How to Spot Sexual Attraction in Eyes | Body Language

Summary

The video explores how non-verbal behaviors, particularly eye contact, can reveal attraction. It explains that while people often make eye contact with those they find attractive, subtle cues like breaking eye contact vertically and then reestablishing it can indicate interest. The speaker also highlights how blinking rates spike with emotional excitement and how eye dilation occurs when we are attracted to someone. These cues are reliable indicators of attraction and have been observed in various studies, showing the deep emotional connection that eye contact and body language can signal.

Takeaways

• 😀 Eye contact is a strong indicator of attraction, as people tend to make eye contact with those they are interested in.
• 😀 If someone breaks eye contact vertically (looks down) and then reestablishes it, it's a reliable sign of attraction.
• 😀 If a person repeatedly breaks and reestablishes eye contact, it indicates interest, so act quickly before the moment becomes awkward.
• 😀 Making eye contact with a stranger for long periods is extremely awkward due to the emotional intimacy it requires.
• 😀 Staring into someone's eyes for 90 seconds to three minutes can lead to a stronger emotional connection and increased liking.
• 😀 Blink rate increases when someone is emotionally excited, which can be a sign of attraction.
• 😀 The average blink rate is around 10-20 blinks per minute, and spikes in this rate can indicate attraction.
• 😀 In dating studies, a high blink rate is often seen as a response to emotional excitement caused by attraction.
• 😀 Eye dilation is another clear sign of attraction, as our pupils dilate when we find something appealing.
• 😀 Men perceive women with dilated pupils as more attractive, which historically led some women to use toxins to intentionally dilate their pupils.

Q & A

Why is it easier to spot attraction through non-verbal behavior?

Attraction is often difficult to hide due to our emotional nature as humans. Even if someone tries to hide it, non-verbal cues, particularly through the eyes, tend to give it away.

What role does eye contact play in determining attraction?

Eye contact is a strong indicator of interest. Typically, people make eye contact with those they are attracted to, but this may not always be the case due to shyness or anxiety. A deviation in eye contact, especially when someone breaks and then reestablishes eye contact, can suggest attraction.

What should you do if someone breaks eye contact and then reestablishes it within 20-30 seconds?

This behavior is a reliable sign of attraction. You should approach the person because it indicates they are interested in you and are seeking to make a connection.

How do repeated breaks in eye contact relate to attraction?

When eye contact is repeatedly broken and reestablished, it is a sign of hesitation or uncertainty. However, if this happens multiple times, it can still indicate interest, but the person may be unsure or shy.

What is the significance of making eye contact for extended periods, such as 90 seconds or more?

Prolonged eye contact, such as 90 seconds to three minutes, often creates an emotional connection. Studies show that people tend to like each other more after such intimate eye contact, which can trigger feelings of attraction.

How does blink rate relate to emotional excitement?

Blink rate tends to increase when a person is emotionally excited. A sudden spike in the blink rate, particularly in situations involving attraction, can be a sign of heightened emotional response.

What is the average blink rate for a person, and how does it change with emotional excitement?

The average blink rate is typically below 20 blinks per minute, with many people averaging around 10 blinks per minute. When emotionally excited, especially due to attraction, the blink rate tends to spike.

How does pupil dilation relate to attraction?

Pupil dilation occurs when we are attracted to something or someone. It is a subconscious response to attraction and is often used to assess emotional and physical interest.

What historical practice involved pupil dilation to enhance attractiveness?

In the past, some women used a specific toxin to dilate their pupils, a technique that was believed to make them appear more attractive. This was a known practice among prostitutes in certain cultures.

Why do men perceive women with dilated pupils as more attractive?

Studies have shown that men are subconsciously more attracted to women with dilated pupils, associating them with increased emotional and physical appeal. This reaction is part of the brain’s natural attraction mechanisms.