may affect the daughter's maturity and behavior.
- 🧐 The speaker reflects on whether he and his wife have spoiled their daughter by giving her everything she wants.
- 🚼 The speaker used to be a toy-focused YouTuber, which may have contributed to an abundance of toys for his children.
- 🤯 He is concerned that too many toys might lead to immaturity and a lack of patience in children.
- 👨👩👧👦 The speaker is worried about his daughter's recent cold attitude towards her friends and is seeking advice on how to improve her behavior.
Q & A
What is the main concern of the speaker about his daughter?
-The speaker is concerned about his daughter's shyness and her behavior towards her classmates, as she has been showing a cold attitude recently.
What is the age gap between the speaker and his daughter?
-There is a 46-year age gap between the speaker and his daughter.
Why does the speaker think his situation is not unique?
-The speaker believes his situation is not unique because he has received comments from others who have a significant age gap between themselves and their children.
What is the speaker's profession or past activity?
-The speaker used to be a YouTuber focusing on toy reviews for kids.
What is the speaker's nationality and age?
-The speaker is a 50-year-old Japanese man.
What is the speaker's daughter's current educational status?
-The speaker's daughter is in her second year of kindergarten.
Why does the speaker think his daughter might be acting out?
-The speaker speculates that his daughter's behavior might be due to her being shy, and possibly being spoiled by receiving many toys and having her every want fulfilled.
What is the speaker's daughter's birth month, and what does it signify in the Japanese school system?
-The speaker's daughter was born in April, which means she is the oldest among her classmates in the Japanese school system, as the school year begins in April.
What is the speaker's concern about the number of toys he has given his children?
-The speaker is concerned that giving his children too many toys might have made them immature and unable to handle situations without patience.
What kind of video content does the speaker have on his new YouTube channel?
-The speaker's new YouTube channel offers basic Japanese language lessons.
What does the speaker want from the viewers regarding his situation with his daughter?
-The speaker is seeking advice from viewers on how to better raise his daughter, as he is unsure if his current approach is correct.
Outlines
👨👧 Age Gap and Parenting Challenges
The speaker, a 50-year-old Japanese man, discusses the unique challenges of raising his 4-year-old daughter given their 46-year age gap. He acknowledges that he is not alone in facing such a situation and mentions receiving comments from others with similar age differences. The speaker also introduces his new YouTube channel for learning Japanese and describes his daughter's shyness during kindergarten performances, contrasting her behavior at practice with her reluctance to perform in front of parents.
🤔 Reflecting on Parenting and Shyness
The speaker continues to explore his daughter's shyness, noting that teachers have observed her performing well during practices but freezing during actual performances. He also discusses his daughter's birth month and its implications in the Japanese school system, where she is the oldest in her class. The speaker expresses concern about whether he and his wife have spoiled her by providing too many toys and material things, potentially leading to a lack of patience and maturity.
🚼 Overindulgence and its Effects on Behavior
The speaker, a former toy reviewer on YouTube, reflects on the potential negative effects of giving his children an abundance of toys. He questions whether this overindulgence has contributed to his daughter's behavior, which includes instances of physical aggression towards him. He also mentions a video he made showing his daughter's violent behavior and the critical comments he received, prompting him to consider his parenting approach.
🍔 Balancing Parenting with Daily Life
In the final paragraph, the speaker transitions to a lighter topic, sharing his enjoyment of a cheap and delicious sandwich while inviting viewers to offer advice on raising his daughter. He describes the sandwich in detail, highlighting its affordability and taste, and uses this as a segue to ask for input on his parenting concerns.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Age Gap
💡Japanese Middle-aged Man
💡Kindergarten
💡Performance Anxiety
💡Shyness
💡YouTube Channel
💡Toys
💡Violence
💡Patience
💡Growing Up
💡Attitude
💡Lunch
Highlights
A 50-year-old Japanese man discusses raising his 4-year-old daughter amidst a 46-year age gap.
The man acknowledges he's not alone in having a significant age difference with his child and receives comments from others in similar situations.
He announces the launch of a new YouTube channel for learning Japanese language.
The daughter shows poor performance during kindergarten activities, often freezing and not participating.
Teachers suggest the daughter might be shy, as she performs well during practices but not in front of parents.
The man realizes his daughter's unique personality, including her shyness, and accepts it as part of her identity.
The daughter, born in April, is the oldest in her class in Japan, where school year starts in April.
The man contemplates whether he and his wife have spoiled their daughter by giving her everything she wants.
He used to be a toy-focused YouTuber, which might have contributed to his children having more toys than others.
The man questions if providing too many toys has led to his daughter lacking patience and becoming immature.
He shares a video of his daughter displaying violent behavior towards him, sparking comments about his parenting.
The man notices his daughter's cold attitude towards her friends and classmates, causing him concern.
He seeks advice on how to improve his parenting and his daughter's behavior towards others.
The man shares his favorite inexpensive sandwich and its appealing combination of thin bread and hamburgers.
He invites viewers to comment with advice on raising his daughter, showing his openness to feedback.
Transcripts
hi today I would like to talk about how
I should raise my fouryear
daughter while I'm
eating my lunch
today so I'm 50 years old Japanese
middleaged
man I'm I think I'm very typical
Japanese middleaged
man but uh the unique point of me myself
is I'm 50 years old my my daughter is 4
years old as you can imagine we have 46
years old age Gap and uh looking at
fathers of her
classmates they are they look very very
young and uh I understand that you know
I'm not alone
uh
like who has the big gap between father
and daughter and I have received so many
comments explaining the similar
situation like some um some somebody
someone gave me comments like I'm over
60s and my daughter is still like very
very young and
uh I I I think I understand that you
know I'm not alone and uh this is not my
problem and then then we have to deal
with and this is not you know uh the
cause
of the problem that I'm going to talk
about
today so my daughter 4 years
old studed
her uh
kindergarten since she became 3 years
old so she has now second year of he
kindergarten and every time we went
to high school to participate like you
know the parents and the kids
activities
she had shown
us like I don't know how to say poor
performance I don't I I shouldn't say
poor but I don't know how to say in in
best way in English because
so before moving on to today's topic I
have an announcement I have launched my
new YouTube channel where you can study
you can learn Japanese language with me
so if you are interested in learning
Japanese language with me please click
the link in the description box of this
video you will be led to my new YouTube
channel where you can stud stud basic
Japanese language with me so
kindergartens I think it's it is not
only happening in Japan but also
happening in the world I think we have
the same situation we must have the same
situation kindergarten have
kindergartens have the
activities where parents and kids are
playing together and especially you know
uh kids are showing their
performances with the pre pre pre
preliminary practices and dancing
singing together and um we actually we
have participated in the several
occasion several you know these kind of
activities but every time we have we
went there and see our daughter's
performance actually see she
was freezing she was freezing she she
was freezing and other kids for example
for one occasion I can give you the one
occasion so the kids were supposed to
sing sing sing a songs sing a song with
a dancing dancing performers it's like a
you know music performance so they had
practiced a
lot and then the day they showed us the
performances only our
daughter didn't show her
performance so she was frozen and
she look
at the floor all the time like
this didn't show any smiles and uh you
know other kids were dancing singing
like you know very very playful so they
showed us they showed the the parents
and they show the classmates you know
the best performances but my our
daughter was
freeing just
freeing so we understand that you know
she is just a so I have um another
announcement if you are looking for
someone who can help your business in
Japan or something related to Japan
Japanese things please contact
me through the contact form that you can
find in the link in the description box
of this video shy she's just a
shy and uh maybe she does she she didn't
want to
show in front of the you know every
everybody and uh because you know when
we talked about this problem not problem
I think this incident with their
teachers they said you know maybe your
daughter was just a shy
because when they had
practices our daughter she your
daughter looked very well dancing
singing together with other
kids but the day actually they have to
they had to show the performance their
parents maybe she becomes she became
just a shy but every time every occasion
we
had every time she
showed the poor performance sorry I
don't know how to say poor so that's why
I'm just saying poor so she she's she
she's she was always the freezing
so and now actually she's very very
unique so
we have recognized her identity and her
characteristics her personality and
including the shinness and uh you know
as you can imagine and
uh I don't know and actually she was she
she was born in April she was born in
April and uh actually in Japan the new
school the new school begins from April
so meaning if you are born in April you
are the
senior the the
oldest kids in in your in your school if
you are born in like March February
January you have to part you have you
have you you will be put into
the the
classes how do you say I don't know
sorry um I don't know how to explain
properly this situation but anyway if
you are born in in April in Japan and
the school the the new school starts
from April so you will be the oldest you
will be the senior the the most senior
uh kids in the class so meaning she
actually she actually is the most senior
in the class because you know looking at
her classmates who are born in like
January February March it almost like
they have one year Gap so she looks very
senior than other kids and she must be
like more mature more mature than other
kids we understand and uh maybe she has
just been become the very very
difficult
age to Growing to be growing up to from
the just the small kids to the maybe you
know K kids who can
understand
everything so so they don't they didn't
understand what they are doing you know
what the purpose of and maybe my our
daughter is very very smart so we can we
can tell we can tell the difference
between my daughter and other
kids so but
uh the reason why I wanted to speak
about this topic is that I don't know if
I if we me and my wife have been
spoiling her too
much we have given her everything
everything she
wanted and uh I'm not sure if you're
familiar with my situation I used to be
a a toy my I used to be a
YouTuber Miz
YouTuber uh focusing on the toy toy
review so and so that's why I have many
many toys for kids especially for kids
so and I still have possessed so many
toys and actually I have given them to
our sons not only for not only to my
daughter but also my son so maybe they
have much much
more toys than other kids so I'm
wondering
if I had big mistake to given
them the more more toys than others so I
remember
when I read articles explaining if you
give your kids so many things so many
toys
they would become immature and they
cannot stand anything so
they
are growing up
with without patient patient
so that's why I'm wondering if
I have made big mistake to raise a kid
and actually I made in I made a video
showing my daughter's a little bit
violence against me so she punched me
kicking she was kicking me and uh with
in screaming and uh actually it was not
because
I was filming her and she hates actually
she hates to be filmed to be filmed this
is true but uh the video I showed you
before I'm not sure if you are if you
have already watched it or not so she
was very very violent against me she was
kicking me she was punching me and uh I
have I I received so many comments
saying you know it was
too too violent you I made I I must I
must make big mistakes to how to raise
my
kids especially my daughter but uh I
don't know I don't know and the reason
why I wanted to speak out today again is
that
so uh recently we I have realized
her attitude toward
her classmates her
friends look like not good way so she a
little bit she was she was showing a
little bit like a cold attitude toward
her friends recently and I have realized
recently that's why I wanted to make
this video today so and I think I can
fix
how to raise our kids how to raise our
daughter and uh but I'm not sure if this
is just natural thing or this is just it
happens all the time and everywhere and
maybe many parents are facing the same
issues and same problems and maybe she's
just in the middle of the growing up
from the little kid
babies from the baby to the little kid
small kid
but I don't know so yeah go back to the
my today's lunch I'm going to show you
this my
favorite
sandwich and uh this is really cheap
really cheap uh I can I bought this one
for only like one below $1 $1 us and it
has four four hamburgers four
hamburgers and a
this is not like um
oding
hamburger and the the bread is very thin
very thin soft very very soft and
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inside so you see there's a hamburger
it's really good the combination between
so this is not my first time for me to
share this hamburger I think it's it's
it is it has been my second time but uh
I wanted to show you
again so the combination between
hamburger and the
thin bread is really
nice
M
spur
so if you have some
advice regarding how to raise my
daughter please give me your comments
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